May 2009 Towards the Terrible Two's

[momino]

Well, here we go again. may this be the start of a thread with lots of positive news and posts [bsmile]!

stamped - that's so sad, and so much for everyone to deal with. Hugs to you all.

pikachu - hugs to you too.

cupboard - hope things continue to go smoothly.

woof - quiet congratulations.

waves to everyone else!

Everythings is fine here. ILs mammoth visit over in just a few days...it's been very very tough. A's birthday was good though, except that she insists that she's now 3, not 2! 24 weeks pg now, and feeling physically fine - just absolutely shattered.

Sorry for short update, will try to come back when I have more time and am less tired.

HI all. Am 'working' as usual, but on here quickly to give the following messages:
Stamped, I've absolutely nothing to say except I'm so, so sorry. You and your DC are in my thoughts and am sending you massive virtual hugs. I wish we were closer and I'd give you a real one. x

All, thank you for your feedback on my dd1. we do try to praise good behaviour and ignore bad but can't when she hits out or starts damaging things. That's just unacceptable and dangerous. We try to remove her to a room but she keeps coming out. so we silently put her back in. then she usually hits me (or tries to). When she has calmed down, we try to find out why she feels this way, she's so frustrated/angry but she can't seem to tell us. In a way, I'm comforted that perhaps we're not alone in this problem?

Hi all, hopefully you've seen facebook but baby boy arrived after a fast and furious labour at just after 7 this evening. 9lbs exactly and only g&a and not a stitch. I look a bit like this :o and am too wired to sleep hance mn'ing and fb'ing! Pics to follow soon.

Stamped am so so sorry thinking of you all xx

Momi- you are definitely not alone! My DD sounds very similar. As TMM finds, it is worse when she is tired but sometimes there is no real trigger apart from frustration about the situation and DS1 often gets the brunt of it when I'm otherwise engaged (a hit or a kick, or spitting ). Sometimes I think we are not consistent enough in how to respond and maybe we need to stick to the naughty step and stick with it. But it would be useful to hear what they say on your course.

flip - here's hoping the next few days go quickly for you and that you feel better soon - it's not easy being pg with 2 LOs, so hope you get some rest time soon.

running, congrats! well done! I'm so, so happy for you. go get rest. x

stamped sending you virtual hugs. What a terrible thing to have happened . How proud you must be of your child though. Sending you {hugs}.

running congrats. Sounds like all must have gone well seeing that you were on fb in no time

smokey lol at your db taking cannabis . Hope it does work for him and hoping he gets better soon. Glad the twins are back to normal :)

ah, Smokey, missed news about your DB. so glad he's in the all clear. Hope he's feeling better. Glad twins are better as well.

Fi sneaks in after going awol for a very long time

Thank you for all your wonderful birthday messages on FB :) sorry i've been off mumsnet for so long.. I've been trying to keep up with everyones news on FB as my non work computer time has been very limited which has meant I've not made it on here. I know i'll have missed heaps :(

HUGE Congratulations to running on your baby boy!

I'll do my best to catch up, figure out who's who, fill you in on what been happening in RL to keep me off the computer & wish all may 2009 little uns that have turned 2 already a belated very happy birthday xoxox

missed a whole page of posts, sorry, wasn't ignoring people...

flip glad you're Ok and that you mamoth il visit is over

cupboard glad you and your dh are managing to work things through

pika sounds like your dd1 is having trouble. Have you checked with school? Any bullying or anything?

running glad to hear you had a good labour

Belgina, can't believe you took theDC's camping on your own ! not sure whether your brave or mad (or both )?

Hi flippin, hope you're feeling well.
Hi Cupboard and anyone else I've missed. I really must be getting back to work or it will be another 1am bedtime. yawn.

smokey - I missed your DB news earlier. Great to here he got the all clear and is well enough to travel too . You must be very happy and relieved that he's responded so well to his treatment.

