September 2011 babies are rolling into 2012

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Hello in new thread come over and chat part two from the September edd babies arriving thread.
Just watched strictly dancing final part one but can't keep eyes open for part two so off to bed now will watch.it tom. Sleep well.....zzzzz

Sorry stopped that short. In summary, he is annoyed at me because I've apparently made up my mind already, yet am stringing him along by enquiring about other options. I have pointed out that I of course have a preferred outcome but am looking into other options as well so we can have an informed discussion about finances etc. what I'm really about is that I had got my hopes up that we were coming closer to a decision that I preferred but that now I have mentioned it to someone else, DH acts like a deer in headlights and backs off again.

I don't expect a reply to this, just needed to vent.

Vent away geek but do you need to decide now? Can you wait until august? I wanted to go back to work after I'd been at home with DD1 for a while. My SIS and SIL both didn't but a year - 18mths down the line both were going bit mad to be honest being SAHM they both lost a lot of self confidence and self belief in their brain ability and had stepped off the job ladder. For some people being a SAHM is great for a lot who are used to having a career and their own income its big adjustment. Going back to work 3days per has always been my ideal but I'm going to have to do 4initially Hohum but I'd rather keep my foot on the job ladder than step off completely. Also my DH and I have always been a joint equal team sharing the income generation into our home it changed our dynamic as a couple when I was on extended mat leave last time he felt a lot of pressure as breadwinner and I didn't like being the main cleaner of the house :)

Going to try a quick catch up but on phone so apologies if I miss anyone.

Sarah I'm also really looking forward to the warmer months and being able to get both DS's out in the garden. Really hope we have a nice summer.

100 wow to E sitting on her own. Still waiting on rolling here but LO is a very chilled out little chap. Well apart from nights recently where he has started shouting in his cot! Good luck with your run tomorrow.

Feral I get you about DH's doing things differently and it can be really hard sometimes. However I agree with the others that you have to let them find their own way and in my experience sometimes the things DH has suggested have worked better than the things I've been trying. Not saying that was the case with your LO's nap though as obviously she was tired and your DH didn't have to deal with the consequence of a sleepless night!

Jojo great news about the house! Hope you find somewhere lovely soon. Boo to the high temp. Maybe LO got a bug in addition to teething? Not really much more you can do than give calpol anyway unless infection is bacterial but I'm sure I read somewhere that teething alone shouldn't cause high temp.

Minky glad you have a supportive doctor and hope the AD's give you the boost you need to get on top of the anxiety. I haven't personally suffered from anxiety or depression but know how debilitating it can be so I take my hat off to you coping with that and three young DC. Is your DH supporting you any better since your trip to the doctor?

Queen sorry for the problems you're having with your DH. Don't think we could afford for me to give up work for any length of time but thankfully they're very flexible and I was able to return part time (three days) after DS1 was born. I found it a good balance and actually found some of my work days a bit of a break compared to being at home with a one year old! I can see that wouldn't be the case with teaching though! Still sometimes really wish I didn't have to return to work though so I understand where you're coming from. Must be really difficult with the mixed messages your DH is giving. Maybe he's just feeling under pressure at the thought of being the only one earning a salary? Can you have a sit down and chat to discuss the options again and maybe come to more of an understanding of what the other wants.

Here we all have colds. My voice is really rough and LO's sleep has been rubbish lately. Naps generally pretty good but at night he's generally up at least four times. DS1 had an upset tum yesterday. He's now potty trained so several urgent trips to the potty which weren't much fun. Have kept him off nursery today in case it's a bug but of course that means I don't get a bit of a rest this morning which I could really do with. Afraid I'm resorting to more CBeebies than normal. Meant to be visiting a friend on Sunday which I'm really looking forward to so hope we're all better by then.

Crossed posts with ssmile but totally agree with her on waiting before you make a final decision. At least as far as telling your work is concerned to keep your options open, as you may feel differently further into your mat leave. I found the one year old stage with DS1 quite trying at times though adorable in other ways :). Also meant to say is a career break an option where you work? May make your DH less worried if you are guaranteed a job to return to after a set number of years especially in these uncertain economic times?

