May 2009 Towards the Terrible Two's

[momino]

Well, here we go again. may this be the start of a thread with lots of positive news and posts [bsmile]!

ooh twinges sounds interesting running - let's hope your LO is ready to come out as I know you're ready for it!

Well done TMM and Dandy - very impressive.

I went to see my dad on Saturday. He is doing well - not allowed out of the house (apart from walking practice) for a couple of weeks. He has no memory still of the period from the week before he went into hospital up to a couple of weeks ago. He just had a very strange dream where people who were looking after him or visiting him would keep coming in and out of it! They think it was a rare allergic reaction to the chemo drug, so they are still deciding what treatment to try next, but he will go back in 2 weeks time to start something.

Hello

I haven't been here for a while, so huge apologies. I've name changed to his rubbish name, because more and more people were realising who I am and I discovered quite a few work colleagues are on here, us it's very similar to my twitter name. Anyway, I used to be scrunched up bits of pig meat in phallic shapes and lumps of squashed potato....

I'm catching up with what's been going on with you all. I'm now up to the beginning of April - have just left reading the 'Hywel' conversation (my Dad's name!)

Hopefully back later, or tom pm when I am at a meeting in Macclesfield. No idea where that is. Up somewhere

this not his, and as not us. Ggggrrrr.....

woof !

Me again!

Running - just thinking about Welsh boys names. My brother's middle name is Elwyn, my Grandad was Mervyn, and I have an uncle Irfon. I know a Huw as well. Here's hoping the twinned are turning into something more!

Pika, my god, you really have been through the mill with your Dad. The poor man. Sounds like things are more positive now.

Everyone else I've kind of been catching up with on FB. I've had a hard few months, the miscarriage knocked me for six. I was left anaemic and was exhausted, and having to deal with M wasn't much fun. Mum is now halfway through her radiotherapy and is being remarkably upbeat about it all. She told me when all the dates were and I emailed my brothers saying let's take it in turns to take her, and they both came up with excuses - living too far away, too busy, blah blah blah. (smokey how is your brother doing?) Anyway I'm heading down this weekend to spend some time with her and take her to a few sessions and drop the bombshell that I am the duff again.

Yes, you rread correctly. 6 weeks tomorrow. We both can't believe it happened so quickly. My periods returned to normal pretty much a month after my ERPC, so I had 2. My mum thinks it best that I should wait a good 6 months, and grieve, and get fit and healthy, but I'm not a spring chicken (39 in a couple of months) and RL friends who I know who have had mc's actually got pregnant quite quickly after. I also remember smokey saying something about it too - your words stuck with me! Anyway, no-one in RL knows yet, as I am actually terrified, but secretly hopeful. We have a big tree on the side of our drive with a nest in quite high up. I found a little eggshell on the ground and DH reckons its a good omen. Plonked. Sweet though. Still, I'm at this nursey conference oop morf tomorrow and Friday so not quite sure how I am going to avoid the booze. I can't give the old antibiotics line as there's actually only a few you can't drink on, and if I was on them I'd be pretty poorly. Hm. Any suggestions?

So, big waves to you all, and I really am going to try and say hello more often. I'm definitely up for a big meet up again. South bank area has a big charging about area, where we took them to the swings last time?

Good to chat again (probably hay fever, but still)

God I HATE this predictive spelling on this bloody iPad. Twinning is meant to read twinges, FFS.

Plonked? Oh bloody hell. STOPPIT! I meant plonker.

I keep re-reading my post. I give up.

woof- congrats on your pg and hope everything goes smoothly for you this time - sounds like you have had a tough time. I don't think there is anything wrong with ttc soon after a mc - it's up to the individual - it was all i wanted to do after mine.

As for an excuse for not drinking, one i've used before is that I'd been drinking the previous night and was really hungover and just couldn't face a drink - it worked because they knew i was a lightweight and that i never did "hair of the dog" .

woof Nice to see you. It took me a while to work out who you were until I read that you'd had a misc and then it clicked. Great discription of your old name So glad you've already conceived again. 6 weeks! Yay!

TMM Congratulations about your election. Wow. I've seen your pictures on fb and you look fab in you councillor outfit. I didn't know they excisted!

pika So glad your dad is doing better now. I hope he'll go from strength to strength now and that they can find an alternative treatment for him.

running How are your twinges Have they turned into something more exciting yet?

Here we're all OK. Claire is now officially a 2yo. What happened to my baby! She got a trike for her birthday and her party will be on Friday as that's the day all her toddler friends are out of nursery etc... and I wanted a weekday so I didn't have the big ones around, IYKWIM. It'll be a Peppa Pig party of course, considering she's such a big fan :)

In terms of TTC. I don't really know what's happening to my body. I think a visit to the GP and possibly a referal is needed. After my misc I had about 1.5m of no bleeds and then for the last 3 weeks I've been continuously spotting. Actually I had 1 very light period 2 weeks ago. It stopped and then a few days later I stopped spotting and I still am. Not sure what's going on hormone wise, but my system has been well and truly confused by the miscarriage. I'm testing negative, so I don't think anything's got left behind from the miscarriage. The way things are I suspect I'll get another May baby and I really wanted a closer gap

I hope everyone is going well and that all new 2yo are having a brilliant time at their parties

Woo hoo! Well done woof

Thanks for the comments about the outfit. I am rather ambivalent about it but don't want to poke fun at it because of the traditional aspects which are so important to some people. I was just a little shocked by it all!

