Dec 08 Mums - Snot Beards, Farty Boos and Willy Milk (not how it sounds!) - let the fun continue!

[Beans33]

Here we are x

Do look up Desert Island Discs, Invis. Would be interested to hear your thoughts. He picked nice music, anyway. He's a strange combo of taking himself too seriously/not taking himself seriously. If that makes any sense. Glad you've got some at least interesting options for Plan B. Crikey, it's all such a worry though. For us the big dilemmas will come at 11, though, I guess.

Spot - I think you are both so doing the right thing by pushing. How I wish we could give you the gift of some rest. You must be on your knees. Thinking of you a lot. I just hope and pray you get some answers next week.

That's a very poignant tale, really, about your half brother, Avo. Even though I smiled about the E.

Glad you are still hanging in there, JB! 'Attagirl!

Trace, that sounds exciting about your new house. It looked splendid in the pic. Sorry you are feeling worried about the pills. It must be hard. I agree with Vag, you need to find time for yourself in all this but I do appreciate it's hard. Well, I find it hard anyway. We all get so used to putting others first as mothers, don't we?

There was tons more I wanted to say but I should try to force my eyes closed. I feel disloyal about moaning about my sister earlier. She is a good person. I shouldn't slag her off, it's rubbish.

Have fun chez Beans, Rubes and Kiwi.

Oh Spot, how heart breaking that little B smiled with the feeding tube and is now back to screaming. If the general peads are being clueless might it be worth asking for a referral to a pead who specialises in gastric issues? Thinking of you.

I have been awake since 4.40am when my phone decided to loudly deliver several texts it had not seen fit to process yesterday. Bloody iPhones. They are great mini computers but rather crap phones IMO.

We are off to see the new house at 11. Taking a builder to quote for works. I'm excited as I haven't been there for months but also scared as DH only ever saw it once. I hope he still likes it...

Beans, number three, eek and yeah in equal measures. When are you going to de-coil? I'm still not sure whether I want to go there. LadyT, have I detected a few pro-three utterances from you recently?

Spot: I hope you managed to get some sleep. Poor B. The docs sound a bit clueless, keeping everything crossed for some answers next week.

I'm enjoying all the sibling chat. My older sis and I get on well now (though we don't see each other very often) but we certainly didn't when we were growing up. She's a lovely woman and a great mum, but we are very different.

Need to get moving and clear up, so have good weekends all :).

Yes, Lady, I love my oldest sister enormously. She is a thoughtless twit sometimes, but she also has a huge warm heart and is very generous and much less of a bitch than me!

Spot, it sounds like you are going to hell and back with poor little B. I'm so sorry for you.

Good night's sleep here left the landing light on and consequently didn't get so scared. No wolves. Phew!!!

V glad Rubes and Kiwi coming over as it's a dreary day weather-wise and rubbish for my DDs stuck with me again!!

Thank God for Peppa Pig!

Cat, I would assume what you said about the wind, or that the extended vomiting has traumatised all that upper gastro system so it is sore and painful to feed. Can you tell me is the doctor you are under a pediatric gastroenterologist? If not they need to refer you onto one in London if necessary. Also I'm a little shocked you are only just seeing an SALT now, that would have been the first thing they should have done. Cat I'm so sorry your having to fight this, but believe me pushing and fighting them to sort this out is the best thing you can be doing. this is not right and they need to sort it out. I know its stressful but please keep up the pressure until you are satisfied

Crikey, my phone refreshed to Cat's post last night and didn't give me anyone else's (may have been my mess up but I'll blame the phone.

Invis, I've no idea really. Personally I think the free school though a gamble sounds good. Strong leadership is better than weak leadership, I worked in.a special needs school where the head teacher ran it like a business, but my goodness he made sure those kids and staff had everything they needed to reach their potential.

Bugger I can't think of anything else I've just read and I really need to get on and pack more.

OOOOOHH VAG!!! Look!

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Aaaahhhhhh is on!!!!

the perfect remedy for

Ok, we are setting up operation big bed tonight - wish us luck. Should we stick with the grobag or change to a duvet?

We did grobag to start with and duvet on top. But it was deep winter then. Good luck!!

Evening all, thanks for thoughts re nursery - DH had a long chat with her room leader on Fri and they've said it's really completely normal with a new baby, and they thought the idea about her missing DD2 (sorry, can't remember who suggested it but you're a star!) sounds right, so we're going to send in some more pics of dd2 for her family book, and a dolly to name E that can lie down with her at nap time - she's been sleeping v badly at nursery and acting worse in the afternoons. So hopefully that will be a help to her.