Well I've got through the first few pages of this thread and sending a lot of {{hugs}} to belgina pikachu smokeybacon muddleddaizy & everyone else I've yet to catch up on on the next pages for your really rough times you've had so far this year x

I think i've worked out who's who now :) & stamped sending more {hugs} your way too.. such an awful thing to happen :(

I'm off to bed now.. but will make sure I pop in tomorrow after the school run :)

Oooooh running!! Big congrats. My finger rapping worked!! Just off to fb to check.

Good to see flip and banned too. We just need grumpy to put in an appearance here now!

Wriggly baby on lap so just a quick visit for now.

Grr I wanted to pop on much earlier this morning for update you all on whats been going on in RL.. but darn BTinternet has been bouncing the emails with large attachments of images I've been trying to send to Knit magazine UK all morning! What should have been 6 simple emails have now turned into 10 and very confusing for my poor brain to work out which files needed split again!

I'm out this afternoon & DS has friends round for tea tonight so won't get a chance to pop back on here until after the DC's are asleep.. So I'll fill you in tonight :) see you later x

lovely to see you banned

Thank you all for your hugs, they were much appreciated

I'm feeling a lot stronger today. Just ... life, it sucks, sometimes, eh?

Well both DC's in bed and hopefully soon asleep.. DH needs the laptop shortly to answer questions about the bike bling stuff he's selling on ebay so I'll do my best to update you all a bit now..

Where to start?! Hmm.. OK start with our Nova Scotia plans.
The beginning of December we got an email from Nova Scotia Immigration saying they would support our community identified provincial nominee application and would be issuing us with that all important certificate of nomination so we could proceed to the 2nd stage of the application process. Huge celebrations ensued that we'd passed the first hurdle & then we knuckled down and ordered the police search certificates we needed to send the 2nd application off to London.

The police certs came and we sent off our 2nd application pack to London 31st Jan. Currently we are still waiting to hear any news from them :( but apparently according to the Britishexpat friends I know online they're currently taking about 6months to even acknowledge your provincial nominee application so we'll hopefully hear soon. We're hoping they'll request us to get our medicals done when we hear from them as they usually only ask you to do that if they've decided they want you :)

Getting through that 1st stage with NS immigration was a whole lot quicker than we thought.. so that meant I had to knuckle down get designing & knitting to get my online pattern business going. We really need my patterns to be bringing in a regular income to help our transition with jobs etc when we go so basically my free evening time has been spent designing, knitting samples & desk top publishing the pattern PDF's & dealing with queries from my online pattern testers. I now have online stores on Patternfish, Folksy & Artfire in addition to my exisiting Ravelry & Etsy ones. Keeping up with re-stocking/re-listing and emailing out PDF's when a pattern sells on Folksy, Etsy & Artfire is a challenge. I love my ravelry & patternfish stores the most as they sell the patterns and provide the customer with instant download when they purchase.. so I don't have any emailing to do at all! :) I plan to take July & August off designing to re-charge my brain cells and knit just for fun some patterns of other designers that i've been eyeing up for ages. I'm really looking forward to it & the thought of those months off is giving me just the nudge I need to get all the shawl designs I've been working on recently finished by then.

What else.. we had a rubbish time illness wise pretty much from Christmas onwards. DH was really poorly over Christmas/new year with bacterial sinusitus, horrid cough & high temp so I felt like a single parent for most of the holidays. One by one all of the rest of us got the high temp/cough bug in Jan/feb & DS then brought home the D&V bug which he shared with us all.. again one after the other. Over easter DS & G were on AB's again for chest infections sigh. I fortunately avoided pretty much everything except the D&V bug.. but i'm exhausted from being nursemaid for pretty much 4months off and on & being up until all hours with my designing. Touch wood since the beginning of this term we are keeping fit and well! Hopefully we'll stay that way too :)

I'm trying to think what else has been happening.. but nothing else leaps out at me atm.

