Dec 08 Mums - happy new year, happy new thread and soon some happy new babies!

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Happy new year!

Sorry for the rubbish title but wanted to get the new thread underway. Let's close the door on some of the sad events of 2011 and look forward to a better year in 2012.

Crossed with you Indith - massive congrats!

Rubes, I hope the dog is ok. Any update?
WELL DONE INDITH!!!

I think we should all sit down with a tonight & watch the Apprentice!

Kayz are you nervous yet?

Evening ladies. I am feeding dd2 to sleep with aglass of wine in hand. That sort of day.

Can I ask a sort of AIBU question??

so I just had a family tea with my parents, my sister and her two kids and obviously My two. My sister, as I probably told you, had a MC nearly 6 months ago.

So we're sitting at the the table, I've got Rosalie on my lap and I say to my sister "would you like a cuddle?" and she says "no. Maybe next time. I'm still a bit funny with babies, I'm sure you understand"

Well I'm sorry but I don't. I have had a miscarriage and I know it's sad but she has two healthy kids and had in 5 1/2 months not ONCE so much as TOUCHED DD2. Not once. Not even gone near her or played with her or anythig.

Then the rest of the time she basically blanked me

I've got friends who have babies who would have been exactly the same age as my MC baby and I would never be so disinterested/cold with their little ones. And that's ones who would have shared a birthday!

So am I being unreasonable or is that just really selfish????

Bah just lost post on phone. Knew there was a reason don't post from phone.
Beans such amazing news about your dad! Totally brilliant.
Kayz how exciting lots of luck for tomorrow
Vag thanks for tri tips and on fb! Went for swim today was hard work as not been swimming for years

Kiwi does sound like she's being a bit unreasonable but I guess different people react differently to these things? Definitely unreasonable to blank you. I would def be pissed off if my SIL did that (don't have a sister so that's the closest comparison). But not sure what you can do. If she is being like that saying anything will probably annoy her more??

Kiwi - I think that is fairly odd behaviour from your sister, as it's her niece. I guess different people react differently, but I miscarried pre DD1 and two of my friends told me they were due on same date as I would have been a couple of weeks later. It did hurt my heart, and I did sob on DH, BUT I was delighted for them. I was lucky that I got up the duff sharpish with DD1, but I honestly think 5.5 months later when it's family (no, I'm not Peggy Mitchell), is a little out of order. I'm with you xx

Blimey Rubes what a dreadful day. How is the dog now? Did you see her fall? Just thought maybe she had a funny turn which caused her to stumble. My parents dog did that - she was very old though.

Jam Proper belly laugh at the skipping robe antics.

Kiwi It must be awful for you but maybe there is more to it. Could she be depressed?

Beans Your house sounds lovely! My moving to a new area tip is be confident and brazenly hand out your mobile number to anyone you think you'd get on with.

Kayz Good luck!

Dog is fine - thanks Beans took her out for some fresh air when dh got home and no sign of injury!
Guard for door ordered just for the heavy patio one, as I'd rather just buy peace of mind since ds is obsessed with opening and closing doors and Summer is here DS was clearly shattered as dh put them to bed at 7 sharpish and no protest (he actually asked if it was bedtime)
Kiwi - sounds odd, but yes people do react differently to things. However, sounds to me like it could be about something else. Do you get along fine? Any underlying other issues between you both?
Right I think you've all had your dose of me for one day.
Good idea Deids. Had curry, wine and will watch Apprentice as soon as DH finished some work upstairs..... x

Jolly, no didn't see her but heard her then saw her hit the landing on her bum / hind legs. I've seen her lose footing before as she gets excited and runs up them and our stairs are horrendous (can't believe stair gates are off!) We have some anti slip tread stuff to put on them which is still in the cupboard - that will be going on pronto now.

Kiwi, I agree, it is out of order, and is missing out on a relationship with her niece. But I second the possible depression. She is really taking too long to move on.

Rubes do you remember ages ago I did the same thing to DS2 but made worse because I was putting him in the playroom for timeout. I couldn't believe how much blood there was, I burst in tears straight away, made worse by DS1 asking "did you do that to me when I was a baby".

JB co-incidentally my DS' where using their skipping rope to try to take out each others eye out.

And Rubes I hope the hound is ok, keep us updated.

