December 2011: They're one Jim, and highly illogical!

[LittleMissFantabulous]

I went with Gary's suggestion, as it was quite awesome and indeed factual!

:o

Onwards?

I thought free childcare was the term after their third birthday, Air? I'm looking at pre-schools for Freya but don't know whether I'm being a bit premature as the one I like the look of doesn't take children under 2!

Air sorry to hear things are still tough for you i have no suggestions unfortunately but why not stop BF if you feeling it putting strain on you she is 1 now and you have done great to get this far. Maybe if you did go to work you would be able to feel more independent and like you have the power to challenge your DH on how your lives are, though just because you are not earning shouldnt mean you dont have that power anyway!!

The 150ml/5oz bottle went down fine this morning he woke at 6am i gave to him popped him back in bed and he slept to 7.30 of course i had been up and washed hair by then and problem is the hairdryer is in his room may need to rethink that. Oi let me know how you get on with wrestling Ali onto the scales DS is still a monster baby the HV want to weigh him again now he is one as last time he was 98th centile but he had been 99.9 before that so it was sort of coming down in the right direction. I feel a lack of control 4 days a week as i dont feed him at all mornings i am at work DH does it, mon-wed CM gives him lunch and dinner when he is with her and then Thursday MIL feeds him. It is evident by the size of him they feeding him well but worry that it is too much hoping now the milk feeds are down to AM and PM and he is practically running everywhere that will make him slim down.

hi all, someone nicked my phone yesterday when I was buying new shoes for minimopsy. GAH! So will be on here a lot less frequently as now using crappy Nokia with no internet!

Re Childcare its a polit scheme in this area. If you have a low income, PND or the child does not go to a playgroup then you may qualify for 15 hours free child care to socialise your child. The free bit will give me time to go to job intreviews before i get a job to pay for full time nursary place. Aaron will be in school full time and im hoping my inlaws will look after him till dh gets home at 4:30pm.

She is feeding a lot and it helps her sleep so i dont want to stop bf just yet.

Its mainly that dh cant look after the kids and it would cost £17k pa for childcare that i would not earn that much gross if i got a job even with a degree

I just feel shit about it all and feel gutted that the time with my last baby is being spolit by everyone.

SS spolit my birth and kept me in hospital and i had to prove i did not have pnd and was being responsable with my meds

dh being off work sick all the time affecting our money and getting disaplined at work and his mucular differfy getting worse.

I just want to rase my children.

Air maybe you should write the list of stuff you are proud of to realise all that you have achieved so far. You've done a great job in keeping SS and DH and DCs happy. And you have not succumbed to PND. Bravo lady!
figgy maybe I'll just get on the scales with him, and then minus me, and find the red book, and do it myself to see where he is... I take your point about haw it could be near impossible to get him on some scales with the HVs.
Really must find the red book. I couldn't find it for his MMR vaccination.

The clinic where Octoboy goes for his chest has a set if scales with a follow on type carseat on it. Yet get strapped in if they don't play nice:o

Air I hope things improve soon.

Sky had her MMR jab screamed for a little bit & calmed down quickly.

Getting a bit stuck on what foods & meals to give her especially as she is teething - poor mite.

She is in bed already as she just wanted to sleep!

figgy I don't think U really need to worry about weight till they are 2 because at that point they suddenly grow and slim down generally.

air I forgot air has the same b'day as my dd1, im getting very excited about it, its something fun to look forward to.

When dd1 turned 1 she was very sick and the doctor said it was fine to dilute her milk- she drinks loads anyway, and during the day she usually gets half milk half water, a bit like milky tea but without the tea.

dd2 is about the 50th centile in weight but less than that in height so she's got a double chin, and seems to eat 2-3 dinners a night as we don't eat all at the same time but im just weighting for the long and lean 2's... And hoping she learns how to run #babytreadmill

AnAir, is your DH in a union?

sorry you're having a tough time air, you are coping incredibly well given all that repeated stress from multiple sources. Really hope you get cut a few breaks and things seem better soon. Try to find something positive in every dy even if it's something tiny like DD giggling or DS doing a nice picture for you or taking two minutes to sit outside with a cuppa (being outside can really help in this dark time of year. Can you get a little pot container and grow a few herbs or some little bulbs? )

Evening - still massive sleep problems here too. In fact it is getting worse. She is waking in the evening too now (every 45 mins or 1.5 hours after going down at 7pm) so I now spend all evening tense waking for her to wake up, as well as all night. She now sleeps in the bed with me when she wakes after I have gone to bed - DH sleeps in the other room. It is doing wonders for our poor relationship - not! She will settle down with a cuddle/in my bed but it takes hours if I try to just get her to lie down in her cot. She goes hysterical very quickly.

