FEB 2010 Coming on in leaps and bounds and little steps

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Where did our babies go?!
Anywhere and everywhere, the moments our backs are turned!!

PA I am mean, I got them used to the smell of washing power since they were little... I am not taking "nounours" (DD1)or "lapinou & lamby" (DD2) out ever and barely out of bed too, but it is a luxury of SAHM I would guess. Can you tie it with a dummy link stuff when out? so it doesn't fall.

Both of mine skipped that developmental stage (dropping things on purpose)

remember fondly being stuck all day in the dark room to develop films! At least you have light and MN hard work PA Good luck!

to be fair my old x-ray lab didn't have internet so this is a bonus.

We need to come up with something, especially with the road trip. I think we have something that will work though. We try to leave it in the house, but with the travelling we do (we were away the last few days) and also not having a car means we/they are often out for quite a few hours at a time (waiting around for buses or walking). For the most part she's not out around nap time which is when we let her have it.

Oh yes we travel with them! but only for "cot comfort" not for naps in the prams or on me or on the floors or in the car.... I let them have it for something scary though like babysitters or planes.
Can you try to introduce another one? sleep with it for a few days and then give it to her. DD1 changed her favourite around that age when she preferred something bigger.

I see if I can convince DH

DS now weighs 10kg68 (1st9lb) and measures 79.5cm (2'7.9'')

soc poor you an family! Take care and hopefully the bugs disapear.

schro is around, she's now Lemousquetaireanomyme (or similar)

Jack-Henry goes in the cot, pushchair, carseat... It's biggish. We put it between DS and the straps the pushchair to try not to drop it.

PA
that might work!

I think a lot of mums find the final weaning off the breast to be an emotional time, PA. I suspect I will as it's the only time I can really snuggle up with DD - she just doesn't really do cuddles otherwise. But then, perhaps she'll get more cuddly as she gets older.

Heh, the soother thing, yes! I made sure the toy I encouraged DD to adopt as a soother is one of a range and when we get back to the UK I'm probably going to sort out a duplicate. Having said that, DD loves her bunny, but doesn't seem so attached to it that she would be totally distraught if it went missing. It still seems sensible to head off that possibility at the pass so I don't have to find out...

He's a big lad, SB! DD is a good 2kg lighter and several cm shorter. Still dinky!

Scones that sound like an odd reaction to your pg from your B/SIL - could they have experienced a mc recently or something related to attempts to have another DC? That often makes people touchy about pg-related things.
Anyway, whatever the reason, it's a shame they couldn't be more enthusiastic (or even acknowledge the situation) for your sake.

bethy that saying goodnight to his brother thing is so cute!

Eek Soc, what an ingenious little monkey you've got in your DD2!

Ha, the toilet thing made me laugh, LBH! DH and I are both good at keeping the lid to our loo down - but I bet one of us will forget one day when DD's feeling experimental...

DD woke (briefly) three times last night. I think she was a bit hot this time, so I put the little fan on in her room and she seemed okay after that. I went in with her in the end because poor old DH has laryngitis and is all bunged up so rather snorey. I'm such a light sleeper I wake up even before the snoring gets to full-throttle. DD's fidgeting wakes me too, but hey ho, it seemed the lesser of two evils last night.

Temperatures here are now touching 30 during the day and the overnight temperatures are edging into the mid-teens - the Spanish summer is almost upon us. I'm writing this with the ceiling fan on. And this is nothing compared to how hot it gets in July/August. Thankfully we'll be gone at the end of June. I'll miss Spain and Madrid for many reasons, but the hot summers aren't one of them. Sunshine is lovely, but you can have too much of a good thing...

How warm is it where you are, Mous?

About the same as you IC I am a sweaty pig with a baby strapped on me in the subway . But DH finally got an increase in salary, i.e. we are not stuck here anymore, so I am going to normandy end of july!

I am here but it is absB who is missing, no? unless she changed name too?

