January 2013 - New year arrivals welcomed into the world.

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As a few of us have popped early I thought I'd start us a post-natal thread.

lora - DD is on GFlite due to my lack of ability in "doing" morning :)

Creepy - i actually do not change nappies at night unless it is code brown. I think someone else is doing the same (upthread)?
Pampers and likes are absorbant enough for pee, with a good sudocream layer for protection. It helps, as DD cannot bear being naked and screams her head off.

anyone else up?

I've got a tingly feeling like the start of a coldsore on my lip and have just terrified myself by reading about babies and coldsores

I also don't bother changing a wet nappy at night.

Hi all.

Things are very very strained in this house. Me and dh arguing big time im feeling a little peeved off that he gets all the full nights sleep and im exhausted, have horrendous leg cramps which is my 'your exhausted and need to rest trigger' also alot of csection pains at the minute still. Hopeful that its all about to get easier

We have started dd on raniditine & gaviscon,we saw a small difference in her feeding but the disdiscomfort is definitely still just as bad, am trying to find a moment to do some research into when I can expect it to all work....

Debating on buying a single bed for her room so dh can come back upstairs when he goes back to work next week (holiday this week) and I will sleep in the nursery with her if she is still like this.

Re the hernia questions..

Dd1 had a strangulated groin hernia which had to be operated on as soon as I found it (very very scary experience of being taken to a specialist hospital in an ambulance!!

Dd2 has a umbilical hernia which is not strangulated so apparently does not need any attention unless it becomes strangulated so keeping a close eye.

Feeling very sad, lonely and worried

sorry you are feeling down tinkle. can your dp help with night feeds while he is off work, for example by changing nappies so you don't have to get up?

I make DH do the bouncing / carrying at night, although he gives up pretty fast usually... He seems to think it s my job to be awake

Fell asleep withh dd in bed as she would not settle - i really hate this, as it panics me, but too tired to bounce and carry after 2h of anger from her...

Tinkle, can your dh take your lo away in the morning after the feed to give you a morning snooze?

Partly its my own fault, he is totally useless once he is asleep until his alarm goes off after 8/9 hours thats it, he sleeps so deeply he hears nothing. By the time ive woken him I may of well done it myself.

I will get some naps in the day im sure, amongst shouting toddlers and acid puke baby

Is your toddler at nursery at some point tinkle?
I could not cope with both dd at the mo...

Still no poo, although dd2 seems desperate :( she has been bawling since 4am poor baby

Marasme and Tinkle really feel for you both, have had only one night of screaming with Charlie and that was bad enough! I found bathing him about 7.00 seems to really relax him ( I used to bath him in the morning) and try and make him take full feeds.

He just seems to make a lot of groaning like noises even when asleep!

Hi all
Well it has been so hectic no time to post for ages
LO is four weeks tomorrow
Regained birth weight but still jaundiced so tests to determine if any complications
Still bf so far with good days and bad days. Some days it seems to come naturally and I do find it a joy. Others he doesn't latch properly or I find it hard to help him and it's sore and I am grumpy.
Sleep deprivation an issue and identify with taking it out on partner - feel sad about the jealousy it has created.
Worst issue so far is the nights of cluster feeding, of which there have been several - no sleep at all and continuous feeding and changing, really sore nipples tearfulness and frustration.
Still, some babies sleep through from 12 weeks, right? And we are a third of the way to 12 weeks...

She goes to pre school 4 afternoons however im going to try to change it too 2 full days so im guaranteed some kind of a break during the week, with going for 3 hours by the time im back & sorted dd2 I willhave lunch and have to go again!

Meringue... dd 1 slept straight through whenn she turned 3 months. Keep holding on to that thought lol.

After me everyone.. ..

This too shall pass.....

I've been reading 'French Children Don't Throw Food', which I think has given me unrealistic hopes about how early Lizzie might start sleeping through the night! The author reckons two months is feasible...

Good night last night, which was great as DH is back at work for the first time today. I have no idea what to do with myself at the moment. Lizzie's in her moses basket (which she threw up on - my fault, I think - I'm nowhere near as good at winding her as DH) having a big old nap. I've managed to put the washing on, have breakfast and a bit of lunch and a cup of tea. Shower can wait til DH gets home, I think!

Ah ha - she's awake. Back to feeding, then!

This too shall pass :-)
I am crap at winding too. This am DS just fed and boaked, fed and boaked for 2 hours. Are you even supposed to keep feeding when that happens? Every time I put him on my shoulder he went mad head bobbing and rooting till I fed him again would not have the patience to wind. Went to shops and he fell asleep, came back and I tried to lift him gently into Moses basket, he started screaming, realised I'd put him in s patch of cold sick from earlier. Poor thing :(

This too shall pass, all together now!

meringue when my baby does that it's when she's overtired so could be that? When she starts wrestling with my boob I know it's time for her to sleep!