Missed your last post Rubes. We used the anti slip stuff and the difference was amazing.

Beans such wonderful news about your Dad, I'm so pleased, but I suspect only a fraction as pleased as you and your family are . And your new house sounds really lovely, the pics you put on fb are gorgeous

All the very best for tomorrow Kayz, I hope you have your perfect day. I am the hat lady, I have a load of hats, I love them, so I will wear one in your honour tomorrow. Will one of my 'everyday hats' be suitable, or shall I wear the hat I wore to my on wedding? That wouldn't upstage the bride, would it. Maybe I should ask the wise obsessive ladies of the style threads

I have been working on a catch up on my phone this week, at random times of the day and night, but I am still hopelessly behind. However I don't intend to waste all that effort I put into typing on my phone, so will post that and then return to the pc to type properly to catch up with everyone else

So here's my phone post - hopelessly out of date, but I'm not wasting it!

So much to catch up on, given there are 2 threads to read - I thoroughly enjoyed wedding dress-gate, what a bunch of crazies! I would have loved to be a fly on the wall at their weddings, bet they were a barrel of laughs, with their rules I saw the thread quite early on, and there was another on the style board at the same time about wearing black - she got an even harder time and was accused of being in love with the groom , but that thread fizzled out v quickly, whereas your's just ran

On the absentees - I disagree with Vag, that Deids should be let off because of her sore leg. Not being able to run should have given her more time to MN, bad Deids. But despite this, it's lovely to have you back, and Rubes and Summer too. But you are putting me to shame with your triathalonning and running. Talking of which - Indith you mentioned that you were keen to run again - I got a flyer from the MW about exercise, which says it's fine to start 4-6 weeks post birth, depending on previous fitness, and suggests starting with 20 minutes, but resting if you get breathless. I want to go swimming, which is what I most enjoy, but think I need another physio session first, as my wotsit joint (the SPD weak one) still twinges

But running and triathing is nowt compared to an ironman. Is he serious Jam? I blooming hope it instead of all the others and not as well as? Men can be very thoughtless about the mundane things in life like housework and family time. Mine gets a one track mind about work, it's the cause of most of our arguments. I sometimes wonder if house husbands / SAHDs always have dog walking / laundry / childcare at the back of their mind, because it's their job, or if they can switch off better and leave their better halves to juggle it all?

Urbs sorry you're feeling rotten. I know nothing about cysts - do they go of their own accord, or can something be done to stop you being in pain? It sounds nasty

LadyT I also feel under achieving some days, the other day DH came home and I greeted him excitedly with 'today I realised that DD1 sneezes like me and DD2 sneezes like you', and then I realised how ridiculous, and how boring, I sounded. But on the other hand I also tell too many people that being a Mum is the most important job I will ever have. We just have to wait longer for the recognition for our work (although Effie is doing well earning her stickers by buying ice cream ). On your walk, I agree with whoever said that getting used to your shoes is the best training

Kayz my friend still hasn't lost all her milk teeth and she's mid thirties now As a result she gets free dental treatment as dentists can only charge for adult teeth

That's good to hear Rubes. I miss having a dog.

Is the anti slip stuff for wooden stairs? Ours are horrendously slippy.

And back again, with proper typing.

trace I hope you reach the right balance with your meds soon, but I think it sounds really positive that reducing is part of the plan

I love your playroom curtains Beans, so lovely. And I am that you have a playroom, every room is a playroom in this house, the toys have taken over

Rubes I hope you're feeling better now that you've regained control of your day? The squished thumb sounds scary, but what a relief that isn't so bad after all, poor DD. I'm sorry to chuckle when you've had a rotten day, but I loved that you started your post 'I was vacuuming the dog', only our Rubes would do that

We were eyeing up a bike just like that one Indith, that was sitting outside someone's house in the village with a sign on it saying 'offers'. But when we first knocked there was no one in, and it's gone, I presume sold. Gutted, it would have been a bargain and DD would have loved it, even if I didn't!

