Hi Snow - wow, has it really been a year since you moved? 2013 has flown by that's for sure - cannot believe our 'babies' are four and a half
Sorry to hear your house has needed more work than first thought. always the way though - even though I rent so have a landlord to fall back on for the big stuff, there is so much I would love to do to this place to make it more of a home (double glazing would be a good start, brrrr )
Things with the kids are ok although J still struggling with all the change - think school has broken her slightly Moving to 50/50 care is breaking my heart but is probably (maybe) the best thing for the children and H won't settle for anything else. He dropped pretty much all contact in the summer as I wouldn't pay him to look after our children. He wouldn't take them for a night in the week as that would break the conditions of his JSA (yes, he is still unemployed) and despite being available, I currently pay out over £800 in childcare costs. It all comes down to him believing he could end our marriage but carry on with the stay at home role with me supporting him. It has been agreed been will now receive J's child benefit(which he can use to get income support, housing benefit etc so can continue to not work) and so will now spend time with his children.
Makes me as he spends every waking hour with new gf and her children and I bet she doesn't pay him! Argh - I keep just telling myself I am better off without him - because I am. anyone who can use their kids as a weapon to remain a lazy fuckwit rather than get a job and start to provide for them, doesn't deserve me (phew, that was cathartic ) J & O do miss him and like spending time with him so I shouldn't be sad - for all his failings as a person, he is a good dad to them. We return to mediation in the new year to see how it's all working...
Sorry for the 'me me me' post - how are all the rest of the lovely Juners? its been so long and even though I do see some of us on FB, it's not the same as being able to brain dump on here!
I managed to slice my finger on a food processor blade and sever the tendon badly a few weeks ago. I had surgery but am still signed off but am off into work for a couple of hours in a bit, so best get myself sorted! Take it easy all x