Sept 08 - No no no, ME do it!

[CappuccinoCarrie]

Shiny new thread for Christmas!

I don't know about Ocado being free (Ocado don't deliver round here), but Waitrose is. Although Ocado did do a thing where you paid a one off yearly fee and could have as many deliveries as you wanted as long as the shop was over a certain amount.

I don't quite know how Hopefully does so much tbh, she puts me to shame I tell you

and me!!!!

I thought Ocado was Waitrose?

oh my goodness, hopefully's to do list is mad!

How the f**k does she find the time! C would have trashed my crafty things 10 times over by now. Am seriously impressed.

RMCW 30 hours a wk with one child? Piece of the proverbial.
I work a 40 hr week and DP does more than that. Not saying 'aren't we great' but a 30 hr week is in effect a 4 day week, leaving your 'beaver leader' with 3 full days to do stuff. More than me and we cope.

mrsa hmmm...I hadnt thought of it like that.

I will help anyone if they ask...I just get a bit fed up when people assume I sit around all day or wander around the house like a character from the Waltons!!!

Off to london this weekend weather permitting!

RMCW sorry if I sounded a bit harsh on your friend last night. I realised I don't actually know her set up so it's unfair to judge. Her LO may have SN or there may be other circumstances.
Am quite grumpy atm. Expecting af to turn up anytime soon, expect to not be pg, and expect to have to wait another 3-4 weeks before I ov again. Sigh. It'll be our 6th month of trying next cycle so the doctors is looming.....

mrsa Its ok...her LO doesnt have SN and sleeps a hell of a lot better than my 2 do!!

Hope af doesnt arrive. Surely 6 months isnt that long? (it must seem like an eternity to you I know) It took me 10 months to get pg with ds1 xxxx

RMCW thanks for the comments and I know 6 months isn't that long - it took us 12m to conceive C. But that was random hit and miss and this time round I've been charting my temperatures etc, and it's clear I ov very late on the cycle (day 24/25), so that was probably the reason it took 12m (so I thought). Now I know when to swi, we should have a much better chance but.....no af yet but feels like it's on it's way.

I'm on the charters anonymous threads and most people seem to be moving onto ante-natal threads leaving me behind.
I'm just 'mememe' atm sorry.

C plays with her toys so lovely and I would just love her to have a brother or sister to play with. She told me this morning the cat was her best friend, which made me so

If anything happens to DP or I, she'll be all alone.

God, af must be on her way, that sounds so depressing.

Look look look: !!!!!!!!

RMCW if it's any consolation, I feel the opposite. When I went to look at schools with DS I was getting myself pissed off with all the teachers who kept saying "oh we get the mums to come in and help with cooking / reading" etc....... I have a terror that I am about to land in SAHM land when DS starts school and I will never be able to help . The grass is always greener, although I loved my 2 weeks off at xmas and didn't get bored and didn't want to go back to work.

Hopefullys blog is very impressive, it won't let me follow her on twitter though, the link is playing up. If you're reading this Hopefully can you let me know where you are on twitter, thank you!

I think DD is on the mend from her chicken pox, the spots have reached her feet and hands now. Her temp is still up and she's not exactly a happy bunny but I think the worst is over. I could do with some and zzzzzz and .

oh mrsa I really do understand....its the reason I kept trying for s sibling for ds1 even though I knew it was a long shot with my history.

I couldnt do the whole "charting" thing...my temps were all over the shop and didnt do what they were supposed and, like you by trial and error I realised I ov late in my cycle.

meg glad dd is better

Rather rubbish news today is that the scan has revealed I have gallstones Really dont want an op...do you think if I ignore it, it might go away???

I love being a SAHM usually, its just other peoples attitudes that wind me up

TTFN x

RMCW I am very to admit that I'm dreading the though of being asked to help with school things once we get to that stage. As a SAHM of course I could go on school trips/listen to reading/help with cooking etc but the very thought terrifies me . I'm terrible with children I don't know and the idea I'll be expected to do all this (not to mention having to take my turn at playgroup, and the likelihood of being asked to be on the committee) is enough to make me give up all my principles and go job hunting .
Def need a glass of after that confession!!!!

oh starlight x. How scary for everyone.

