July 2010: Warning, this thread contains offensive language; 1 wedding, --d--jogging and some Creme Eggs (although we don't know why). Oh and some babies who are nearly 1 year old.

[CakeandRoses]

See? Panicking works!

kk. And congats on the walker!

I did wonder if it was chicken pox, there are loads of spots, all over her body, some are very small and some are bigger and more blister-like. She's eating and drinking fine so she can't be feeling too bad but she is very clingy to me.

KK that near miss must have shaken u up, nasty, just goes to show how easily things can happen. The walking is great but a pisser u wernt there to see it. D is letting go of things loads more and made a game out of going from the walker to grandad unaided yesterday. I don't think he will be long now. I had to have my cat put down on Thurs morning just before we came up to brum. She hadn't eaten for days and was so weak and miserable looking, dh was at work but turned up just as they were about to do it bless him. I have had to put it out of my mind as much as I can but it will hit me when we get home and she's not there. Why do we have pets, its far too painful.

Sorry to hear about your cat vik. I dread the day our dog won't be around anymore.

She's got better during the day mlic, she is much more cheerful and is eating and drinking loads, has no temperature. She's still very spotty though. She's in bed now, I'll take her to the docs in the morning to get her checked out.

Some people really have no manners in residential areas while driving. I'd say you felt like throwing the bloody dog out this morn. Wonder what was setting him off? my mum's dog goes mad barking at flies!
Thanks vik and yes one second me and mum were laughing about something and the next we had to swerve. We really can't afford to get distracted in any way on the road. i wouldn't be suprised if D started walking today!
Wss how is G now? Is she getting any sicker or still ok.

X post wss! hopefully it's chicken pox and it won't bother her too much. Has A ever had them?
So sorry about your cat vik thats very sad :( hope you're ok x

morning all!! L didnt wake til after 9!!! I was up at 6.30 waving dh off to Ireland, ive been crying since, I dont know why Ireland is so bad it feels so much worse as hes over water plus I dont know how I will cope alone!!
vik so sorry about your cat, so awful going into house and pet not being there.
mrsdh welcome back!!! cant wait to see more pictures!
kk what a prick, not surprised you had a go!
mlic my mums dog backs at nothing in the night and when he does she panics thinking someone is in the house! Must be just changing back to the old routine of you being home that set her off maybe?!

We are going to have booze at the party, I really dont mind one or two but he has a few friends who are pricks who will think they can stay til its all drank regardless of having to get home with young kids, dh seems to think people will stay most of the day!!! once the time stated on invite comes around im kicking all friends out and my family can all have run of the house a bit longer, we havent all been in same room together in years! Im still worrying about where im going to put everyone, I was sure loads wouldnt come dues to it being holiday time but no one has declined invite!!

I'm so sorry about your cat, Viksam.

WSS, hope she's better soon.

Well, J slept until 8.30am today!!!!! Sod's law it was DH's turn for a lie-in, and it was mine yesterday when I had to get up with him at 6am... But it was nice to have a lie-in with DH for a change.

It's going to be baking hot! Church this morning, then a picnic in the park with buggy bootcamp mates, then a folk festival in another park this afternoon with lots of music/bouncy castle/beer tent etc. Just perfect for a summer Sunday.

I'm sorry you had to cry memphis. I'm sure time will pass really quickly and before you know it he'll be back. L's sleep sounds promising. I hope he'll be a good boy for you.

kk How scary about the almost accident. I'm a lot more worried about these kind of things since having M so I can imagine how scary that must have been. I get a proper rage and hate feeling if people drive too fast in an area where there might be children.

My belly is quite big already. I am 22 weeks now and the baby is 25cm, exactly half of what M was when she was born.

wss Hope G is better by now. I don't know anything about children's diseases but from what you said I take it that measles is worse than chickenpox? How so?

woodlands Your day sounds busy. Hope you are having a lot of fun.

We're meeting a friend from England today. She is here for a few days. It's gonna be so nice to see her. She hasn't met M yet. We're gonna go into (one of the) really old historic areas and have a nice wander around. Should be good.

I did some tooth research and I think what we saw as two molars might only be one each side, cos they are apparently quite big and double sided or some such.

Oh, we're starting to discuss boys' names now, so would you mind if I ask your opinion on one that we both like (I don't fancy going to the name board). Please tell me if you think it's stupid, common, posh or if a horrible children's book character is called that, so that we don't make a terrible mistake. The name is: Frederick.

Hope y'all have a nice day.

As expected married life isnt much different, I do feel more 'together' though, like our life together is official now.

I think Dylan is still on Spanish time though, hes in bed atm but will probably wake up.

Going to get started on the mammoth task of changing my name on all my documents, that'll be fun

trudyla I love the name its also a family name for us but as his suname is 12 letters we couldnt have it but have Freddie as his middle name.