I'm still struggling with bedtime for two littles, I know you've all been there and got the tshirt, which gives me some hope that as you're still here to tell the tale, I'll work it out at some point. DD2 has quite a nice little daytime routine going now, but she goes to sleep anywhere between 530pm and 1030pm and there appears to be no rhyme or reason to it. As a result, I'm failing to work out whether to put her to bed before or after DD1. The last 2 nights I've had to leave her in her cot while I put DD1 to bed, who is the master of dragging it out 'Mummy, I need one more wee wee', 'Mummy, can I have more milk', 'Mummy, what are we doing tomorrow', 'mummy, I love you, do you love me' and so on and so on. Poor DD2 has been sobbing and sobbing in her cot and I've shut the doors to try to make DD1s bedtime peaceful, but it's breaking my heart to hear her and not respond. And poor DD1 knows I'm itching to get away from her, so is playing for just a bit more one to one Mummy time. The easiest would be to get DD2 fed and asleep before DD1s bedtime, but even if I start that immediately after tea, DD1s bedtime would end up being later and she's sleeping so badly at the moment she is permanently shattered and is a proper whinge bag. I'm sitting here now listening to her starting her nightly round of bad dreams and she's crying up there, but I can't wake her to console her. At least tonight she is just crying, at the weekend she kept going stiff as a board and screaming like nothing I'd heard before - awful, but then she doesn't remember it in the morning, so hopefully no lasting damage. And I just stuck my head in to peep at DD2, and bless her cotton socks, she was laid in her Moses basket with eyes wide open and she isn't making a sound, just laying there. I wanted to scoop her up and have a lovely cuddle, but had to sneak out to let her go back to sleep. Oh, woe is me. What a ramble, but I just needed to get it off my chest as DH is away and otherwise I'd be talking to myself and getting ever closer to madness!

DD2 has her first set of jabs next week - should I take DD1 along? She is due some herself this year, would it be wise or foolish to let her see what happens and what to expect?

Just popping on very quickly to say have a brilliant day Kayz. Hope the sun is out where you are. Look forward to the photos. Lots of love X

kayz Have a wonderful day, so exciting for you! Can't wait to hear all about it x

Happy wedding day Kayz

ZJ sounds like night terrors. Horrible to listen to, difficult to break the cycle but no she won't remember them. Ds had a loooong phase of them around dd's birth, if you want more info/what we did then just yell.

Congratulations to Kayz and Mr Kayz today. Have a fun filled day. Xx

Kayzr another big congratulatory thumbs up and general wishing of fabulous day!

Another confetti-strewn congrats from chez spot. Hope you put some photos on FB - I love weddings!

Top news about your dad, BEans, that's fantastic . And nice work on the curtains, you are an inspiration to us all.

Rubes, I feel for your shitty day yesterday, having a lot like that here at the mo. Don't know about your DS, but mine seemed to escape the terrible twos and has become a horror at three. He was screaming in rage and frustration yesterday and I could do nothing to help. Time out central. He also called me a "smelly strange lady" yesterday. Charmed, I'm sure. Anyway, hope you're having a better day today.

ZJ it's a tough one, isn't it with bedtime for two. Would you be able to have DD2 in the room with you while you do DD1's bedtime story? When I go solo, I tend to do that, then T is allowed to watch a short programme on inlayer while I settle B in his cot. I then return to T and talk through his day and say goodnight. It's not always plain sailing but this way I'm not having to ignore one or the other too much.

Kiwi, I had that a bit with my sister when I got pregnant with T at the same time she had a failed IVF. Although it was a pregnancy rather than a baby to deal with, she distanced herself and barely spoke to me until she became pregnant herself. She has since said that she couldn't bear to be with a pregnant person at that time, even me. Just wondering if she is just not coping and, as Vag says, she is depressed? Still horrible for you, though. Are you normally quite close so you can talk about those things?

Had a real flashback last night to B's hospitalisation last year. T had to wear one of those sleep apnoea monitors that beeps whenever it comes off - which was all the time. It was pretty much the soundtrack to the paed ward. Anyway, it probably was a useless exercise as he couldn't keep it on his foot and the alarm went off every half hour, so he never went into a deep enough sleep to have any apnoeic episodes anyway. Plus I switched it off at 5am as I hadn't got to sleep yet and was fed up.

DP's work ended yesterday officially. I need to get my earning socks on rather than farking about on MN. Hey ho.

Gefeliciteerd Kayz! I think you are married now.

Spot, I don't think you smell :o