Dec 08 Mums - We wish you a Merry Christmas and a HAPPY NEW THREAD! And lots of lovely birthdays!

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Here is a new one - let's hope it's a happier one for us all. xxxx

Beans Oh yes DD1 is too. I buy mostly BabyGap (thanks to my discount card) because the sizing is smaller, I find, than most other stores. She's still got some PJS that are 12-18 months...

Beans sorry but DS2 is in 3-4 but he's always been quite long. So I have to get 3-4 trousers so they are long enough and then buy belts to keep them up.

DD1 would look like the Incredible Hulk in 12-18 month pjs! She is very tall though.

If anyone has any experience of a nursing strike please can you help. Thread here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/1362745-biting-and-nursing-strike-Help

I started a thread this afternoon (no one has replied, boo hoo) and she refused to feed again at bedtime. I got bitten again instead.

Evening all. Am having a bit of a low night. Off to sit with Dad while he has a scan to see if chemo is working. It had bloody better be as it has nearly killed him. He's lost 3 stone, his hair, is so weak he can hardly walk and constantly feels terrible. I haven't seen him for a couple of weeks and Mum said his decline has been fairly swift. Dad told me not to be shocked when I see him and that he's like "Fairy Dad", which sort of made me smile as it was meant to. I said I'd just hug him with one arm and he said he's apt to cry. God, me too. He's always been my strong, vital Dad and I have depended on him for years. Now he can depend on me, but I hate the role reversal.
I've also been a total cow to DH, but realised I'm furious that Dad is dying and have been taking it out on DH, but explained that in 45min marathon bawlathon and he's been amazing. My middle sister and I speak every day for a weep!
Sorry, just feeling blue tonight.

PS visit is tomorrow.

Big hugs lovely beans. Being grumpy with dh seems pretty reasonable in the circumstances. Sending you strength for tomorrow.

Sizes - S has been in age 4 for a while though bizzarely she has a dress that is age 18-24 that still fits, it must have been like a sack to start off with!

Am praying that E will be better tomorrow, she hd a big vom last night so I was off work with her today, day 2 of the return to work Doc reckons she has secondary lsctose intolerance after her bout of norovirus so is on dairy free diet for next 5 days to see if it clears. Is fine in herself but does produce a massive runny poo every morning that means she needs new pjs and grobag eveybdy. Hope this sorts it, I now understand how hard it is for anyone who hs to cope with this sort f thing long term.

Hope tomorrow is good news Beans. Totally understandable that you are not sweetness and light.

JJ - oh dear, poor you and poor E.

On clothes, yes DS is a small chap and is still in quite a lot of 18-24 month clothes. But that is probably at least partly negligence on my part. And of course it all depends on brand - GAP is more or less true to age for mine, most other things too big.

Beans I'm thinking of you. I really really hope that the chemo is working. Xxxx

JJ poor E and poor you. I hope she's better today.

Morning all really wanted to have a catch up but just going to have to be a flying visit before school run.

beans My poor love. Things are so hard for you right now. FWIW I think you taking things out on DH & rowing are pretty normal. DH was a bastard to me at times when MIL was dying. He was angry and had to lash out. Those nearest and all that. I'm certain DH understands that you don't mean it. I hope today goes okay

JB Could DD be off colour or teeth maybe? I've no idea about nursing strikes. Sorry.

lady How are you doing?

ZJ Glad your Gran's funeral went well.

Right lots of love to you all will try and get back on later...I seem so busy at the moment, anyone would think its Christmas or something!!

Just had to jump on and say big hugs to my lovely beans and coping with chemotherapy vibes to daddybean.

Jb no advice but could you try contacting bfn or lll.

Kiwi your doctor is a mong, the scales must be placed on a safe, hard surface, like a table or a hard floor. We weren't even allowed to put them on carpet to ensure accuracy. Insist on the next weight being taken on a hard surface. If you want to check in the mean time just weigh her and yourself on your home scales and then subtract your weight. It is just as accurate.

It's is gloriously sunny here

Hi Verso.

