BT, thanks for the advice re Aqueous cream! I have been using E45 twice a day and no soap for washing, she seems much better! She hasn't had it applied the last 2 nights as I've been at work and DH is rubbish but it still seems to be getting better (touch wood). It also isn't itching her now, the other night she was scratching and said she "had flames" in her so I'm glad she's doing better! WRT DS's op, its always scary for you as a parent but it is just one day, its a routine op, he's so young he'll forget/recover very quickly and it will make things much better for him once its done. I'm glad DH will be there for support too!
Clairey, happy birthday! 30 does seem like a long time ago to me too (will be 34 in a few weeks)! I have to say though that I feel far more comfortable in my own skin and I know more who I am now than I ever did in my 20's. I am probably the only one but...I feel a little sorry for your fussy friend... I am a fussy eater and was brought up as a vegetarian so eating meat is not an option for me. I would never struggle to find something to eat at an Italian restaurant (or an Indian) but in most places all they have that's vegetarian contains either mushrooms (gak) or stinky cheese in breadcrumbs (boak). I always try to play it down a little and just get on with it though rather than making a fuss, I think my friends worry more about it than I do, I can nearly always find something even if it is just chips and a salad!
Clara 
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Buzzy, I'm glad DD1 had a good birthday party! Sounds like DD2 is getting on well with the toilet training too 
Dundee, that is quite an odd dream! I dreamed the opposite the other night, I was still 20! It was terrible, I much prefer who I am now (although wouldn't mind my 20 year old face and figure back)!
Skidd, it must be devastating to hear that your child may have some special needs and I think with Autism there is not enough general understanding about the condition so lots of people will judge all autistic children in the same way. I have many friends with autistic children and they range from really bright, high functioning (and in fact his mother decided not to have him statemented because he is happy with the fact he's a bit different and doing fantastically at school) to completely docile and not really in focus with the world, to Aspergers mixed with ADHD and a really inquisitive mind. Whether DS grows out of this phase or whether he does turn out to be on the spectrum, he is still your litle DS, he hasn't changed and a label will not make him into a different person. Buzzy has some great suggestions to help him now and if he is given a label, as Clara said, you will have so much more access to things that will help him.
Nearly the school holidays! I am really looking forward to no school runs and spending some time with the boys! The only cloud is that DS1 has his YR6 SATS after the hols and the school are really pushing the children. He was asked to go into school for some extra English lessons over the holidays as he is on the cusp of achieving level 4 (its only his writing that lets him down) but he has totally refused, I have offered to pay him and lots of his friends are going but he is still refusing! DH is dead against it too, he (quite rightly) says the school only care about their SATS results and not the children, they are not offering help to children who are a long way behind, just those who could get the good grades. I can't fight DH and DS on this (outnumbered) so we have compromised and DS will do 30 mins revision daily through the holidays to help him. Given how he tantrums when given homework I can't imagine this will be easy...