Boo Cosmic, we're all just getting over colds so I sympathise and I really hope that DS1's belly gets better too. Good on him making it to the potty despite a dodgy tummy; my DS doesn't manage to poo in the potty even when he's perfectly healthy, despite the fact that he hasn't wet himself in months

100 my DD is also just beginning to sit unsupported as well, I was a bit about it as DS was prob about 7mo before he could and had been crawling for ages. However he had 3 or four teeth by now and DD has none so I guess that goes to show how different they all are, even when they share the same gene pool.

QRGM that does sound difficult but I agree with what everyone else has said too. At this point in my mat leave with DS I couldn't have even begun to think about going back to work but by the time he was 9mo I was definitely ready to do something else with my days. In retrospect I think it was really good for DS to have his care shared between DH, his grandparents and nursery instead of all day every day with me. Of course DH and my parents have got a fab relationship with him as a result too.

I guess it depends a lot on how you feel about your childcare options, for example to start with DS was spending a day a week with my MiL and it just wasn't working out for anyone; as a result I felt really shitty about being at work. Once we'd decided that nursery was a better option I was much happier (although I still felt a bit guilty about that too at the time).

Now I do feel rubbish about the fact that I am going back to work in mid-April but it's great that DH is going to get a turn to be a SAHD. Part of me just wants to get back to normal (and earn some proper money )

I went out with some friends last night - without a single member of my family in tow - to see The Woman in Black. My christ it was probably the scariest thing I have ever seen, I cannot believe it's only a 12 cert!

Thanks for your kind messages. You're basically saying what I was trying to put across to both DH and school - that although one option looks more likely atm, I want to know all the details of all the available options so that I can make an informed decision nearer the time. I am in the fortunate financial situation that I can choose what to do, and so intend to really think over everything before making the final decision. Spoke to DH this morning and he seemed better, he was annoyed really because he thinks I have basically told school my decision already, which I haven't!

Boo to feeling ill, hope you all feel better over the weekend.

Ds has started refusing his food and waking up again at night, feeling very worn out and worried about his slow weight gain again.

On a brighter note he's sitting up in the bath on his own - grasping onto sides for support!

Glad to hear your dh is calmer about your decision queen - probably feeling just a bit left out of the decision and misunderstood what you were planning to think through. Hope you get to the best decision for you guys. I became a sahm when I had dd1 which was not planned but I was made redundant so didn't have much choice. Basically was a major blessing in disguise and has meant that we were also able to relocate to the south coast which would not have happened had I returned to work in London as a project manager as the money would have been too good to give up. What is right for one may not be for everyone so go with your instinct and don't let others sway you.
Thanks to everyone for supporting messages. Dh being a little bit better now and I fine. Lo rolled over from back to front and now won't stop - bit of a shock as he is only just 5 months and my other two dcs were never this quick ! Let's hope the crawling is a bit slower !

Fera, we saw woman in black on stage done by just 2 actors and it was terrifying, even my dad had to sit in the car for a few min to chill before driving home.
Am also feeling the stress from DH about work, I am planning to take the year off but he now stresses a lot about money (is self employed) and there is not much I can do other than feel guilty yet he would rather I was SAHM too.
DS got first tooth yesterday, it is really sharp so ouch when feeding and he is sitting well by himself when not too tired.
Did a baby first aid course today, was amazed at how much has changed since a few years ago - well worth doing as DS choked on a sweet potatoe chip when I was out the other night and scared the crap out of DH. Have a good weekend all

Hey gals. I've got a poorly baby. have read back but can't remember what's happening other than lots of people having partner issues. hope things get sorted quickly.

