Feb 2010 - we're stroppy, sassy and splendid (and that's just the mums!)

[BigBadBear]

New thread!

sorry SB just saw your post. Glad he's bit better, must be really hard with you both being ill. Is Dh around much atm?

Thanks PA yes he is but all I want is stay in bed and feel sorry for myself

Aw, big soothing hugs to PA and SB.
Plus loads of Karvol, paracetamol, ibuprofen (not for PA that one) and warm water vapour.
Well, it worked for DD. She's all better now, thankfully.

One week of full weaning now and DD went down fine again. She slept through last night until just before seven this morning. Although I'm not kidding myself we won't have any more nocturnal interruptions from her, it feels like we've moved on.

DH commented tonight how quickly DD's maturing now and he's right. It's almost scary how fast she's picking up new words and how her comprehension's developing all the time. So exciting!

Oh dear, get well wishes to all of you under the weather!

I'll be quite interested to see if dd2 sleeps this lunchtime after she just tried to eat a coffee bean... She likes to make sure our recycling is done properly and sometimes vetoes things she wants to put in her toybox. She (not quite as it turned out) pack of coffee beans took her fancy but she didn't think the bean(s) were very tasty. She's got lovely breath now though...

She did sleep...
She also fancies herself a school girl. Today she insisted on carrying dd1's book bag for her and when I did homework with dd1, dd2 pretended to read dd1's flash cards from school and saying random words (which is pretty much what dd1 does at this stage...) .

BG you got your hands full with your DD2

DS now wants to use his scuttlebug down the road, great fun as it's on a slope, problem is that our private road meets a busy one He pushes himself with his feet and when he goes fast enough, he lifts them off the ground and laughs when it goes... It keeps DH and I fit as we have to run after next to him to stop him.

Hi everyone

DD seems to be on the mend, her fever has gone and she's not too bunged up (actually she never really was). She had a lovely habbit of trying to lick up what she could Meant last night while broken didn't have long wakings and I even got 6+ hours myself

Have still had the weepies, thought I was doing OK yesterday and then I went to the hospital thread here. However I do feel alright today. Went to the weekly MN coffee group around here at lunch time and had normal conversations :) Outcome is I'm now waiting for a MW appintment with someone at the hospital so that puts next week on possible again. Although I could say I will def. come up one day (preference being there for Wed morning) and we'll see if I get a phone call today or Monday.

How are the others DCs?

PA sounds like you had a tough appointment but well done for asking to speak to someone else!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you that all works out for the best, whichever option you go for!

IC and I managed to meet today and it was quite delightful to see our dds interact and feel that we know each other surprisingly well . Well, folks, we made the start, so how about a few more meetings??

dd2 has just been chased from the garden into the kitchen by a caterpillar which seemed to alarm her a lot . She ran to me and kept pointing at the floor so I could deal with it. Not quite the cute green very hungry caterpillar she knows from her book - this one was huge, very hairy and very fast!

PA poor you, this registar should be reported to cause you so much upset, it's not the way to treat a pg woman with a previous difficult birth Nobody will judge you for having a CS and once Nigel will be born, nobody needs to know how he was born, do what is the best for you and him.

IC & BG well done on meeting up. So I would not be able to attend any meeting.

BG at the caterpillar!

So I went to see the GP and I have an ear infection, I am border line for a chest infection and I have dermatitis o my eyelids. Except that I am in good health I may have a G&T...

Have good weekend.

The caterpillar incident made me wonder actually. I am quite relaxed about insects etc and dd1 seems the same. I thought children learn by association eg if you are terrified of spiders they end up being terrified of spiders, too. But it doesn't seem that way because dd2 comments on anything creepy crawly, even on pictures, with 'weg!' (Go away!) She really is not happy to be anywhere near spiders, flies, bees, slugs... Oh, and large fast moving hairy caterpillars that have the cheek of following her into the kitchen

Maybe her encounter with the dead slug a few monyh ago (when she ate it) made her carefull about crawling insect?

SB Good point That would definitely put ME off!!

Evening all. Sorry to read that so many of you are poorly. Hope you all feel better soon. Also sorry BG that your DD2 hurt herself while you were away - that's one of my worst nightmares.

Well done IC on the weaning and for managing to meet up with BG. Thursdays are the only really available days at the moment as I'm working Mon-Wed and Friday afternoons. In fact, work is completely bonkers at the moment, hence not being on here nearly as often as I would like. I've been working until 10pm most nights and then have to start my exercises.

