November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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blonder I have declined further weighing. He is visibly chunking up, so I am not worried. All babies are different with their gains and losses so do not worry. Just look at L. Is he weeing and pooing? Does he seem content after a good feed? Does he sleep? Ok, he will not sleep much, at night anyway, but if he were not getting enough food he would be yowling all the time. He is3 weeks tomorrow. You would know by now if there were a problem.

Marking place, I had baby Eric on 6th nov at 19:22, he was 7lbs 4.5. Taken me ages to post back on here but I've been all over the place! Is it normal to be so emotional? I feel afraid of being left with Eric sometimes, and other times I'm fine, sometimes I'm all smiles and other times I'm sobbing. I tried breast feeding him but he was full of mucus when born and though I've tried every feed he just wouldn't do it. I was feeding hi expressed breast milk but felt like rubbish sat in the corner expressing all the while whilst everyone else fed my baby :( he's been on formula for a good few days now and whilst I feel rubbish at least he's eating and I really did try :(

I was wondering if anyone had any advice re: sick. He's sick maybe twice a day. I'm terrified (very irrational) that he's ill or won't gain weight etc, they're checking tomorrow. My mum has had five of us ad assures me he's eating just fine, but I just can't stop the paranoia and worry. He has about 2.5/3 ounces of formula every 3ish hours, I haven't tried to get him into a routine or anything but this is how it seems to have worked out. When he's sick it's not loads, sometimes seems it though, and it doesn't bother him at all, just me :(

Babies are sick, right? I'm being irrational and he's fine, aren't I? I'm trying so hard and I love him so much, I just feel so emotional and scared. In the hospital they kept us in for two days trying to force him to the breast and cup feeding him, waking me every hour to try to latch him on, I felt so exhausted, luckily I'm recovering now and my mum has been a godsend, I just feel, I don't know, like I'm not doing right by him.

Sorry for such a moan I just need to let it all out, and hope there's someone else out there who can assure me he's not going to die just because he's been sick a couple of times

P.s congrats to everyone else who has had their babies! :) x

Have got mw and hv coming here on tues, not v well planned!

We're registering the birth on Mon, can't believe she's a week old tomorrow!

Thanks VQ I was hoping you would say something like that. He certainly seems happy (well mostly!) and I was surprised he hadn't gained more as he feels much more substantial. I will keep going as we are.

madam I work for one of those arty cinemas, the parent & baby club is very popular but sadly no Skyfall or Twilight! I will have to take L to something at some point and introduce him to my colleagues.

Kydz - I felt the same way. Do not feel bad - you are feeding your baby. I couldn't breast feed for similar reasons. I beat myself up about it, then several people on here and in real life said happy mummy = happy baby. They are only small for such a short space of time, enjoy them.

They are sick, just keep an eye on him. Small amounts are ok. I know, I wore some today :)

Smiles and tears are all normal too!! Give yourself time. I know exactly how you feel about every issue.

The biggest hugs xx

Congratulations kyzords I'm sure you LO will be fine. I was very emotional after my LO was born and I can still have my moments now so it's all normal

evil may be a dumb question but what will a cabbage leaf in your bra do?

Just changed LO and she wee'd every where again ad go sealed covered so striped her off and ran a bath then she wee'd again in the blanket on the way to the bath lol litle minx. We're cluster feeding again tonight, hopfully she feeds really well now and settles for a good few hours

Hello graduates! I thought I should finally check in with you all!

I had been very keen to read everyone's posts before posting my first as a graduate but I haven't yet and at the rate I am going I never will.

So, after my induction on Sunday lunchtime with concerns about the baby being small (as low as 4Ib) possibly, baby Penelope was born on Monday at 11:18am weighing 7Ib. As far as labours go it was very straightforward. My contractions were pretty hard going and I went from 1cm to fully dilated in 2 hours. I think that's pretty common in induced labours though. I ended up with a fairly large episiotomy as a result of an unusually large head and Penelope's liking for her fists bunched in front of her face.