Also thanks vag for the BF advice, have been doing the same boob a few times and she seems to be settling a bit better rather than swapping back and forth too much.

Am rather knackered today so will send big hugs to Spot and the boys and really hope they find an answer to poor B's pains soon, and also to say Yikes must read more carefully, I thought Beans had said she was expecting #3 , and lots of "getting ready in time for new arrivals" vibes to WG, JB and katie :)

oh and ZJ, good luck with the bed! DD is just in her grobag with a bed guard and fortunately hasn't yet worked out that she could get out in the mornings and come to see us, so we still get a lie in. Oh, except for dd2 of course!

HAHA! Not yet! Hee hee. No, on reflection, don't want another. Am exhausted by these two!

It was smashing to see Rubes and Kiwi this afternoon. Such gorgeous teenie weenies. Minikiwi is v v sweet and thought Mr MiniRubes was just gorgeous as well. V independent, but loved his reaction to the singing! DH does it too, Rubes, don't worry! I don't blame him either, Wheels on the Bus is pretty repetitive! I am ready to cry when I hear it too. And Miss MiniRubes is the most chilled baby I've met. Apart from when DD2 scratched her in the face/eye. And it was hardly big tears, just a little moan. Can't say I blame her! I'd have done the same, only more so. What a gorgeous girl!

Both DDs exhausted by it all and both in bed. Although DD1 has decided to start sticking her leg in the air and scream "LEG LEG LEG!" at the top of her voice until I go and push it under the covers again. V irritating. BUT macaroni cheese (special recipe) on the go now, a bottle of beer to hand and life is sweet.

DH return train delayed, so he won't be home til gone midnight. All the more sleep for me. Hee hee!

JJ - that sounds like good advice - I can't remember who gave it either.

Lady - is there good news re Sharm now with resignation? I hope so!

Trace - meant to say ages ago how amazing that house looked - am excited for you!

JJ its only that DS1 really missed DS2 when he was at nursery, and actually still misses him now at school. But he was 3.5 when DS2 was born so could articulate his feelings.

Glad I could help with the feeding. How are you finding settling into life with 2 kids anyway?

I went to the gym today and found the one drawback of my tres low carbs diet. It's not surprising, but I was completely lack lustered for my run. I managed 45 mins but not at the speed I wanted and I only got that long through sheer force of will. On the upside, I have lost just over a kg in a week. I still think the cabbage soup is awesome and if I hadn't joined the gym I think I would do the diet for ages as I think it would lose more weight in a month than exercise. But I have so I'm going to do it on non gym days and eat more carbs on other days.

ZJ I hope the big bed goes well.

Right dinner, I'm starving.

So lovely to see Beans and girls plus Kiwi and Minikiwi this afternoon! What a lovely girls they all are, and lovely house you have too Beans. Toddlerbeanette told me all about Peppa Pig and family - she is very chatty! As is ToddlerKiwi! I think the girls snapped ds right out of his awful mood he was in this morning, as despite the horrid London traffic on the way home, and my cursing it he just grunted all the way and said 'oh wow' repeatedly at all the lights. he was in the best mood. Both also shattered so in bed by 715 - not a peep! We must do it again. Thanks also beans for supper for ds - he was one very satisified guest
Right, in hand and some dinner on the go.

ZJ - good luck with the bed. I went straight to the duvet but it was one of those grobag zip in ones, as he would get out and then stumble (literally) into the gate on his bedroom door, and then couldn't get back in properly. it was Summer though so no issue with him getting cold really. Hope it all goes well.
Sounds like a plan JJ - hope dd settles soon.

How's Spot - well I hope.

Right, dinner

ZJ

Not sure what the ZJ thing is at the end, and also missed your post vag.
Bloody heck - 45 mins running is when you are feeling lackluster??? I'd be celebrating with an all you can eat dim sum day if i ever ran that far! Right, sod the knee's I'm going to start running Glad you like the cabbage soup Vag - I know it can be frowned on, but I swear by it - even when it's done at sort of half arsed capacity like I've been doing - still gets results with minimul - yet yummy results. Well done on the kg's down too - that's fantastic.
We were actually planning on an all you can eat dim sum again tomorrow but dh said this afternoon that he's started losing weight again now that he's back riding to work regularly, so it would be good to not go off track, so I think we are going to take the bikes out tomorrow and have a picnic instead if the weather is ok.

