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December 2011 - they'll soon be one, put away the <haddocks> and bring out the bunting!

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seven77 · 03/11/2012 09:38

I loved kate's thread name but thought we needed a birthday theme for this one. We'll soon have 6 weeks of birthdays to celebrate!

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CheungFun · 05/11/2012 08:20

Oh no! Spectral, is there anyone around who can give you a break at all? Sounds like you've had a bad night?

Mopsy yep I'd definitely second the advice to get yourself a dr's appt!

We've not been having much fun here, DS has got a chest infection and is on antibiotics :( he just looks and sounds so rough! It would help if he could blow his nose or cough up as I think it's all gone down to his chest. I've just got a standard cold.

On the plus side, I've done the washing up (from last night...oops), sorted the washing and put a load through the machine and DS is having a nap.

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AWomanCalledHorse · 05/11/2012 09:04

((hug)) SMS, is there anyway you can have a break from him atm? Really hope he starts sleeping properly soon.

We're now actively ttc#2 again so hopefully it won't take 9 months again just to have another miscarriage.
MIL revealed this weekend that she's told everyone that I had one, even though we asked her not too, so if I ever get pregnant again & keep ahold of it she's not finding out until 20wk scan.

aethel, knitting project sounds lovely!

We've all got manflu in chez horse so not a happy bunch.

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OiMissus · 05/11/2012 09:23

I wrote down all the name-checks and comments on the back of an envelope yesterday - and it's at home... sorry! I'll try and name check later.
spectral you need some time out. I really hope that octoboy is better soon and that you can get some support.
China was good. The party (and the preparation for it) was hectic, but good fun. I am 40. yikes! The fireworks were amazing. BOi wasn't so sure about them. But managed the majority of them with his cheek pressed against mine so he could feel my happiness and calmness, hear my whoops and squeals , and feel safe.
Yesterday we tidied up and said goodbye to the family that were staying over.
One bad thing happened. Some old friends came. Whilst I've moved on and moved up, they've gone the other way. One girl, a mum, decided not to bring her 4 yo daughter, wanting to get pi$$ed instead. She was already half cut before she arrived. She proceeded to get drunk very quickly and started to annoy people. I warned her 3 times about her foul language. I only found out yesterday that she really upset one of my guests. (Another friend was talking about a lovely weekend with her 10yo nephew, where they'd snuggled up in the same bed - the former friend told her that it was wrong... You can imagine).
As DH tidied the balcony yesterday, he found a discarded small plastic bag which had evidently contained white powder. I'm still livid. Disgusted that they would bring something like that to my house, and appalled that they would discard it in a place where Children were playing, or where Ali could find it - as he puts everything he finds into his mouth. I'm furious.
This former friend is a mess. I feel sorry for her DD. really quite worrying. I saw her a few months ago, for the first time in a few yrs. She told me was an alcoholic, she accepted it and was taking action, getting help, and starting college. She had tried to kill herself twice, but was now on the road to recovery.
I want to ring her and rant. But that's not going to help anyone. I'm going to walk away. It may sound harsh that I am not stepping up to help out, but my life is too busy already, and Alistair is too precious. But what about her daughter?
She does have some family around. The dad is somewhere in Africa and no longer part of her life. But I think he was a coke dealer, so they're well rid of that.
She's done ok with her daughter so far, I guess. And since the suicide attempts are now involved with social services, etc. it's a niggling doubt. But it's time to walk away.

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SpectralMissSpooky · 05/11/2012 09:23

Sorry, I was having a one woman pity party, fuelled by poorly spawns, poorly me and a baby who sees no reason to sleep in his own bed at the moment. Saw every hour from 1, and most of thef hour as well from 4.

I might have to nap later or my head is going to fall off!

Hope the lurgies start leaving the thread alone soon, I think we've had our share:(

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SpectralMissSpooky · 05/11/2012 09:28

Walk away, as it is sensible to do. For the sake of the child though, I'd ring social services on my way with your suspicion. If they're already involved they can hopefully do something about it. Strand tests are pretty common in such cases.

Glad the rest if your party went well:)

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seven77 · 05/11/2012 09:57

oi, not surprised you're livid, I second SMS advice, I'd ring them and then walk away. Putting her own child at risk is one thing, but to bring it into your home and leave it where BOi could find it is pretty sick tbh.

SMS no helpful suggestions but really hope it improves soon ((hug)).

Most of my Christmas shopping should be delivered either today or tomorrow, I've just got a few little bits left to buy now.

DD had her best night for a long time last last, she woke at 11, I put her music on for a few minutes and she went back to sleep again. I heard her at 3, she went back to sleep on her own then didnt get up until 6.45!

