December 2011: The one where DSM gets married...

[LittleMissFlustered]

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Stop doing t all. All of it. Then watch him realise how much you actually do

Fingers crossed that the buyer gets in touch soon seven, but just for your sakes, not for your parents'. Our buyers went very quiet for a good few weeks, and I thought it was all over - but didn't really mind as we were about to have a baby v v v soon. But, they came thru.
Glad you're feeling better dsm.
We've had DH's sister and her family over for the weekend. 7 of them. It has been hectic but fun. Luckily the weather was great yesterday, so we enjoyed a BBQ in the garden.
Two Very late nights. Yawn!
How late?... Well, put it this way, BOi and I woke up after 11 today, and we weren't the last up. And we both had a nap in the afternoon too.

LMF I know but I love a clean & tidy house. So couldn't just 'leave it'

Little Lady is cutting her bottom 2 teeth at the moment I think. She's extremely cranky and only wants to cuddle me 2 sleep. Can see it being another long night.

Is it wrong to be looking forward to our honeymoon so much so I can have 11 nights of full sleep and a mental break from the girls?

It's just enabling his opinion call his bluff on it though. Try making a list of jobs and highlight who does what if you're not prepared to go the practical route :o

Is it term-time yet? I need to start painting:/

The enormous to-do-list continues: have toget stuff ready for childminders x2 for tomorrow, then bed. Tomorrow is back to work for 8.30am!! Wish me luck girls (gulp), at least it's only part time....

Good luck aethel, and no guilt or there'll be a in your direction.

dsm first argument as a married couple! Good advice from LMF though. I refuse to think about what will happen if we've still heard nothing in a fortnight. DH is the worrier not me, I go with it will be find because it bloody has to be! :o Are the girls going to your mums while you're away?

oi sounds like a great weekend! Any ideas how DHs interviews went?

Fairly busy but boring day here. Hoovering done, washing done, guinea pigs cleaned out and leek and potato soup made and frozen for Eva and ironing avoided. I haven't mentioned the chickens for ages, they're now point of lay so eggs could be any day now!

Anyone heard from kate or gee?

Seven The girls are going between both our parents whilst we are away

I'm here :) just very tired as usual :(

Have GP today about the dizziness. DS woke up screaming 3 times in the night and woke DD up. DH didn't hear any of it (he's in the spare room at the moment) so I was up and down all night.

Sorry not name-checking, just survuvng at the moment!

Hi everyone,

DSM hope your DH apologises soon! nothing wrong in looking forward to a proper rest at all either!

Aethel no feeling guilty! You're doing what is best for you and your family! It's perfectly normal to feel guilty though! Listen to me giving advice....I've still got to go back to work :o I do get the guilty feelings part, but I think I would go bonkers if I was at home full time with DS. I feel guilty I'm not having the time off my life on maternity leave, but I think it's different for our generation than it was for our mums and nans.

I wish I was more like my DM, she actually enjoys cleaning and I would eat dinner off any floor in her house! I really struggle to get things done :( I've started figuring out what my problems are e.g. getting DS fed, at 5pm, getting dinner ready and DH and I have batch cooked some meals this weekend for DS and bought some emergency jars and I've got my list of quick and easy dinners that I can cook.

I think I need to start having my shower in the evenings before bed instead of mornings as I feel grotty in the mornings waiting for DS to have a morning nap whilst I then dash into the shower.

I think it's little things like this that will make life easier. I am on top of the washing, we have an empty laundry basket, the washing up has been done and I've wiped down the work surfaces in the kitchen.

I think I need to Hoover the floors more and mop the kitchen and bathroom floors more. DM horrified me, I knew she used to Hoover the whole house once a day, but she also told me recently that she used to mop the kitchen every night after me and dbro had gone to bed :o

Things with DH are much better now, I think we both were tired and stressy and we haven't had any time to ourselves to just slob out and relax. DH is going to have Sunday mornings off and have a bike ride, and I'm going to have Saturday mornings off and go to Zumba.

We did realise babies are hard work, but I think it's having a teething baby who is on the move and can't be left for 5 seconds and trying to cook, clean and pretend it's all a breeze and have hardly any money is a bit of a shock to the system still even 8 months on, plus no help from friends/family!

Anyway we have decided we need to be a team and work together. DH was sweet when he asked when was the last time I had any time away from DS.....erm....that would be a hen night 3 months ago

Oh sod it, even though I've written a long post on my musings of the day, I'll either find a kindred spirit or annoy you all....

I've started Christmas shopping :o

I saw some lovely scarves in the Asos sale and bought the for the two SIL's and my sister, plus got them all some chocolates, so they're all sorted.

I've also made a list of what to get everyone else, so I'm going to get a couple of presents each month to spread the cost!

Everyone is on a £10 per person limit except DS as he's going to be spoilt!

Thanks Cherry He's apologized and currently booking me us a theatre break in London as a sorry and love you present lol

Check you out with your Xmas shopping already. I need to start once honeymoon is out the way and I've finished decorating Sky's room.

Cherry I am also thinking about Christmas already, mainly to spread the cost as I've now had the last of my SMP so we are surviving on DH's salary for the next 3 months. Eek! And both DCs birthdays are in December so that is a lot of presents to think about!