Hello. Sorry no exciting news - trying to distract myself from uncomfortableness and general grumps so...

Woo hoo woof fab news :o I used the 'too hungover' excuse before too and also 'on a diet' or just order things like tonic and with no gin in it and fake drunkenness :) I sincerely hope I am not twinning by the way - although I did get asked by a random old lady if I was having twins when in town yesterday

belgina yes get yourself to GPs Happy birthday to C

dandy happy birthday to H for yesterday as well

mitfords I do love your expression in your pic - to me it says something in between 'what have I let myself in for' and a Joey from Friends style 'looking good' :) I hope the first meeting went well.

Right off for a wander around the supermarket with my Mum. This morning's excitement has been cleaning the inside and out of downstairs' windows, mopping floors and dusting skirting boards which reminded me of our threads this time two years ago :) I can report that I did let you all down however by not wearing a housecoat.

Hello to anyone else reading hopefully I will be back soon with baby related updates :)

Sending birth vibes your way, running. WRT that photo, I did do a couple of "I'm raving I'm raving" type poses with the white gloves but I did get some strange looks.

Bollocks. Just wrote a big long post and the blimmin' internet went down as I hit the post message button. Grrr.

Woof fantastic news, sending sticky LO vibes your way

Running sending labour vibes and sympathy your way

Pika great news on your Dad leaving hospital - how is he doing?

Maid at raving photos!! I'd like to see a copy of those

Belgina get thyself down to a GP

Hello Dandy Momi and everyone else.

No great news from Cupboard (I must get a new name...). DH are together and working things through

Going to the GP tomorrow, have been putting it off for a while. My toes have been pins and needle-y for about a month now, it's getting annoying. And I am finally admitting to myself that all is not as it should be with my pelvic floor (sorry is TMI). It's stoopid - I've had 3 babies but I'm still embarrassed about going to the GP about it. Hey ho.

When I said 'no great news' I meant that nothing exciting is happening, not that things aren't great

hi all!
Woof, so happy for you. take care of yourself.x
Belgina, echoing the others: a GP will help you with the answers.
HI TMM, Dandy, Pika, Cupboard (been awhile ), running, hope you're ok. everyone else hi!

I'm enjoying seeing all the birthday photos on FB. our little ones are 2!
had a very difficult week and weekend with dd1. anyone know any good books or advice for stopping tantrums in 5 year olds? we just can't control our 5 year old's tantrums. Naughty step, charts, stickers, bribes, taking away things, etc haven't worked.

Luckily, I've been referred to a course starting Fri, 'time out for Parents' parenting course at the local Children's centre. I hope it gives some good insight as we're at our wit's end. what will she be like as a teenager? the horror.

Cor, i've no idea Momino. We're struggling with the same problem to be honest. People go on about th terrible twos but in my experience the tantrums just keep getting worse. I've said before I think that we have a calm down tent that he can use if he feels himself getting angry. I've also moved some of his toys upstairs to his room and i'v encouraged him to get some alone time when he starts displaying his temper.

I've noticed a correlation between tiredness and tantrums so I've adjusted his bedtime which had drifted to 8pm. He is getting a little better. I also try and make sure we have some time on our own which he seems to enjoy.

It's blooming hard though. I'd love to hear what works for others.

momi sounds like your dd is hard work at the moment. What's worked best for us has been ignoring the tantrum and focussing on good behaviour + recognising triggers and engaging in the distraction method when a tantrum is visibly brewing, the more surprising the distraction, the better. After a while the tantrums get shorter and then dissapear alltogether, but it does take patience and nerves of steel and a thick skin when you're out and about :)

All well here, period has properly arrived now. Still need to see GP I suppose, just finding where to fit it in. We had a busy few days, I stupidly decided to take the dcs camping on my own + organised C's b'day party on the same day as we were leaving. I haven't been so stressed in years!! It was cold and windy and the big 2 were being a couple of miserable so and sos. It's over now though and I can relax again and have as much as I like (we had no camping stove )

hello all
am one of you but have name-changed for privacy reasons so I can post this. I'm not giving clues, so if you work out who I am (and feel free to ask me privately on FB/email), please keep to yourself!
Feel very sad today. A few days ago there was a murder that was in the news. A teenage child was murdered. It turned out that I'd been in the very spot it happened just hours before the murder.

Then today I got a call from the school. The child who was murdered was the elder sibling of a child (we'll call them Ben) in my child's class. The school didn't know that Ben would be returning to school today, and apparently he was speaking to his classmates about his sibling's death. So the class teacher spoke to them, and we were being phoned to warn us.

