November 2012 - babies are here at last

[StuntNun]

This is the post-natal club for graduates of the November 2012 intake.

Yw i would but that is because I'm ultra paranoid!! Ds pretty much refused to eat his 7am feed on Friday. That was it, I cried till he ate at 9 (when he properly woke up!!) and he ate again at 10!! Mw said he'll eat when he's hungry!! But obviously be sensible in watching his eating patterns.

With jaundice though I'd def get it checked. He'll probably be ok as the treatment graph is fairly exponential in terms of treatment (from what I understood after all ets checks) but if you're worried I'd def call! My mws are wonderful though, not sure how yours are!!

Just read again I was told poo and wee a good sign it's clearing? Not sure about green poo. Prob worth a quick call but sure he's fine!

DH has just taken the DD's to the park so I have the place to myself for an hour which is weird. There is silence

Ella is settling in really well so far. Can't believe she's only been with us for 2 days. Feeding is going well do far but she's starting to get frustrated that my milk hasn't come in yet. Think it took a couple more days with DD1. Hoping it won't be so long this time. I have a feeling tonight could be a struggle!

Just going to jump in the bath before they get back. Just wanted to quickly pop on and say hi. Got quite a few visitors coming today so hopefully I will be able to catch up on everyone's news later this evening.

rowing big hugs honey x x x what a Git! Honestly, men have no idea do they? They think pg is all about sitting on your arse, and think bf is the same. They do not understand the effort it requires, and how draining it is. As for the section, they have no idea. I do hope he grows a pair, and soon. Thankfully DH has never said we need to talk about our future - that sounds like a threat. I do hope that is not what he meant. Is your FIL understanding? Would he be able to help? If not, just show him the sofa and pretend he is not there. I hope DS1 is soon better. Feel free to vent here x

horsey you are sounding much more like your normal self. Do you feel as if you are on the way up now? J would not be swaddled, unlike DD2 who would not settle without it. Even at 2.5 sometimes if overtired,she needs holding until she sleeps. Funny how they are all so different. J loves his gro bag but is quite messy with his milk so I am washing at least one each day. Just as well I have a few.

DH Quinn was on my short list for a girl. Lovely name and very cool! She is very new, and will be feeding all the time to get the supply up. They know exactly what they need to do. Shame men do not.

DH was going to do all the winding and nappy changes, and deal with the girls. He has dealt with the girls but nothing else. He still wants to read his paper, watch football and stay up late watching TV. He has the cheek to say he is tired and sore. He woke once last night when I was dealing with J. He is still bloody tired. He has also had a glass of wine most nights, which is a no no with co-sleeping. He then says he does not want J in bed with us in case he squishes him. I suggested he found somewhere else to sleep and it did not go down very well. Sometimes I wish I was a lesbian.

Hello ladies and babies!

I have no chance of catching up but I have read the last page.

DS was born on Halloween after an induction due to high BP and high heartrate in baby.

We are breastfeeding at the minute and I am hoping to express soon howeve need to look into when is best time of day to do it etc He gets extremely fussy on the evening and cluster feeds lots so much so I dread them. My nipples are sore and I had a hole almost on my right. Im going to call the supporter line at some point to see if they can advise and maybe get to a group at some point.

Vq I think so. Worried a bit about dh going back to work but giving myself a daily task lol on top if horses, dogs and housework as I go mad sat at home!! Helped that I went out for an hour yesterday, bought all the animal food, had some time at the farm and just had space. Though will be fine with little man too!!

I cried a lot yesterday. More than any other day really apart from in the hospital. I just kept thinking back to the labour, mil and how she's not here, ds being too cute for his own good. Not being able to bf then am I feeding him the right formula! Dh assures me I have crying days which should coincide with the babies growth spurts. Think it amuses him as I'm not a tearful person!! But sobbed at his mums grave yesterday!

Izzy I find that if I express in the morning I get the most milk. You can either express after a feed to totally empty your breast and get a nice bottle of hind milk to knock them out with in the middle of the night or do it in between feeds. I've just pumped as Jonas had a 2 hrly feeding growth spurt yesterday but reverted back to 4 hrly feeds last night so I had whaps like cannonballs this morning when he slid off drunkenly

Ta for the advice horsey it's nerve wracking. Behaviour wise he's so awake and his colour is definitely not jaundicey but it's the green poo that's freaked me out as he had that when he was battling the billyrubin. His poo is turning back toward orange (according to DH but that could be a white lie to keep me from asking Dr Google) so I'm going to stop being a paranoid f*ck wait until we see the midwife tomorrow.

Rowing, what a dreadful thing for your DH to say, you poor thing! My DH would find himself homeless if he was ever as callous as that to me. Thankfully, he sort of went in the other direction and fretted over me doing to much instead. If this had been your first baby then I would have ventured that he was tired, overwhelmed and worried and that was why he was behaving badly, but he really doesn't have that excuse. You absolutely should be sat on the sofa- please don't start forcing yourself to do too much too soon

I've been checking on occasionally on the antenatal thread to see how peeps are doing - did someone actually deliver their baby in the toilet or have I got the wrong end of the stick?!

Yes catbag that is how i read it!

rowing that is a shitty thing for your DH to say. Unmumsnetty hugs your way.

VQ S is in vest and babygro at all times, usually with a cellular blanket wrapped around him during the day, and an additional, thicker blanket at night. Snowsuit or extra socks and cardigan and hat if we're out. When my mum was here we had regular differences of opinion on what DS needs - but she thinks my house is an ice block (DS and I sleep in a room usually 16 degrees which is cool). He seems warm and that is key. Guess it can vary from house to house, regionally, family tolerances etc.

