May 2009 Towards the Terrible Two's

[momino]

Well, here we go again. may this be the start of a thread with lots of positive news and posts [bsmile]!

2 year checks - HV got in touch with us; round here according to the schedule they're supposed to do a 9 month check and then a 2 year check. It's very dull stuff, answer questions...does your child eat/sleep/move properly, are you concerned about anything, how much do they weigh and how tall are they, well done here's your bookstart bag. A didn't have a 9 month check because they had no HVs attached to our surgery, so they just didn't bother.

Hello ladies. Just logged on to see lots of chat.

Ses - so sorry to hear what you are going through. My heart goes out to you ((hugs)).

naps - S still naps every day, 12-2 at nursery or 12.30-2.30 or so at home. He has developed stalling tactics at bedtime (more books, milk, cuddles,...) but is generally in bed at 7.15 but has a tendency to wake anytime from 6am . He has started waking a lot at night and calling out (luckily for "daddy" as he knows i never wake/get out of bed ). He also has terrible tantrums which is really trying.

Our HV called us to arrange Ss 2 year check which is in a few weeks time. I'm planning to use the appointment to see if she can assess DS1s speech too as I am worried about him being understood properly when he starts school as there are still quite a few sounds he can't make.

Anyway time for bed. night all

I knew it- as soon as i said S napped every day like clockwork, he was too giddy to sleep this lunchtime (I remember with DD we started to remove all her soft toys to stop her playing!) and I was determined he did, so I've just had a 40 min battle - first lying him down every time he sat up, then patting/shushing which nearly worked, then finally cuddling him til he fell asleep. Then trying to transfer him to bed (he woke up very cross), then same again until I was sure he was sound asleep that time!. It was like having a LO again .

I think if he starts refusing naps, I will give him an hour quiet time then get him out of bed- I think that's what I did with the others - sometimes they'd sleep, sometimes not. At least that way you get a rest yourself . I also remember then doing the 5 or 5.30 bedtime when they were too tired to stay up any longer...

ses just caught uP and seen your news. So so sorry. Wine and chocolate are good medicine. :( Thinking of you.

oh and meant to say, good to see you again Banned!

Hi everyone, hope you're all having a good weekend.

Hope everyone has had a good bank holiday weekend!

Sorry I've been awol for so long. I keep up with the reading but never seem to manage to post!

Running congrats! Lovely name! Hope alls going well.

Omnom hows things going with you?

Pula Hows your dad doing? I persuaded the Dr to get my ds1's hearing tested as I was worried about his speech. It appears he has glue ear. I have an appointment with SLT soon and they have to do more hearing tests as he didn't want to play ball last time!! Like you I wanted to try and get things sorted before he starts school.

Ses been thinking of you. I hope you had a good weekend and thinking of you this week.

Banned good to 'see you' again. I was wondering how you were.

Stamped Hope all is well with you.

Congrats Woof hope all is going well with you!

We have another one who takes ages to go to sleep. Sometimes ds2 won't sleep unless someone is cuddling him . It's driving me mad. He gets so wound up he ends up headbutting the top of his cot! Plus we've just taken the side of his cotbed, which hasn't helped. (He wouldn't sleep in it last night because he thought it was broken!!!!)

Ds1 is having regular meltdowns over the smallest things. Like he hasn't said goodbye to someone for the fourth time

Ds2 is driving up the wall at the moment. He's not like his brother, won't listen to anyone and has this really cheeky face when he's doing something he shouldn't be! I think they've had too many sweets this weekend, so they've been hyper too! Sweet ban starts tom!

Hi also to Smokey, Momino and everyone else.

Hi everyone,

ses How are you doing? How was your weekend?

muddled Hi Hope your ds's sleep/behave better soon. I'm pretty lucky that C's easy to put to bed at night. It's just naptimes where she needs cuddling to sleep and lately that can take an hour She still seems to need her naps though, because she'll go to sleep easily at night and "only" wakes about 1-2 times anymore.

2y checks Not heard anything from anyone around here, but I remember asking about the 9m check at the time as everyone was talking about it and they don't really do that anymore around here. I presume it's the same for the 2y check Might pop in to baby clinic some time soon to see... Anyway, I've got no real concerns about C. She's pretty much doing the same as her big bro and sis did at her age.

We're all well. Went to Belgium for the weekend, which was lovely. As some of you might know, I've dyed my hair copper. My gm was really funny. She doesn't like it and really let me know I suppose at 92 you can say what you like (especially if you're slowly losing your marbles)

DH and I had a proper grown up time when in Belgium. He had a football tournament just over the border in Holland and it was followed by a slap up dinner and dance thing. So we both stayed in a hotel with the dcs staying at my parents and got drunk and slept in a hotel without little bodies joining us. It was brilliant I did express about a pint in 14h. Goes to show how much milk C still takes.

Right. Big wave to all of you. Hope you're all OK.

Hello all! Thank you for all your continued good wishes. We had a lovely weekend away visiting my brother and SIL in The Lakes. It was a great distraction - didn't bother filling our hosts in on the details of what was going on as there wasn't much point.

Back to earth with a bump though as my follow up appointment is tomorrow. It was originally meant to be today but I postponed it due to a work meeting I couldn't really miss. I decided another day wouldn't make much difference!

Belgina - "proper grown up time" sounds great! I'm sorry but I did at your GM though. I suppose I look forward to being able to get away with saying things like that when I'm (hopefully!) in my 90s!

muddled - we also get lots of banging of the head against the cot. He cries when we put him in there every evening but is normally asleep within 20mins.

Omnom - hope you're doing ok?

