Completely, completely, completely agree Wantanorange and huffle! DH and I agreed from the beginning that we believed creating trust with your baby and the knowledge that you'll be there for them creates happy, confident children. It completely makes sense, and whatever the label we'd always planned on co-sleeping, being led by them, holding them a lot and (trying to) meet their needs straight away in the early days.
We have no plans to impose regimes...I've started introducing sleep cues for when we come to think about a bedtime routine but right now, of an evening, I bathe him, massage, feed, change and cuddle him until he drops off - then I either dash into the kitchen to cook, or continue to cuddle him while exposing him to I'm A Celebrity via osmosis 
At some point, months from now, we'll start putting him to bed much earlier in the evening in the bedside cot or in our bed, but we'll still be going up to tend to his needs until he drifts off again.
And yes yes about the breastfeeding - it makes total sense about not having that tribal or community element to have witnessed breastfeeding and to then instinctively know what to do. I had terrible problems in the beginning - open sores from the first night DS was born! The midwives left me to it in the recovery room after a very traumatic labour and birth and I mistook "natural" for easy. It is natural; it's not easy, not always. I had no idea what I was doing and god, the days I spent sobbing on the couch while DH repeatedly kept trying to re-latch DS were so awful...the horrified guilt when the community MW declared "things would be triggered" if I couldn't get it right and start putting weight on him...god, it was horrible. But now, two trips to the BF clinic and it's like I have been doing it for years!
So I dunno...I guess I completely agree in principle about trusting my instincts, that cuddling/feeding/sleeping/cuddling/walking/feeding really is all he needs but that parental worry will certainly get you, won't it! In his very short life he has been very relaxed with our approach, and then suddenly became very angry and grizzly with it all - staying awake all evening where previously he'd slept in my arms for 3 hours. I did start to doubt our ultra relaxed, baby led approach was having a negative effect on him but it's still such early days, who can say! He mostly sleeps whenever he likes, has his last feed at midnight, then awake at 2.30/3.30, and again at 7.30 - which I guess isn't so bad - it's just been the last few nights he's been grizzly and we haven't slept until 1/1.30.