Yummy results? I meant minimul yet yummy effort

Oh and ZJ - sorry I meant that I took him out of the grobag as he tended to get out after a couple of weeks and when he did he couldn't walk properly in it and it was chaos, but I'd probably have left him in it for as long as he stayed in bed!

Yeah but it was quite slow Rubs last week I was feeling quite strong and comfortable at 9km/hr and thinking I could almost up it to 10km then today I had to drop it down to 8km an hour and drop the inclination to 0 because I didn't think I would do the full 45mins. Really though CS, is still good, tonight I had one serving of a light dinner and instead of having seconds I had soup. This batch is a bit salty though I think I put too much stock in, might add some more water. I have made an appointment to see Pedro the 12 year old gym fitness coach for my monthly weigh in and fitness test so hopefully that will show some progress.

Your meet up today Seuss lovely, I loved the photos on FB.

Well so far so (too?) good. She was so excited when we told her she could sleep in the big bed, it's always been in her room and recently she's tried to climb in at bedtime. Cue mental running around and giggling til we had to threaten her that if she didn't have her pjs on she couldn't sleep in the big bed. After milk and a story she tucked all her toys in and lay down with a big grin. 5 minutes later she got up and I had to put her back in, and that was it, out like a light and we've not heard a squeak since. She's wriggling loads so I'm sure she'll fall out soon, but the cot mattress is on the floor so she'll be fine. Long may it continue

Too tired to catch up, but glad the mini meet at Beans' was fun. Night all, back tomorrow x

Mini meet sounds like it was lovely - thanks for sharing, really great to get these pen portraits of the little people!

ZJ - you might get lucky. DS took to big boy bed without a 2nd thought and in fact I think fell out only once. But yes, mental giggling and running around doesn't go away. Don't know what you did with bedding, but I found my two figured out how to get out of grobags and thought it really funny to do it all the time. At least its easier to sneak up and throw a duvet back on.

LadyT - just listened to desert island discs - thanks very much for pointing me to it. I guess its that edge of precipice thing that comes with sentimentality - its the border between searing honesty and foolhardiness. I suspect most of us are pretty sentimental at heart but cover it with liberal lashings of cynicism (I know I do). But it also takes a certain amount of selfcentredness to get away with it..

We've had a bit of a day of it here as DH got a call from his parents this morning to say his mum had had a fall in the night, and was kind of stranded on the floor. A&E came, no obvious crisis, but its part of a bigger issue as she has become less and less mobile in the last year or so (and refuses to go and get checked out properly). Anyway he's up north to see what he can do, prob till monday so he can speak to the GP there etc. DCs been OK about it and we muddled through the day. I think we'll hide out at my parents tomorrow.

Crikey, it's quiet on here!

Glad you listened, Invis. And self-centredness/sentimentality is all good with me. I hope your MIL is improving, it all sounds rather tricky...

The meet up yesterday sounded super!

Spot, am fervently hoping things have improved a bit.

Avo, re:
sounding more amenable to three, I swore that two would be
enough. We can't afford three, particularly if fee paying
schools are needed post age 11. I felt the last pregnancy and birth aftermath pushed me to the limit.
And I wouldn't do it unless I could go to the Lindo Wing again and I have no savings left now.
But having said all that...I am finding DD2 so fab and, well, I just really like children, so you are right in that it has crossed my mind (it is never far from DP's mind)
but I am getting a bit old now and I feel I would be pushing my luck. There are just too many cons. Also, 'twould be nice to be slim again and stay that way. Must crack on!

Pointless whilst here at Mum's though. Having a lovely time but far too much grub!

Well, it's VD tomorrow, girls! DP gave me a couple of nicely wrapped gifts, which is amazing. I hid him a card at hone and bought him the new Nigel Slater book to give to him when I see him. But I am not a massive fan of VD these days. I feel horrid saying this but after DH died it ceased to become a big deal for me. That's not to say I don't love DP, of course. But...oh, I can't really explain.

Happy Valentine's Day to you all, in advance.

Gosh Invis that's all a bit hard. I hope the GP can help adequately with sorting care and social services input etc. Did you have a nice day with your parents?

ZJ any update on the big bed sitch.

we went for a swim and a late yum cha lunch today. DS1 was his usual suspicious self around the food, but DS2 ate his own body weight. He was a bit miffed that as there were three of everything he could therefore only have one of each. I think considering how much we like yum cha its probably lucky DS1 only wants to eat noodles and rice.

Rubes I love that photo.