October 2011, the three C's crawling cruising and chatting

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Thanks Mama for the title. A new thread hopefully everyone will find us again.

Thanks everyone. He was fine. Almost too fine - almost like he prefers it there. How much of a crap mum does that make me feel? He went for naps no problem (what?) and dh picked him up and got a bit smile but Seb cried when he got home. It's also changed our routine in that we don't have dinner with Seb any more, which I miss.

Also saw Seb's cousin yesterday. He's one day younger (36hours to be precise) but is way ahead in terms of development. Sat up first and was crawling ages ago (Seb goes backwards about a foot) now also well on the move, standing by himself and walking with help. Can also clap and starting to say words. Seb seems so much younger in comparison. I know i shouldn't compare but I can't help it. bet other people do too. I knew this would happen.

All of the above made me feel a bit shit today tbh and I ended up cracking the wine open tonight and the ice cream despite promising my friend we would start our diet together today, feeling a bit tipsy and emotional so sorry for the me post.

Thanks for suggestions about DP, we spent Sunday together and I played with Eli on the beach while he went for a surf (first time in years!) which he loved. We also went out Saturday night and I suggested he stayed out while I went home to get Eli. He seems a bit happier so next time he starts to show signs of it I'm going to boot him off to go surfing!

Tally ((hugs)) don't compare S to his cousin, they all progress at their own rate and he'll do some things faster and some things slower. My niece is super speedy and does everything before Eli (according to my DSis ) but I'm happy with him staying a baby for as long as possible!

Fuzzzy yay for walking! Also if it makes you feel better two of E's teeth came out and went back in again so we're back to 5 teeth at the moment!

Tally A can't clap or stand either, and from memory he's younger than Seb (born 6 oct) - it's hard not to compare, but so important not to. It's a long game really - when they are both 21 it won't make any difference! What will matter is them being functioning and happy adults.

We spent last weekend with my nephew and neice and that put things in perspective, my neice is 3 and really quite exceptional in all her developmental milestones and always has been (and seems really really bright and articulate), whereas my nephew who is 14 months is quite introverted and quiet. People always compare the two and there have been conversations wondering if he's slow, when he's not slow, just quieter, and doing things in his own time, and a different personality to his sister. It saddens me that the kids are compared at all, it's not good for either of them I am sure.

Although when you learn the art of not comparing your kids to others at all, tell me how

Ooops I mean older than Seb...

tally agree with what pen said. It's really really hard not to compare kids but they do honestly do things in their own way/time. Please don't think that Seb likes the childminder more than his mummy.. When S is more smiley with someone else, I like to think its cause she is sick looking at my face . A mother/child bond is unbreakable

DS cries at the sight of me if I have been away and then come back.

tally I know it's so hard not to compare (esp when certain relatives insist on telling you that so and so's baby has all but won the nobel peace prize when yours can't crawl yet!) i was doing it myself with my friends baby who's 6wk younger than N. she can crawl and almost stand, but she can't sit unaided. N is sitting but not crawling, and can only stand if we pull him to standing and hold hands. All babies are different, we will all get there and I'm just trying hard not to fret, just enjoy him for the stage he's at. Which is unhappily teething ATM!!!!!!!
I like to believe the crying when I collect N/return home is his way of saying where have you been, I missed you, rather than oh god it's you back again!! N always has a smile for nursery staff, or just about anyone really, but there are things he only does for me (proper snuggly cuddles when he's poorly for example) that are proof of that special bond we have. Nobody can replace that. I also miss not havin tea with him when we're working, but we do have all the meals at weekends together and try making them special with fun/messy (!) foods.

pebble I'm glad he enjoyed the surfing and you both managed to go out for a bit. I think sometimes you can lose a sense of yourself a bit being a parent, as you devote so much of yourself to the DC. It does you good once in a while to just do something for you. I went swimming for the first time since before I fell pregnant last week. I used to think nothing of rattling off 60 lengths without stopping. I managed 30 the first time before I had to drag myself out the pool all wobbly legged like bambi! Went again the next day and managed to do a big extra and felt really good about myself. Then I had some cake and felt even better

at cake ipswitch

A cried when I got home from work at first as well! He's stopped now (mostly - still happens when he's tired). It's as if he sees me again, and at that point realises I've been gone

Hello!

Have been awol again - but work is finally calming down (finish in two weeks), the triathlon is done (THANK THE LORD!) and holiday is all booked and ready. DH is away so out of my hair so I can finally catch up!

How is everyone? things are crazy as ever here, DS has his hearing appointment today so fingers crossed for some improvement (it's unlikely but hey!)

on the comparing point, just another one saying they all do their own thing - the girls are so different - Edie can stand alone and has great fine motor skills, ayes refuses to even try and there are so many other examples (ayes is great at feeding herself and waving etc, edie just shovels the food in and refuses to wave) and they are twins.

Pene - half a wife? More like 1/4 mother 1/4 worker 1/4 housekeeper 1/8 daughter / sister family member and then whatever is left is the wife part :)

Right going to catch up properly today x

mmmm cake!!!

tally I second what fuzzy said I'm sure the kids would never prefer a childminder to mummy! I have to keep telling myself this though Christopher said to me yesterday (my day off) mummy who is watching me today? I said no one I'm not at work, he then started crying saying he wanted someone else to watch him just keep telling yourself at least you've picked fab childcare much better than child screaming every time you go to work IMO.

