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FEB 2010 Longer out than in and first Christmases around the corner...we're 9 months on.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 07/11/2010 19:08

Shiny new thread, as promised fellow FEBers!

Figured we would start another new one to mark first birthdays, bethlou, so I've held fire on referencing that landmark in this thread title - hope that's okay with y'all!

Anyway, welcome everybody, pull up a comfy chair, someone get the wine out and I'll open a huge box of chocolates for us all to share.

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ClimberChick · 04/12/2010 07:16

BC that sounds like effective management of resources to maximise activities to me Grin

at the moment I'm really proud of myself for not peeing myself on my run. Still really struggling with my pelvic floors, so maybe I should see someone now.

Beth no wonder you're worried and doubting yourself (though for no good reason). Can you have a word with childminders before you arrange first sitting and then see how they react i.e. seem serious etc.

ClimberChick · 04/12/2010 07:22

God that didn't come out right bethylou I meant it's natural and understandable to have those concerns

InmaculadaConcepcion · 04/12/2010 16:18

Wow, what a load of posts in the last day!!

So, in no particular order:

A SW meet-up next summer it is, then!! How exciting. Once DH and I know where we're going to be (and when) I'll get onto organising it. If we find somewhere with a big enough space for various toddlers to wreak mayhem play, then you'd all be welcome to come to my place. If not, we could meet in the upstairs of the The Lansdown in Clifton for coffee (or whatever) - assuming the landlady won't mind us having a wee playgroup for a couple of hours. I know her, so hopefully we'd be able to do something like that. If not, there are bound to be loads of other options (DH is a genius at organising things, so if needs be I'll put him on it)

re: Mooncup and coil: This is what it says on the Mooncup site on the matter:
Q. Can the Mooncup be safely used with a Coil (IUD)?

A. There should be no problem with an IUD (coil). Many women have used the 2 together with no problems. Its a good idea to ask your GP/clinic if they can trim the IUD strings to keep them short. You may also like to check your IUD strings periodically to make sure it hasn't been dislodged. If you have any queries you should check with your GP/clinic.

Bad luck on the job, stoof, although it's encouraging that they liked you so much. Better luck next time...

Ooh, get you bethylou in your posh Whiteladies Road address! I used to work in Whiteladies Road, so we almost certainly crossed paths at some point. I lived mainly in the St Andrews/Ashley Down area, but in the last year, lived in Clifton.

You know it's absolutely FINE to have a good old whinge if you feel like it and also to ignore what everyone else has said and just talk about your own life...!! Thread rules, remember?!!

Abs, your DD is clearly going to be the next Tori Amos!! Lovely video... Xmas Smile

Likewise photo of your DD "helping" with the dishwasher, BG...aww!!
And I almost welled up at your description of DD1's first nativity play - I'm going to be a total mess when my DD is in her first!

Save me a brownie, chinook!

On the subject of conjugal appointments, DH and I have Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sun nights as our appointments for ardour. Now DD sleeps in her own room (and generally doesn't wake up until midnight-ish, although it does vary) it's meant a return to a bit of regular rumpy-pumpy. I'm not as sexually charged as before, largely because I'm usually knackered, but it's always worth making the effort because of the closeness we feel during/after. Having watched a relationship whither because sex was de-prioritised to such an extent it became virtually extinct, I'm keen to prevent that from happening again. Horses for courses, though!

I saw a baby boy doll in a shop today - gender correct, down to the last detail! Is this a Spanish styling, or have doll designs moved on since I had baby dolls?!

Ah, DH has just come back from his shopping trip with DD...best be off....

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BabyGiraffes · 04/12/2010 17:55

IC dd1 got a baby doll for her 2nd birthday and it is a boy with the appropriate bits Grin (I got it because it was on offer, not to make some sort of anti-pink-everything point)Smile

BabyGiraffes · 04/12/2010 19:06

IC Xmas Grin at your 'appointments' Grin. Wait until you have two dcs.... Only joking. Our slightly reduced number of 'appointments' ie only weekends is more due to not getting dd1 into bed and asleep until past 8, then squabbling most of the evening about our latest house renovation disasters...Bear

ClimberChick · 04/12/2010 19:16

well IC at least you won't have a problem TTC

InmaculadaConcepcion · 04/12/2010 19:49
Xmas Grin
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GuernseyFrench · 04/12/2010 19:51

I'm impressed IC by your appointments. DH and I really need to make one!!

Lovely pics and videos.

bethy no wonder that you are worried leaving your DS2 at nursery/childminder. Make sure you have a list with all your issues/worries/problems/requirements with you for your appointment and use it.

DS has found that he can now crab walk holding on the walls so he can now cover most of the living room. Sometimes he let go and a look a sheer panic appears on his face when he realises that he doesn't have his balance.

I'm going out twice this week (a girlfriend birthday and my office christmas party). DH has the 2 nights off, in one hand I can't wait but on the other, I just can't be bother to dress up (ie. no to wear my baggy jeans and tshirt) to go out and also I know I'll be tired and just want my bed.

BabyGiraffes · 04/12/2010 21:01

Just had a laugh checking the turn of the century census to see who lived in our house... Couple in their late thirties/early forties with a live in maid!!! Why can't I have a maid? [Going off to add to christmas wish list] Xmas Grin

GuernseyFrench · 04/12/2010 21:07

BG Xmas Grin

bethylou · 04/12/2010 21:58

Thanks for replies. Just needed to check.. Look out for red, red whine in the coming days Grin

I've taught DS1 to sing the first verse of Away in a Manger today which is very cute. My motivation is a few Brownie points with the MIL who is very keen on taking him to church whenever our backs are turned!! (I asked him on his second birthday what he'd like to do and he replied, "Go to church!" I think she may have gone a bit OTT, though I'd go myself if I could persuade DH to come too!!)

