Dec 08 Mums - Snot Beards, Farty Boos and Willy Milk (not how it sounds!) - let the fun continue!

[Beans33]

Here we are x

Yes great for me! I will drop dh off and be there as close to 2 as I can. Can't wait to see all the lovely girls!

Am going to sulk cos I cant come to beans.

Wish everyone could come!
xx

DH just lol me on an instant message. Gawd I hate lol ing

Its ok Beans I fear if I was to properly meet you all you might realise that I am some Essex chav. Instead of the sophisticat that I pretend to be.

I've been so excited about macaroni cheese for supper and forgot I don't have enough milk. GUTTED! Got Tesco delivery coming tomorrow with loads, but none for tonight. WAAAAA!!

Take away??!

Oh lordy awful sil has FB friend requested me, aarrrgghh

Takeaway defo

Ignore her, Jam!!! I feel a curry coming on. And beer. Hungry. And thirsty, of course!

I am making curry as we speak, lamb jalfrezi, bombay alo and onion bahjis

Oh and totally forgot to go holy cow Arti Dropping E's and porn!

Mmmm curry. DH is wrestling the kids into bed while I consider the menu. I'm thinking lamb rogan josh and a sag aloo. If only there were some decent telly scheduled to go with it.

Come to Beans house Jam!

Cross posted Jam. Yes, I'm so proud. Actually I am being unfair to him. He was adopted by a very cruel couple who showed him little love so it's no wonder he lacks some social skills. When he traced his roots and found his dad was dead. All he got was me and I remember nothing of our father so can offer him none of the knowledge he wants. Yet he is very loyal and keeps in touch and named his daughter after me. I just wish he was a little more chatty and a little less relaxed about showing me porn! We have three other half siblings (we all have the same dad) but only me and him have any kind of relationship so I should be v grateful he makes the effort.

AVo do you have sky atlantic we are taping loads so always have something decent to watch.

Would love to Rubes am actually in London tom but in the mean streets of the East End for a friends surprise b-day party but DH bumped into her in Waitrose this arvo and he thinks he may have given the game away.

Thats a little sad Avo. I worked for someone who we used to say made porn for posh people. It was referred to as art and directed by some major artists so was classed as artful. Think one of them won an award at Sundance.

Really must bathe the children and stop ignoring them.

Oh that's so sweet that your half brother named his DD Artichokes, its a lovely name. Does he have an ok relationship with his ex-wife. It makes you realise that however mad and dysfunctional, our families esp parents are, at least they were not too damaging. Your poor half brother sounds like he was delt a bit of a hard life. Porn might not be everyone's cup of tea but he's trying to make something of himself and support his DD.

Beans your midstream sneaky post cracked me up.

Trace the house thing seems like it is all happening. Without sounding too social workery, how does that make you feel? Also why do you think the doctor gave you a placebo? I know this is all quite hard but you need this time Trace, stop thinking about what work or the consultant think and just be with yourself. You could start having a think about yourself moving and planning that. Oh and 3 valuations wouldn't hurt. Isn't there some association that good real estate agents being to, I can't remember the name. And good on you for cancelling the rude women. They won't improve if they don't lose business.

and no = tipsy ZJ. My bestest friend from uni is here and we are talking council tax. When did we get old?

Curry was tasty.

DD1 keeps talking about the Big Bad Wolf. They've done the 3 Little Pigs at nursery and she's scared poor little mite. It horrifies me particularly because I'm scared of werewolves myself! So wet, the pair of us!

Just watched Cougar Town. Am v sad. Courtney Cox has had too much plastic surgery and looks a little like Janice Dickinson.

Council Tax? We spent an hour discussing schools the other night at a dinner party!