In case of any help: www.parents.com/baby/sleep/tips/best-baby-sleep-tips/

I need to get black out blinds. Oh, and sleep!

Ps the swaddle and a swing are working, at last. Baby has been asleep not on me for the longest time yet. Have been able to play with DD1 and so some chores. Feel so jet lagged though. And haven't even been on holiday!

Oh, she's waking. Haha spoke too soon!

tinkle I hope your little girl feels better soon. I get so sorry for them when they're uncomfy. Maybe you need a second opinion from the docs?

I'm still here! Forgot to say that some of those tips don't seem right to me - my baby gets awful wind at night so I wouldn't want to skip that step, not all the time anyway.

This to shall pass

my LO fights sleep all the time hubby back at work n grumpy can't get anything done so feel like crying and as for sleep what's that x

Hi all, just touching base. Baby Ellen was born at 2248 on thurs 31st weighing 7lbs 6 after a long latent labour then actually quite empowering active phase. Pushing was horrible though, probably because she had her hand by her head like in the scan and just like she does now. So I have a second degree tear but it's not quite as bad as I thought it might be.

We have only just come home after a run in with jaundice when she was very small and I'm so glad to be home and still breastfeeding (the incubator and extra fluids she neededmade things v tough).

I can see we've got lots more fun to come!

Taking dd2 back to the dr tomorrow, the raniditine is every 8 hours but after 4 hours on her feed she becomes really upset and unsettled. Thinking she needs more or different spacial

Bless little mite.

My burping tip would be to switch between over shoulder then up right on knee. Keeping the back straight at all times, slight pressureon the front and then a hard rub from the bum to rthe shoulder blades. When on the shoulder if you hold the back of the neck and slide baby down your shoulder onto your front it will pull the wind upwards.

Re being sick...my health visitor said to wait an hour after baby has been sick before feeding again just in case of tummy ache, we was talking about colic treatment at the time so may not apply x

This too better bloody pass!!!! Can sympathise with you, i've had horrible day, very unsettled and screaming ( I'm hoping its spicy food I ate (tut tut) and not onset on colic)
Nights still rubbish although did get two lots of two hours last night.

Poor little bub has bad nappy rash as well, got canastan from docs but not improved since Friday so going to take her back tom and see if it needs some cortisone. Must be going through about 15 nappies a day,every time she farts she follows through so need to keep changing to stop it getting worse.

Tinkle glad you got diagnosis, it can take time to find right meds combo / and or special milk.

Welcome to all new arrivals, we are a happy bunch lol

Aargh - happy morning of peace and baby sleep gave way to an afternoon where all she did was feed and scream. She was thrust into DH's arms the minute he walked in! She wouldn't be put down in her basket at all until an hour and a half ago - typical now we need to tank her up before bed!

My instinct is to want her awake for a bit before we try to put her to bed so she's sleepier - is this nuts with a newborn?

Thanks for the sleep tips, Birdie! Going to try using the iPhone as a night light tonight to see if we can get our room darker.

So DP went back to London this morning, first day on my own with LO. Didn't manage to get up and showered till 1130 and then he's been really unsettled all day, lots of crying. Normally he sleeps like clockwork from 7pm and has to be woken for his 10pm feed, but today he has been crying every ten mins. I think he's unsettled without DP. I know I am!
Consultant appt tomorrow as they think he has a Tongue tie. Poor little thing.....

Hope everything goes okoctane, do you know what they may do if he has it?

Dd has been quite settled this evening usually she screams from 8-12 which I think is part colic but weve not had that, I hope that doesn't mean its goinf to start at 12!

Am just going for sleep, dh is going to try and stay awake so I can do some catching up.

Meringue, I'm exactly the same. Realised I'd changed positions for feeding him and have gone back to the rugby ball position for the feed just now. Couple of burps and no sick so far... Think the more upright position suits him better although it hurts my hand and arm do it so not sure how I'm going to fix that...

Tinkle, enjoy your sleep!

Octane, I do very little in the mornings. If I don't get up straight after his feed first thing, I lose the entire morning. On the other hand, if I don't sleep then, I'm pretty tired in the afternoon/evening.

Thanks guys
Birdie I think if anything he'd overslept??
Tinkle thanks - have been trying these with some success...

Happy do you mean the rugby ball is a more upright position? I like it as he seems to get more and be more easily satisfied in that position. Also latch is better as imposed by me and no slide off. But I think he then gets so much so quickly he chokes often and boaks more...

Hope everyone is having a fun night :)

meringue I have a feed and boak, feed and boaker. I still offer a feed afterwards, sometimes she does, sometimes she just grumbles so I try and wind her instead.