IS THERE A SEPT 2005 CLUB YET?

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Hi all fellow September mums. If I'm duplicating another thread please tell me. If not, would love to hear how everyone is getting on.
Tom is a week old today. All well - though has a slightly infected cord stump so am going to GP today.
I'm still madly hormonal, could burst into tears whenever I think about the impact all this has on my lovely dd (2y2m).

Thanks for tips on routines! Apart from having days when my boobs are constantly out I think dd is treating us well. She is such a sweet little thing.

Hi everyone.
BOOMPI, i totally agree with kk about routines, every baby is different and what works for one won't neccesarily work for the next.
STM,you're not gate-crashing, just because you haven't had noah yet doesn't mean you don't belong. you are one of us and can chat whenever you want to, we still gate-crash the other thread.LOL sorry didn't try the labourade though so no advice from me.

I do ask DH for help but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. He seems to think that he is justified in not doing a lot cause his sleep is disturbed on saying that though I left david in the basket down stairs and disapeared to bed without telling dh this afternoon and he actually came to find me whern david wanted feeding even though there are bottles of formula and breast milk in the fridge.

Hi all... glad to see I am not the only one having 'DH problems'! (well not glad, but you know what I mean!). My DH refuses to do any nappies (has an 'issue' with poo, but will not go near wee-only nappies either) and only seems to come in from work when she's having her ratty few hours in the late evening. My mum has been staying with us, and he's made her sleep with me in the bedroom while he kips on the sofa, and then moans in the mornings that he's tired when we've been up every 2hrs thorugh the night with Elise! Am making him sleep with me in the bedroom tonight, as my poor mum is shattered bless her, and I think he needs to do his bit... I'll keep you posted

Boompi - yeah I have the Baby Whisperer book. I am sort of trying to stick to it, although I agree that the baby sometimes does her own thing. She does the routine most of the day (although is feeding every 2 hrs), but then wants to feed every hour in the evening, and often misses the sleep bit out completely if she is having a ratty-do late at night or has wind or something. I am just using it as a guide really, but if Elise has other ideas then I don't have any choice but to go along with her! I think Elise would sleep right after feeding as well, but I am trying to change her nappy after a feed, and that can constitute the 'activity' stage.

Oh, yes LL I also got the "I'm so tired" from "poor" DH. I told him that I'd sock him one if I heard that again, and if he wanted I could make sure that he was awake every minute at night that I was. (I am normally very sweet to him, so this must have been a bit of a shock), since then he has been ever-so-helpful. I am very lucky though, as he changes just about every nappy. He also brings me food/drink while I bf. He works from home, so has been working late in the evening to keep me company when dd has her 5 to 7 hour long continuous feeding-fest. He has also been good at putting ds to bed.

Mummyhill - I hope you told dh to feed David himself while you were resting! (I'm doing the bf thing and have not done any expressing as the expressing and subsequently missed feeds that I did with ds really disrupted my milk supply last time, so am trying to do all the feeding on demand. However every morning at around 3am I swear that I'm going out to get formula the next day! But it all seems better when the sun is shining).

Have a laugh at this ladies - anyone fancy a try if they have too much time on their hands? Maybe LadyL's dh should give it a go if he has a 'pooh' issue!!

Alice is 10 days old and weighs more than her birth weight. She's 8lbs 1oz. My tiny dd1 didn't weigh that until she was almost 5 weeks old

I've been discharged from my community midwife She was lovely. If I have a 3rd I'll have a homebirth and hope to have her deliver the baby. But I don't think I will be having a 3rd.

Alice gave us another good night. She feeds throughout the evening, has a last feed at 11:30 and then another at 3:30am. Sooooo nice.

I don't feel brave enough to venture out with two children yet. We have two parties to attend this weekend which will be lovely to see all my old mummy friends but I wish I could get to that easy discreet feeding stage. I just know I am going to have to wave my boob around in public and have everyone see my milk dripping all over my clothes.

hi everyone, i agree with the dh/p problem, although i must add that since i blew my lid with him, dp has done alot more.
ANDIF, Mia is 3 and half weeks old now, now where did i put that potty???? WTF? i've never heard anything so stupid in my whole life!!!!!
Well, i'm oficially bored to tears being at home, can't wait to return to work, (god i sound so sad) but am considering doing a few hours voluntary work at dds school a couple of days a week.

Apparently this dangling children over the potty and catching the results was all the rage till ohh 30 years ago because our parents got fed up with washing dirty nappies all the time. The practice went out of fashion with the invention of decent/reliable disposable nappies. I can remember my grandmother and one of my aunts telling me all about it and trying to encourage me to use this method of potty training with DD three and a half years ago.

There is a loonie group of women here in NZ who do this. They take their tupperware containers into cafes to catch the ... uh ... evidence (so to speak). They seal up the container, continue with their latte's, and then get rid of the contents of their tupperwares at home! WTF - at a cafe, where others are trying to EAT??

I wonder how they "know" that their baby is about to go to the loo in the middle of the night?

dd has just had her longest night time sleep in her whole (2-wk) life. 2 and a half hours! All this in her moses basket! (before that the longest in her basket was 8 minutes! so I've been having to co-sleep with her, which is not great for me as she is so NOISEY). I put one of my unlaundered t-shirts in her basket with her so that she could smell my smell in her bed. I wonder if this did the trick?

oh the banies do the deed right at their tables. I wouldn't object if they took them into the loos to do it - as nutty as I think they are

the BABIES, I mean ...

