I wrote down all the name-checks and comments on the back of an envelope yesterday - and it's at home... sorry! I'll try and name check later.
spectral you need some time out. I really hope that octoboy is better soon and that you can get some support.
China was good. The party (and the preparation for it) was hectic, but good fun. I am 40. yikes! The fireworks were amazing. BOi wasn't so sure about them. But managed the majority of them with his cheek pressed against mine so he could feel my happiness and calmness, hear my whoops and squeals , and feel safe.
Yesterday we tidied up and said goodbye to the family that were staying over.
One bad thing happened. Some old friends came. Whilst I've moved on and moved up, they've gone the other way. One girl, a mum, decided not to bring her 4 yo daughter, wanting to get pi$$ed instead. She was already half cut before she arrived. She proceeded to get drunk very quickly and started to annoy people. I warned her 3 times about her foul language. I only found out yesterday that she really upset one of my guests. (Another friend was talking about a lovely weekend with her 10yo nephew, where they'd snuggled up in the same bed - the former friend told her that it was wrong... You can imagine).
As DH tidied the balcony yesterday, he found a discarded small plastic bag which had evidently contained white powder. I'm still livid. Disgusted that they would bring something like that to my house, and appalled that they would discard it in a place where Children were playing, or where Ali could find it - as he puts everything he finds into his mouth. I'm furious.
This former friend is a mess. I feel sorry for her DD. really quite worrying. I saw her a few months ago, for the first time in a few yrs. She told me was an alcoholic, she accepted it and was taking action, getting help, and starting college. She had tried to kill herself twice, but was now on the road to recovery.
I want to ring her and rant. But that's not going to help anyone. I'm going to walk away. It may sound harsh that I am not stepping up to help out, but my life is too busy already, and Alistair is too precious. But what about her daughter?
She does have some family around. The dad is somewhere in Africa and no longer part of her life. But I think he was a coke dealer, so they're well rid of that.
She's done ok with her daughter so far, I guess. And since the suicide attempts are now involved with social services, etc. it's a niggling doubt. But it's time to walk away.