IS THERE A SEPT 2005 CLUB YET?

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Hi all fellow September mums. If I'm duplicating another thread please tell me. If not, would love to hear how everyone is getting on.
Tom is a week old today. All well - though has a slightly infected cord stump so am going to GP today.
I'm still madly hormonal, could burst into tears whenever I think about the impact all this has on my lovely dd (2y2m).

Hello,

Just had the most relaxing and productive feed session since Eliot was born 7 days ago. Rushed out first thing this morning when the shops opened and bought some Avent nipple shields and used those, making sure I had the latch as good as possible. He looked like he was latched on properly - I think the slight tackiness of the shield helped pull his bottom lip down and hold it there.

So, now having a nice salmon bagel and cup of tea with dh.

Going to a breast feeding session (babycafe) this afternoon and then got the mw coming over to check the latching again, so hopefully will get this sorted.

Its nice to hear what other September mums are experiencing.

o oh, Eliot just started crying - had put him down 20 minutes ago after his big feed and he went down beautifully, but something is upsetting him now! better go and check!!

Hello all

Re the potty training - dd always seems to wee/poo just as I remove the old nappy - that is onlt time I could possibly pre-empt her bowel movements!!

Had sleepless night as dd awake from midnight till 330am fussing , then again at 5,6,7,8 etc - sll for feeds. This has continued this am so feel drained -literally. I think the problem is she often only feeds for 10 min - but nothing I try can get her to take more. And if I try distract her or comfort her in other ways she just gets more upset. Dh tried to give her expressed milk in a bottle the other night but she wouldnt take bottle. Will try again this w/e. She is very little still but I dont want to end up with a baby who refuses a bottle.

Glad your bf is getting easier ftm! I had cracked nipples at first but once they started to heal - they did so very fast. Loads oflanolin helped with the scabs (grim I know!)

Boompi, I have a similar problem. Unless Nell goes 3 hoursish between feeds, she just ends up snacking, then gets windy, never gets the hind milk....etc etc. Same as ds1. I don't want to impose a 3 hourly routine on her, but feeding on demand means she just gets unsettled and windy - lots of walks round the park to keep her going I guess!!

Franch - I have no idea what DH's issue with poo is all about... I said to him he needs to sort it out as I won't be able to leave her for more than an hour or two if he can;t change her nappy, and he said 'don't worry, we'll sort it out'... have no idea what that means, or if he will indeed ever do it, but it's highly irritating!! If he feeds her overnight, I have to be awake to change her anyway, so nothing gained.

After all the saga of the breast-feeding/flat nipples palaver, I tried Elise on the breast this morning, just for a laugh, and she fed for 25mins. Very painful however, and have noticed a small red dot on the nipple - is this 'cracked'? have put some cream on, but still killing me Will I ever master this ruddy breast-feeding?!!

hi all

It took me a wee while to find this thread!! Hope you are all well. Im absolutely shattered, ds likes to feed every 2 hours and is rapidly gaining weight he was 6lb9 at birth now with clothes on he is 8lb1! Csection aches are slowly disapearing and now patiently waiting till I can drive again. Must admit finding having a newborn and a toddler a challenge but it gets a little easier everyday

Hi all, hope everyone is well.

Am feeling so much better today - my first proper day alone with the two boys without running to mum to ease things! It has gone so much better than i thought it would! Went to a play place this morning so DS1 could let off steam - he actually ate lunch when we got home then said he would take his drink to bed!!! This is unheard of, him offering to go for a nap! Tom is much calmer today too - after a two hour awake session last night i think he's just tired!

And it's my birthday today so i'm extra pleased it's all calm! Going out for a meal tonight with DH which will be fab and tomorrow we are going to a party - my wonderful parents are doing a double babysit! Need to get some more breast milk pumped or can see Tom being fully formula fed after the weekend!

Looks like some of our DPs are in the dog house! If i hear mine complain he is tired again i will have to punch him!

Have a good weekend - i will toast all August/September/ October (there are a few hanging on aren't there) babies on my nights out!

have just had a massive argument with DH - he says I do F**k all during the day, all I have to do is look after the baby, and I can't even do that apparently. I only asked him for a bit more support, and he says if he does that then I should go to work, because if he does any more than he's doing now (which is not loads!) then he'll "lose his job" (presumably from being too tired) Apparently, ladies, we only get maternity leave so we can spend all our time looking after the baby, if dads were meant to share the work they'd get months of paternity leave... grrrrr!. Am I the only one married to a caveman??

Happy birthday SarahHal.
It seems most people had a rough night last night. OUr Tom was windy as ... smotheing very windy ...from 4pm until this am. Even when sleeping he was pretty unsettled. And dd woke at 5am, when she usually sleeps til 8am.
Re: foremilk and hindmilk, I'm following advice to always start a feed on the same boob as I finished on - is that right? Apparently it means you can be sure that each boob is fully drained over the course of 2 feeds. God knows whether that makes sense - too tired to be logical

hi LL

my dh goes through phases of the same thing, its fine for a while then we have huge arguments about how little i do!! why do men think they are so perfect?

Little one born on monday 4.600kgs!! just got to the hospital in time!
love to all xxx

Congratulations Milward... and hello little one, welcome to the world {{hug}}

LL what is it with the men? don't see mine a)frequently enough b)for long enough - to argue, he's on paternity leave from Tuesday so I may yet eat my words!!!