Kiwikate - you must be exhausted! I'm feeling tired enough with Tom sleeping brilliantly. Went to sleep at 8.30 last night, woke at 1.30am and then at 4am. Compared to dd that is amazing - she also slept very little when she was tiny.
My dh is actually being brilliant. I shove him when I've finished one boob in the night and he winds and changes Tom's nappy, then I do the other. He says I've always needed more sleep than him, so he's happy to be up in the night. Is there a smug emoticon????

LadyL I'm genuinely curious about your DH's 'issue' with poo! What the does that mean???

dear ych

I just saw your message and I have been having a similar time. About the willie, my son's (6 days old today) was bleeding 2 days ago but I discovered that it had been grazed by the clip on the cord stump because I hadnt kept it out of his nappy properly. Maybe this is why your son's was bleeding??

I am also having an absolute nightmare breastfeeding and have just started a new breastfeeding discussion thread. It hurts throughout and my nipples are in a terrible condition - all cracked and scabby and occasionally bleeding too. For nighttime feeds when I am sitting alone in my son's room and my husband is asleep I could just cry (and actually have) from disappointment with myself and frustration that breastfeeding is not the wonderful bonding experience we are told it will be.

Anyway, just thought I'd let you knowthat you are not alone, if that's any consolation. When you are upset in the middle of the night, think of me in London feeling the same way ...

Are there any September postnatal groups that meet in the Clapham/Battersea/Balham area? I've noticed lots of mothers around my area (apparently this is "nappy valley"), but apart from a few people in my NCT group, none of whom I know very well yet, I dont know any other mothers in my area and would love to meet others, especially when my husband goes back to work in a week's time - a very scarey thought indeed!

Firstimemum, i should hopefully be moving to lewisham before christmas...fingers crossed...am due anytime now...that any good to you?

Helloooo!!!

Kiwikate, just read your bit about 5-7 hour 'feeding fest'... Oh thank the Lord it's not just mine! I'm on a wind-down from a whole day of rocking - feeding - changing etc etc etc... guess I should be sleeping too now Conrad's slumbering, must be the novelty... love your no-nonsense approach to man-management

Beatie - lovely to read you too are not a routine person, don't think I could impose a routine on a baby to save myself!

Sorry to hear about DH problems... Perhaps the menfolk are unconciously craving a little of the attention that's being bestowed on baby??? You know what they say, even negative attention is better than no attention! [must be mad emoticon!]

BTW - loving the names that are emerging with this months offspring
Hope to be more of a regular contributor to the thread from now... but you know what the little ones are like!
Back soon I hope, night night
Cabe x

Andif - that article made me giggle! my Dp was telling me about it but didn't realise it meant dangling unsuspecting babies over potties for indeterminate lengths of time!!!

I used to be able to tell when my guinea-pig was about to widdle on me - perhaps I'd be a good candidate for 'baby over potty dangling'!!!
Can't stop chuckling now... Must get to bed
Bye!

Cabe - Definitely no routines here. People ask me when Alice last fed and I don't even remember that! I'm doing even less timing and clock watching than I did with dd1 and it is working out fine for us. Obviously I'll hope that Alice finds some kind of feeding/sleeping pattern on her own in the months to come. dd1 did.

Alice always wakes at 3:40am for a feed. It's amazing. That's the only feed which happens at the same time each day. We've been lucky so far, as she has her last feed at 11pm ish and then sleeps through to the 3:40am. She feeds again anywhere between 6 and 8am and then has a mighty sleep which allows me to get dd1 dressed and for me to have a cup of tea and breakfast.

Who knows what she'll be doing next week though.

LL - Can you tell DH you have issues with puke and leave him to deal with all the sick throughout your child's life?

Firsttimemum - I'm so sorry to hear you are having problems with cracked/bleeding nipples. One of my friends endured this kind of agony for the first few weeks of her son's life. She ended up having to express milk and feed him and that was twice as time-consuming. She kept talking to midwives about it and eventually she was told she had an infection. Once the infection was cleared up (I can't remember what type it was and what she was given) there was no more pain and she was able to go back to feeding her son until he was 10 months old. I hope you can find someone/something that can help. Have you had infection ruled out?

Kiwikate - Phew - I'm pleased Grace gave you a longer stretch of sleep and in her moses basket. Perhaps the t-shirt did work.

Oh Cabe - I see you're a cloth nappy user. Alice is still in disposable but we have a stash of coth nappies from dd1 waiting to be used - when Alice gets big enough. I just wondered what you were using. Yawn! Can't cloth nappy people get boring when they start to talk nappies

Really must log on more often . Maybe next week (when all my helpers will be back at home/work).

But all is going very well at the moment - just hope it carries on this way .

Good Morning! just about in the land of the living after marathon day yesterday, looking forward to DP taking over some of the jiggling and baby entertaining this weekend

Beatie - I'm using Cotton Bottoms for the daytime and Tots Bots (the really cute fluffy towelling ones) for night time - these take an age to dry and are bulky so I wouldnt use them for day-wear but the absorbency is brilliant. I'm part of a little cluster of Cloth Nappy users and the EXTENSIVE green-tea drinking hours of Nappy Talk has resulted in us thinking this is one of the best combinations - Oh dear, the things we end up doing!

Lovely to hear all's going well PC

PC - You have helpers?!!?

Well, I look forward to them going home too and hearing more about your little Alice.

Cabe - No-one I know used cloth nappies... I have moved since then to an area which offers incentives to use them (they had them in my hospital) so if I join any baby groups with Alice I may find one or two cloth nappy users in this area.

Thanks for the tips re the Tot Bots. I used prefolds and then fitted ME Sandys when DD1 was in a large size. The prefolds were fine once we found a decent containing wrap. I'm worried about nighttime absorbency though so if we have a problem I may have to get some Tots Bots.