Right DH needs the laptop.. so I'll have to go now but I'll hopefully get back on later ;) x

Smokey - currently got Ben and Holly on as I type! Great news about your brother!

Stamped - I guessed who you were straight away. How terrible, sadly becoming more and more common in that area of the country. I hope your DD is bearing up. Hugs.

Banned - great to hear from you! I've been AWOL for ages too, so don't feel too bad! I've also namechanged - go on up to see who I was! Here's hoping you her from the powers that be soon...

Running - big congratulations! I tried to post on your facebook wall but my stupid phone wouldn't let me. Love the name!

I've spent the last few days at my parents to take my mum to hospital for some radiotherapy sessions. My mum can still be a moo, though, she just goes on and on and ON about DH's parents about how much she hates them. It caused a horrendous argument in the car, with M starting to cry. Her christening is in July and I am absolutely dreading it. My mum will not listen to reason. Gah. Today she burst into tears after we left hospital saying that she's irritable because of the treatment and this looming prognosis, and I'm so horrible and all I do is blame her for everything, all she wants is support, etc etc. Call me cruel, but she's always been picky and crabby, and her prognosis is excellent. I am cruel, I know, but sometimes I just don't understand why she bears such petty stupid grudges. Anyway, my brothers are doing bugger all to help out. I call every day, have offered nursey advice, advising which creams to get to help her skin during the radiotherapy, take her to hospital, etc etc. One brother who is getting married in a couple of weeks calls about every 2 weeks - none of us are invited to the wedding, except some poxy BBQ a couple of weeks after, but of course the sun still shines out of his arse.

Sigh. Rant over. Sorry.

I've booked an early scan for tomorrow. NHS won't give me one so we are going private. Just want to see if there is a heartbeat, there wasn't one last time, and I'm so bloody nervous and terrified about it all.... Keep your fingers crossed for me......

Woof - hope all goes well for you tomorrow. I know that feeling of dread before a scan but also the need for early reassurance.

Stamped - how dreadfully awful. Must be so hard to see your DC go through something like that but quite rightly you should be very proud.

Running - congrats :)

Hello everyone else and sorry for not NCing further but in the middle of stuff here. I've not posted that I got a BFP just over 2wks ago. Understandably worried with my mc history. Anyway, this evening I've started bleeding (bright red and crampy) so not holding out much hope. Will try and get a scan tomorrow at the EPU.

Oh Ses You poor thing. Have fb'd you. Thinking of you tonight and I hope you get an appointment first thing. Take care and try and rest xx

Oh ses, I'm so sorry. Try not to worry too much and wait for a scan. Sending lots of hugs. Xxx

woof I knew instantly who you were as your description of your previous name was very memorable :) Good luck tomorrow x

Sorry to hear your mum is giving you a hard time atm. It's always the nearest that cops it.. or that's how it's always been for me. My mum has been through colon cancer & chemo 3 times in the last 15yrs & she's been clear for the longest time yet.. 5yrs now. She still gets very weepy and maudlin before every check up (let alone what she was like when she was having the chemo). During her chemo I'd get frustrated with her constantly asking me "i'm not going to die am I?" it's not the kind of question I really wanted to dwell on & she drives me nuts when she starts asking it again when she gets a sore throat or a tummy bug. You're not being cruel at all! it's hard bearing the brunt of the emotional backlash of criticism of everything around them.. I think they do it so they don't have to think about what they can't face.

ses :( take it easy tonight & will keep my fingers crossed you get an appointment tomorrow x

Thinking of you ses x

EPU won't see me til Monday :(
They say they wouldn't be able to guarantee a clear answer at 6+2.
Still bleeding - fairly constant and not quite as heavy as a period. Boobs no longer sore this morning so really not hopeful. I'll try a HPT later maybe.
Do I stay home alone and mope or try and go into work?!

FX for Woof and hoping that'll be some good news to make me :)