Sept 2010 - Another 6 months past, it's going too fast!

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Our lovely new thread for the September 2010 babies. Dive in folks!

Anymore nursery/cm news PolkaDotMoon? Really hope things have improved for you and Jack :)

cinnamon I didn't take Jack for his last session although paid for. He had spent two nights in our bed for the first time ever.... (minus one very poorly night when he was tiny) because he was so upset. I'd use the word traumatised if I knew exactly what it meant
Spoke to the manager about my concerns and that he wouldn't be returning. I explained that it wasn't purely because he was upset..... That I expected but more for the reasons I posted about before. She responded politely but couldn't explain away the lack of a more structured 'settling session'. Anyway..... It just wasn't right and he has taken all week to readjust poor little man.

Met a lovely cm with two purpose built play rooms, a huge house and garden, 2 rabbits, a puppy, trampoline and a six sweater Mercedes people carrier. Haha..... She's definitely making good first impressions and only charges £3 an hour. Still completely unsure what's best now and need Dh to meet her before making a decision. She would have another two yr old and an 8 month old.............. Mmmmmm decisions decisions

Arlo's 2 tomorrow!! Got him the biggest helium '2' balloon in the world.

Happy birthday Arlo, have a wonderful day!! We got tractor this year as ds1's no. 5 balloon went down twice. Hope Arlo loves his balloon and stays up for ages

Happy birthday Arlo. We had a huge no 2 baloon for grace and it lasted 10 days! She wouldn't let me get rid of the bloody thing until it had gone down.

Polka it sounds to me like you've done the right thing, it sounds like he'd be better suited with a cm. Hope he's back to his happy self now and sleeping in his own bed again.

Feeling a bit down the last couple of days, dh is getting fed up with me not being as mobile and having to drive me about posted here about it and I'm very tired. Foot is getting better daily but still can't walk properly until I have my x-ray on Wednesday. Just want to curl up in a little ball with my boys and lock the door for a week! Luke is being so cute with my foot, keeps kissing it better and giving me lots of cuddles.

I have to say cinnamon that i totally agree with what everyone said on that thread. I hope you don't take offence but i think he's being really selfish. Seeing as it's 4 weeks the least he should be doing is a week on, week off with your mum doing the weeks he isnt. Id be absolutely furious with dp if he put me in the position of having to ask my mum. I hope you've had it out with him.

It should only be one week though newmum001 as my I'm hoping ill be able to drive after my appt next weds. I didn't, was just too upset by his reaction :( he has since apologised but I'm dreading what he's going to be like Tuesday evening!

Just rise above it if your mums willing to do it. But remember his behaviour next time he asks you to do something. Id be fuming if i were you!

Random question, what size shoes is everyone in? Luke's feet have grown again he's now 7 1/2 F. Ds1 is 13 1/2 F and his huge compared to his class mates but dh is only an 8 so not sure where it comes from!

Last time grace was measured she was 6.5f but those dont fit her now. She's wearing trainers atm which are a 7 but Im assuming in clarks she'll be a 7.5f cause she always goes up a full size. Need to buy her some more clarks so will find out soon enough. Im a size 7 and dp is a 10.

Olly is 4.5f, Toby is 7.5f! I'm a 3 and dh is an 8!
I'm be pretty annoyed if dh reacted like that cinnamon, but I do think men are a different species!
Bit of advice here, Toby was an angel child, still is really. Had the odd tantrum but nothing serious. Olly is turning into a nightmare. He's scratched me and broke the skin, throws his toys and today hit Toby on the back of the head with a toy car so hard it caused a big bump and broke the skin. I was so cross, for a second I really didn't like him for doing that to my baby. Then felt bad for shouting at him. I use the naughty stool and it does work, and I know he's 2 and testing the boundaries etc but he really hurt him!
We're all so tired at the minute, I can't really cope with a terrible 2 year old adding to it!

Diddly grace can be like that at times, if she gets really cross she smacks. What i try to do is calmly remove her from the situation. So if she's smacked me in the living room ill put her on the sofa or into another room and ill ignore her for a minute or 2. She gets quite upset but after a minute or to i pick her up and ask why she was in trouble then she says sorry. It does seem to be working. Don't get me wrong im not above shouting but when i do it takes longer to resolve whatevers happened and the angrier i get the angrier she gets.

Ive also started taking toys away for bad behaviour but that isn't always as successful depending on how cross she is she really kicks off if i take things away. She is getting the message though.

How come you're all tired, can you maybe let your mum have the boys for a night to get some rest. Or to have a night out and get insanely drunk

Newmum's post sounds sensible, I haven't anything to add I'm afraid (A does get cross sometimes but mostly in a waily way so far). Her feet are only a 5F at the moment - last two times we took her to have her feet measured they were still the same size, maybe we moved her into that size a little early? Next measurement coming up, I think she will have moved into a different size then though.

PS Cinnammon, how did your course go last night? I agree with everyone else that your DH was out of order taking it as he did - hope he came to his senses and took it all more gracefully last night. And good luck for your x ray today!

