Right, DH is on his way to Durham, it's just me and S for the next 6 days...I think a big 
will be needed by Friday!
Kits you've done amazingly well to keep going after having mastitis so many times. Please don't feel guilty if you feel that it's time to stop BF because 14 weeks BF is an achievement in its self. Also, as much as you want to do your best for Little Boy you need to be healthy to do that (and what seems to be forgotten is that when you have mastitis you're unwell!) so if you think that stopping BF will make you healthy and able to do more for all three LO's then no one can make you feel bad for making that decision.
Pet yay for sleep!
Star I don't know whether this will help but when we were deciding childcare for S we come to the following conclusions. (He'll be starting nursery 3 days p/w from Oct).
Location: There are 4 nurseries within 20mins of the buildings that I and DH work in, about half way between work and home. This means we can be there quickly if needed (and if he's still a bottle refusnik come October I can pop up and feed him during my lunch hour!). The only childminder that had a baby place for October was at least an hour from work.
Cost: As nursery is en route to work and in walking distance there are no travel costs, where as the childminder would have needed a bus there then two buses for me or DH to get to work on time. The extra travel time to the childminder would mean that we had to pay for an extra hour to cover us getting to and from work. Also nursery includes formula (though we hopefully won't need that), food and nappies in the fees, these needed to be provided by us for the childminder.
Our Preferences: The nursery are all set up to store frozen EBM, had more types of bottles and sippy cups than Boots and currently have another baby who's mum sends in EBM which was reassuring to see. They are also happy to use cloth nappies, or (which we'll do) take them in cloth in the morning but use their disposables during the day, then I can put him in cloth evenings and weekends.
S: We had to think about what would be best for S given his personality. He loves having lots of different things to do each day, seeing new people, is happy to be held by others and really enjoys being with other babies and children. A nursery seemed the best option for him given he gets bored when it's just me and him and a childminder may end up having a similar effect. Also, because it's just us, and no family close by or friends with small children, once I'm back at work we won't be seeing the groups of people that we do now so I wanted to make sure that he would still have lots of contact with other people even though I won't be able to get to baby groups anymore.
Have questions ready, reading the OFSTED report is useful. I was mean and asked some awkward questions about the EYFS and how the nurseries were implementing it (I didn't tell them that my background is in education so they were a little thrown by the detailed questions I think, but answered well!).
Having said all that, there is a lot of gut feeling involved. We went to one nursery that was good but DH wasn't keen because it smelt like school dinners. The nursery that we have chosen we both liked straight away.
I'm going to stop wittering on now!
(Oh and S is now 14 Wks)