E has a tummy bug and temp went to 38.5 earlier and has clung to me all day. I was eating my tea and she was sat with daddy. But she just looked at me crying and nothing daddy was doing stopped her giving me the 'I want you mummy' look. Poor poor thing. Feel so so helpless with her being so wrong. But I'm doing what I can for her. Think she may have got it from a playdate the other day where baby had had 'a dodgy tummy for a few days' grrr. Wish she'd have said before coming round [grrr emoticon]

Thinking of everyone in here.

Oh poor DD 100years. I hope it's just a 24 hour bug

Candr I haven't seen the play but read lots of reviews saying it's really scary. Bravo for the first tooth but boo for the choking

I did a really kong post earlier and my phone died sorry I can't dobit again on my phone as always

I did too feral, but she's been bad over 24hrs already :(

Hate it when that happens Loves.

Oh 100 - really feeling for you - I never understand why people are so selfish about sharing bugs - there is a 48 hour no symptoms rule after tummy bugs at schools yet so many people lie to get their kids back early. I had a friend do the same to me a few years back when ds1 was a baby and as a result I caught it from ds1 the night before I flew with my girlfriends for a weeks trip to new york - it ruined my holiday and I was so ill that I had to be admitted to hospital there. Lost two stone and took weeks to recover and I have never even had so much as a sorry from them ! Really hope lo is on the mend soon. My lo also poorly again with another virus thanks to a friend who came to visit this week with her kids, one of whom had a raging 40 degree temp ! now I have days ahead of sleepless nights with lo and the rest of the family likely to succumb !
Spent a lovely morning in bed though so can't complain as I was so pooped and feel almost human again. Lo is snoozing next to me and I can hear the peals of laughter from other dcs from downstairs with daddy - it's amazing what sleep does to your outlook ! Well ladies - hope you are all hanging in there and have a lovely day - roast lamb and all the trimmings for me later when I eventually cook it

Thanks Minky. I must admit I've always told friends and family if they ask if it's ok to come round if so and so is unwell, I say unless it's a temp or d&v then that's fine. Figure she'll get bugs from all sorts so don't wrap her in cotton wool, but my feelings on tummy upsets or temperatures is totally different and I'll say no if it falls in those categories as I feel they are something not to knowingly bring into the house. IYKWIM. coughs and colds are about all the time. A temp or tummy upset shows something more going on. I wish I had known. E is still not right, not needed calpol so far today which is good but we've had a sick and nappy incident which is not normal plus she's spent the day cuddling and not trying to escape the cuddles to play which just shows she's poorly. and if we leave her for a minute she cries loving the hugs but wish it wasn't because she's poorly.

Glad you've had a nice rest, not nice LO is poorly. (un MN hugs) enjoy your lunch.

In fact I'm just about to txt the swimming teacher and let her know we won't be there tuesday, even if E is right as reign till then it will be less than 48 hrs gap

Oh, 100years hope E gets better soon. Poor LO, not nice when they're not well and you feel so hopeless.

Well, I could go back to being SnowySebs today... woke up to a lovely covering of snow - at last - was wondering if we did actually live 1000 feet up! Went for a lovely snowy walk - LO's first one! Charlie dog loves it.

Right, sorry it's a short one - got homemade soup on the stove (ooh, old fashioned word!) and must check on it!

Hope everyone having a good weekend, catch up proper in the week!

Hi guys! Long time no see!

I hope you and your babies are all well, my 'little' man is still greedy as ever....

And........ he is going to be a big brother!

Oh wow cake, congratulations - when is the baby due ???? That was quick work!
Sebs - I love your posts, made me imagine you in your beautiful hamlet with scrummy soup on an aga after walking through snow with your doggie - it was a lovely picture ! Beats my day of hail and sunshine for sure.
100 - hoping lo is pulling through. Really hope you all avoid it too.
I have nothing planned for tomorrow and dh is back doing the morning school run, I am back in the loft with lo and all my comforts so if lo is in agreement I think it could be a snuggly start to the day !

Will find out the EDD soon, but will basically be around the time of DS's first birthday!

