FESH Spa & Creche - Queue-jumpers accepted with open arms

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How exciting for a new thread - two FESHspring due shortly!

cunty Zer Germans use duvets. The Dutch hate sleeping bags. It depends where you are geographically as to whether you're a bad mum or not.

Oh that's a relief, at least I'm taking the bad bits from each of our European counterparts - just Frrance to go now,but I plan on giving his a glass of full-bodied red after his banana at lunchtime

boo You are allowed here of course!

Fanks Alps wish I had known you all when I was ttc the first time - I used to post on an obscure US site on occasion and I didn't really fit in!

Another thing Silv I found this an absolute godsend when breastfeeding post section - have you got one?

Boo talks much sense

DD didn't stop waking in the night until she reached 6 months and that, by all accounts, is pretty good going.

As with horses, you probably already have an instinct as to whether MB is warm enough. Checking his extremeties (ears, nose, hands) is a good indicator. And anyone who starts a sentence with "I'm not criticising...." is criticising [grr]

I tell thee I won't have a Tongue left this rate. I have had to bloody bite it so much lately. As soon as I heard the "I'm not criticising" my back went stiff in preparation of receiving comments on my poor motherhood skills.

He wakes, he screams, he cries cos he is a baby. Jeez.

I want their advice I'll ask for it. By keep offering me it I end up shutting down and all I hear is blah blah blah.

Again thanks for all support, ideas and tips. See I can accept stuff from you guys buy not from those who haven't had a newborn in nearly 40yrs .

Curls how are the gums/teeth today? We used these with Boo and found them really good. As well as a healthy dose of calpol if she was really bad.

Silver I am so at your MIL! Like Boo said, he is probably waking because he is only a few weeks old and that is what they are supposed to do! My HV told me off for letting Boo sleep too long at that age - she said she was too young to go more than 3 or 4 hrs without feeding. You could politely tell MIL that while you appreciate her advice, advice has changed in the last 30 odd years. What a bloody cow. Won't HO put her in her place? Last thing you need at the mo is criticizing, you are doing really well and she needs to STFU. My MIL might have the emotional intelligence of a rock and be extremely tactless to boot, but TG has put her back her box that many times that she wouldn't dare offer advice for fear of having her head bitten off. I like muchly!

thanks Pol. Will pick some up at Sainsbo's shortly. Will try anything, she is so miserable.

I have found the ibuprofen version of calpol - Calprofen? - better than the regular one for teething pain. YMMV.

All babies are different with regards heat. Ministew was like me, always hot. Just try him in different layering combinations and see what works for you/him, then smile sweetly at MIL and let it wash over you. This is a technique that will come in handy about a billion times over the next couple of years

Let this be a word of warning to you all for the future, when your kids go to toddler group: Do not try and be the clever mummy who organises an exciting event like, eg, painting ceramic Christmas decorations. That way madness lies!

I am just about getting over the shock of it all, but I think it may take TT a while longer lying down in a darkened room to get over the shock!

My first day flying solo and I have both kids with me. Apart from Mini C whacking Peppa over the head with a wooden piece of jigsaw we are doing ok. Both PFB and PSB are now sleeping peacefully so that is a result. May attempt to leave the house this afternoon but I worry about what FP used to say about leaving house with 2 blighters and it being practically impossible.

moo I struggled first time around with feeding in public. I just did not like it for the same reasons as you (needing 2 hands, one to hold nork and one to hold baybee) and basically would schedule my day around feeds and being home for them. This time around I seem to be managing a little better but it could be OK for now as she is still small. I have figured out that she can latch on OK and if I let go of nork she stays on and I can position clothing and muslin to preserve dignity. I can try and give demo when we meet up next week to try and help if you like.

Curls also used the Ashtons powders and there is also a liquid stuff you can get from chemist that you can rub on to gums if things are really bad. It is not the usual gels I will try and find out name. I found combo of calpol and baby nurofen was the biz too. The Baby nurofen helps with inflammation which teething causes so you can give something every 2 hrs if you give both.

With regard to the bottle discussion I plan to try and give a bit of expressed milk in the next week or so in order to get Peppa used to taking a bottle. I do know quite a few people who have had baybees reject a bottle and have been tied to doing every feed and I don't want that. I want Mr C to be able to give the last one of the day eventually so I can get some early nights in.

Everyone thanks so much for all the advice. Great night last night (one 3am wakeup and through til just before 7) then followed by horrific morning. Fed and expressed as usual but boobs totally empty by lunchtime and no amount if chomping was keeping him happy. Cue screaming baby for first time. I caved and gave him half one if those small bottles of ready mixed formula whilst sobbing and feeling like I haven't got a fucking clue.

Am really keen to keep up bf but my god he is big and hungry at over 10 lbs so i guess this is to be expected... Panicking now that I will have affected my supply but surely one bottle not the end if the world. He hasn't barely napped this morning so poor thing has just flaked out now.