I'm sorry you're having a hard time Diddlybop, I am in the same situation! Ds1 never hit anyone and if someone took something from him he'd just cry and let go! Luke never lets go! He screams, hits, bites, pulls hair and pinches (hasn't scratched so far) and it's mostly ds1 that he attacks! In some ways that's good as it saves me paperwork and embarrassment but I hate that he can hurt his brother so deliberately! I take Luke away, always make him say sorry, take things away if he's hit ds1 with something and he does have time out (cm training means we don't have a naughty step/stool/spot) which works well now he's that bit older. He is told firmly no, I tell him that it hurts and it's not kind and then nothing more is said of it once he's apologised. I think that the main thing is consistancy, Luke is doing it less often now that his speech is coming on as he just shouts instead. It's really horrible to have to battle him about everything! This week is really busy and he seems to know and is challenging everything and generally being a little monster. Hope things improve for you soon.

How's it going with Bruno's tongue tie/bf comixminx?

I went to my course and he was fine, told me he was less grumpy this week!! He came home in the end and my course finished early so I texted for him to come early and he bloomin got lost, the divvy!!!! I even asked on the way if he's find his way back and he said yes he would.

Got my x-ray this afternoon so will know then whether I can drive or not

Thanks for asking re Bruno's tt and bf, cinnamon. Things have been pretty busy at this end of things, partly because we went away on Thursday last and I needed to spend quite a bit of the spare moments on Wed and Thursday daytime packing and otherwise getting ready to head out! (We were driving up to the Lakes and I wanted to be sure that I could sit in the back in between the two car seats, which meant hiring a car that was larger than DP's wee Micra, so that took up time too.) Then there's always the usual things like laundry, cooking, shopping and so on. So while I have been bfing Bruno at various points, I haven't been concentrating on trying to improve it or increase it, and I haven't been very careful about checking whether the latch is good (so long as it doesn't actually hurt or anything). I've really been working on the basis that the formula is the main feed and the bf is the top up, so to speak. Certainly it's working in so far as he is still gaining weight well and getting nicely chubby and so forth. Today he was a bit vomitty but then yesterday he had his first jabs so it could have been that.

Some feeds have been obviously pretty good, with plenty of swallowing and him coming off nicely and suchlike, but I would say those are more the exception purely because as I say I'm not really trying to do much more than top him up with the bf, so I put him to the boob when I'm waiting for a bottle to be ready, or when he's finished a reasonable size bottle. I think overall it is better than before but given that I'm not measuring it in any real way it's hard to be sure how much more he's getting via boob than he was.

A day in the life of me!
6am get woken up by olly
7am get up
8.30 leave for school
9am get home, get olly in the car to go to nursery
9.30 start work (only work 5 hours so don't qualify for a break!)
2.30 finish work and pick olly up
3pm get home and leave to pick Toby up from school
3.40 get home get tea ready
5pm tea
5.45 bath
6.30 bed
7pm crash!!!

That's why we're all so tired, its a crazy routine but no worse than some peoples! I'm also in "the sound of music" in 3 weeks so all day Sunday, Monday nights and as of next week, every other night are taken up with rehearsals. I know its a lot and some people say I should give it up but its my hobby and my me time!
My mum would have the boys if she could but she lives 45mins away and works full time!
Hopefully its just a blip and he'll get over it soon! Literally as I typed that he kicked a toy at Toby! I give up!

I don't think you should give up, i think we all need a hobby and some time to ourseves. Your routine does sound exhausting though. I think everythings a phase at this stage he's just trying it on because he can. If i were you id start taking toys off him. Anything he throws gets taken away and put in a box where he can't reach it and good behaviour rewarded with getting a confiscated toy back. It must be shit for you but he'll soon learn that throwing things results in punishment and will hopefully stop it.

Just thinking of ways to save you a bit of time, have you got a slow cooker? I use mine all winter, chuck a load of stuff in in the morning put some baked potatos in the oven at 4 ish and everythings done by 5 with very little effort. You could even get up 10 minutes earlier and get it started before you all have to get ready.

newmum Lumps is THE QUEEN of slow cooking!! don't you remember the threads with her sausage cass recipes?
Jack can be challenging too but so far has always been lovely to other children and gives up to let the other person win. Which does annoy me sometimes because now he thinks half his toys here belong to a certain, bossy girlfriend and he says "that's D's" and puts it down in favour of something she hasn't yet fought claws over. she bites him all the time too
He does hit me when he gets angry or very tired and I always take his hand gently but enough to keep hold of it, tell him "no hitting, it's not nice and it hurts..... Say sorry mummy" which he does and it's all over within seconds. Thankfully, so far, he's not one for bearing a grudge but I appreciate it may come!
Actually his worst grumps are when he doesn't want to come back inside so I'm often seen carrying him in horizontally usually with a trail of Welles and balls behind us.

Need a good catch up now to hear how you're all doing xx

Wellies of course

Oh yeah i remember the sausage caserole. Might try something like that myself. I assume i'd brown the sausages first???

I never do newmum but I think it'd probably be better if you do! I need to be a bit more organised with tea really cos I always forget to get things out the freezer in time to put them in the slow cooker!

Did you get your x-ray results cinnamon

Boring post here but does anybody else ache every single day? Starting to think I might need to take supplements or something. I remember pre baby days having tired and run down days but then the days between I never thought about anything aching etc. now I feel it every day. Probably just carrying Jack a lot and the constant up and down of stairs all week but kind of think I should have at least some days when I feel completely good..... No?
Last thing at night I always think " my legs are killing" and first thing in the morning my arms really ache. I know I'm probably just getting decrepit but wondered how any other mums feel.

Hallowe'en names anyone?? LucyPumpkinLumps cinnamonFangTastics
Erm........ Trying to think of more.......