We had the toilet playing long ago, now DD2 is trained enough not to play with it which is good because she can lift and climb on (in?) it, open the door...

bethy that is cute.

I hurt my neck (sleeping I think ) and it IS hard, I am alone all week with the girls now. The only position which was OK was in the office chair with my feet on the table as it is not pulling on my neck. But DD2 won't let me and is monkeying on me (I am a tree apparently) Difficult night, as I couldn't find a good position! but both girls slept.

I had a baby group yesterday to try to stir new friendships, god! it is so noisy, I am still shellshocked. It doesn't help that I am halfdeaf, I don't think anybody was impressed by my conversation skills!
I have also organised a mum's night out, now I HAVE to find the will to go

I don't think she's name changed but has always posted irregularly. Hope she's having fun TTC. Also would love to hear form stoof as well

SB I did wonder whether you would announce he's now two stone

Here's dd2's latest trick

What's up BBB? Will try and find AIBU (nosy emoticon)

Can't find you on AIBU BBB. Any clues?

Post a link, BBB!

Mous, poor you that sounds horrid (the neck) - can you get yourself to a chiropracter/osteopath/physio at any point soon?

Soc - time to hid the Tripp Trapp and get an Antilop, methinks

The 0.5tog sleeping bag plus short-sleeved body still wasn't enough to keep DD sleeping peacefully last night. Her arms felt very cool, but the rest of her was warm - too warm for her to be comfortable, I'm guessing, although she didn't feel hot. We had more than two hours of fidgeting and complaining with me adjusting the fan in her room several times until the right combination of blow and direction was achieved to keep her cool without annoying her....
Sleeping through is suddenly feeling like a distant memory.
Today we're off shopping for a thinner shorty sleep-suit and/or a thin, loose-ish long-sleeved top and I can pop on her over her sleeping bag. Just nappy and thin sleeping bag will almost certainly mean she'll feel too cold at the moment.
Any tips, mums in hot countries...?! PA, Mous?

It's okay, I found BBB's AIBU

It's here

It is 24 inside, DD2 sleeps with a sleeveless vest and a pj long sleeves big girls one with no feet as she is too big for baby Pj (slim cotton). No socks from a week on.
later on she will be only in a vest.
No fan, no AC.
I would ditch the sleepbag. I bought one in linen (no tog 0.1, well something ridiculous) but she hates sleeping bags.

BBB read your post My DH is almost always uncontactable (phone busy though not switched off), when I finally reach him he will spend 5/10 min explaining why he doesn't have time to talk to me . Now I say "shut up, listen" and we are done in less than 1 min. Not very loving though . Your DH sounds a bit like mine, not bad, well meaning but just completely centred on his work, and feeling sorry for mishaps but forgetting soon.

Can you write your list and put it somewhere he can see everyday? Can you play on the guilt involving your DD1? She is probably old enough to be eager to spend some time with her dad.
Good luck.

BBB haven't had the chance to read more than your post... will do so with a coffee now. Maybe it would work to play on paternal guilt (if it exists, I sometimes wonder) and ask how he would feel if the unthinkable happened eg. something involving blood and a trip to hospital, and he had been too 'busy' to be there for his little girl!!

BBB just read your post I really feel for you, how can you get through to him? I used to have state-of-the-nation talks with exP every so often, when I'd really lay down the law and he'd (eventually) agree (I wasn't being a dictator - it was about mutual respect) but it would last a few days and then... He only got the message when I finally left him I came back and for those 6 weeks his behaviour was perfect. But I'd just had enough by then, I had no love left.

Not that I am advising you to leave your DH!!!!!!!! But I just don't know how you'll get through to him if you've tried so many times before. (By the way what you're asking for is beyond reasonable - I would be asking for a lot more drop-off for instance why should you do most of them?)

IC good luck with the sleeping. No advice from here, I bundle DD up very warmly even when it's summer I feel the cold so badly myself.

Mous ouch you are having a hard time of it! But are you moving to Normandy soon? That's fantastic! Will you be in the same country as friends and family...?