PA well done for asking for a second opinion. Your symptoms sound somewhat similar to mine but I'm not doing pregnancy again so I don't know what I'd do in your situation. I did finally go to the GP this week to get my issues addressed - it's only taken me about 13 months to get there!!

The sleep study, as you may have seen on Facebook, was an absolute bloody disaster (which involved keeping DS2 up until 10:30pm and then seeming surprised that he slept fitfully until 3:30a.m, when he woke for the day due to them turning on the lights when he knocked the nose prongs out ) We won't get any results until the end of November so I'm just ignoring it all for now. DS2 has had a hideous cough this week. The GP said his chest in clear but he does sound like he is drowning and is now back on Ventolin.

Now got DS1 on his gluten test to see how he reacts to it. So far, it isn't too bad, which suggests my theory that he is intolerant, not allergic, is correct. It will be great if he can have gluten again and he's loving weetabix, although DS2 has randomly decided that he will now gag on anything after about 4 mouthfuls. Suspect we too may be looking at early back molars as that usually causes gagging on meals. Let's hope it doesn't last as it's not very pleasant for him, or for us while we are eating. Luckily he's got a few pounds of weight to play with if he can't eat much for a few days.

Mous goo dnews re the wee on the potty. Having variable successes here but think we will have to move onto the toilet soon as he, like SB's DS, is in danger of chopping his 'nads off on the front of the potty!!

Anyway, off to do my exercises now. Sorry to those I haven't mentioned personally. Hope to keep in touch whenever work allows and still trying to read facebook on my phone daily.

Beth lovely to hear from you .
No problem with girls squashing their bits but dd1 went through a phase of pulling bits up to see what she was doing... and producing puddles on the floor .

spoke too soon, not snotty but still blocked. Awake from 12:00-3:00 and then 5-6

beth sorry about the sleep study.

SB and PA glad your LOs are better.

BG my DD2 is obsessed with spiders and creepy crawlies, and keeps bringing them to me. The other day she handed me a spider that was bigger than her hand, and I only just managed not to recoil!

IC and BG very jealous of the meeting up. I keep forgetting who it is who lives near the Horniman (I know your real name!) - but I am hoping to make it there one Friday.

PA hope you are feeling OK.

DD2 has a nasty cold, so is not sleeping very well. Boo.

bethy good to hear from you. DS at the present refuses to sit on the potty

Re Crawlies - DS enjoys picking snails in the garden and putting them into the bin

Oh dear, it really is the season for colds and other lergies, isn't ? We're supposed to be getting a hottish spell next week, perhaps that'll drive them away again for a short while.... SB you really have more than your fair share of ailments. I hope they all clear up ASAP.

Yes, it was great meeting BG and her DD2 - quite an odd feeling, that sense of knowing someone reasonably well despite having never previously spoken or seen each other face to face! I'll stick a picture or two up on the FB page when I've got a minute.

One of BG's great gifts to DD was a potty (as well as some of her DDs' cast-offs, yay - I was starting to run a bit low...) and DD is now obsessed with sitting on it, although I think it'll be some time before she - ahem - makes a deposit. Nice that she likes it, though

PA I'm so sorry you've been having a trying time discussing your birth. I'm not surprised you're so concerned about it, having read your thread. I hope they're now taking your views on it more seriously.
Also, BG and I are both up for next Wednesday if you reckon you and your (hopefully feeling much better by then) DD can manage it. It would be ace to see you!
bethy we'll have to try for a Thursday when you've got the energy, the inclination and the boys are in okay health! Let us know....

BBB, sorry to hear about your DD2 also full of snot. Argh.
I think it was Bearcrumble who lives near the Horniman...??

We just spent the day at the PILs and DD was in her element. This is the first time in a while that MIL has been able to give DD her undivided attention and she really went for it, gave her the full Montessori treatment and DD loved it. Spent the day "painting", sweeping, "cooking", feeding rabbits, picking apples.... The moment DD opened her eyes at the end of her nap, she yelled "Gann-mar!!!" It was great, especially as DH had time to do some of his PGCE reading (of which he now has a growing mountain) and I was able to get out for a stroll in town on my own. Ace!

beth glad you've gone to the docs for yourself and also it's reassuring that someone else is in the same boat so to speak. I hope that work calms down a bit for you. How are you getting on that wanker headmaster?

BBB you must have been very proud of your body

Well DD was only awake for 1 hour in the night and a few quick resettles so that was much better. DH has taken her shopping while I rest as he got a full nights sleep in the spare room.

