Fab Feb 2009 - pass mummy the gin, its potty time!

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New thread as the old one got filled up - hope you all find it ok!

No Dinky! I can't bring myself to talk to another ante-natal group, it would feel like cheating...

dinky Luke does that too. Is very funny. He also yells at whoever is telling him off "DON'T SHOUT AT ME. I TELL YOU OFF" little monkey
chilled What sort of job are you doing? Are you enjoying it? Is good to see you back on.
MS Wish I had some advise to offer but I tend to hope for the best and that's just about it.

I've been told that I'm def getting a contract with the school. It;s going to happen in February and I'll have to do all the bits like interview and be observed in class etc, but it will all be very informal. Relief.

SO has anyone else continued to reproduce??? or is it just me who's had enough of being up the duff???!!!

Glass of wine anyone

SM I joined the Royal Navy straight after uni and they were happy for me to take the Career Break. I've gone into an OK job in a reasonably nice place. Best part is that we got a early nice area for our Married Quarter and DS got a brilliant school!!!

should read 'really' not 'early'

cheers CM No more dc's for us either. 2 is more than enough!
Pleased that you are happy with work and ds got a good school.

cheers!

chilledmama that all sounds very good. No more babies here either, I can't imagine dealing with a new baby as well as a 2 yr old and 4 yr old.

DS has been a total pain the last few weeks - his behaviour has deteriorated radically since he started school and I fear he is turning into a monstrous child. He is (apparently) well behaved at school but thinks he can hit, kick, spit, throw things, etc when he is at home. When I sit him down for time-out he just thinks it is a big joke no matter how cross I am with him - sigh...... I was so smug that he hardly had any tantrums as a two year old - now it is all going horribly wrong! He seems to really enjoy doing the opposite of what I ask him to - i.e. 'please stay here on the pavement whilst I get Lilian out of the car' ends up with him legging it down the road laughing whilst I scream at him to stop. Driving me nuts....

Oh Calico Boys, hey? Little terrors. FWIW, I would much rather my ds's were angels out and terrors at home than the other way around.
Don't know what to suggest re getting out of the car. Could he be in charge of getting mummy's bag whilst mummy gets L? Or something to 'help' you that would keep him by the car and distract his thought from doing a runner?
Sure he will settle down soon, they do have to re-test their bounderies when things change don't they?

Thanks SM. Yes, he is better if I distract him with something. I have to remember that he is still just a little boy but he knows just how to wind me up...

Earlier I had to hold him on the time-out step and was quietly but firmly telling him that I needed him to listen to me as some things are important (like not running off down the road) and he started spitting on my feet and then head butting when I told to stop. Arrrggghhh - where has my gorgeous, well-behaved boy gone?? I know it is just attention seeking but it is so frustrating. I think I need to get that book 'Raising Boys'.

I've got that book. I wasn't overly impressed by it to be honest.

I think I have had enough children so no more here!!!!!!! Just getting our lives back on track now they are 7,4,4 & 2 and three of them are at school

Oh - won't bother with the book then. DS was an angel this morning - got himself dressed, played nicely with Lilian before school and waved me goodbye in the playground with a 'love you mum'
Now I feel guilty for being Mrs Shoutypants yesterday.....

Calico... it's the age. ds1 is behaving like a loon lately too, really wild and rude and uncontrollable. He seems to be picking a lot of it up in school.

I'm hoping that as dd went through a phase of mental behaviour at a similar age and eventually grew out of it that he'll follow suit.

Calico - dont beat yourself up about it. Kids know how to push your buttons. He's tired from school and acting up with you - 4 is classic age for testosterone surges too. Its a case of finding out what gets through to him - if a time out step doesnt work, then maybe something else (like sticker charts for good behaviour and treat and all that positive reinforcement stuff) will help.

Chilled - MrsY is with sprog as is Bumpsnotjustplump and Markstretch. MsLucy had a surprise third baby too.

The rest of us are too busy toddler wrangling to consider reproducing

"No Dinky! I can't bring myself to talk to another ante-natal group, it would feel like cheating..." - where is that 'Like' button?

I have Raising Boys too and can't wade through it. Favourite line goes something like: "Boys are different". From what, exactly? Dogs? Aliens? Pigs?

TBH, in our house dd most often fits the boy stereotypes

ds1 came home from school today a hysterical, tantrumming mess and has managed to give A a bloody nose amongst other misdemeanours, I'm trying my hardest to give him the benefit of the doubt and make allowances for tiredness but dear gods if he doesn't give it a rest soon I won't be responsible for my actions!

chilled.... after 3 difficult babies, 7 years straight continuous pregnancy and bf-ing, one child with a statement, one who still wets the bed every night, one who may have dyspraxia, a degree to finish and 12 million other things that detract from the parenting ideal there's no way I could go for another.

I did get to cuddle a very snuggly newborn at toddler group though and it's even more fun when you can hand them back when they start winging

*whinging... stupid spell check confusing me!

Calico The book didn't do much for me, but I did read 3 parenting books in a row, so I may have been a bit bored of them by then and not really taking anything in. I read Raising Boys, How To Talk So Kids Listen and Siblings Without Rivalry. The other 2 books were pretty good, and I remember getting some good tips from them, but a book I really enjoyed was The Incredible Years (will look fr a link, don't remember authors name).

SR You do have a very hectic life!

Incredible Years Link

Blimey SR you are a busy girl!!
I gave up on the CPD stuff...I just don't have the inclination time. Our current routine has DS absolutely exhausted. We are all up before 7, out the door by 0720 at the latest. Breakfast club for 0730 then off to drop DD at nursery then start work by 0800. Then after work, I try to finish by 4pm pick up DD and collect DS from After SChool Club by 1635 home by 1645. Get DS and I changed, let watch 20minutes of TV while I make them some supper. Up stairs for bedtime routine...bath or not to bath then bed by 1830. Not a grumble out of them as they are ssssooooo tired. Poor loves don't know what's hit them
Job is good and I do want to work to work but I now only get 2 1/2 hours each day to spend with my DCs and its all in a rush
Now I need

hello all, just popping in briefly before I head off to the airport
ref little darlings playing up, DD is like that now. Had her parents evening on Tuesday (very early I thought!) and she seems to be doing very well at school, very well behaved and polite but at home she has turned into a monster! Real issues with her doing as she is told, little things like getting dressed, have to tell her about 10 times! When I get back from Jordan will be having a serious conversation with her.

Assuming I survive the desert, will check in next week

Good luck MoS!

Chilled - that sounds like a super manic day! I generally have an hour with the kids in the morning before I go to work (most of which is spent nagging them to eat breakfast/get dressed etc - though today Danny v sweetly insisted on having a shower with me) and an hour when I get back (which consists of reading with DS1, toothbrush and bathroom action, little bit of play, stories and wrangling the two boys into bed). Poor DH often only gets 40 minutes with the boys in the mornings (less if they sleep in). Its hard to spend so little time with them but it does mean the weekends are special for all of us.

We've got parents evening at work next week. Have not heard anything about Jacob's.
Enjoy you're time away mos What's the trip for?
I get very little time with the boys now that I'm working. They are really testing the bounderies though, so can't say I enjoy the weekends at the moment am sure it'll turn around soon though.

Oh SM - it will get better. Repeat after me - this too is just a phase, it will pass. Still havent been told when DS1's partents evening is either - I think some schools are just alot more organised than others