Thus far our only challenge has been Penelope's very underdeveloped suck reflex. I ended up readmitting is both back into the hospital where we got intensive support with feeding. Sadly though it appears that Penelope just needs to learn how to suck properely. This means that I have been feeding my expressing and have been supplementing with formula due to my own concerns about both of our state of minds! Penelope's appetite seems huge to me and expressing from both nipples for half an hour each is only just keeping her going. My electic pump arrives tomorrow so I hope that will help.

I was always pragmatic about the realities of breastfeeding and had, no small thanks to those on this forum sharing their stories, had a chance to consider my own feelings prior to this happening. What will be will be bug the happy and contented daughter I have now is worth any feeding compromise I feel I made with introducing formula. We have a wee shot every day just to see how things go and we will continue to do this. If she gets it then awesome.

As far as birth stories go, not so exciting but the crisps family are extremely happy.

I hope to be checking in more often as we start to find our own pattern.

Evil I thought you put cabbage leaves in your bra to reduce your supply? That was the advice given to me by a lady on the ward not intending to feed and who wanted to lose her milk supply and prevent the pain of engorgement.

Hello passme, congratulations, love the name Penelope. Great that she was such a good size although ouchy about the head and fists. Good luck with the feeding, all of us have had different issues and have had to find our own ways through them, it sounds like she is doing well so that's what matters.

It is definitely getting hard to keep up with this thread now there are so many graduates!

I thought cabbage was for mastitis.

kyzordz sorry you are having a rough time Your LO will be fine I am sure. I remember with my first feeling that I had to watch her every second or she would stop breathing. It is hard adjusting to being a mummy, and is very scary loving someone so much it hurts. In time this will level out. At the moment there are all the hormones, tiredness etc. I am sorry you did not get good support with feeding at the hospital.

passme what a lovely post. You sound as if you have a really good attitude. Congratulations s

My goodness, the thread has really picked up in speed. Hope all is well. We had our first day out today, went to a breastfeeding group and to the doctors because of very very runny poo, but all seems to be fine. Outside the house is dirty, I noticed every bit of dog poo, cigarette smoke, car fumes, people coughing. Was not good. I do need to calm down, I'm sure ill be a bit more chilled about it as time goes on.
LO has the most awful wind today, he looks like he's constipated really badly.

izzy I have yet to find the time to express with this one! I used to express an ounce off before feeds, then get as much as I could after baby was finished. Never expressed in the evening as I wanted baby to get as much as poss to aid sleep. Night and morning were best for me due to hormone levels. Best to express where you can see baby, and think milky thoughts. Guidance varies about whether there is a need to sterilise or not. I did the bottles, and just did the pump once a day, making sure it was kept in fridge inbetween times.

Congratulations passme love the name Penelope. Was on my list but doesn't go with my surname.

Thankyou everyone, it feels better just getting it out, I want to enjoy my baby, my mum always says don't blink, you'll miss it, and I dont want to miss a second. The more time I'm crying in a corner the less I see of my baby and that's no good at all!

Re: making up bottles, it says on the side of the thingy you make up one every 2 hours, or it's good for 2 hours, but when my siblings were younger my mum would make up a days worth of bottles. Is this a bad thing to do? I've been making it up as needed but if Eric spontaneously wakes for a bottle, or during the night if I wake to him crying I have to jump up and make one and then it's full of bubbles when I shake it and that can't be good for wind at least, not to mention it being that bit harder to get him to drink at a steady pace, if he's had to wait for it. If I had the stamina i'd stay awake all day/night to make sure he's ok and that I've got a constant fresh bottle but after 24 hours of that I'd be worse than useless lol!

I think I have a tooth abscess face all swelled up and throbbing pain

Not fair!

P.s he's only had 1.5 ounces at last feed BUT he's kept it down and he was sick after the previous two feeds so I'm pleased It's stayed in his tummy. I've never worried so much in my life :| I know I'm uploaded to worry but I think my heart stops every time he makes a noise, in case it's him being sick!