Well no curry here, but i just had 2 bowls of cabbage soup (2nd batch Pubie, I'm converted) and I treated myself to a bit of cheeky carbs, rice cakes with a scrapping of avocado, hommous, alfalfa sprouts and tomato, with loads if cracked pepper. I have to say I am loving eating healthy again. I used to be such a wholemeal lentil head, foodwise. It makes me sad that the worst eating years of my life is when I was pregnant and breastfeeding. Oh well, DS2 is still feeding and showing no signs of giving up, so maybe I can introduce him to some healthy favours now.

Hooray for tipsy biscuits ZJ

Hello everyone,

indith I used to get pulled elbows as a child, so did my younger brother. They'd sometimes go back in by themselves - once after we'd already been waiting in A&E for two hours! I'm not sure if our elbows are shaped funny or whether pulling them once makes them more prone. Climbing on monkey bars or being swung round by the hands used to make mine come out. Hope DD feels better now.

Happy birthday ZJ! Boo to the late present buying. My DH is the same! Hurray for lovely flowers though and lots of .

JJ Nursery sound a bit harsh. It is a time of change for DD1 and perhaps they should cut her a bit of slack. Grrr to your MIL's weight comment. I'm going to have to watch my MIL with that sort of thing with DD. She is quite obsessed with things being low fat etc. She also comments on my weight and buys me tops that are several sizes too big, even though I'm smaller than she is!

vag A rice cake is not a cheeky carb! Cake is a cheeky carb. A rice cake is virtuous.

beans I got DD a book from the library with fairy stories in it and was horrified at how scary they were. The big bad wolf eats little red riding hood and Grandma whole and then gets his head chopped off. The illustrations were enough to give me nightmares!

trace Ooh very exciting about the house. You sound anxious about the new meds though, I'm bit concerned. Might that be a side effect of changing over? Sounds like you have some good friends around, your tea sounded yummy.

How is spot doing? Hope B's endoscopy was sucessful and has given some answers to what the problem is.

I wish we'd had curry now. Maybe tomorrow!

I had to take DD with me to my clinc appointment yesterday and she was so beautifully behaved I was really proud . I bribed had her with boxes of raisins, but she watched as I had all my checks sometimes pitching in with a commentary of what was going on. 'Lady touching mummy's baby tummy' etc. Obviously this wonderful behaviour couldn't last! We went to the library afterwards, she ran off at high speed and was stopped by a kindly old man before she escaped from the building. High ho!

Hope everyone has good weekends. I'm jealous of the meet ups!

Hello everyone so sorry am not going to do personals again but just wanted to say thank you so much for the lovely flowers and wine that awaited me when i got home. You are so so kind, and I am truly touched. It has meant a lot and I wish I could have been MNing while I was there as I've missed youa lot.

Sadly B is still in the hospital and will be there ti lat least Monday. They cancelled his throat op first thing as they decided it wasn't serious enough to warrant the risk of a general anaesthetic and then when we said he had actually got worse since they removed the drip and started feeding him orally again have started on a merry go round of staying in and wait and see.

It's a long story which has involved a lot of arguments today and the worst is that B, other than not vomiting, looks no different today than when he was admitted 8 days ago. He's still screaming noon til night and it's heartrending to see. Esp as during the time that he was more settled while he was being NG fed he smiled for the first time and it was lovely. Then back to the bottle and screamy mc screamy.

So they think he def has reflux as he has stopped vomming since giving him the meds, but are at a loss as to what to do about the pain. They were going to discharge us and we said but what's changed. So staying in and then hopefully an SALT consult on Monday, as they think he's aspirating his feeds. I know they're humouring us because they think we're trouble makers but I am fed up with trying to do the thinking and deduction for them.

I am so tired, haven't slept in days, and will pass out but needed a bit of normality coming home.

On the plus side T seems a lot better and even went to nursery today. His collarbone is still painful but he is in good spirits and not going too mental because of the hospital hopping.

Right, too shattered so def off to bed. I promise when this is all over I will do a proper catch up.

