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November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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StuntNun · 20/12/2012 14:49

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1635480-November-2012-all-the-babies-have-arrived

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GTbaby · 26/12/2012 21:35

Just a few little reminders folks ...

First do your pelvic floor exercises! As I forget, and am always reminded when I read it here.

2nd fill out ur child benefit forms :) I only just did mine today n LO is 11 weeks. Only back dated for three months.

Next is LOs passport :)

Evilwater · 26/12/2012 21:39

Passport Confused
Evil

Evilwater · 26/12/2012 21:40

GT baby our babies are the same age!!!
Evil

glendathegoodwitch · 26/12/2012 21:44

petie hope you feel better soon x

evil I second getting a will done asap - if anything happened to me & dh our 3 would go to my best friend

Next Christmas I've decided I'm going away -Egypt or turkey for some sun!! We go to sooo much bother and spend a bloody fortune and for my ds(13)it's too much trouble to do washing up and he expected more cash wtf cheeky little shit I don't know where he gets this attitude from probably from his estranged twunt of a father and stepsons (12 & 15) are not fussed with anything and don't look after anything, both have lost/broke their mobiles which we got them 2 years ago and just shrug!!! Dd1 and Dottie have had a good time but am going to save myself the stress next year!!!

Have spent the day getting bits and bobs online for when I start my training eeeekkkk only 2 months before I become a student midwife!!!!

Evilwater · 26/12/2012 21:58

Ok on the will business, DP will want his mum to look after N. I however want my family to look after him. Any idears on approaching this delicate issue?

Evil

applepieinthesky · 26/12/2012 22:11

It's my 6 week check at the doctors tomorrow. How long do they typically take and are they likely to do any kind of internal examination? I had tonnes done when I was in labour but don't like the thought of having one tomorrow.

GT I am applying for DS's passport in the new year. We have a holiday booked for May and might also take him to Belgium or Turkey next year to see family so need to get it sorted.

Elizadoesdolittle · 26/12/2012 23:06

Merry Christmas all. Have had a great one so far with more of the same to follow. Both DD's truly spoilt and I didn't do too badly myself.

nervous it's been very hit and miss getting E to take a bottle. She clearly didn't like it but I did get her to take it after persevering. Well yesterday and today she was having none if it. I even tried to give formula in case it was my milk. I asked a good friend who has 4 kids to try and she got nowhere and I really thought shed be my saving grace. Am using avent with newborn teats so going to try out different bottles. I have a tomme tipee somewhere so will try that. I am happy to breastfeed for as long as she wants but really want some nights out. I wouldn't be able to cope without going out for an evening every now and then!

GTbaby · 26/12/2012 23:59

Apple no internal exams.

evil I have same issue! I bought it up when preg n I got a) don't talk to me about things like that. B) our (his) family will look after him. Confused

Now issues with this... His mother is in 60s dad 70s. Unfortunately they will prob not b around when LO is 18... So someone else would look after LO. He has two brothers, now how would they decide where LO goes? What would b best?

Having kids is so complicated ! On so many levels. From nappies to wills, all I the day of gtMummy. (Hmmm I might name change!)

StuntNun · 27/12/2012 00:33

If a married couple both die then the courts will appoint the legal guardian(s) for your child(ren). When you make a will you can specify who you wish to be the legal guardians so that your wishes are known but it won't automatically happen. In my case my SIL and BIL are named as legal guardians but if DH and I were to both die, the courts would verify that SIL and BIL were suitable. If, for example, one of them was incapacitated in some way, some other member(s) of the family could be appointed instead.

If you aren't married then it may be even more important to have a will since the inheritance situation is more complex. You wouldn't want your child to end up in care for a few months while your legal affairs were being wound up.

It takes about an hour for a solicitor to draw up mirror wills for you and your partner, and costs about £135. It is definitely worth getting it done by a solicitor as they will tailor it to your specific circumstances. Also there are complications such as if one partner dies within a month of the other but not at the same time, e.g. if you were in a car crash and one died immediately and the other several days later. I know it's not nice to contemplate such things but if that happened without a will, your estate would be tied up for a lot longer than if both died at the same time. So there would be no access to funds for any expenses incurred by your children, or for any funeral costs.

If the cost is prohibitive then a DIY will kit is better than nothing since at least then your wishes are known.

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ChunkyTurkeywiththetrimmings · 27/12/2012 01:26

PR meant to say sorry you're poorly, hope both you & DD get better soon. Reminded by the fact that DD has a temp of 40' out of nowhere... Hoping calpol brings it down asap.

ValiumQueen · 27/12/2012 05:28

chunky has she had the pox? If not in two weeks time she may be rather spotty and grumpy.

CandyPop · 27/12/2012 07:03

Has anyone started exercising again? I used to do a lot of spin , body pump and aerobic type classes. Do u think this would be too much? I had a c section but it will be 7 weeks on Friday . For my post natal appointment on New Year's Eve but thought if I can sneak in a couple of classes while dh is still off work!

Peaky1 · 27/12/2012 07:14

Hope you're all enjoying the festive season. We've had a good time by simply ignoring wider family dramas and arguing. Why Xmas day with us trying to enjoy it? Deep sigh! I'm at my DP's parents now 100 miles away and this lot are much more civil and cheerful!

I have no idea how you would travel with more than 1 child. I filled the golf with all the crap the baby needs for an overnight stay and used all of it! Mind you, the car also had presents and our contribution to the party food too.