I always have a shower in the evening, I would prefer it in the morning but can't rely on DD sleeping long enough for her morning nap. Also have to drop DS off at the CM some days so need to be able to get ready in 10 mins in the morning. I generally end up clearing up the breakfast things, mopping floors etc when (if) DD sleeps in the morning so I don't need to do any housework the rest of the day. We have a cleaner now who comes every week, and it is SO much easier to keep on top of things knowing that the house gets a good clean once a week. I find I'm busy enough just doing the general tidying/laundry/shopping/cooking/admin things, don't think I could cope with cleaning too. Although I used to when on mat leave with DS, not sure how I managed it!

GP thinks my dizziness is just due to tiredness and extrenely low blood pressure (80/40). So I just need to rest as much as possible, eat regularly, increase salt and fluid intakes. I can happily eat more and drink more but just wish I could sleep more! She said she would be surprised if I wasn't feeling ill/dizzy considering my blood pressure and lack of sleep. Feel very relieved actually as it has been quite scary over the past few weeks feeling dizzy, it has felt like I am sort of outside my body and that the world is slowly tilting. At least now I just make I sit down, eat and rest if possible when it happens again.

I've got my sister's bd and Xmas present. I don't think I'm going to get much for BOi. Others will spoil him. I may get him a few token bits but mainly let him play with boxes and wrapping paper.
Glad to hear you and DH are happier.

DSM excellent result!

I don't know what is wrong with me but I always start thinking of Christmas at the beginning of September...far too early but I can't resist!

Gee That's good that you've seen the dr, it must be a bit scary feeling I'll and dizzy like that when you're looking after the kids. I had a migraine once and had to wait for DH to come home from work for two hours and I just held DS and asked him very nicely to not move or cry or need a nappy change - thank goodness he was an angel! It would probably be good to have a mid morning and mid afternoon snack every day between meals to keep your energy levels up.

The C word is banned until mid-November!

Oi I'm hoping that DS will get spoilt by everyone else too! I want to get him a ride on car and a playhouse or a sandpit as his two 'main presents', one for birthday and one for Christmas so hopefully I can get these for around £50 in total. I can't wait until he is a bit older and can get excited about it all :o

Eek LMF don't worry I've got my list sorted so I'll keep my lips sealed ;) October is probably the longest I will last though!

Cherry Glad you & DH have sorted things out

Gee Glad you have the reason you've been feeling a tad dizzy. maybe when DC have their morning snack you can grab a high sugar/salt snack?

Oi I agree with that re xmas. Sky won't be getting much either and neither will Darcie, due to getting loads off everyone else each year - I have a huge family.

All Darcie is getting is:
Hello Kitty Walkie talkies.
Genuine Ugg Boots - her current pair are on their last legs.
Clothes
Jewellery
Perfume & some nail polish.

That's it for her tho.

Sky I have no idea at the moment. I'm sure I'll figure something out.

DH will prob get something to do with his camera or a gift experience or a course to do with photography.

My little niece or nephew who is due Oct 7 um not sure their either!

Camenbert? Caffeine? Benedict Cumberbatch?

Fielded an interesting phonecall from estate agent b) today. Our possibles were a, b, and c. A valued the house high, were a leetle smoooth and ubercomplimentary, but I'm not convinced their footfall/completion rate is great. B were more expensive, valued low, and told us that if the house didn't sell in 4 weeks we should slice off twenty grand "so we can bring in people with a lower budget" . c seemed calm, friendly and professional and several people i know have given us good feedback of using them.

So B rang up and said "are you using us then? Why not?" I explained we'd had reccs for the other one. His response was "ooh you'll regret that. We sell houses for significantly more money than them, we're better at it, your friends are just wrong". This response reassured me we made the right decision not to use them!!!

Benedict Cumberbatch is never banned:o

Glad your morning went well:)

How old is Darcie DSM? That list, apart from the walkie talkies, sounds like a list for a teenager?

The older two will get books and new supplies for their eer dwindling mess making kits craft boxes. Eldest will be getting quad roller skates as she has asked for them, middle will be expanding his Lego collection. Octoboy will be getting a nice range of cardboard boxes and paper to trash. I might buy him a new wooden spoon to bash it all with:o

We do christkindl in my family so we get one person each to buy a present for with a max value of 50 euro. It makes Christmas SO much easier and less stressful. Nieces/nephews receive birthday presents only, no Christmas presents. I'm only going to get minimopsy one small toy. She will only be one, it's more for me than her! DSM Darcie will be thrilled with that, it's v generous! I suppose the clothes are a way of getting her what she needs and making it into a present? A bit like the knickers/socks as presents?! I come from a family of six kids so we got one 'santa' pressie and stocking fillers (including aforementioned knickers and socks haha) but that was it so I'll be trying to keep it restrained for minim as well if I can!!

Ha aethel obvs right choice not to to with b).

LMF Darcie will be 8 in March. I get her the necessities like clothes & turn them into presents. Rest of family buy toys, craft stuff & DVDs etc. I'm also going to buy an R4 card for her DSi she hasn't got many games for it at the moment, so this will be a good way of storing them. She's very much a girlie girl. She's hard to buy for as she's spoilt got everything already!

LMF Love the wooden spoon idea