Just mumming (viroids 1)

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So we don't scare the viroids on the antenatal thread with horror stories of no sleep, chomped boobs and endless laundry or make them envious with tales of cuteness....

We have had no such weight worries...today weighed in at 12lbs 3ozs!

I am a real geek normally but seem to have adopted the 'make-it-up-as-you-go-along' approach to parenting

Wow val, there must be plenty of goodness in your milk!

Our saga continues, I was going to give weighing a miss this week so as to curb my obsession with it, and as we had yet another wretched GP appt to review medicines. But the dr tricked me by whipping out the scales herself. Dd hasn't grown for a 2nd week. Dr was concerned and ordered me to contact HV. She didn't tell me to squeeze in an extra feed though, just to give formula as "it's hard for bf babies to get all they need" . How has the human race managed to survive thus far without formula then? . So it's back to the bf clinic this week to see what they say there. Hey ho.
Otoh I saw a friend from my antenatal group this pm and her baby had had a 2week spell without growth recently too and she's ff so clearly that's not proof against poor weight gain.

Have started a thread in the feeding topic and am getting a lot of advice there.

Went to baby massage today, was hopeless...dd cried then fed then dozed then fed! Mind you only 1of the 6 babies made it to the end of the massage!

Oh and am getting irrationally annoyed by an ungrammatical babygrow I found on Amazon: "me and my daddy love mummy". . Incorrect use of I/me makes my blood boil, along with the overuse of the reflexive "myself" as in "if you need any help please don't hesitate to contact myself". Can't people work out why this is wrong ??

Awh Esk, sorry about the lack of weight gain. How unhelpful of the GP...it does amaze me how antenatally BF is shoved down your throat and FF is completely demonised but the second anything slightly off piste happens with BF, FF is the cure all I hope the BF clinic/feeding boards have some helpful suggestions. Also, at the end of the day if you end up combined feeding or FF don't beat yourself up. You have had over 9 weeks now of BF benefits which is way more than some babies have.

It's very easy for me to say this but I know I would feel as you do if we were in the same situation. Lots of milk producing hugs

We have only had 2 weigh ins after the initial post birth ones, one at 6 weeks, one yesterday and then we go back in 3 weeks for the next. We could go weekly if I was concerned but I think this approach has worked for us as I would get obsessed otherwise. Another thing to bear in mind is some days/weeks we are hungrier than others so why not the babies? Also I know I weigh more after the weekend because of this reason. I know babies don't eat in the same way we do but there must be a teeny connection?!

Any one else's baby have talons?! I must cut DS's every 10 days or less and they are sooooo long! He also spends most of the time looking like his face has been savaged by an angry cat

Sounds like DD. Her nails a growing really fast at the moment. It doesn't help she's taken to playing with my boob while feeding, so I'm being shreaded too.

We hit 4 months yesterday can hardly believe it.

Oh and there's a new grad on the grads thread ('tis Miffles)

Was very excited to see miffles on there. Hopefully nervousnelly will join us very soon.

I have taken to trimming ds's nails weekly as his face is also a mess. He is finally fast asleep after a wee fretful afternoon. He has a horrid cough. Has anyone experienced where there dc gets fright reflex and then just screams? It happened tonight and was the worst scream I have heard

Hello! Sorry not to have posted in a while have read but not posted!

I am currently feeling 'lost' in motherhood somewhere between the feeding, cleaning and sleeping to I have decided to bring forward my return to work by 6 weeks so now the beginning of February. (still not mad enough to go before Christmas!)

DDs weight gain has slowed down put getting really tall! I have been thinking already that she's soon going to be taller than me in another crazy mum moment.

Ugh. Middle of the night feed and I'm sure dd has just pooed. Getting up to check/change is going to result in much screaming and us both being properly awake. Bah!

Bother! I was wrong!

Cowboy sorry you're feeling lost in it all. How old will dd be when you go back? Hopefully the next few months will get a bit more rewarding and you can find a balance between working and dd. you'll probably find you enjoy her all the more for not being tied to her the whole time.

Talons have calmed down a little. When she was born her fingernails were like razor blades!

I'm leaving dd with someone else for the first time in the morning, just for an hour whilst I have my hair cut....so far feel surprisingly ok about it, not even left her with DH yet. Unfortunately it's across a probable nap window so could be tricky.

Has anyone else got a baby that refuses to fall asleep? Dd has got lots worse again and now will only have naps on me, wakes if I try to put her down, and has hysterics at night if she's put in her crib. I've been laying next to her on our bed til she falls asleep but this week that's taken longer and longer, til almost time for us to go to bed. I was just getting used to being able to talk to DH for a couple of hours again.

No solution I'm afraid. I can spend three hours or more during the day playing the he's asleep put him down, damn he's awake pick him up game . He goes down between 7-9pm with some rocking. After that he is in with us. Just bought a bed guard so it's official. Our crib is a beautiful ornament in our room.

Ds has been a bit high maintenance this week as he has the cold. Unfortunately this has coincided with him noticing the telly. The only thing that soothed him yesterday was a combination of rocking him while he could see the telly . Another pre-child birth idea out the window, 'my child won't be plonked in front of the tv'. Does it make it better that he was watching the news?

Cowboy, the days just blur by don't they? I don't want to go back to work, could do with some pamper time though. Jsing would be more likely if hair was dyed, eyebrows were not a caterpillar, general waxing was done and i let go of the big undies. Omg, I sound horrendous. On a serious note though, I went shopping yesterday and just felt frumpy.