Thanks Vag! She was a bit strange. She mentioned she had two kids so I asked how old they were. She said teens, so I said "Gosh you don't look old enough" (she didn't). She said "Yes i know.." Modest eh??

DD2 is not happy since her jabs. She won't smile at me!! She's beaming away at DH but won't smile at the evil woman who took her to the doctor to be poked with sharp things

And Beans Im so sorry for what you are going through - and your family and your dad of course. Thinking of you.

Hey all. Thanks so much for lovely lovely wishes. You're v kind. Actually had quite a nice day with Dad. Very emotional, but he'd perked up by the end. His cough is quite bad suddenly, which is shocking, to be honest. And my GOD he's thin. Poor poor chap. But he is clearly feeling a bit better and is having this week off from chemo. The staff were fecking useless, but the nurses were lovely. It was the higher up people I was unimpressed with. Just not really interested. I am thinking about writing or ringing to complain - it's the Royal Marsden, for God's sake! Meant to be one of the best. GRRRRR! Anyway. Scan results on Monday. I hope it's good news, but suspect not. Keeping fingers crossed, though. Poor Dad. Both did a little bit of weeping, but generally fairly upbeat.

Must go and do the girls.

Big love to all.

xxxx

Poo in the bath from Pru. Early Christmas present. Treat.

Like Mother like Daughter Beans, Glad you had a nice day with your Dad. Lovely photo of him on FB.

Super busy, off to the class1 mums night out. Terrifying must not get drunk and show myself up.

Lady, DIeds and ZJ how are you all?

Right off to glamourise myself, not really sure how as I have just been swimming with the boys and it makes no difference how much shower gel or perfume I squoosh I still smell of chlorine. Glamour I am not.

Oh and SS am rubbish must do tom.

I love the smell of chlorine, Jam, and would find you glamorous and irresistable, just on that basis...

DB, meant to say, I clearly remember your DH being cruel to you as his Mum died and, no offense to him, I do want to try to avoid that. Although I have asked him to be patient with me and above all kind to me. He promised.

PS I asked my DH, DB, not yours! Hee Hee! I hope that didn't sound rude about your DH as I now know how stressful coping is and I suspect he was just about coping and felt you were strong enough to bear the brunt. And he was right. I am sorry if that last post sounded a bit harsh. It wasn't meant to, just bad phrasing. Z

Hello everyone,

On phone so can't do a proper catch up.

Beans Glad you had a good day despite your dad feeling worse. Funny about P and her poo!

Jam Have a super night!

J fed this morn but still biting. Thanks to ZJ, Indith and Invisible who gave good advice and made me feel much better. I think with her being prem and struggling to get bf established, her biting and refusing to feed feels like it is ending too soon. she is still a baby!

Right, birthday presents to wrap!

Beans, have just read last night to tonight. you were but am now you are ! Can't imagine - don't worry - dh will understand. Mine copped a bloody earful when I got a call about whole family in major car accident and not much more info ..... then copped even more when I got of the plane and he wasn't available at a phone calls notice to answer every medically related question I had - sight unseen! Awful, but everyone knows those closest to you cop it. Chin up. Come and visit me!!
Jam - can't imagine you drunk, since you peed off so early from our London get together
Kiwi - crikey - don't worry. She's fine. DD was 25th born and slipped to about 5th or something... the girl only just put a sandwich to her mouth and sucked on it on Mon for the first time. I took about a hundred photo's and everyone thought i was mad. Didn't help that a new person there asked which kids were mine and then said "oh the delicate looking one" however, doc says she's fiiiiiiine (just high maintenance and picky)
Right, had stuff out for dinner. DH is insisting on Take away. Reckons I'm wrong to feel insulted... just wants me to be less stressed also wants me to put BOTH in nursery 2 days week rather than just ds 2 and dd1 slight coincidence that he had them both for the afternoon ?? i'm not agreeing... would rather put the extra cash to another use..... But nice to see he knows the hard work they can be!
Right, had more, but can't remember at moment.