Pene - half a wife? More like 1/4 mother 1/4 worker 1/4 housekeeper 1/8 daughter / sister family member and then whatever is left is the wife part
me too!

Good to see u again bb3 well done on triathlon! I can barely manage a Zumba class at present

hi all have been off MN for a while. have the ILs visiting for a long holiday and DH is on a break for a fortnight. R is really enjoying all the attention!

tally guess everyone's said everything there is to say on different rates of development. but seriously even if you ever fall into the trap, DONOT compare a boy baby with a girl baby. girls are just so much faster! while it makes me feel great to see all the girls developing so much quicker than the boys (go girl power!! ) I really wonder at what stage do they/we loose the race.....females should have been the dominant ones instead of getting suppressed historically and perhaps even now.....

fuzzzy engels walking!!!!! wow!!!!

climbin i have the same problem. R cries at the sight of me when he's been left with someone for a while....:/

ips how i'd love to go swimming...but the cake sounds much better

and before i run off again, have any of you experienced sore throats and/or inflammed tonsils? went to the doc today who suggests staying with calpol for two days and then starting with antibiotics if the crankiness and fever doesn't go down. wondering if i can give him anything in the meantime for some relief to the throat. solids are being completely rejected and in the food department, only ella's food packets are being allowed. i'm squeezing them directly into his mouth. perhaps he finds that easier to swallow.....

if he's eating something and drinking alright then that's pretty good, otherwise you could time feeds 30 mins after calpol to give him the best chance for eating.

ha, lovin turns out the cake was better for me. ever since i went swimming i've had really bad cramps in my thigh muscles, and i warmed up and everything! poor R, have you tried a little ice cream/frozen yoghurt? that may soothe his throat enough to try other foods. worked for me when i was little :)

Poor R lovin hope he feels better soon. As ips said cold food might help (W loves ice cream anyway)

W has started growling its very funny he doesn't seem to have decided what he means by it yet either.

Passed my driving theory today so one step closer to being able to get myself about more easily :)

thanks penguins and ips funny i stayed away from cold food thinking it might hurt his throat. will try some yogurt tomorrow....at the moment hoping for a decent night for both of us...

strawberry great news! all the best for the next step.....i took the test last year. i tend to get very nervous in all forms of tests and my instructor actually suggested calming tablets. was quite embarrassed

Yay sp that's great!! You will be out and about in no time says me who took 5 attempts to pass driving test

lbm I suffered a lot from sore throats when I was younger and would have days of not eating simply because it was just to sore. Def agree with anything cold to help soothe throat. Hope little R is better soon

So finally heard back from job.. I didn't get the one I applied for but they wanted to offer me 'call operator' which is level below, but it would be a 'zero hour contract' which basically means its only 'as and when' rather than set hours/days. Wasn't really what I was hoping for but right now it's better than nothing. I'll have to do a months training so hoping to start that soon. I filled in another app the other day for an after school club which would be ideal. Just waiting to hear back from them.

What's everyone else up to? Very quite around here...

survived my first week back at school.

climbing on Thurs DH looks after M and as soon as I walk in the door M starts crying.

I really have to step away from the biscuit tin - when I weighed myself at the beginning of this week I was the same as when I was 6 months pregnant

Well done Fuzzzy and sp!

And Engels for surviving your first week back at school, me too!

Sorry about R loving, cold stuff sounds like the way forward.

So glad it's Friday, shattered.

Thanks everyone, I know you are all right, I was just having a bad night! I was on pick up duty today (been dropping him off all week) and when I came him, it took him a few seconds to register and then I got the biggest grin and arms flapping about like mad. When I picked him up I got his famous 'Sebby kiss' which is basically chewing my cheek and pulling my hair while grinning like mad and making a funny urrgh noise! . It was a bit odd being with him again at home after so many days of just seeing him in the morning and just before bed.

BB3 glad to have you back. Well done on the triathalon, well impressed.

Lovin poor little thing. Things like that are no fun at any age but worse when they don't understand.

Engles You're not the only one. I've still got so much preggy weight to lose. My friend and I are dieting together. We have to email each other what we eat (I'm trying not to think about the ice cream in the freezer!).

thanks all for the support. not the best of days. we've seen better :/

but loads of congratulations doing the rounds!! BB3 I missed the bit about the triatholon - wow!! fuzzzy not the one but another. it's great news! and tally loved the greeting description. bet you felt like a million bucks

and for all those still breast feeding, (mama and mrsH right?) I'm sorry but I felt so envious of you all today. R hardly drank any milk. i kept offering him the bottle and he kept trying to reach for my breast...lovin sad

lovin Sorry abut poorly throat , it's awful when they are ill. Re bfeeding don't be envious, having issues here. Been to just over week ago and thought might be thrush, finished treatment and no better. Saw hv and looks like J may have lip and tongue tie and with her having lots of teeth made latch shallow. Result is sore nipples and then she bit me as she fell asleep today and drew blood. Lots of blood.

Sorry I'm crap and lurking.

J was 10 months on Wednesday, can believe in 2 months she will be 1 year old.

I came back from bed thinking silly me for putting names. There are so many others..how could I forget you ips!!! Don't you let mil or anyone stop you.....

...and then I read your message bunt...ouch....

Two months to one year :)