Go ZJ!
LadyT bless your dd. Don't worry too much though, all toddlers/preschoolers are control freaks with a bit of added OCD. Some more than others granted but they all are.
Good news on the school Beans :)
Gut feeling quite a lot better. I even ate stuff that wasn't rice yesterday. Need to go out for a meal with dh while the dcs are away and before I go into labour! Been a year since we went out together and it will be at least that long again if not longer! Darn my stupid gut.
I'm starting to rant about inlaws and visiting already. My parents, bless them, just sort of sit back and wait for the rest of them to fight it out and then come when we ask them to. I could rant about my parents faults in many other areas but not this one, this is an inlaw rant. And the rant is that it is already fucking starting and the baby isn't even here yet! BIL on the phone to dh yesterday "oh well we are busy the first 2 weekends in March so if he comes then we won't be able to visit..." Feck off! You will come when asked! I am NOT, NOT, did I say NOT? having a fecking repeat of last time. I WILL be listened to. MIL was talking about buying a cuddly blanket thingy for the baby (and will be insufferably smug and will be in fierce competition with herself (because noboy else cares) for the one she bought to be the cuddly of choice when he gets older) and I heard dh saying "yes but it isn't the sort of thing we would need as soon as he is born is it, it can wait until you visit later" so clearly having to put her off making visiting plans when she has aleady been told that nobody is coming until we ask them to.
Sorry but last time MIL sulked because we wouldn't let her come up Christmas Day (I was leaving a blood trail everywhere no matter how many pads I wore and was passing clots the size of my fist and was admitted to hospital Boxing Day). She was just sulking because they were on their own at Christmas because she didn't actually confirm any invitations (never does, just goes "oh well we are waiting to see what X is doing and everyone gets sick of her waiting around for a better offer and makes other plans) and sulking because she always wants to be the first to see the baby (and to buy the best presents, every fricking Christmas and birthday). Then the day after Boxing Day FIL arrived. I know why he came, he came to keep dh company who was of course worried about me, his new dd was in hospital with me and he was alone with ds. But then they came to visit in the afternoon. Then a nurse said "oh you might be discharged, visiting hours are over but you can stay if she is going to be sent home soon. So they stayed. All afternoon. In a tiny hospital room. Then I finally got discharged, we got home, it was evening, and FIL settled himself down on the sofa. ARGH! Then the next day MIL arrived. Dd was jaundiced and sleepy and needed waking to feed but was worrying me because she just fell asleep again. MIL gets hold of dd, dd is flat out asleep on her. MIL is very smug about this and goes on about how they normally cry at her so dd must like her. Time goes by and she is still holding her. I keep saying I need to wake her to feed her. MIL keeps hold. MIL keeps jiggling her when she stirs to get her back to sleep. I want to kill MIL.
And they are already plotting to do it all again!
And then we have my very sweet but completely sheltered friend from uni. She mentioned a while ago her job is coming to an end around now. Not seen her in ages, still lives with parents and has struggled with ME so not been travelling to see people. Fair enough. Wanted to know if she could visit. I said I can't really make plans to have someone up for the weekend around now. The other day she tells me she has a job interview around this area next Friday. Can she visit? Now, clearly we have already had this conversation. I remind her I don't actually know when I'm gong into labour. Then I ask what time and what is she thinking of doing? Because I am perfectly happy to head into town and meet her for cake before she gets her train home as that is easy to cancel if I need to. No reply. think she was rather wanting to spend the weekend with us. ARGH! I don't want the worry of a house guest. Not just because I want to slob in a big, fat pregnant state but because the dcs get back from my mum's Thursday so the plan is to spend the weekend doing what they want to do and lavishing attention on them AND then of course if baby does arrive and I have to kick her out/say she can't come at all then she will be out of pocket (which given that she doesn't have a job is not what I want) because all her train tickets will be for the wrong days. ARGH! Leave me alone people! I do love her really but she is just so, so very anxious and keeps bugging me with "everything ok?" messages and if I ever put anything as a FB status she always panics and writes "what happened? Is everything ok? You ok? Is the world ending? Has someone died?" or something to that effect. You'd have thought she would realise that I don't actually put massive, life changing, emotional, problematic etc things as status updates.
Oh well. What shall I do today? Dh gone up to his cave in the loft too work. I appear to be in the house with no dcs and nobody to pick up from nursery or school. Confusing. The bathroom could do with a clean but that will hardly take all day........What the hell do people do when they don't have children?