Had our best night yet last night. Almost no grazing, DS took full feeds at 8pm, 11.30pm, 3am and 7am and settle nicely in between. Bound to be a massive fluke!

J was half born in a lift if that's any good for you Cat I would hate to be the security guard reviewing those camera tapes the next day, or indeed anyone who happened to be walking between floors that morning, they would have seen yours truly accompanied by DP and a midwife, me in the nud on the bed on all fours with a baby's head out my lady bits, DP was trying his hardest to protect my modesty, I was too busy going "OUCH IT REALLY HURTS!"

Wow tits, that is dramatic! I can't imagine it often happens that a baby is born in a lift.

Thanks for all the supportive comments about DH. He and I are talking now and he's apologised for the crappy things he said last night. He doesn't think that saying we need to talk about the future is a threat though but I completely disagree but can't be bothered to go into it with him any more. I've got no energy to argue but tbh I'm still pretty unhappy with him and it is going to take some time for me to be over the things he said.

Re clothes, L wears a long sleeved body under a babygro plus usually a warm blanket over him during the day as our house can be quite chilly. When we go out he also has a snow suit over the top.

Hey Izzy did you use those biting things you linked us when you was in labour? I did and they were brilliant:)

Thank you for the feedback about clothes. I put an extra layer on DS this morning, and he went like a lobster so I took it off again. My mum has been criticising my clothes choices as she was told to wrap up really warm, and also put baby to sleep on tummy. She gave us carnation to sleep at night too. No wonder I love the stuff.

rowing glad you are talking again. Hope you get a chance to talk further. How is DS1 today?

DH has been working really hard today sorting the final bits in the nursery so it is no longer the junk room as well.

Wow to the lift story!

VQ my mum is the same re. keeping the baby warm. She is being very good at letting me do my own thing but she does keep telling me the same stuff about how babies used to be kept wrapped up/on their fronts/in a hospital nursery/outside (apparently this last one is from my grandmother's generation, she used to wheel my mum down two fights of stairs each morning and leave her on the doorstep all day!)

We dress L in a short sleeve or sleeveless vest plus sleepsuit with feet (apart from when we are dressing him as a frog or similar). The mw advised that we should take off the sleepsuit when feeding to stop him dozing off from the extra warmth. I have a large muslin folded in half as an extra layer when needed and a blanket in the cot/basket.

DS is still unwell valium, his voice is really hoarse and he's got a nasty cough and bit of a temperature. He's not really eating and not sleeping well either. If he's still poorly in a couple of days I'll take him back to the dr.

Hi all, just to let you know I am now an ante-nataler

Massive contraction at 5.55 after 'pootractions' and 2 trips to the poo for rabbit droppings, wasn't sure at all if they were just poo pains. At 5.55 I had one almighty contraction and phoned the midwife straight away as it was a homebirth, she arrived at 6.40 and I was 6-7cm.

Hubby frantically trying to fill pool with pans of hot water as it had run out filling it, was still filling it when little Tommy Dylan Angus arrived at 8.05am. No drugs, very easy labour and delivery, the contractions actually felt a lot less painful after the midwife arrived

Hate this 2 thread business, can't wait until we are all back together

Have changed 4 black poo nappies so far lol.

Sorry to hear that rowing. Not what anyone needs with a new baby. Hope he improves rapidly.

Congratulations shelley sounds like a lovely birth. You now are a post-nataler though.

Just read the latest ante natal thread. We are all lucky bastards apparently! I wonder if they will feel the same with cracked nipples and no sleep

So is everyone set for Christmas? . Just been writing my lists into my new Christmas book. It is nice to have a name for junior.

Don't worry VQ, having been through it before I'm enjoying every bit of undisturbed sleep, even the fact that you sleep more deeply when you aren't subconsciously listening out for a baby's cry. Resists temptation to mention today's two-hour nap.

I've got ds' presents sorted and two kids in the family. I've got some tesco vouchers to double up so will do that soon and get some more there.

We only buy for children because there's so many now! I think I've got about 14 kids to buy for! (My sister has 4 and they'll just be getting a sweety/ choc hamper to share between them)

For xmas, I'm nearly done. I mainly do homemade hampers for presents so made my chutneys etc before DS was born. Everything bought so far is wrapped and in the right bag/box for our multiple destination Xmas. Xmas cards are all addressed but not yet written as was waiting for DS to be named. Will write those soon I think.

Completed DS's nursery application form today, for DD to take in her bag tomorrow. Seems like madness to do 6 months in advance, but the nursery said they're full a year in advance!

Madame ds was on the waiting list at 16 weeks pregnant!! My deposit was paid at 26 weeks to start a year later in august!! Madness!!

For Xmas I have about half the presents I need. I think. Maybe more. I need to go through them really see whos got what!

Happily I can join you guys too.

My little boy (no name yet as half expected a pink 1) was born at 4.10pm at home, an hour after the MW arrived and assessed me as being 4cm. Things got pretty hard-going soon after, so had some gas & air. Had 3 MWs in the end, as the first was going off duty at 5pm & thought I'd be longer...

He weighed a healthy but perfectly petite 6lb 15.5oz 1wk, 1 day early, but I suspect he won't stay that way for long if he keeps up the feeding!!!

Congratulations chunky nice speedy birth aswell! Look forward to hearing his name!

Q is asleep on me but can I put her in the Moses basket? No course not, she's 2 days old and already has made up her mind that I'm def the best place to sleep.