...back later after bedtime is done.

carrie I literally CANNOT imagine you not being good with children!!!! I really cant!

star oh god. Makes my problems fade into insignificance You are in my thoughts x

Got to go and get all the stuff ready for the weekend away...

..Just to clarify my comment about 'SAHM land' earlier, it wasn't an anti-SAHM comment, it's more my jealousy of people who get to do fun things with children. Unlike me who is always bellowing at mine to get ready as I have work, or dumping them in front of cbeebies as I'm trying to get organised . Suffice to say, I don't take them to the park very often and cooking with them happens a few times a year!

Carrie you might be ok for a while. I can't do any helping or anything like that at ds's school because of ds2. You can't take a younger sibling in, even at pre-schl this was the rule.

I know we've had this conversation before but it's one of those things where there is always some guilt/sadness/jealousy/admiration etc over. Someone will always make you feel sad about working or not working. I feel bad this week that my 2 are in childcare for quite long days (3 days a week) and on 2 of those days when we get home it's a rush to cook and eat. But on the 3rd day the childminder feeds them and I pick them up 15 mins later, I was feeling bad about that too until I realised when we got home yesterday that we had about 45 mins before we needed to think about bedtime and as they'd already eaten we could just play

Wow this is so cool

I love being a SAHM. We have had to forfeit things such as getting on the property ladder and holidays but with Ds's ASD we can't do holidays and we would be needing to sell this house for a bigger one anyway. I had to stay at home and be his carer for a long time so I just fell into the SAHM habit.
To be honest I am a bit oldfashioned and think it is mum's place to stay at home with the kids.
God I just put the feminist movement back a few decades

Back from london...toby and I both have the lurgy...blureghh..

I also would NEVER have imagined being a SAHM if you had asked me pre dc. Not sure why. I guess I was used to having my own money/independance etc.

I cant go back to work now for a good while due to childcare costs (truly horrifying), my health (or lack of it!) and dh's new role at work (which will mean much more overseas travel).

Am so fed up of being ill

star hope you are ok x

starlight I'm so :( about your dad, we're here for you.

debs I'm totally with you on the SAHM thing, and I have to say I love it. Thank you for the compliment bec! The thing is I'm fine with my kids and my close friends kids who I've known since birth, its other people's children that I don't know what to do with! And I'm clueless with all children who are older than my eldest, who is only 3. So that's a lot of cluelessness...! Clearly the answer is to keep having babies so I've always got a younger sibling at home and can't do playgroup duty

Although the way I'm feeling now I'm never ever doing this again. I think I might have an ear infection or sinusitis (although I've not had a cold so is that even possible?) but I've had headaches, a foggy feeling in my ears, dizzy spells and total exhaustion for about 3 days now, I can barely function. Poor DH is still knackered from his trip abroad and has been doing everything. He fell asleep in the middle of the floor this afternoon!! I don't know if any of this is pg related, but I feel like poo.

Gonna catch up with Glee and have (another) early night.

Hello everyone, just caught up a bit with some of the news.
Starlight so very sorry. Is there anything of a practical nature anyone can help you with? I often think in crisis situations people really come into their own and help you in ways you could never have imagined, so ask. And keep posting and updating us.
Well, we've had one ear infection after another with Samuel - 2 burst eardrums now, and the GP has referred us to a specialist, but she's fairly sure they will put grommits in and remove his adenoids, which logically I know is for the best, but the thought of an operation makes me squirm a bit. GP also concerned that he doesn't suffer any loss of hearing at all, which would quickly affect both languages....
I've been self employed for almost 20 years now in one way or another, so I kind of always new I would have to juggle working and childcare a bit. I love been a SAHM when its going well and we've had an afternoon at the beach, then cooked dinner together and they're all bathed and clean and ready for a bed, love it totally..then theres the other 95% of the time

star I will be valued for my child-rearing then I do believe that there are 'workers' and 'breeders' in this world judt like Bees