It was certainly a surprise for us! A lovely one of course though.

@ cake

And massive congrats!

100 hope Lo is better soon and you are ok too
minkyj enjoy your well earned snuggle
cake OMG wow many congrats hope the pregnancy goes well x
sebs was a lovely snowie image you painted :)

Well we just about survived half term. Lo is finally seeming bit better but still chesty cough, she had cold for 3wks now, DD1 still full of snot and has been waking up in the night again so her daytime behavior has been hard to handle. Hopefully she will be ok at school today. I'm still full of cold and the local spa&pool is shut for refurbishment so no birthday treat for me today :( Hohum at least DH has day off work he was meant to have Lo for two hours but I can hear him coughing n splutterin next door so we shall see. Happy Monday ladies x

Cake - YAY!! Congratulations, and yes, hope pregnancy goes well! Wow, first sibling to LO on this thread!
Minky - enjoy your snuggle in your loft with LO!
Ssmile - is it your birthday today? If so a big Happy Birthday and hope DH takes LO so you can have a nice relax for 2 hours on your day. Have a good day.
100 - hope LO is better today.

Yes, half term over, things back to normal... just seen DSS off to school so off for a shower and going to see another friend with a LO who is 3 weeks old!

Snow very thinned out now and very much looking forward to the these warm temperatures they are predicting for the end of the week... high teens apparently... that'll feel positively balmy after the freezing temps we've had recently :)

LO is now loving her food - I did think I'd started a bit early as she wasn't getting the hang of eating much, but in the last few days is eating well - properly munching and opening her mouth for more. Loving baby porridge, and really loved banana! Carrot has been the only food she turned her nose up at so far. Going to try advocado this week too. She's having porridge with her morning bottle, and then fruit or veg at her 4ish feed. But she's drinking less milk at these feeds - which I'm guessing is normal though. Her sleeping is no different and she still wants a bottle in the middle of the night! And is a nightmare to get back in the crib afterwards so we're relenting and she's in with us for the second half of the night! She is quite snotty at the moment so maybe that's why? Also, she does seem to like our bed when it's cold. It's fine, except I get really bad back pain afterwards from having a very small space to sleep in! Her poos have started to change - getting stickier and greener sometimes! Sorry TMI there!

Anyway, happy Monday everyone ... shower beckons...

Cake - congratulations!
Ssmile - happy birthday and I hope you get a well deserved break!
100 hope your lo gets well soon.

Sebs my lo is the same overnight - when we started weaning he started only waking twice a night, now it's back to 4 or 5 times despite having 3 meals a day offered and his turbo milk. Am hoping that it will improve soon. And his poos are like that too!

Lots to catch up on.

100 Hope your lo is better, poor little thing that sounds awful
ssmile Happy Birthday hope you have a lovely day, sun is shining here for you
cake Big Congrats! How exciting!
minkyj Snuggle sounds lush, wish my lo would sleep in the morning past 5.30! :o
sebs glad weaning going well, we have tried a few flavours and pear, banana and sweet potato are faves so far, however parsnip and butternut squash was not so successful - the faces were hilarious!
queen we are the same at nights, she started to get slightly better but now a couple of weeks into the solids and she still has no pattern in the night, waking quite a lot and rubbish at settling back down and by 5.30 she's wide awake!

Have been trying so hard to get lo to nap more in the day to improve her night time sleep, so as soon as she yawns and rubs her eyes I try and get her to sleep. We managed a 30 min nap yesterday morning and 1.5 hour nap after lunch which was great but today has been a nightmare, she's only slept for a about 10 - 20 mins since 5.30 as she snaps herself wide awake as soon as I put her down! And because she is so tired she's now fallen asleep on the boob and not feeding properly! Argh! I probably need to stop trying so hard but she gets so grumpy when she's tired. Hey ho we're going out in a min so I'm sure she'll sleep then but I wish she could learn to nap at home not in my arms as I just can't get anything done!

Anyway, hope you all have a lovely day xx