Hello Flip, Banned, Woof, Running, Pula, Momino, Smokey and anyone else around

ses, I'll be thinking of you today. X

We're off to see a production of The Tiger Who Came to Tea this afternoon, so I am encouraging my two to burn off as much energy as possible this morning.

Hugs again Ses.

Hello everyone,

Thinking of you ses x

Well no growth and no heartbeat. Bleeding slowed right down so ERPC booked for Friday :(
What I expected really but still trying to get my head around it all.

I'm so sorry Ses. Please look after yourself. X

Sorry to hear this Ses

Ses, I'm so sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourselves x

Ses, thinking of you. Hope you're getting some rest and looking after yourself. xxx

ses Hope you're OK. x

Thank you all for your concern and good wishes. All went fine on Friday really but only after what I think can best be described as a bit of a comedy of errors:

• no Dr had been allocated to do the list of ERPCs so they had to draft one in from another hospital. As a result I got to the hospital as requested at 7.45am but didn't go to theatre until 11.50am! (As a result it didn't matter that DH couldn't get me til later!)
• lost a load of blood during the procedure and have been put on iron tablets for a month as anaemic as a result
• painkillers requested to take home were initially supplied at the wrong strength
• temperature went up after the procedure so they're worried I might have an infection so I had to wait around to see the Dr and now also have a week of antibiotics

Physically I didn't feel great until today and now today I'm feeling almost back to normal physically the emotional side has hit me like a bolt out of the blue. I should have realised it would come but hey, nothing to be done but put my best foot forward and try and move on!

Sorry for "me" post, hope you're all doing ok.

Ses, don't you worry about "me" posts. It really is one of those times where you need a bit of memememe. I didn't realise you went for a ERPC. I thought it was a scan + follow up. Take some time off to let yourself recover from the operation. Sending you some non MN-y hugs {}

Thank you both. I suppose I should allow myself to wallow a little bit but I know ultimately it won't really achieve anything and I just need to move on.

I'm back at work tomorrow as I didn't want anyone there knowing what was going on. I was naughty and phoned in Thurs and Fri last week with the excuse that DS was ill
Not got too busy a day scheduled tomorrow though so will try and take it easy.

Oh Ses. Biggest hugs to you. Allow yourself time to grieve and get through this. It dawned on me yesterday that I should have been 6 months pregnant by now with a huge bump and I burst into tears and spent all morning thinking about my horrid weekend in February again. I know I am in a lucky position again, but I'm not counting any chickens just yet. I lost a fair bit of blood back then as well and wasn't discharged as my BP was stupidly low, and I was put on iron too. I must say I think it did the trick, but (TMI) it does make your poo black and very hard, so do drink loads of water, plenty of fruit and veg etc. My GP then signed me off work for a month, which was nice in a way, but I guess cracking on with things sometimes does take your mind off things. The downside was that I had to go through it with my direct line manager and I can't stand her, so that wasn't fun. Difficult to say with a toddler, but try and take it easy - and sometimes a bloody good cry helps xxx

I went to my brother's wedding party at the weekend. Most odd. There were 2 of my exes there, one of which I haven't seen since about 1996, and the other was just before I met DH. They both looked bloody awful, and (here's the best bit) their current partners looked like right dogs dinners, hahaha! His wife made no effort with me or DH, my parents or my other brother - I had to find her to say hello, and then to say goodbye, which wasn't too difficult, as it was just a BBQ at a gastropub. Whatever... A strange day really. They got married in secret 2 weeks ago, and they had a book made of their pics. I have no qualms in saying my new SIL really is a bit, well, odd!

We're off to Hong Kong next week for just under a week, M is going to my parents. I am giddy with excitement. We're flying Virgin and I've already looked up what I want to watch on the plane! DH is planning to get sozzled on the flight and then pass out to deal with jet lag. Harumf....

Ses agreed no apologies needed for me posts ever let alone at this time! Hope you are doing ok today. Agree with woof that you do what you need to get through this and I hope no one minds me speaking for them but we are all here if you need us xx

Storey for not nc'ing further - one handed typing not easy! Hello to all though.

ses, no need for apologies at all. Please take care of yourself and don't push yourself too hard/expect too much right now. Thinking of you.

Sorry for lack of catching up recently - finally made it to see my parents! The DDs and I stayed for a week helping out and entertaining as much as we could. Think mum found it helpful but tbh I'm shattered now and glad to be home again in some ways. Although I hate knowing that it'll be months before I get to see them again, I really wish we were closer geographically. But not too close, obviously

Waves to everyone. Will catch up properly soon, promise!

Oh thank you ladies! There's not many people that know in RL what's been going on so it's good to be able to offload on here.
I went back to work today and had a fairly easy day. By the end of the day I was just a bit worn out by putting on the pretence of everything being fine. I just need to be careful not to bring the bad stuff home for DH to put up with. I might try and organise a baby sitter for Friday evening so we can go out for a meal together or something.

Woof - you're right about the iron tablets and I'm a bit inclined that way anyway with my thyroid problems. Thankfully I'm an odd type that like eating prunes...!
Your brother's wedding does sound a strange affair! Each to their own I guess and hopefully they're pleased with how things went.
Your Hong Kong trip sounds great btw!

running - hope everything's going ok with you and your gorgeous little family?

Flip - glad you managed to get to your parents. I know what you mean about the distance. DH's parents are too far away in Ireland and mine are sometimes a bit too close being a 10min drive away. I need to appreciate having mine so close by even if they drive me mad sometimes!

Anyway, thanks again for your support guys and I hope you're all ok

Ses I'm so sorry love, I had a similar experience right before we got pregnant with Greer and it was utterly horrible. Hope you're getting lots of love & support at home? x