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Kitty5824 · 05/11/2012 09:58

Oi glad you enjoyed the party, even if that one guest has managed to taint things for you. I agree it is time to walk away. Do you have any other mutual friends that you can dump your worries on who might be able to put your mind at rest that someone else is keeping an eye on things?

I too had multiple name checks. The problem with my spangly smart phone is that I check the thread REALLY regularly but find it easier to post from the laptop....that's my excuse!!

Hope Air is ok after the bonfire in the back garden. I do love MN in situations like that. She got loads of good advice and support (I haven't checked since Sat night so I hope she didn't end up getting a torrent of abuse....)

I have had a sickness bug or food poisoning this weekend. Started feeling icky just before we left my Mum's on Sat to go to her village bonfire night. By the time I'd wrapped DS in the sling I felt faint. The walk cleared my head a bit, but I had to take him off and let DH hold him for the fireworks as I was convinced I was going to be ill. Missed out on the hog roast and everything Sad

Was ill back at Mums, we had to stay an hour later than we'd planned until I felt well enough to drive home (DH did enjoy both the hog roast and the mulled wine Grin)

Typically the family photo shoot that Mum won was booked for yesterday so I slapped on the makeup. We'll see how they turned out Hmm. Oh, and my boy who loves the camera would not co-operate for the photographer at all. His cousin, who usually just looks quizically at the camera was amazing. Proper baby model. Gah!

In other news, still no job offers (I really really want to be a postman!!), the decorating is going well but the skylight on the top landing leaks so looks like we'll be paying out for a new window, and we have officially started ttc. DH has had more action in the past week than he has all year!! Grin Grin Grin

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Kitty5824 · 05/11/2012 09:59

As I posted that DS crawled from the front room to the kitchen. I'm hoping I hadn't shut the gate properly or we have a real problem.......

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seven77 · 05/11/2012 10:09

Meant to say AWCH we waited until I had my first proper period after my mc until we started trying again, I got pregnant first time. Hope it's the same for you, I've heard that you're super-fertile after a mc.

Good luck to you too kitty!

Anyone else feeling broody? :o

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Xiaoxiong · 05/11/2012 12:00

Me seven. Oh so hideously broody...something about the cold crisp weather! But DH is still dubious about having another "so soon"...

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Muffinpig · 05/11/2012 12:40

Hi everyone, Gee here! My phone broke, couldn't figure out the temporary replacement so got out of the habbit of reading/posting but I'm back now. Fancied a name change too :)

Will try and read and catch up at some point. Good news is that DD is still sleeping at night! Wahoo! Daytime naps are another matter though...

Anyway, will try and catch up a bit and post later. Missed you all!

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BeeMyBaby · 05/11/2012 13:41

Re: Teeth, DD2 now has 9 after much moaning and clinginess over the weekend, and I think it'll be followed by #10 very soon judging by her cry sleeping last night, in the end I gave up trying to feed her to sleep and passed her to DH to snuggle till she slept.

I'm currently working on a photobook for DD2 of her first year for when she's older, anyone else doing one?

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Xiaoxiong · 05/11/2012 15:04

Nice to hear from you muffin! Are all your nicknames going to be food/beverage related? Grin

Yikes Bee - but I guess it's good to know you're hurtling towards a complete set of teeth! DS still has only the 4 teeth he's had for months. I thought another one had broken through a week or 10 days ago (he was moaning badly enough!!)...but I couldn't feel them last night when I was brushing his teeth.

Worried this means we have much toothy misery lying in wait...

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Muffinpig · 05/11/2012 15:14

Probably xiao Grin I do think about food most of the day!

Quick catch up, just to say ((hugs)) missree really hope all the tests come back clear. We have gone through similar with both DCs and it is so hard waiting for test results. And Happy Belated Birthday oi ! I did think about you on Saturday. Glad you enjoyed the party, and sorry that your friend put a dampener on things.

DD has started settling in at the CM and its going ok but she is refusing formula and sleep Hmm

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OiMissus · 05/11/2012 15:31

Another name muffin (- I won't shorten it to pig!) welcome back!
For breakfast, I had leftover birthday cake. Grin
For my lunch today, I had leftover birthday cake, parkin and treacle toffee. Grin
For dinner, i shall be having leftover meat and potato pie, mushy peas and pickles (again - we had that last night too). Grin
We binned the black peas, I could not face them for another day.
I also sent BOi off to the GPs today with (leftover) balloons. His favourite game EVER is holding a balloon, letting go of it, and then pointing to it on the ceiling until DH reaches up and gives it back to him. Strangely it is very endearing, rather than the annoying drop-on-the-floor-again game.
Aw! Last night was joyous. Our guests had gone and so it was just the 3 of us for the first time since last weekend. BOi can climb onto the day-bed/sofa thing that we brought up into the lounge for the party. He climbs up, sits up, gives himself a round of applause, rolls over to get down safely feet first, and repeats. Gorgeous.
We still have 6 teeth. Much redness of cheeks and chomping on things (me included) but no more are evident - that I can feel.
A friend shared this, so just sharing: "Just to let you know my sister who is a pediatric nurse has told me that chopped hot dog is the number 1 food that is causing death by choking in babies & small children followed by grapes."

