FEB 2010 Coming on in leaps and bounds and little steps

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Where did our babies go?!
Anywhere and everywhere, the moments our backs are turned!!

Made me think of the biscuits, not exactly sure of what you meant, I got the whole message may be
let me know if it doesn't exist otherwise it will be added into my vocabulary

It does exist, the internet informs me! As I thought, it means to fraternise or mingle with.

BBB Your set up sounds ideal . Wish I could have the same... dd1's current school has fantastic wrap around care but is private, so would swallow up my salary just for fees. The state school she has been offered a place at is also lovely but does not before or after school care, making it difficult for me to work at all...

Well, my current situation is unravelling. The new job would start next Tuesday (!) and it turns out the nursery won't have a place for dd2 until later in the summer (in complete contrast to what they told me last week!). The other nursery where she is on the list cannot take her until she is 18 months in September. Will discuss with dh tonight but both our gut instinct is for me to turn the job down... (Bearing in mind I have another interview tomorrow and can apply for yet another job that's just been advertised)

Anyway... dd2 just sat on our bed beaming at me, trying to put hair clips in her own hair, and looked so adorable I nearly burst into tears

My ideal job would be school times, term time, at a huge salary A friend of mine who's a GP does just that and for part time, term time work still gets paid about 40k! [Wanders off muttering to self why I did not become a doctor... completely disregarding my lack of knowledge of chemistry and physics]

Me too Soc!. And I'd like it to be worthwhile, but not so important that I feel bad at leaving to get one of the girls if needed. And nearby, preferably within walking distance

Sorry your job is unravelling. Are you sad about it, or do you feel OK?

Oh Soc sorry about the job.

Some really interesting thoughts on the whole working lark. I honestly never in a million years thought I'd be a SAHM but my elder sister, who was a SAHM for her first two and then worked when her third came along, tells me I'm very lucky to be able to SAH and just to enjoy it. She says the same as you (plural) have said on this thread, that juggling work and childcare is difficult and stressful (she didn't find it rewarding, as she didn't like her job ) and to avoid it if possible. I'm certainly resigned to SAH for the next 18 months at least, until DC2 is one, but realistically it will be far longer than that - if it's not financially viable to work PT with one child in childcare, it certainly won't be with two.

Then I really worry that by the time I want to return to work, I will be sooooooo out of the loop that I will be unemployable I suppose I have to cross that bridge when I come to it.

I take my hat off to all of you juggling at the moment.

Question - what would you do if you had 5/6 hours to yourself, at home, with no DC?! Which is the fantastic position I have found myself in today. MIL offered to have DD for the day and took her away at 11ish and is returning her at 4.30. I feel that I've wasted the day so far I should have achieved something!!!

Off to do some gardening at least.

In your cas SfT I would rest!

Now, a day off, no DC and no work would mean cleaning :( or just general sorting out crap! And probably household shopping.

Scones I'd eat popcorn and watch Neighbours. Then have a nap. Then maybe a bath. Then feel guilty and fly around the house doing a million things (badly).

Enjoy doing nothing for a bit. You'll be busy soon enough!

Crakey, you've been busy!

I quite agree with all the view regarding SAHM and FT working. I guess it's a try and see situation.

sc sorry to hear your plans may not work.

bethy I've too put some suggestions on FB.

DS is still not sure about his new room at nursery. He enjoys it once there but this morning he didn't want to go through the door. But still no tears

Waves to everybody

It's been really interesting reading about views on jobs. I totally admire anyone who can be a SAHM - I'm not cut out to do it and have motherly guilt over it regularly. I can turn my hand to playing badminton/laminate floor laying/piano playing etc.. but don't find myself able to enjoy staying at home with my gorgeous boys full-time and that makes me very .

Thanks to SB and all for help on facebook. I don't want to choose yet 'cos it's making me smile to look at my options!! PA - DH and I like the sound of your DH!!

There. I've done it and sent an email to say I won't accept the job.

Well done Soc.

It sounds like the most sensible decision, Soc. Good luck with the next interview.

Good decision soc. Good luck with the other interview.

I'm home today with a migraine due to the weather. Time to rest

Must be hard to make a decision soc. Good luck for your interview.

I have been seeing the midwife and I do have diastasis (separation of the abdominal wall). I have been forbidden to do pilates ( yeah! I have an excuse to be lazy!!!). May be some yoga if the teacher is competent.
Well! that explain why my belly balloon so much.
I have some exercises to do for strengthening the other muscles and I have been told off for delaying my smear...

mous poor you, can it be fixed?

I'm having a scan on Friday to see if there is a reason for my periods to be so heavy and irregular (they turn up when they want even under the pill). I had my smear a few month ago (do I get a shiny star? )

Fingers crossed we'll all get fixed.

SB same reasons here but my scan was clear so now I have to do the smear.

Just found this thread about SAHM by choice or accident. Quite a few good tips and reasons. I thought I'll share especially after the last few days comments

Urgh, I have just had the most intimidating job interview ever. One of the guys used to be on a project I worked on and we kicked him off because he never came to meetings... He was more interested in who I worked with and where, rather than my skills for this very different job. While the other panel member asked questions he sat there throwing his pen down and checking his blackberry! It all felt so hostile that I sweated through my jacket... Needless to say I do not expect to be offered the post!

I am baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!!! What have I missed??! Loads to read!!!
DD did a week sleeping through till 5am or 6 ish. Back to 3 wakes last night. Clutches a straw and blames MMR jab.

DD is doing loads of stuff, climbing on sofa etc. They are lovely this age arent they?! (sleep and feeding issues aside!)

SC Yuk. Well, it was probably not as bad as you think and you were probably too good for them anyway.

LBH lovely to have you back

Welcome back, LBH! Sleeping through has been intermittent here, too. DD slept through last night, but we've been having a lot of disturbed nights recently. I'm blaming a combo of MMR (which should be over with now) and the advent of her canines.

Soc, that sounds horrible. I doubt you would want to work with those guys anyway, they sound deeply unpleasant.

Mous, ouch...! Can anything be done?

SB yes, smear. I must get mine done. I'll probably wait until we're back in the UK now, though.

I've just got AF so no luck with the SWI last cycle. And I was so convinced I was pg for almost a week, had really strong symptoms. It must have been psychosomatic.

Abs where are you? Are you okay?

IC - the symptoms are weird. I keep getting symptoms prior to AF arriving too. I reckon that they are PMS symptoms that I never paid attention to in the past but now home in on like mirages of early signs of pregnancy, and yes, partly psychosomatic.

Frustrating they are!

I have just learned what SWI is too, thank god the awful 'BD' seems to have died out.

What was BD, fc?

baby dancing

urgh!