IC that's really heart warming to hear your DD enjoy her grandma time so much. Looking forward to our potential midweek meet-up. If not, it will bloody happen sometime in the next 10 days. I vow this to be case at least it is doable as a return trip in one day.

Best bring your hospital bag with you, PA - just in case

IC good for the bounding between your MIL and DD. (also good for you to have a break!).

PA glad to hear you had a better night and that you too are having a break. Packing the labour bag?! Are you all set up for Nigel arrival?

scones , bc you're okay?

IC Having in laws that own a nursery seems a little unfair

PA Hope you get a few more restful nights in the next few weeks... I am still okay for Wed this week if you can make it down to see IC.

Yes, Rosie has inherited our overflow potty (Sorry, couldn't resist that). Well, we had our own potty incident which would be a good story if it had been productive... . dd2 was in the bath last night when she announced she needed to poo. dd1 was a little alarmed as she was also in the bath... I rinsed dd2's hair quickly and got her out to dry her and then invited her to sit on the potty. She did for about three seconds, then got up and chucked the (empty) potty into the bath. Hmm , so no progress from using it as a hat or convenient seat then

dd1 had her first birthday party (since starting school I mean) today and dd2 was quite cross when we got back. She had enjoyed dh's full attention while we were away and was reluctant to share him again . One good thing of me being away for four nights has been that they have bonded really well and are much closer than they were . I am almost, but not quite, jealous...

Morning everyone. I wrote a long post yesterday which our silly internet connection managed to delete And if I thought I was in a bad mood yesterday, I'm in a terrible mood today So I'll try to keep this brief and not too depressing.

bethy great to hear from you and commiserations on the sleep study. Hope DS1's gluten test continues to go well.

BBB, PA, SB I hope your LOs are feeling better.

IC I cannot express my envy at your MIL. Really impressed that you and BG managed to meet up. BG good thing the potty was empty!!

BBB a question: I bought some near-date pg multivits, being both skint and mean, and now they are out of date. I assume they will not be harmful, just less beneficial? Any idea how much less (they are ahem now 6 months out of date )? Should I bin them and buy some more?

A question for everyone: does anyone else ever feel that they just can't handle their LO any more? I have been feeling this for a few weeks now, and after another terrible night (teething - I think) I just feel at the end of my tether. I would so much rather be at work, or be anywhere really. She's asleep right now which is brilliant but I am dreading her waking up I hate feeling like this, I feel so unmaternal and a bad mother, but I have just had enough of her. She's been bad-tempered for a week due to illness and now just screams and screams at night when we go in to resettle her - she's fine when we're in the room, but screams the minute we walk out. It is doing my head in. I truly dread having two to cope with. This morning I was lying in bed planning a visit to a nursery that takes under-twos to see if they can have her for a couple of afternoons a week, and I think I'll carry that through. I can't afford it but what the hell. And my mum thinks she's too young and doesn't see why I can't cope with her and I don't see it either, really. I hate feeling like this but I also do feel like I can't go on.

scones your multivits will be fine, but take them quickly and don't leave them another few months!

And I think we all have times when our LOs seem hell bent on winding us up. Sorry you are finding it so hard. I do the "gradual withdrawal" method for the screaming at night when I leave the room, and it works for us - the first night I stay until she drops off, the second night I stay until she's about to drop off, the next night I leave when she's settled, the night after that I leave straightaway (obviously with variations if needed). Have you tried that kind of thing? If she's very distressed, I think nothing of sticking her in bed next to me and DH and transferring her back to her cot when she's asleep. It doesn't happen, but means we all get more sleep than we would do otherwise.

Your nursery plan sounds a good one, as it will give you a break. They can and do cope with nursery at this age (both my DDs went from before they were a year), and it will give you a bit of time on your one with the new baby.A happier mum is a happier baby, right?

IC I too am jealous at your ILs having a nursery and providing superior childcare. My MIL is well-documented as high maintenance. This weekend, for example, she booked a trip for DD1 to the theatre and a sleepover at her house without even asking me! Obviously she had a lovely time, but it was not appropriate after her first full week at school as she is very tired and now has started this week tired. And that's before I start on how DH and I would quite liked to have done something special (though lower key) to mark her first week at school.

PA how are you doing?

BG we are at the same point as you with the potty. She loves sitting in it, but won't perform on it unless she has a nappy on. Still, it's very early days for all that.