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January 2013 - New year arrivals welcomed into the world.

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PricklyPickleInAPearTree · 31/12/2012 19:15

As a few of us have popped early I thought I'd start us a post-natal thread.

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tinkletinklestar · 09/02/2013 19:56

I have seen 3 peads drs and they have all said different things,

Im going to take her back on monday to the drs and hope I can get a nice one.

lollipoppi · 09/02/2013 21:17

Lora I'm very Envy Grin

Maras sorry I couldn't stop laughing about the spraying boobs!! I'm sure it wasn't that funny in the middle of the night though!

Tugs, hope your ok, that sounds very painful, that's exactly what mine did and it was hell, hope you can hang on in there (unlike me, DD is now on formula)

Tinkle really hope you get some help soon, do you have any family close by that can help when your DH goes back to work?

DD has slept ALL DAY!! Think I may be in for a long night! There is just no waking this baby when she wants sleep (she must take after her mummy Grin) she even fell asleep in the bath earlier!!
On the plus side I've had a lovely day with DS1 whilst DD has slept, lots of mummy and little man time which makes the long night ahead a little more bearable x

Lora1982 · 09/02/2013 21:22

Ok quick poll.. My boyfriend suggested he take the baby to his mums with a bottle for a visit, i instinctively said no. My reasoning being hes 5wks and although im combination feeding he still needs boob. Do you think i was being harsh and selfish?

MarasmeAbsolu · 09/02/2013 21:47

Lora I would have said "no" too.
When my ILs visited, I did not let them hold DD2 Blush - I just did not feel like it, and she was the same age as your LO.
I was the same with DD1, and eventually did let go (my MIL used to say things like "granny knows best" which used to piss me off soooo much ;) )

Can you go with him? At that age, babies need to be with their mum, no-one else.

Lora1982 · 09/02/2013 21:59

I could go ... I just cant be arsed :D i think id feel nasty trying to explain hoe at his age he needs to be with me

CreepyCrawly · 09/02/2013 22:12

Bloody hell, I thought the ante-natal thread moved fast!

Tugs, I totally feel your pain. I had about a week if crying at every feed because of the pain. One of my nipples was quite badly cracked, and also quite flat so it was really hard to get Nancy latched on. I don't have any experience with tongue tie, but after my health visitor spent some with me going over my positioning, it's gotten so much easier. I didn't think it'd ever get easier, and was so close to giving her a bottle but we're fine now. Sometimes it's still a bit tricky, but we're getting there. I hope things pick up for you soon.

Tinkle I hope you get some answers soon. It must be awful seeing your little one in pain.

CreepyCrawly · 09/02/2013 22:15

Also, has anyone got any tips for getting my boob out discreetly?! I haven't quite mastered it yet!

Berniebennett · 09/02/2013 22:42

NEWBIE - he goes down 10.30/11 wakes between 2-3 and then tends to wake at some point between 5-6 but it seem he just wants a cuddle move then a feed?? He will sometimes just be awake for a few minutes and then go straight back in his Moses but other times he comes in with us but will sleep until we wake him!

I truly feel very very lucky that he only really wakes once and is easy to settle again (you now know he will be up all night)!

I have found the GF routine really good - I was sceptical after reading people's opinions but it's really helped us and during the day we rarely have tears, but we are only 5 weeks in so let's see how it goes ;-)

Tugstonia · 09/02/2013 22:59

Thanks lolli & creepy. I also have flat nipples which doesnt help. creepy was it just positioning that helped you? I was advised to use nipple shields by one midwife and though they helped initially its now no less painful with them on. A friend has suggested lansinoh latch assist - anyone used those? Have ordered from amazon. It's very good to know that it's worked out well for you creepy, i really want to persevere. I've been to a couple of support groups and one midwife is fantastic and got me to latch dd on pain free the other day but i have no idea how she did it! Dd now sucks a few times then comes off and soon enough we're both crying with frustration and me with pain.

Lostbobbles · 09/02/2013 23:04

Tinkle, I really feel for you, it's a living nightmare. Will she sleep in rocker /car seat, i used to bring it in the room with DD1. Also ask Dr / paed about potential cow's milk allergy / intolerance, they may prescribe special milk to try.

Creepy, I use a bf cover, I also have a breastvest and emma jane long line vest, which don't help with the boob out issue but allow you to wear normal tops without showing midriff.

CreepyCrawly · 09/02/2013 23:11

Tugs yep, just positioning really. I still find it easier on one side though. My health visitor suggested nipple shields but once we got the latch sorted we were fine. Nancy fusses a lot too, pulling off a lot which, as you say, is frustrating. I just kept at it and kept putting her back on, keeping as calm as possible myself which helped her stay chilled. They need to suck a bit to begin with to get the flat nips 'out' which is frustrating for them too.

lost I have some pretty good tops that have a sort of flap on them, but I can't seem to get my boob out without 'hoisting' it out! I do have a cover too, am yet to try it out though.

Bunny222 · 10/02/2013 03:12

Tugs and creepy breast feeding has been the one thing that has had me in tears and feeling utterly hopeless. In the first few days I saw four different midwifes, all with different opinions and advice. One was a total BF nazi, and told me I cudnt do the lying down position I learnt in hospital and was doing within one hour of birth. Her opinion was I should only do the 'rugby ball' and because I struggled to do it in bed, I MUST do them on my sofa, even at nite when the house wud be cold. I was not prepared to bring DS up and downstairs that much, still wobbly on my feet and tired like a zombie because at the point was feeding 11 times in one day.
Result = lots of frustration, confusion, cracked, scabbed and bleeding nipples.