We are in proper all out war possibly turning legal with old landlord.... long story I won't bore with!
Hello Veg

oh and on reading back - I meant at the toddler group!

am so sorry for the extended absence! And the catch up is later than billed as well

I am stoopid busy, even by my standards. I have my Mum, her DP, my sister and her DH and my two beloved nephews coming to stay at the weekend (yippee!) and I am furious trying to tidy/stuff things in the shed/under beds/sort things/buy curtains ...that's after a weekend of zhuzhing my London flat. It will still be messy when they come but I am just going to make it as good as I can. I am just really looking forward to seeing them. We aren't getting the tree until Friday, late as usual! We have the car back now (today!) so that's a real help.

Beans, I am crossing everything for Monday. I really am. But even if the chemo isn't beating it back, no one really knows how fast these things grow. And he could enquire about drugs trials, stuff like that? I am thinking of you so so much. Oh, and DD1 is still in 18-24 clothes though her legs are getting long for them now. But she is a slender little fairy. DD2 is a total biffer, they swap clothes She is saying quite a few words now, it's so cute.

JJ - how is E today? A new grobag every morning sounds bloody wearing. Yikes.

Rubes, that's smashing about DD and the sarnie. You know what DD1's like and she is still much the same - and she is perfectly ok. I do want to hear about your old landlord, I cannot believe he has become so sour. Appalling. What are your Christmas plans? We are at home for Christmas, the Midlands between (but possibly not for all of it) and London at New Year. Hope you enjoyed your takeaway!

KP - el biggo sympathy on the sinusitis. Having had it for the first time ever a few weeks ago, I had no idea it was so vile.

Effie - a bit late I know but do check out Fergus Henderson's books for your DH - there's one called 'Head to Toe Eating' or something and it's very meaty but stylish.

ZJ - that little story about your DD and Father Christmas and the squirter was so cute We have the pre-school Christmas party tomorrow and DD1 will meet Father Christmas for the first time ever. How is the SPD? Worried about you.

Trace - I am behind but what's the latest on your house? And you mentioned John O'Farrell a while back - I know him a bit and I like him very much. I hope that's not name-droppy. It's just that some of these people are knobheads and he isn't.

Spot, are your lot all recovered from their ills now? And are you feeling any better about the new village? It takes a while, I know it does.

Indith - good to see you - when's your due date? And Kayz, how are you feeling?

I am off to London next Mon and I am there until Thurs (last bits and bobs before I hand it over to Foxtons for rental, double sob, plus a bit of socialising) then I am battening down the hatches and RELAXING for a change. Or that's the plan. Books and lots of telly.

Right, DP wants to use the computer - eek, I haven't finished! Quick Happy Birthday to Eddie for today and to Matilda and Lucy for tomorrow xxx

Hello all...never got back on yesterday . Despite being very organised this year I still seem to have a mountain of presents still to wrap!

Beans I'm glad your visit with your dad went well. And I knew what you meant about my DH...thankfully he can now see what he was like, and is much much improved. Am hoping Mondays results are positive.

Verso Hello!

JB How's the feeding/biting today?

lady Lovely to hear from you...hope you have a lovely time this weekend with family.

Rubes Sorry about your landlord situ. Arse. Try not to think/worry about it till after Christmas.

Kiwi They sound like they cocked up DD2's weigh into me. Can you go again next week to one of those walk in clinics an get someone else to weigh her?Hope she has recovered from her jabs.

DS is in age 2-3yr typically. Just average

DS is being a real sod re: eating. He literally eats nothing unless its toast/yogurt/weetabix or apples. Despite saying I wouldn't let it worry me...it does. I could weep when I see kiddies tucking in to the same food as their parents, nearly everything I put in front of him ends up in the bin. I don't even make him anything else, he just doesn't eat, refuses to even try!

Also apologies for the TMI...but I recently had the worst bout of Thrush!! I've never had it before it was horrifically uncomfortable, thankfully cleared up now but I've had several nights laid awake well...itching. I'm so tired I feel like I could sleep for a week!

Oh and effie was it you who was watching Masterchef? I know Beans is. I really want Claire to win but I suspect Ash will. I find myself praying he will over season his jus or something. I am such a sad cow!