How does looking after a totally dependent, wonderful but needy little being constitute 'having nothing to do all day? SO sorry to hear you're getting stick

We've still not got over the wonder of what a lovely little chap we've made, still spending hours gazing and marvelling (hope this doesn't sound smug) I'd love to have DP around all the time - even if it did mean we'd slip into a higher 'risk catagory' for arguments!

LL - if it makes you feel better last night dh and I argued about whose need was greater for a bath/shower! He's very hands on with the baby stuff though so I can't complain but the first few months or year of having a new baby is tough on relationships.

If I were you I'd leave your DH alone for a day with the baby because sometimes men don't realise why it is time consuming to care for a helpless infant all day.

Milward - congratulations

LadyL - You are doing the most important job in the world. Plus it's all NEW, which makes it doubly challenging. Agree with beatie though - new babies are indeed tough on relationships.

So ~ let's talk about breast pads. IMO, as a master leaker, the mothercare type breastpads, which aren't even shaped are useless. Then there's your expensive ones where each pad comes in its own wrapper and has a sticky on the back to hold it in place.

Hmmmmmm...... obviously the users of those don't need to change their breast pads with much frequency. I'm afraid I don't have time to unwrap individual breast pads AND take a little piece of paper off the sticky back. Does anyone else?!

My product endorsement goes to the Unichem breast pads... the own-brands you find in pharmacies. These are shaped and made of much more substance than the Mothercare ones. They look a bit like airline drinks coasters too so if you happen to leave one lying around on the coffee table and you get an unexpected visitor, your dignity is spared.

dd1 is at grandma's house tonight. The house is sooooo quiet. Alice is sleeping. I hope she's not storing up her wakefulness for tonight

LL - sorry your dh is being so male. I agree - suggest he spends a day at home with your dd. Issues with poo and all Red dot on nipple is crack, I had them too - hurt like hell. good news is they do go after a day or two. Check her latch and use lots of cream. But congrats to you both on a 25min feed - excellent!!

Edie went down inally at 430pm - after being awake since 11am So tired [tired emoticon]

Congrats Milward!! Let us know more.

OHT - as conrad gently sleeps in my arms!

aha... breastpads Beatie - I'm using Avent ones - no separate wrapping for me! wouldn't mistake one of these mothers for an airline coaster though Nasty soggy items after each feed - you know, the one that's resting! Have you ever tried them - are unichem ones any better?

I'm almost graduating ladies...a few more days and i'll be here, but i do know about breast pads lol. Have been using supermarket Tesco own (but not value, they come in purple packet) for about 6weeks now, i know i'm not getting through as many of you in a day but they#re really soft and discreet and for the amount i;m leaking atm they're really good...will let you know more in couple of days tohugh when they've been put through their paces properly. Re-usuables are supposed to be aswell!

Re: breast pads - I love the Johnson and Johnson ones. They're not too discreet, but they feel nice and comfy and generally are up to the jobs for a few feeds. All the others have felt rather insubstantial and itchy.

Hi everyone,

found out today that Eliot and I both have thrush. He is 7 days and 6 hours old as I write this and already we have had major breastfeeding problems, sleeping problems and now thrush!! Next week can only be better. It's quite horrible to think that the first week of Eliot's life has been so fraught as the poor little guy must have been feeling terrible, not just re the feeding but with this damned thrush in his mouth and causing nappy rash.

Anyway, sorry for the big grizzle. Its nice to have other people to pour out to who I know will understand - dont feel so alone. Just have to keep reminding myself that we have created the most gorgeous little creature and that this is more important than all the challenges life is throwing at us this week and that we will get through this rough patch.

xx

Cabe - did you see my earlier post about using breast shells.... they're little plastic things you can put in your bra to collect the milk from the non-feeding side. They work great whilst at home. I collect 2oz from the 'resting' breast and freeze it. I'm a bit concerned it might be too much foremilk though .... that's the only thing.. but it does look yellow and creamy in colour when frozen so who knows.

Arghhhh. DH has gone out looking like death warmed up to teach karate this morning after looking after both kids single handedly as I was struck down with a migraine. Both were fractious and i don't think the poor love got any sleep at all.

David is lovely but driving me potty as is screaming non stop unless being held. DD is getting jealous of all the attention he is getting and is being disruptive. And I seem to be alaternatly shouting at her to stop and behave, beging david to lie in his basket for 5 mins without screaming the house down and crying. I haven't even managed to get dressed and think the last shower I managed was about 5 days ago. Am having to express as he won't latch on and therefore feel like a cow in a milking shed attaching myself to the electric pump, as can't get anywhere with a manual one, every two hours. Have managed to drop two formula feeds in favour of expressed breast milk though and will hopefully be feeding ebm only eventually. Any ideas to increase supply would be gratefully received.

Hugs to everyone with baby blues/unsupportive cavemen. Mine is starting to realise that he was being unreasonable and is doing more to help.

Thanks Beatie will look into breast shells as I tend to lose so much in first 5 mins of him latching on and seems such a waste - need to get a frozen supply on the go for when DP has Conrad whilst I'm in lectures... bless him... all that driving - sure he's got half an eye on my future earning potential!

{{Hugs}} Mummyhill, sounds like yu're really in the thick of it - hope migrane better now, do you get them often?

Sorry appalling spelling - OHT again milky-boy crooked in other arm