DD has started not going to sleep here as well. My evenings have become a juggle of trying to get dinner ready, feed and entertain DD and get some other quite important stuff done, that would normally be a breeze in the evenings as DD is normally asleep! It wouldn't be so bad but she's feeding to sleep in the day, but only actually going to sleep half the time. I keep thinking she's dropped off, but actually she's having a 30 second power nap.

Those power naps seem to give them huge amounts of energy Wish we could the same.

Rant alert! Dh was away with business for two nights. Did he use the opportunity to catch up on sleep. No. Gets home at 5pm and says he needs to go for a sleep as he is hungover. He wants to bath ds at 6pm though. Doesn't wake until half six, by then ds has been overtired, grumpy and then fallen asleep.

After ds's feed around ten dh asked for him not to cosleep as he doesn't sleep as well and is tired. Even though this means I don't get as much sleep. Dh has then snored and farted all night...who said romance was dead?! He woke ds and I up at 3am and ds is still not back to sleep. I'm exhausted as after being on my own for two days with a sick baby I could have done with a decent sleep. Please tell me if you think I am being irrational.

Not in the slightest, am for you! It's one of those times when it's almost a shame you're bf (not really, but you'll see what I mean) as you can't say it's his turn to do 2 days solo!

Ds didn't go back to sleep until 6am. A shock to the system when he has been sleeping so well.

Oh my goodness ladies, i didn't realise there was a proper up-and-running postgrads thread! I am so sorry! I just thought I'd check in on the old thread, mainly to see if nickel had dropped, and saw she'd posted a link here.

How is everybody?! I can't catch up on all the posts, but I want to know! How are the twins bb? How old are everybody's babies now? How has life been? How is shagging post-baby? (We've done it a few times and it feels fine except where the tear was - it was only a small tear, no stitches at all, but it feels tight and a bit uncomfortable during JSing. Everywhere else feels, ahem, even better ... (extra blood flow?)).

Isobel is 4 months old :) She is amazing and we are very happy. I am going to shoot myself in the face on 16th January though, as i have to go back to work. I'm going Mon, Weds, Thurs and working from home on Sundays when DH is around. :(

TTL! squeeee! [hugs] So lovely to hear from you. We had a baby boom at the end of August with my DD (Imogen) and baby2b's DS born on the same day and Val's DS born a couple of days later. DD is 10 weeks now (where did that go?) and I think things are looking up after a colic filled start. We are getting good nights most nights (only up once) and DD now has times when she can play alone on her baby gym for 30min+ if in the right mood so I can actually get things done occasionally.
So sorry you've got to go back to work so soon. Did you manage to find a nursery you like in the end?

Hey ttl, good to have you back . Baby2b here. Glad things are going well for you. How is your dh?

Esk, I'm very jealous that your little one will self occupy for 30mins. My ds will play on his mat or sit in his chair for 10 mins max. He will watch the telly, but only if he is being rocked

On the jsing front things are still a little stingy down there. Dh and I started the deed but it was too sore and I was really nervous. My stitches have healed well, so not sure why it's still sore. I have also had a horrid cold and now have tonsillitis so no kissing happening either! I wish I could say I was at least enjoying a good glass of vino like a proper jser

was wondering why I wasn't seeing you over here too.

As for JSing here, well I get excited if DH comes in for a cuddle. Life cannot continue like this as this achingfanjo has needs! Still getting off my arse and getting a coil in might help.

Good point about the contraception. The fear of getting pregnant at the drop of a hat has returned . Think I'm going to get the implant again.

Yes, I was being an idiot! PMSL at the needs of the aching fanjo though :)

DH is great thanks esk - he loves being a daddy and he really pulls his weight. In fact I am the laziest new mum on the planet I think - I just do fun stuff in the day and let the house go to rot! How are your DPs? Really glad to hear all is going well - I remember Imogen and Teddy being born from the other thread. I LOVE the name Imogen but we know two baby Imogens in RL, which is weird as it's not that common a name I don't think?

I want to get pregnant again! (Well, sort of. Maybe in a year's time.)

I'm still BFing and Isobel won't take a bottle, but I am definitely having wine :) Well, I can't let the thread down, can i?!

No JSing here. Gynae appt on the 2nd December though, so ought to try again before then so I can be more precise about why we don't. I'm approaching this the wrong way, aren't I?

ttl our plan sees TTC#2 happening in 6 months. Not bloody likely. DH works too much but when he's around he's great. M is 6 months now and honestly working isn't that bad. You get used to it.

My dh is pretty good. Only gains the odd rant on here. If he could just read my mind things would be easier

I have been bf, but having my first wobble. I think I just need a couple of hours to myself. Got hairdressers booked for Saturday. The thought of needing to express enough milk and knowing I will worry about ds makes me wonder if it is worth it though.

Thanks for the support, she will be 9 months when I go back so I think it will be a good age.
Feeling better now after being honest with DH about feeling a little over whelmed and he is being great so enjoying doing things the 3 of us and sorting money ect out as I kept ignoring it but was stressing me out.

Still BF here and going to try weaning soon maybe doing a combo of purée and BLW style but will see how it goes.

On the JS front we did more when she was little and napped better but now to tired by bedtime so we don't very much and like Cola feeling frumpy does not help!

I am now regularly asked when are we having more and I just don't think we will see how it goes as I didn't want DD till I did if you know what I mean?! I can picture sharing her time with another baby but I'm an only child so dont know if that makes a difference