However, now using Boots nipple sheilds, what a godsend. No longer have ANY pain and whilst it takes DS a little longer to get the milk through both he and I are happy. Am also topping up with a couple of bottles of formula.
If you havent tried the sheilds please do! Theyre only a few quid, and wish id had them sooner, would have avoided having a few rotten days at a time which is so precious. Good luck both, really feel for you because that is exactly how I felt.

On another note, am loving Ewan. His lullaby setting sounds like Spa music, its soothing me as well as DS!

Meringue33 · 10/02/2013 03:41

Congrats Tugs and Salt
I got v frustrated with midwives in hosp who latched baby on but did not show me how to replicate it myself. Also one insisted I learn cradle right away even though I was happy with lying down (and could not manage sitting up due to painful stitches!)
Just stick at it and do what feels right to you, rest will come with practice. And take whatever help is available - do you have access to an NCT counsellor?
All I can say is that it is already so much easier at 4 weeks than it was at 2 weeks... And I hope it's easier still at 8 weeks!

In other news, tried to express properly for first time tonight - got 50 mls in 45 mins. Nipple came out looking horrible - purple and fat - scary! Then baby screamed and refused to take bottle, lol!

salt1 · 10/02/2013 05:48

Hello i see there are a few of us up in the early hours. I am having trouble settling dd back down when she wakes in the night so i am downstairs feeding dd and self. Any tips on settling back to sleep? I don't think it helps that she sleeps so well during the day.

2blessed · 10/02/2013 06:01

salt I've sung and danced/rocked to get ds to settle. I also sometimes stroke from forehead down and over eyebrows. Not sure what works best. Trial and error...

Tugstonia · 10/02/2013 08:59

Thanks bunny & meringue. I've seen a great midwife at a breastfeeding support group who said she'll do a home visit tomorrow. Seem to be ok when I've got a professional watching me! Just wish I could do it on my own. Nct breastfeeding counsellor was shit unfortunately.

However I've now got what I'm pretty sure is mastitis & am waiting for out of hours doc. Right boob (the only one in action at the mo as the left is too scabby) is red hot & inflamed & I feel shivery & ill. I know the only way to get rid is to feed feed feed but how do I do that with a disinterested & v sleepy baby? I've been pumping away in the meantime. Am worried about baby as she never seems hungry & had to pretty much force feed her expressed milk & formula overnight. Just so depressed by it all but don't want to give up. :(

mrsbugsywugsy · 10/02/2013 10:35

we haven't imposed a routine on dd but she has created her own. she is lively all evening and cluster feeds all evening.she finally drops off around eleven and we put her in the Moses basket. she wakes for a feed at around three, and another around seven. she usually has a long nap in the middle part of the day,especially if she is out in the pushchair, and is awake and lively in the mornings and evenings.

creepy do you have big boobs? I do and it is so much harder to be discrete when you have to flop a massive boob out first. i am wearing floaty scarves to cover myself while i latch on. once dd is latched then no one can see anything ; well I figure I am showing less than if I was wearing a skimpy bikini so who cares? actually I don't really care all that much if someone sees my nipple ,serves them right for lookingGrin

tugs i really feel for you with the bfing problems,I think the best thing is to get as much RL advice on your latch until you find something that works. and if it doesn't and you end up ffing, that's not the end of the world either.

I think bfing has finally clicked for us now but I'm not following the official advice to the letter. i figure that if the baby is putting on weight and my nipples don't hurt then I'll do it however I like Grin

Bunny222 · 10/02/2013 10:36

TUGS hang in there. Good news uve got someone coming out to you tomorow. Hope ur feeling less sore soon.

CreepyCrawly · 10/02/2013 11:37

bugsy yep, they're big uns! I haven't yet ventured out to feed in public but one of DHs friends has been round a few times and I've managed it fine. I think it helps that he makes a bit of a joke about it.

tugs another thing I've found helps with the cracked nipples, which you may already be doing, is to let them air dry. It's made a big difference with mine.

newbie6 · 10/02/2013 14:38

Berniebennet, my son is exactly the same as yours although he normally always has a bottle when he wakes. I like GF too as with it being our first baby we were clueless! I like routine and whilst I don't follow GF religiously it has helped us, I find my son seems to follow it naturally anyway so as you say, I guess it's early days but so far so good!

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Birdies · 10/02/2013 16:27

Is anyone else struggling to sleep even when you get the chance to? I feel dreadful and can't sleep or by the time I do it's next feed time. Can't even try a sleeping pill. Totally zombiefied and stressed out :(

tinkletinklestar · 10/02/2013 16:31

Hello all..

Weve been admitted into children ward.. dh sent me to my mums yesterday evening as I was literally on my backside sobbing all day after dd just screamed and screamed.

I got home this morning to dh almost in tears and dd'1&2 also in tired hysterics. Brought dd2 straight here and sobbed to a consultant begging for help

So she is being watched, luckily (??) She has had quite a vicious attack of the reflux which the dr and nurses saw, a nice nurse took dd and told me to go and eat I returned to find dd sound asleep in a buggy...unbelievable considering for 4 weeks ive been unable to settle her anywhere but on /next to me..

AppleCrumples · 10/02/2013 16:45

Tinkle i'm so sorry your having such a hard time :( i really hope they are able to sort dd out x

haven't been on here for ages, life is pretty hectic now dh back at work. I always seem to be running around after someone or on the school run or feeding etc. That said is not actually as hard as you might think...just relentless!

Congrats to all the new mums and sending calm sleepy baby vibes to everyone x

newbie6 · 10/02/2013 20:34

Tinkletinklestar, just wanted to say I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, glad the hospital are finally listening to you and hope you get some rest and that your LO settles soon x

Lostbobbles · 10/02/2013 21:41

Tinkle, hope you get some answers and DD gets on road to recovery. Best wishes