I'm going to do the same now I think and try and regain sanity.

silv not meaning to be rude, but is you MIL an absolute fuckwit??? he is waking in the night because he's a freaking baby fgs!! they wake because they have tiny ickly tummies (size of their fist) so need frequent feeds. As they get bigger they can last longer so sleep longer, it's not rocket science is it????

sigh. anyhow survived home alone night :)

Honey don't beat yourself up, and don't feel like you haven't a clue. He's a tiny baby and he needs to keep chomping to get your supply up to what he needs. For first few weeks you honestly will feel like you do nothing but feed, but that's what you need to do. ALso your boobs never empty, they are a river not a lake - just becuase they feel soft again doesn't mean nothing's coming out. Sometimes Artie has accidentally unlatched when I've thought nothing was going on and he's been hit in the face with a full spray!

I would imagine screaming baby was more because he hadn't napped than lack of food tbh - Artie gets well stroppy once he's been awake for over 90 mins. Try and get some rest.

Echoing cos here, it's all perfectly normal moo. I was the same with the occasional pre-prepared bottle, but the situation is temporary. Another couple of weeks and you'll be through the worst.

Honey you're doing grand. They all have those times, it's not anything you're doing wrong. Just keep on going, you're doing amazing. And I hope you don't read this for AGES cos you're having a lovely nap

Ps can't remember how old ginormobaby is, but there are a couple of ealy growth spurts too, which will make them feed a lot.;

Anyone who wants to keep breastfeeding but is finding the first couple of weeks hard work, read this book. Every baby is different, and with LG there have been a lot of things which have been completely different to how it was feeding TT. My MW lent me the book when I had LG and I read it while lying in bed with him during the first week. It is a very thorough book on BFing, how, why, when and all that, and is very funny too. I had already spent 10 months BFing one baby before I read it, and I learnt from it.

The main thing to remember is that BFing might be nature's way, but it is also a skill that needs a bit of practice too, from both you AND the baby. It is always hard through the first couple of weeks, but does get easier!

cos no offence taken. cas noted your advice and will practice said skill.

Have had two sets of visitors and the hv today. Now I am knackered. But nice to see other humans as HI is working 18 hr days and I am feeling bit lonely.

moo week 2 tend to be when all the shit hits the fan and the easy sleepy baby becomes not so sleepy not so easy baby. That coupled with no sleep magnifies the situation. You are not alone. Trust me we are all suffering!

MB has got lazy with his latch literally sucking the nipple which bloody hurts. So I am hoping HI can take me to the bf clinic next week cos I can't carry on like this.

In good news has put on some weight and is now 10lb 8oz. So stick that in your "you should express to see how much milk he is getting" pipe.

Sorry to not name check - brain is frazzled. Plus I have MB on my lap and I am deafening singing to him to calm him and hopefully coax him to have a nap.

Ah well done, 10lb8oz good going ouch for nipple sucking though, you need to get that sorted asap.

Honey, if ginormobaby is 2 weeks, that is a growth spurt time fo sho.

I am feeling good today, haz made flapjack and done ironing

Cossie I long for that day. I did wash up if that counts?? :)

Just got first proper vom down me he was crying etc so much.

Mr Moo got him to calm down after 5 minutes... genius man. And he cooked. Well heated up my cooking from freezer. He is well pleased bless him.

Now glugging wine.

Bottle of EBM when BabyMoo wakes up and then we pray for a few hours of respite.

He is def having growth spurt as cluster feeding all of the early evening and that's a sign I think? Definitely much more fighty on the boob more so than start of week.

Poor dog is coping so well and just looks bemused.

Had really good nap earlier (me not him) post Formula, so feeling like my old self now and hoping for a good night again... maybe it's just the early evenings we have to be afraid of.

Just heard poo explosion from the other room. Nappy change calls.

honey How is doggy getting on with BabyMoo? Saw the great photo on fb! :)

I received a huge delivery from Amazon yesterday - after a billion years, they've finally decided to offer free delivery to us here so I took advantage. I also added to the basket a Philips 2-way baby monitor which was cheaper on Amazon than it is here despite Philips being dutch! Anyway, Baby monitors eh? What's that all about? You simply hear the screams 15 seconds before you would normally. I thought it'd give me time to make a bottle - did it fuck? I was running from kitchen to bedroom and then turning and going the opposite way again - couldn't decide what to do for the best. Otoh, was first night I'd put him to bed on his own. :)

This case of monstoritis continues, large feeds at 11:30pm, 3:15am and 7:15am. Either he's turning night in to day or he's getting jealous of the PESH 'massive' and is trying to catch up. Either way, pls to let mummy have more than 2.5 hours unbroken one night? Pls?

Dog owners. When Bear has tummy time now we set little dog at his head end... he makes definite crawling motions.

Am off out today to try and get a xmas present for jb's mum. I am 100% shit at presents so will peruse the Christmas threads looking for inspiration. She's single, she doesn't travel, she's got no particular hobby (Rothmans aside). Am flummoxed. 30 framed photos of Bear?

We has no snow here yet, hope you're all having fun.

No snow in that there london alps. My friends up north get a good 7 inches and I don't even get a light dusting!

moo evenings are the pits here too. We have wailing and what seems like constant feeding and a wired baybee. Tis normal methinks in early weeks.

My parents are up in the mountains and said last night they'd a foot already. Dad had abandoned the car in Tesco and walked 3 miles home.