Not a lot of news on the baby front really. He's flippin tall now and fitting his 0-3 months perfectly at 6.5weeks! Oh Gawd! I also keep thinking the thrush might be coming back as my nipples hurt regularly but I think it's simply because they're producing milk as it isn't amounting to anything like last time and they've been acheing on and off for weeks now.

kirrinIsland · 27/12/2012 07:14

Not yet candy - well, some walking but that's it. I'm starting in the new year. I think spinning is pretty good as you can push yourself or take it easy as needed. I know the advice is to wait till after your post-natal check - maybe don't do any abdominal stuff until then?
I think horsey is probably the best person to ask about fitness stuff!

Slightly better night, but no 4 hour stretch again :( Hope I haven't seen the last of it!

Driving oop north today which should be fun - Takes 5 hours without having to stop to feed and stretch out a newborn, so I'm anticipating a long day! I usually do it at night so toddler will just sleep so I'm not sure what she's going to make of it - she'll be bored rigid, poor thing.

Dixiebell · 27/12/2012 07:15

Ratger quiet on here overnight, hope that means lots of sleeping babies. We had only one night feed 2.30-4, then up again at 6. Need to work on the length if the night feeds! More visiting rellies today for us, 3rd lot, then we can reeelax.

katkit1 · 27/12/2012 07:18

CandyPop - c section here, 6 weeks on this coming Mon, doesn't hurt getting out of bed anymore so I'm keen to start exercising, only issue is very heavy boobs and sore nipples - can't face anything that causes them to move too much or rub - big walks for me with pram.

Peaky1 · 27/12/2012 07:20

I would wait Candy but that's just me. If I was really desperate I'd do some brisk walking with the odd interval jog to see how I get on. Or, I've got a post-natal exercise DVD that's low impact so I'll try that too. I'm nearly 7 weeks post natal with a vaginal (induced) birth with only a tiny tear and no stitches. I'm still bleeding though on and off. It's driving me crackers! I've not had an appointment through either so I'll get on with it gradually when I find the time (!) Brisk pram walks could also be a good start.

Having said all that, post-op is totally different as you're recovering from surgery just like any other.

katkit1 · 27/12/2012 07:22

I'm still bleeding too - thought it would ease by now

kirrinIsland · 27/12/2012 07:25

peaky I am wondering how I am going to get everything in the car?! We usually have stuff on the back seat next but we can't do that anymore! I'm taking my umbrella fold buggy and a sling rather than the double and I've packed light but even so - it's going to be a squeeze. Luckily I have a stash of stuff at dads for the kids, including a travel cot, so it's not as bad as it could be.
I travel oop north a lot and my top tip too late now is to do a boots order - nappies, milk, wipes etc (baby food when you get to that stage)- and get it delivered to where your staying. We also have high chair, toys, mini steriliser, etc there too, though that obviously only works if you're always travelling to the same place and your Dad doesn't mind having a house full of crap

CandyPop · 27/12/2012 07:38

Ah I forgot about the heavy boobs..... Gonna have to get a new sports bra first anyway as they are ginormous ! kirrin that's what I thought with spinning . Just have dial on low ish setting.
Ok might just do longish walks the next few days... I guess I only have four days to go to get the all clear ... Just suddenly felt I bit blobby from all the food I stuffed my face with during the last two days ( well o have been stuffing my face since birth but especially the last two days!)

Also we still haven't dtd even tho I feel fine !! I am very scared of getting pregnant and I've always been on the pill with dh (that's nearly 11 years!) .... So not confident in using condoms Blush (yes that's embarrassing since I'm turning 31 next week!). Again gonna wait to appointment and then get the pill that's compatible with breastfeeding

PetiteRaleuse · 27/12/2012 08:13

DH has taken DD1 to the Dr. She coughed all night for the 9th night in a row, still has a temperature, has hardly eaten for a week. Pretty much had to drag her out of bed to ge her dressed and she is just looking so weak and miserable. This can't be just a cold can it?

LO had a good night and seems happy enoughthis morning.

horseylady · 27/12/2012 08:42

candy I've been doing a lot of walking. Started interval running last week (weak bladder!!) hoping to take ds swimming in the new year. Also been riding my seemingly suicidal horse!! Be prepared for your fitness to have dropped.

I started walking lots and lots quite soon after the birth. I started running (interval) last week so 7 weeks. Ache afterwards too (I think thats more to do with lack if stretching on my part lol).

Fab Xmas. Very spoilt all of us!!! Ds very well behaved considering there were lots of new people/houses/cuddles etc. Everyone loved their photos of him!! Currently sleeping in my arms!! About to pop him back into bed while dh looks after him and I ride!!

Planning on hitting the sales later....

horseylady · 27/12/2012 08:46

Oh yeah lots and lots if plank!!!

I'm doing baby yoga in the new year too!!! Core core core, am thinking I may find it too gentle. I'm unlikely to be able to get back to circuit training!! More from a time/childcare/horse perspective.

I might make once a week rather than twice!!

Thechick · 27/12/2012 09:01

Hello all. Hope everyone enjoyed their Christmas Day. I've just managed to catch up. We do chat a lot.
H is now 11 and a half weeks. Can't believe it all all. He started responsive smiling which is so lovely and i think he might roll over soon. He still wears newborn clothes but he was early and is below the chart for his actual age and on the 25th percentile for his adjusted. We got rid of the Moses basket and brought the cot into our bedroom which has definitely helped his sleep. He's doing on average about 3 hrs a time which is great, but my supply has just dropped dramatically. I'm going to up the fenugreek and maybe try blessed thistle and see if that helps.

PetiteRaleuse · 27/12/2012 09:11

OMG DD1 has been diagnosed with pneumonia, she's off to hospital. Why why why didn't I have her checked out earlier?