I have been out since 1, My sil took L to a fete for an hour this morning, I knocked over the full mop bucket while they were out, then I met mum for lunch, we visited grandparents then went to see my new niece again, L hates when babies cry and when she cried he sobbed with his bottom lip out!
mlic keep meaning to ask was it you or your dh who rode the bike with the trailer on, I really struggle with just L in it!!!

Well dh is now in Dublin, he says its really expensive there, I have bathed L and am now panicing about the night time routine that dh has been setting in for last month, I want him home!! grr if he hadnt got debt he could take a lesser paid job and not have to work away!!!

Oh and my diet also starts tomorrow and everytime I want cakes im going to look at mrsdh's honeymoon pics and sob at her amazing bod and think I now cant use the excuse i've just had a baby!!!

oh mlic I really dont know what to say, apart from come on here and talk as much as you can/need too, I imagine every childs bond is different but must be hard to get close to him if it feels he is almost pushing you away, can you talk to your dh about it? has he said anything about W being an unhappy baby? could you talk to a doctor?

Im sure it will pass at some point but after a year I cant imagine how you feel, do you think you maybe have a bit of PND? Every baby is different, dont rule out another yet, as time passes hopefully W will chill out a bit, What you have described is what im worried about, having L who is so happy and chilled most of the time,and next time I will have a highly strung baby and thats what im like and I wouldnt cope!!

Thats not being a bad mam, you care for him, its different parenting styles, my friend in rl cannot do anything at all in the house her dh cant remember the last time she cleaned or cooked as her baby cries so much she has to hold her all day, you have E to consider too and your own sanity, I feel like a bad mam every time L smacks his head or falls over and I dont move while everyone jumps to his aid, he does it so much I would be constantly scraping him off the floor and im not willing to do it, I feel guilty everytime he falls and my bro or mum pick him up but its not going to make me pick him up more, as the same as you it doesnt matter how many times I pick him up he will still do it again and again ( today he has thrown the dog water on the floor 5 or 6 times and slipped over again and again onto a stone floor but it doesnt stop him doing it so i let him get on with it!!) Could you try the docs or hv again about W? (DISCLAIMER- If L falls and he has ACTUALLY hurt himself I pick him up)
sorry if im not helping, wheres bloody cakes when you need her wisdom!!!

MLIC you are very far from being A Bad Mam. What more could you do? You have tried so much to get him to be a happier baby. I think of you often, when J is having a screamy day or whatever and I think how dreadful it must be to have a baby who is like that every day. J was like that yesterday morning and I had shouted at him twice by 8am. I seriously don't know how you cope.

I have heard about babies who are like that, crying all the time, and who become happier once they become toddlers. Apparently they are generally highly intelligent children who are just incredibly frustrated at being a baby. They are almost like older children stuck in a baby's body. Once they can walk, talk and generally participate in the human race they become much happier and more settled. I really hope this is the case for you.

mlic. I'm sorry, I don't have any advice, but really, you're not a bad mum. You do so much for your boys - both of them. I wish I could say something else to encourage you - you're doing a great job with not much of a break from it all. Keep talking to us - we all know how it feels to get to the end of your tether.

Trudy "straighforward" measles and chicken pox are both not so bad, but measles complications are much more serious - stuff like pneumonia and encephalitis (which can lead to brain damage or death). Obviously the complications are pretty rare but they are serious (hence measles being vaccinated against and chicken pox not - well there is a chicken pox vaccine, you have to pay for it here though).

We've been to drs and it's neither measles nor chicken pox but "unidentified virus" so not much we can do except Calpol and fluids and rest etc.

mylife I also dont know what to say but im sure that all of us have had times that we simply dont like our babies, i am not afraid to say i have, although I realize its not the same as the way you feel. I think what ur DH says is right though. I agree with memphis as well re HV if u think its worth it or crysis, have u tried them? I also agree re where's cake or chu!! we are poor substitutes!! Is he sleeping better than he was? Dont you have wobbles about ur parenting, u are one of the most determined and together people on here, u are a domestic godess and an amazing mother and wife! You have a very demanding baby who you have coped with mostly on your own for 12 long months and you have done brilliantly if i may say so.

mlic agree with everyone else your a fantastic mum. You do everything for your boys and dh. Can't blame you for feeling pissed off about it but you are doing everything you can.

kk well done on your walker, hope your ok after your near miss.

trudy fredricks lovely, will he be freddie?

memphis you ok now? The week will fly by.

viks so sorry about your cat

woods typical dh gets the long lie. How's your cat now?

chul how was your weekend and the wedding?

dh the wedding pics look stunning your dress was gorgeous. Have to say I agree with memphis I'll be using you as inspiration to get skinny

needle hope your ok, symptoms usually kick in at about 7 ir 8 weeks so try not to worry.