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MissRee · 05/11/2012 16:07

Welcome back peeps :)

Have added a more recent piccie of Freya to my profile - tis my absolute favourite one Grin

Really wish we could TTC #2 but financially, its not realistic! We need a bigger house!

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SpectralMissSpooky · 05/11/2012 16:16

Speak to me of wall mounting the tv. Octoboy has sussed the buttons out. They make a high pitched 'bip' noise when he presses them. This amuses him. He makes his own bippy music while dancing along. The minions are not amused >_<

I don't like wall mounted tellyage, but have no option. Bugger!

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AWomanCalledHorse · 05/11/2012 16:27

SMS, what size is your tv & where are the mounting holes in the back?

seven, I really hope I'll be more fertile atm too, but we've been having lots of sex since I got a negative test post DS's birth so I don't think I'll be pregnant again anytime soon...hurrah for ttc Kitty!
Well done on being so prepared for Christmas!

at muffin!
DS is starting to refuse some feeds so we're swapping one feed a day over to moo juice so he's 100% cow fed by a year (next month!? ).

Oi, sounds like you're well rid of your old friends (which always sucks), glad DH found the baggie before a kid did!

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Xiaoxiong · 05/11/2012 16:31

Aww Ree so sweet!!! What a lovely smile she has Smile

I've just added a new pic of P to my profile as well.

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MissRee · 05/11/2012 16:34

Check out those big, beautiful blue eyes on P! He's gorgeous Grin

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thekatsatonthematt · 05/11/2012 16:35

ooh SMS I also need this info. T'is Kitty by the way!

When we move back into what was DH's lad's pad we will be wall mounting a tv in the bedroom. Personally I dislike TV's in the bedroom, but when he was doing up the house he decided he didn't need a working kitchen/bathroom (guess who lived next door to his DM and could go round for a shower/food?????) but did need to get all the wiring for surround sound tv and other gadgets put UNDER the plaster. I am now faced with a charming alcove in the living room which is covered in wonky sockets for speakers, amps and other things I do not understand. I may post a picture later in the week Grin .TV's come with their own speakers built in, right?

Anyway, I digress. There is a socket and ariel point above the fireplace in the bedroom. My plan is to take advantage of TV in bedroom by finally sorting a proper bedime routine. Bath. Bottle in our bedroom watching some kind of calming baby tv (does such a thing exist? I don't watch any of it yet. Can anyone suggest an appropriate DVD?). Then into his cot. For maybe 3 hours before he ends up in our bed Blush

Maybe I'll send DH out to by the bracket tonight and come back to you.....

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thekatsatonthematt · 05/11/2012 16:39

Gorgous pics Ree & Xiao. Buy my, don't they look old Sad

where have our babies gone?????

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seven77 · 05/11/2012 16:44

thekat if you want to be scared by how fast they're growing, DD will be one in 16 days! Oh, and she's now wearing 18-24 month tights and dresses.

Has anyone read the choking thread, terrifying.

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Aethelfleda · 05/11/2012 18:54

Choking on chopped hotdog? I'm guessing those are american statistics!!

Oh and grapes are better if chopped lengthways in half (the crossection is then a semicircle so they don't totally block the airway like a round kne would). Just avoid anything spherical (blueberries, maltesers, boiled sweets) Also, go for dissolvey type potato snacks like wotsits and pom bears as the "rigid" crisps like tortillas, proper crisps and pringles are easier to choke on. Only had one "real" choking incident with DD1 on a tortilla chip aged about one. Got it out with several back slaps but man, it was scary and not something I'd want to repeat.

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SpectralMissSpooky · 05/11/2012 19:52

Pretty babies! I'll rummage the laptop out tomorrow and stick one of the tentacled one up:)

I have no idea where the holes for mounting frame are. I suspect it will have them, it's a new tv. One day I will get rid if it! Would love to be tellyless:)

I've dealt with a choking five year old. She had a piece if undercooked macaroni stuck. Back thumps did it. Scary business though:(

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