November 2012 - babies are here at last

[StuntNun]

This is the post-natal club for graduates of the November 2012 intake.

Off to sodding hospital. Lost 11 % of body weight so need checking. May need to stay in dependent on bloods. Grr!

Hoping everything goes well for you valium and you and LO are both okay!!

Thank you nervous

I think the SIDS research has maybe gone a bit over the top regarding the risks of sleeping with your baby. Yes they found that 54% of cases had been co-sleeping but that means 46% were in a cot. They also included parents sleeping with a child on the sofa in the co-sleeping group and sofas disproportionately increase the risk because there are cushions and gaps that make it more likely for baby's head to get pressed up against something breathing stale air. There have also been concerns that saying co-sleeping is hazardous has led to mothers leaving the bed to feed on the sofa which is actually more dangerous.

A lot of women like Shelly says do end up co-sleeping and, if take precautions such as no alcohol or drug use (I'm assuming that means things like codeine or antihistamines rather that hard drugs!), ensuring baby can't fall out of bed or wriggle under the pillows and covers.

I hope you all get your babies into a routine soon. I'll be joining you in a couple of weeks and you can laugh at me complaining that my baby won't sleep in the Moses basket and I keep falling asleep feeding him.

Oh VQ how stressful for you. Keeping everything crossed all is ok. I thought that they were meant to lose body weight or is that outside the range?

VQ Hope everything is OK with little one x

Yes stunt, I have every intention of having this little one in bed for the first few weeks [hgrin]

I'll probably be co-sleeping too. It remains to be seen if DP will be also co-sleeping

Just going to take it as it comes! I co-slept with DS for a couple of months.

Sometimes wish l could co~sleep but know l would be too anxious to do the sleep bit. I keep waking up and panicking over whether l took the hot water bottle out of the moses basket before putting little one down! He seems to be getting worse at night rather than better ~ he was really unsettled last night and never went longer than an hour and a half.

Thanks for the comments re weight stunt. I think it all stems back to them mucking up the nicu discharge as they have no records of how much he lost in there.

Hope everything is ok VQ and that you are both home soon.

We can come home!! He's lost 12.5% but is an active and well baby. As he's being formula fed and topped up with expressed they've said he can go home!!

Brill Horsey! There is nothing like sleeping in your own bed

Have any of you tried White noise? I'd really recommend it. Babies seem to sleep better with noise around...

I downloaded an app with white noise and other sounds last night (about 2am...) - it didn't seem to have any effect but maybe things were too fraught by then? He quite likes some classical music though. Or maybe it just makes us all calmer. Not sure.

DH trying out the sling, DS seems to like it! Fingers xed that might make life easier.

Thinking of VQ and little Jacob, hope you get to bring him back home again this evening.

Blonder it won't be long before you're driving round the block over and over to get baby to sleep! That worked great with DS1, up until you tried to put him into his cot at which point he would wake up.

I found the most effective white noise is the hoover. With all of my kids, i've ended up sticking the hoover on so that i can eat my dinner at some point. Not very useful at three in the morning though.

As goes co-sleeping, I've done it with all of mine until they were sleeping through. I have to echo what someone else said- i curl around the baby (ies) and sleep so lightly that I wake before they do, as they are starting to surface, and have never come close to rolling on to them or otherwise squishing. That's just me though and I wouldn't like to extrapolate that up to all mothers universally. I worry more about falling asleep with them while feeding in a chair.

Had last mw visit today. Both babies are back up to and over their birth weight and Saul is closing the gap between their weights nicely. Makes the 2.5 to 3 hr feeds seem less tortuous. I've also managed to get out of the house and take the bubbas for a walk in their pushchair today. Walked the half mile into the local market town and picked up stuff for dinner from the supermarket, although have to confess to feeling quite shit by the time I'd walked the half mile uphill to get back home.

On an entirely different note, I am feckin starving. Unfortunately, dh is having a practice run at gothing both DDs up for Hallowe'en so it looks like I won't be eating anytime soon. Wouldn't mind, but I am permanently pinned to the sofa feeding babies and I can't go and get my own food :(

Brilliant news horsey

We constantly have some kind of noise in the house either the TV or radio and my LO doesn't bat an eye lid just sleeps through touches wood

Had the health visitor today and she was lovely and helpful, answered all my questions and made me feel really good with how things are going. Baby has gained 7oz in 6 days so I feel good about bf too

Back home. All fine. Will catch up later.

Great news horsey,

I've co slept when I DS would not stop crying.
As for sleeping through the night, when does that happen? It's been three weeks and I can bearly function.
Evil.

Glad to hear it vq

evil 3 of mine slept through from 6 weeks, but that's pretty early so I hear. The four yr old slept through from 12 weeks, and that left me feeling pretty done in, but is closer to average I think. Don't despair though- it's a gradual process andxthey will cut down themselves on feeds in the night so you'll probably only have one night feed for the last weekor two before they sleep through. Hang on in there, this doesn't last forever!

Thanks catbag,
I really want one night of sleep so very badly. I just don't feel like my self, I'm just so tired all the time.

VQ I'm glad your home.

Evil

Im still here. I am going soon hopefully. Though the longer I'm here the yellower I think he looks and the more panic stricken I feel! What if he doesn't put the weight on?

Evil my DS2 finally started reliably sleeping through the night at six years! Seriously though it will get easier, can someone else do one of the night feeds for you to give you a longer stretch of sleep?

Horsey, I absolutely promise you he will put on weight.

Hello. I can't count the number of times I've tried to catch up on these threads lol
N I don't even have other kids or house work or cooking to do. I do have a lot of respect for u all who are doing so much.

I've been a proper cry baby today. Feel quite Alone. Despite living in a house with three other ppl plus a baby. Made worse by a traditional mil who insists I stay at home for 5 weeks to ensure I fully rest. (I can however go to my mums nxt week for 2 week visit). Now I understand the thought behind this, child birth is hard, woman n child should rest (n I dont have to help with chores! So that is good at least) but I quite fancy a walk around the block now . Least at my mums I can have all my friends visit.

Oh no. LO crying brb

Horsey my LO was yellow and as long as you feed him, and pop him in some sunlight it will go.

Stunt, not really. My DP has to work, so he needs his sleep. Ill see if my parents could have him for a night.

I'm going to feed my LO so he falls asleep and then some.
Evil

Mine is a little yellow too but have just been told to make sure he gets some sunlight (think we had the curtains closed all day Mon in attempt to sleep) and to feed every 2 hrs (which is pretty much what I'm doing).

Just saw footage of newborns being evacuated from a hospital in New York and now in floods of tears. Just realised what all my friends were talking about when they said they can't watch/read anything sad about babies or children any more...