Congrats kyz and pass. When we had our trip to hospital last week l mentioned baby h being sick quite a bit. Their only real concerns seemed to be if it had blood in it or was full on right across the room projectile vomiting. I found if baby h was sick and then hungry again it! was best to feed him off the side he?d already fed off to stop him guzzling down loads and being sick again! The infacol seems to have helped.

Thanks for the advice daisy, I didn't realise infacol helped with them being sick. No blood or projectile vomit here, and midwife visit tomorrow for weigh in so I can hopefully get some advice/reassurance then too :) it's guzzling that Eric does, that and not parting with wind for love nor money! He seems to take an ounce, ounce and a half and then stops, but wants more after I try to wind him and then he guzzles like mad and back it comes!

Congratulations pass

Ouch blonder that sounds so painful and not something you need right now

We're up feeding, had a manic time of cluster feeding tonight even a bath didn't wear LO out. I feel so tired its untrue and struggling with getting up for feeds. Hope you ladies all have better nights then me

kyz like vq I check my son is breathing constantly. I think it's normal to worry. I worry AB insane amount. Scenario that will never happen, even baby proofing the house is running thro my head already.
LO is sick maybe once a day, weighed almost same at birth as ur LO drank same amount last week n put on weight fine. So I think u have nothing to worry about.

I keep getting emotional but try n think of my baby learning to smile. He will only learn to smile ( real smiles not face he has when he farts) if he sees me smiling all the time. He will pick up on my emotions so I need to stay happy. He is relying on me, so I need to b there for him.

Easier said then so e, my emotions do get on top of me. But I try n stay focused on my son.

Who is leaning on my arm nxt to me in bed. Gota try transfer him to his carry cot now so u can sleep. He will b awake in two hours so need to get my head down ASAP.

Oh. Transfer successful! He has been wide awake since 10.30 feed.

kzy re feeds. My SIL made up feeds n put in fridge then warmed up as needed. My other SIL measured up water in morning. Left on kitchen counter n added formula as needed. Current guidelines state formula needs to go in to hot water n then used within hour.
If u search this site ull find lots of different views on making bottles. Guess it depends on how strictly u want to follow the guidelines.

Congrats kyz and Pass*!

So many babies here now that this thread has really sped up. I'm struggling to stay up with it so sorry if I have missed any new arrivals or important news. Hope everyone is ok.

About to do the transfer and (hopefully) get some sleep.

Formula must be added to water over a certain temp as there is bacteria in it. I think it is 70 deg but best check. Especially be careful of temp of your flask water GT

J slept 1 hour in his cot. Yay! Will not go back in it though. Never had this with the girls. Also he has taken to yowling top volune when hungry. Not good in the night with two other kids likely to wake.

Sorry about your mouth blonder consider it top priority to get ab emergency appt today. Take brufen and pcm. Will help take the edge off pain.

I love my angel sensor monitor when he will lay on it!

Checking in on the night feed shift. Have just put F down and he appears to be asleep again (fingers crossed) as this is the first night feed where he's gone back to sleep not attached to me...

kyz my midwife said their stomachs are as big as a marble for the first few days, when they start taking more molk they stretch but they often take in more milk than they can hold - hence the sickiness. F is sick quite a lot but i panic less this time after his bro was a horribly horribly sicky baby and still grew bigger!

Anyone have any experience of post-partum bladder infections/bruising? Today I've had the occassional sharp pain when sat down & leaning forward, thought nothing of it, until this evening, when started getting those delightful "head engaging" razor blades & pins through your urethra type pains. It was getting worse, hurting a tad when moving etc but then no pain on peeing until just now. Then it was REALLY painful afterwards too, had to get DH to deal with DS as he was crying for a feed & I couldn't even move from the spot. Seeing MW tomorrow so will obviously ask, but wondered if I was alone in this...