July 2010: now they're all 1, some me-time has begun [huge feck-off sarcasm emoticon]

[CakeandRoses]

am bf A and telling F off and have still come to the rescue.

DH and I share the getting up. At weekends we have one lie in each. During the week he often has to be up very early, before J is awake, so it doesn't really apply. If J wakes between 5 and about 6.45am, I feed him in the dark in his room and put him back in his cot and nine times out of ten he'll go back to sleep for a while, and so do I.

Viksam, our bedtime routine goes something like this:

5.30 tea
6.20 cup of milk in front of ITNG
6.40 bath
6.50 story
7pm breastfeed
7.10 lights out

Trying to drop that bedtime BF (hence the cup of milk) but he still has it more often than not. I have read that with number two the thing to do is prioritise the toddler to a certain extent. The baby will stay up later than D for a while anyway, and things will probably fall into their own routine.

So as I posted on FB J took a couple of steps yesterday! And started walking holding only one finger of mine rather than two. Of course today he has shown no interest at all in walking...

Go J woodlands!
Melissa he woke you to change a nappy . I would go mental and then give him a lesson on changing a nappy!
I get up most with E but then during the week we're all up at the same time but dp goes down to get her bottle. Can't remember the last lie in I had. Will be getting a few next weekend when my friend and I go to london! Cannot wait for the break cos I just never seem to stop.
Vik we don't bath E every night it's every 2-3 nights.

first post of my 40s! great day but v tired so catch up with you all later. Thank you for all the birthday wishes :)

good night here but D awake at 5.30, he settled back for a bit but dh had been in there a while and i had dropped back off. Im up now with D hoping the dh will catch an extra half hour. Got a friend coming tomorrow with her 10 month old to stay over night whilst the boys go out for drinks and stay out over night, why is it that the men get to stay out frequently but we dont..........well unless ur kk, ur trip sounds great, I really hope u get the lie ins you deserve! Anyone got any plans for the weekend?

tsc I meant to ask, did you have a party for C's birthday? It's A's 4th birthday in 3 weeks...I'm just thinking I should start organising something...

The one morning dh was going to get up D sleeps til just after 7 so there wasn't much point me going back to sleep.

We're leaving for Somerset about half 9 tomorrow so won't really get one then as there will be alot of last min packing (I've done nothing yet except get the suitcase out the loft!)

dh thats soooo annoying, thats happened to me loads of times! Where in somerset are u going?
D's been very clingy this morning he seems to have lost the ability to play on his own and looks shattered so i have put him to sleep already, its quiet but not sure if hes settled yet, monitor has lost its signal so i cant see him.
Weather is pants here, shame as i wanted to take my friend to the coast tomorrow.
i feel like i should be doing loads but i really havent got the energy.

Fucking nightmare of a morning.
There's been a bad accident locally so the traffic everywhere is mad. I got stuck taking DCs to nursery & dh mega late for his 8:15am meeting
Been trying to get dh an iPhone 4s (as he's in a meeting) and having a mare as the system is down
Trying to text dh and my phone's not working so been on the phone to Virgin for about 40mins
I can receive texts but not send them so I can't get hold of dh. He can't answer cos he's in a meeting. He has text me saying have I got his text and I can't fucking answer...it's so frustrating!

Phone working. Thank God for that.

vik! It's my christmas pressie from last year so I don't feel too bad about it! Dp is playing in a final tomorrow so I doubt we'll see him this weekend! We're happy to do our own thing too so we both get time out. Hope you have a lovely weekend with your friend and while D is asleep take the time to yourself and close your eyes for a few minutes. Everything will come together later so don't push yourself.
DH thats typical!

We're staying in/ near a place called Watchet. It's dh's birthday on sun so we're going out for sun lunch at a nearby pub which will be nice.

Vik I bath them most nights. Not for being clean's sake, but more because I find it harder to get them to wind down if there is no bath involved in the bedtime routine.

I honestly, genuinely, truly don't think it's hard to put two children to bed together. And I'm not just saying it, I really don't see the issue If you do it from day one, everyone just fits into the routine and it's just normality. Babyboy has had the same bedtime as ds1 (7pm) since he was less than two weeks old.

Have a great holiday dh

I have suddenly had a wobble about the pre-school ds1 has a place at. I've been to enquire at the other primary on my road today but it's Catholic and I doubt I'll get him a place. I thought it was worth a try.

I don't see the issue either with putting 2 to bed at the same(ish) time. I did find it slightly trickier when S was bf but then I'd just make sure he was fed, get L ready/read her stories/tuck her up then sort him out. Now it's even easier and it doesn't matter who goes to bed first cos the other one will only be 5 mins behind them.

I don't bath them every night either, maybe twice a week but that's mainly cos I cba to cover L in her good each time. I should do it every night for her skin's sake but it's such a faff!

One more hour and I can get them in bed...roll on bedtime :)

kkfairy London sounds fun, it's been a while since I pottered round there.

It doesnt sound like a milk feed is in the bed time routine though. How do i feed a bottle to two children? I do bath bottle book bed, im wondering if i should start with D to give hm milk in a cup much earlier before his bath, or maybe he doesnt need it at all soon. How old are they when they dont need that last bottle do u think?

Well I had 19 months between my two. I decided to get ds1 to drop his bottle by the time ds2 arrived, as I didn't want him to think he could have the baby's milk iyswim. So I moved him to a beaker by 18 months - he still had it at bedtime, but held it himself.

Doesn't D hold his own bottle? I lie on the bed cuddling ds2 while he has his milk, but he holds it himself. I gave up with the cup as he sleeps better when he drinks more milk, and he didn't drink much from a beaker.

Thank u :) I'm all ready to go, dh is still in his pjs watching F1....I said I don't want to leave too late and D is getting tired I want to get him in the car. Men just have no sense of urgency.

I dont know how much I'll be able to post this week so I hope everyone has a lovely week and will post when I can.

have a great time dh!

Where is everyone?

Clearly I'm the only person who has no actual, real life

:(

Been stuck in all day today. My mam visited this morning so we stayed in to see her, but this afternoon got trapped in thanks to the miserable weather. Yuk.

I have been out meeting friends this afternoon. I feel a bit like a bad mum - was at work all day yesterday so only saw J for half an hour morning and evening, out last night, my lie in this morning so only got up at 10.30, then went out at 2.30 to meet my friends and only got in 15 mins ago after J was in bed... ah well, tomorrow is my turn to get up and I think my turn to do most things as DH has done more than his share these last few days!

bugger. Bought a lottery ticket and have now lost it... bet it was the winner!

Hi ladies have just read through but I'm shattered so heading to bed. Will pop on tomorrow :D

i love you guys

Hey all,

had such an excellent party, now feeling rather jaded.

what are you all up to today? we've got nothing planned altho i could murder a roast so might summon some energy to do that later.

woodlands it does you good to have some time off sometimes - don't feel bad. i really struggle with it too but it's healthy to have some balance and some time to be yourself again. I put my two in nursery for an extra morning on wed for the first time ever so i could get my hair cut before my bday - i did feel guilty beforehand but they were fine and it was so nice having a bit of time to myself.