My child came home and wanted to talk to me about it, as they felt very sad. They said they'd been chosen as one of 3 special buddies picked to look after Ben as they are his good friends and are very kind. They are to play with him, give him time alone if he wants, listen if he wants to talk but not to ask questions. Feel very proud of my child for that but despondent. Feel my child and his/her class (who are only 5/6 yo) has had to cope with so much. Last year their class teacher died halfway through the year of cancer and they had 4 teachers in total, and another classmate's baby brother died of breathing difficulties. Another child is severely disabled and was removed from their parents because of neglect. My poor child is already well aware of the fragility of life

Just needed to share that. Could do with a virtual hug please

I am sending a huge virtual hug. Happy to chat if you feel it would help. What a horrid thing to happen. I hope the school will be proactive in supporting your dc too, such a lot of bad news for little ones. You can have a virtual kiss too. X

settled what an awful thing to have happened. So so sad to hear of a child's death and truly terrible to have it taken away unnecessarily. Your DC sounds very lovely to be chosen as a special friend. But what a lot to deal with for anyone especially on the back of the other events too.

running come on!!! We're getting impatient you know!!! I need to see some lovely scrunchy newborn baby pics soon. Thinking of you (and checking constantly on FB for updates!).

woof big congratulations! How lovely for it to have happened so quickly. My theory, alluded to by your good self, holds strong then! Sticky vibes coming your way. Do watch Ben and Holly BTW? Was Gaston the inspiration for the name change?

momi we still have the odd big tantrum from DS1 who is nearly 6. I try try try to remove him to a different room and ignore. Then when all is calm again talk to him about why he acted like that. But its so hard, especially when you think they should know better by their age. Do share any wisdom from your course!! I sometimes think they should be obligatory for all parents.

cupboard actually it is great news that you and your DH are giving things a go. I hope you manage to work it out. And fingers crossed that your pins and needles thing is sorted out soon. Did you have a new nanny recently too? Ours is working out pretty good so far. She only comes one day a week as that is all we can afford but am working out ways to increase her hours so we can keep her till I go back to work.It will mean taking R out of nursery sooner than planned but thats no great loss as we would have had to take him out anyway. Do you use nannywage.co.uk or something like that at all? Its a minefield trying to work out pay, holidays and so on. We need her OFSTED registered too so we can use my vouchers to pay her too.

pika glad to see your dad is improving. Chemo sounds like an horrendous process, its hardly suprising there are strange reations to it.

DB said his felt like he was tingling all the time during the daily doses and that he could feel the chemicals in him. The nurses "advised" (am sure its not official advice tho) to smoke cannabis. He said it helped! Anyway, the good news is that he was given the all clear 2 weeks ago and the even better news is that he is over here for a visit too.

Now who have I missed?? Mitford Maid? Hmm not speaking to you right now you... you...... Swansea supporter!!

belgina happy belated birthday to C. Oink oink.

dandy similarly happy belated birthday to H. Def up for a meet up. Could prob do London as will deposit some of my brood with others and come down. Have you worn the t shirt, BTW?

The poxy twins have recovered well. T's head was covered. Looked nasty but its over now, and I hope thats it for them as they got quite nasty doses I think. We are just trying to get them to sleep 7 to 6(ish) and dropping the "dream feed". Varying degrees of success. WOuld be easier to deal with if R was sleeping through but he's regressed. To be fair to him though he is now on a bottom bunk so its a BIG move for him and he is only 2. He is super clingy to me at the moment. He has always been a bit of a mummy's boy but I only have to be out of sight for 2 seconds and he is on the hunt for me.

He also takes a chat pill daily. He never blardy shuts up!! But he is adorable. So I forgive him just about anything. Except chucking shoes at small babies.

SOrry if I have omitted anyone. Big love to you ALL.

thanks Mitford and Smokey

I don't want to go into details here as is national news item but private tragedy, but the circumstances of the death are so utterly depressing that is makes you despair. The poor, poor parents and his poor, poor little brother.

Hugs stamped what a sad sad sad situation to deal with.

stamped- that is a lot for your DC to deal with, poor thing. Sending out virtual hugs to you both.

momino - I could benefit from the course you are attending! My DD (a year older than yours) is scary sometimes and I don't know what to do apart from send her to her room to calm down - she gets so angry and lashes out at DS1 and others. Once I tried to go into her room and she pushed the door in my face with such force - luckily I put my arm out, but if it had been DS1 or DS2 they would have been seriously hurt. She has also started wetting herself daily and nightly sometimes - sometimes I worry she's not happy and that us shouting at her about her behaviour doesn't help .

I won't go into all my concerns about DS1s behaviour and development or i'll be here all night, but i plan to ask my HV when they come to do Ss 2-year check next month.

smokey - well done on encouraging the DTs to sleep all night but just a shame R has you up instead . S would love to sleep in DDs bottom bunk and climbs in it every evening and pulls the duvet on, but it's quite high off the ground, but he is doing well in his own bed. He is very clingy too - he spends the same amount of time with me and DH each week (we both work 4 days) so I get frustrated about him being clingy to me and not him (although it is nice to be popular )

cupboard - I am glad you and your DH are working things out, and also that the new nanny is working out well.

Has everyone seen runnings news on FB