LMF I am very resentful of it and resentful of how little support I get from DH - it dominates my life I feel. I am pinning big hopes on the osteopath on Thursday but suspect it may take some sleep training too.

oi we still feed/rock to sleep too - not great but I cant get her to go down any other way. We tried cc without success (she gets hysterical and throws up). She also has been ill forever (viruses/colds etc) and it definitely affects sleep. She also does not eat that well so is genuinely hungry in the night. I am trying to cut down the milk but she prefers it to food! Though today she has eaten well so you never know (though 2 wake up calls already so far)

Nnnnnrrrrrrrggggg... MIL let Freya sleep from 3-5.30pm today so I have a very awake and playful baby when I just want to curl up in bed!!!!!!!

Oh, jigglebum, that's a horrible way to live. Do remember that the children (unlike adults) change and grow very quickly, in unexpectedly large steps, so that you will never know that you are on the cusp of a change. Things like walking happen not incrementally but suddenly and completely. Language also develops in jumps, with "critical mass" of vocabulary suddenly giving them a framework on which to acquire more language. Therefore, the sleep issues will unlikely continue forever and you WILL get more sleep with which to restore your sanity, and DD WILL become more interesting to and demanding of her father. It's crap to have to depend on other factors to get him to change, when you probably want to administer yourself the kicking which will make him see the light! What kicking measures have you tried so far?

Morning all.

Jiggle sorry to see your still having problems.

DD2 slept from 4:30pm to 5:30am had some milk & gone back to bed!

Sshh! he slept through! He was a nightmare to getto sleep last night - he finally went down at 20:45, but he slept until 6!!!!
I have been evol. I'm working from home as the tree man is coming, but I still dropped him at mum's at 7am so I could get organised.
He was so full of beans and chattering in the car, I felt really bad. I'm missing so much of this wonderful development and discovery time by being at work.
Ah well, needs must.
I'll crack on and pick him up earlier this afternoon.

Well back to Zumba last night and so I'm feeling it today apparently I do have stomach muscles they r just very well hidden/underused.

DS is off to toddler group with cm today so he will be exhausted tonight thankfully he seems to back to loving his bedtime.

I used to have stomach muscles. In BodyPump the tummy track didn't phase me at all. I used to Plank with the ebst of 'em and wonder why everyone was floundering... I tried a couple of crunches the other night. ah... WTF happened to me??!!!
BTW we were talking about nicknames, and I struggled, but it has just come to me, we ALWAYS call him "the babytch", not to his face, just when talking about him to each other. We used to put "itch" on a lot of words before, but now I just think its the babytch.
the tree guy has arrived. His quote was half as much as the lowest other quote. I hope he does a decent job... Fingers crossed.

I don't think we use any nicknames really except for smellybum when she has one! or grumpypants. Massive cryfest last night until about 9. Normally she is happy to go to bed at 7. she was apparently grumpy in nursery too. She absolutely cried her head off when I left her yesterday morning, I felt SO guilty. Same again this morning. Must be the break over Christmas and she is not used to it I suppose. Husband is ill too. Hope I don't catch whatever it is!

Sorry things are tough Air, sounds like you are having a really rough time. I hope things improve soon.

I am missing checking mumsnet already! I didn't realise how often I checked it on my phone. Is weird having an old phone again and no internets. I check it far too often I have realised, so maybe it's a good thing!

my stomach muscles are also invisible, covered in a layer of wobble and unexercised. Need to get back into my couch-5k now I have submitted ... keep putting it off but think tonight might be the night!

Stomach muscles - what are they

I did my Pilates DVD that I got for Christmas last night and it definitely worked...my tummy muscles are aching today :)

DS and I are having the most boring ever stay at home day today

Sympathies for those whose babies aren't sleeping well. I think lack of sleep is the hardest thing and starting the day tired is never good.

My central abs are fine...my external obliques are however, extinct...least I have pregnancy as an excuse now!

mopsy, sorry some arse stole your phone!! I've just got my first smart phone & I have no idea what it's doing most of the time.

Sorry things are so rough for you Air. Hope they improve before November. x
Jiggle, sorry things are tough for you too.

We started controlled crying with DS when he wakes up in the night last week, so far this week, no wake ups (and that's with DH coming in from work at 11pm & crashing about a fair bit), still waking at 5am though.
Worried because I was a childhood insomniac & I'm convinced he'll ending up needing only 4 hours sleep like me (only got better when I was pg, so I don't think that's an option for him).

My stomach is now made entirely of flubbly wobblyness. With a side order of stretch marks. Le Sigh.

We've got many teeth coming through still, so very little sleep happening.

Im so annoyed at work, all my time is being eaten up by this totally stupid non issue that shouldn't even be a thing. FFS, you know those days where you are convinced the world has had all the common sense sucked out of it? That's my day today.

Sorry so many people are having a tough time of it with sleep and other issues and life just generally shitting on you from a great height. It's not fair. Big hugs.

Right, so it turns out there is a free 5k event every sat morning near my house. It would be stupid of me to go, since I haven't run 5k in about three years, but I'm tempted to try it again. Someone might need to carry me home afterwards though!