PA to hear about the accidental weaning. I would feel just the same. In fact this happened to a friend, was feeding once per day and the milk just dried up (not pg), she cried about it a lot. If you still have milk, you could reinstgate a feed if you want to? Are you taking care of your lumpy breast? (thinking mastitis can happen when you stop BF suddenly) I feed DD just before bed even though she's just had her dinner.

I bought two of DD's snuggly when she became very attached to it. And I wash them in rotation (but we use balls with pellets inside instead of wash liquid so it doesn't really smell). She loves dropping things deliberately. Especially her snuggly out of her cot. She then cries and cries and cries until we go and give it back to her. And repeat.

Wow she's having a nice long nap,good, she's still grizzly and sniffly. Soc I would be terrified if DD could climb like that! Can she get out fo her cot?!

bethy at gardening in the dark!

SB you have a mighty little man there!

scones not moving just holidays, DF has never seen DD2 (well they skype very well).

BBB I told my mum recently, that if I was working I would probably have left because I don't think DH can "share" the housework. Not That I am saying that is what you have to do. You need to talk about it with him though if you feel like it so he understand how serious it is.
I also pushed DH to do the morning school run (obviously when he is in town) as I was the ONLY mum doing it (but not the only SAHM). Can you scare him to make him understand? i.e. next time you can't contact him, you just don't come back home with the girls and are not contactable either for a few hours.

Soc IC I am not sure the antelop is safer DD2 can push a chair against it to climb on top and then can reach high. I think it is more stable though. scones I was terrified with DD1's climbing (she could get out of her cot at 15 months with her sleeping bag on ), I am completely blaze with DD2 Been there done that kind of way .

mous My dd1 never climbed anything, so dd2 is a bit of a shock to me
IC I may try the other highchair (we have one in the Midlands but have also found dd2 standing in it before...)
at the possibility of dd2 climbing out of her cot!! dd1 never ever did.

I love how dd2 creates extra work for herself . She likes to help me empty the dishwasher as is in charge of cutlery. She will take one piece, walk over to the cutlery drawer, open it, throw the spoon/fork/knife in (she can just reach over the top), close the drawer, walk back to the dishwasher... and repeat. I have tried to suggest to her to just leave the drawer open but she's having none of it
Earlier in the park she was also very busy chasing ducks, pigeons, seagulls, dogs and other children but then burst into tears when THEY came too close to her

PA I have to say the stone weight is from the conversion app (I really don't know about imperial)

mous I'll wave back! Where in Normandie?

BBB I'll have a look at your thread later (probably tomorrow evening when by myself)

sc scary!!! DS can't climb yet, still trying to lift his leg up.

IC nights are fresh here 15 - 17C so DS sleep in a light cotton short sleeves vest, long sleeves light cotton sleepsuit and a 2.5 tog sleeping bag. We're of to the South of France next week and it's much warmer where we're going, so I'm taking 0.5 tog sleeping bag and short sleeves / legs rompers.

Oh yes! Dropping thinks on the floor and waiting for someone (maman?) to pick it up and again, and again... No issues with the loo yet (push away the MN jinx).

As far as I'm aware Abs didn't had a change of name, she just stopped posting. Any news from chinook?

yes, throwing Roo and dummy out of the cot for the millionth time

Luckily our flat isn't very climbable otherwise I think we'd have the same issues. I have to resist shouting at her to get down from the bookcase (from shock) as I know that would probably lead her to fall.

Sleep: Our main problem is the house isn't insulated so the temp drop throughout the night can be a bugger. Last summer we had a linen sleeping bag, but we use a combination of that, a normal sleeping bag, long and short sleeve vests and babygro's (winter only obviously). We're at the long sleeve vests stage atm. At one point it was linen sleeping and nappy, or just vest. Now she's getting nappy curious, the nappy only stage is probably over.

SB Only 2 stone because he's always so big Was a slight over exaggeration on my half.

well I think everyone in AIBU has said it all. Good luck with speaking to him