Thanks again for all the support and wonderful presents. If I think about it too hard I will cry and have done enough of that today so will say bonne nuit and a demain. xxx

Oh and sorry to ask, but all you medico tpyes out there (Vag and Trace) and those with medico type DHs (JJ and Rubes) - can you/they think of any reason why feeding through the nose would mean much less pain than bottle feeding (once the meds are rules out as he is on highest dose of everything). The only thing we can think is that because he has trouble breathing and feeding at the same time and so gulps down his feed that he is swallowing way more air and so it is wind that is causing the hours of crying. Could bad wind cause pretty much all day crying?

Oh Spot I have been a bit crap at relaying to dh just now but he reckons yes it may well be that he is crying a lot from colic / trapped wind, that could def do it - hence the nose tube feeding and at least they can rule that out by doing that ifywim. Otherwise stomach irritation etc and things like that (dh had that when he was an infant that went un diagnosed for ages) can cause awful pain. He had to have medication 30 mins before every feed, but I'm guessing they have got ds2 on something similar already. This will end and get better each day as ds's organs develop. At least things will be eliminated (or identified)with the nose tube. poor little fella. dh really sorry but so hard to comment when he hasn't followed it from day dot or examined the lil one plus it's not his area. He can however say that T's collar bone will be good as new within 3-4 weeks of the event so don't worry there. I can't even imagine how tired you must be.

Crikey, you've been busy on here!

ZJ - happy birthday, glad Mr ZJ did enough to be almost dashing Mr ZH. Hope it was a lovely day. I did mean to say, just wait a year or two and DD will not let your birthday pass without cake, candles and oodles of presents. We are going to play pass the parcel on Sunday in honour of my Dad's birthday.

LadyT - I missed the desert Island discs will look it up. I've seen Howard Jacobson speak in person and can imagine he'd be good. On the schools stuff, heard definitely today DD didn't get a place. Apparently they offered to loads of siblings who obviously said yes, so didn't dip into the reserve list at all. There are plan Bs, all potentially fine, but a bit confusing. The likeliest local option is a good school (has its Ofsted outstanding), I know quite a few people who send their kids there and are very happy with it. On the downside its huge - 3 form entry, so nearly 100 kids in reception alone and when we went round didn't really warm to the head. Got the feeling that she runs the place like a benign dictatorship - bizarrely she ran the school tours outside of school hours and was pretty much uninterested in answering questios at all. The other alternative is one of these new Michael Gove free schools - there is a new faith one (of the right faith ifkwim) opening on our doorstep in Sept. Not sure how excited I am about faith schools or the free school programme, but the people setting it up also set up T's nursery, head of governors is very charismatic and dynamic and it could turn out well. But of course it will be brand new, perched in a disused block at the local comp for the first year. There are some meetings with the new head set up in late Feb/March, so will go along and see. They have recruited her from New York and I have managed to track down some friends of friends whose DCs went to her last school and there were definitely strong views not all of them good.

On the siblings thing, I was going to say I mostly get on with mine, although I have just managed to get off the phone after being harangued by my sister for an hour so...

Kiwi - if it makes you feel better, I always read your stuff and really enjoy it!

All that curry talk sounds gooood. We had noodle soup with chard, but somehow DH managed not to really cook the noodles.

JB - I think we had that book - totally terrifying. DD was asking me about the story of Ali Baba and the 40 thieves, but there are way too many dismembered bodies.

Trace - hooray for the farmhouse, that sounds really exciting. And for the rest, wise Vag says it right - I guess try to worry about things that you can't do anything about (like what is going on at work).

All these meet ups are tantalising me. I am actually off work on tues afternoon with the dcs, but I think my mum is going to come round - otherwise would be really tempted to try. Def Def up for an evening meet up sometime.

Spot - cross posted. So sorry you are not getting any nearer to figuring out what is happening - you must be exhausted, some sleep for you sounds good. Will ask my sis as well (another doc) in case she has any bright ideas. Glad little T is on the mend at least.