IC Four appointments a week?!! DH would die of exhaustion after being limited to about 6 times in 10 months - but as BG said, wait till you have 2 DCs....!

bethylou · 04/12/2010 21:59

Not such an immaculate conception then me thinks?! Xmas Grin

InmaculadaConcepcion · 05/12/2010 07:00

No miracles here, nope - just a lot of good old, common or garden sha**ing!

Actually, three times per week, to be fair - and usually for a max of ten mins or so Xmas Grin I haven't got the stamina I had in my youth....

What about digging out the Ditto for the upright naps, bethylou? Or have you dispensed with it now?

I must admit to being a kind of left-of-everything-chuck-any-kind-of-spiritual-thing-in vaguely Christian type of person. Not a church-goer, but I do like Carol services and Midnight Mass (I'll be giving that a miss for a bit, though...)

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LittlebearH · 05/12/2010 10:04

Hi all, you have all been very busy!!

Have been having a tough week. Ran out of anti deps and have been snowed in. Suffering with withdrawl symptoms. Me and DP have had a big to do. I cannot work out if it is me or PND.

He told me I should have snapped out of it by now and he thinks if it wasnt for DD he would walk. He says I am boring and DD rules me. I wont go anywhere without disrupting the routine. And she has to learn.

Also I go back to work in 5 weeks and I am dreading it soo much. Not happy about childcare arrangments (my friend is doing it as I cant afford a nursery) as I dont want to leave her at all. I wish my wages were shite so it wouldnt be worth going back but sadly this is not the case as I pay half the mortgage.

So I am not doing so good.

One good thing..DD is no longer crawling commando style but is up on her arms and knees. She getting about alarmingly quickly now.

BabyGiraffes · 05/12/2010 10:24

IC my calendar says next Wednesday is the day of immaculate conception... Xmas Grin Good luck!!! Xmas Grin

BabyGiraffes · 05/12/2010 10:27

LBH sorry you've had a tough week. Can you delay returning to work or be signed off sick? I had PND after dd1 and with hindsight should not have gone back to work when I did. I still had anxiety and was somewhat paranoid... Get your DP to read up on PND! It will pass and you can't just snap out of it!! Sending you lots of good wishes!!!!!

InmaculadaConcepcion · 05/12/2010 11:38

Ah, LBH, that's tough. Granted, it's not fun to live with someone struggling with depression, but your DH needs to remind himself that you are not well at the moment and that this will pass. And once DD is older, you will have more freedom again.
What BG said about work.
Sending of the unmumsnetty variety...

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 05/12/2010 11:39

Do I have to actually do anything on that day then, BG? Xmas Grin

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mamaloco · 05/12/2010 12:02

sperm lives around 3 days (some says 5 but that's long) inside us. So if you are trying TTC and have no idea of your ovulation date, sex every 3 days is a safe bet that you will hit the right time. You can rest on immaculate conception day Grin!
I don't let DH close to me, too tired, too grumpy, always bad timing, I am more of a morning'cuddle person and since having the DDs that is impossible!!!! Confused Blush

LBH hugs

BG I am a champion of "not enough experience for that job and too much qualification for that one" Confused.
If nobody let you have a go in the 1st place how can you get experience??? Confused Hmm It started right from the start. Even with student jobs done every summer, that is not enough, must have at least 1 year continuous experience to claim you have experience [grrrrr]. Good luck! Go to think what I can do in a few year...

mamaloco · 05/12/2010 12:42

Really struggling with DD2 eating "disorder", she had a moth and bite through a soap bar this week not too mention leaves, paper, banana skin, plastic and unappropriates toys from her sister bedroom... Confused
any one with a sensible advice, I am thinking dog muzzle for now Shock I am sure that SS will object Grin

BabyGiraffes · 05/12/2010 14:11

mamaloco sorry, can't help. Mine goes for newspaper, plastic, any sort of cable, chalk and crayons, and her sister's slippers. And I have lost count of the number of hair bands I have had to retrieve from her mouth... Hmm Oh and the other day I found her in our bedroom (rough jute rug that's hard to hoover) with a slightly disgusted expression on her face chewing on a hair and fluff ball Shock

GuernseyFrench · 05/12/2010 19:52

Xmas Grin mamaloco and BG DDS!

Just spent half the afternoon at the pub (luckily I brought DS dinner with us) and now it's time for a chinese take away Xmas Blush

BabyGiraffes · 05/12/2010 20:01

mamaloco agree with the jobs and experience thingy by the way. If I get that line I want to shout at them why they bothered to shortlist me for interview and wasted my time when my level of experience is perfectly obvious from my CV and statement.... [fuming emoticon] Grin Honestly.
GF Envy... but we had quite a nice Sunday ourselves but I must now pace myself on the Rioja because otherwise I may forget that St Nikolaus is coming tonight!! [mental note to find hidden chocolate santas etc). Luckily we don't have to put shelves up tonight because dh went to Ikea to get some and stormed out in a mood (he's half Spanish and doesn't do queueing to pay!! Xmas Grin)

GuernseyFrench · 05/12/2010 20:18

BG happy St Nikolaus

bethylou · 05/12/2010 21:00

Poor LBH - thinking of you - the advice form the others sounds good to me. More hugs from me.

And what is it about DC2s chewing slippers? Mine is mad for them (or even the orthotic insoles out of them that he carefully removes! I bought him a pair yesterday and he hasn't eaten them yet - very bizarre! Sure we're going to get glitter and tinsel poo soon though as DS1 is into the idea of Christmas in a big way and tends to leave things lying about for DS1.

Just bought a couple of supplementary Christmas stocking fillers for the DS on ebay. Collected in person - randomly form about 20 houses down the road! Very weird...