Fab Feb 2009: things that go bump and "mummy, mummy, MUMMY!!!" in the middle of the night

[dinkystinky]

New halloween inspired thread (in honour of this time of year) to talk about our little jekyll & hydes [hgrin]

Is anyone going to be taking their little ones trick or treating this year? We'll be at MIL's for Halloween and she's already told me she has both Danny and DS1 costumes -so it appears that decision has been made for us

Oooggs - have a great holiday camping! Congrats on the dts getting into the same school as DS1 too.

Danny is also fiercely independent - I suspect he doesnt talk much because when he decides he wants something he just goes to get it himself (has been known to be found climbing on bookcases to get something at the top of it). Also a bit of a shouty temper, off the bottles but not off the boob fully yet (mornings only). Do any Fab Febbers have mellow kids? Probably not now we've entered the toddler years

Managed to move out the flat ok yesterday - now in Brighton at MIL's and off to Lanzarote tomorrow for a week - then back to the house on DS1's birthday on Easter Monday to unpack. Joy joy joy....

p.s. will (once we have internet access again in house - entirely reliant on sky so who bloody knows when it will be!) upload photos of house for you Oooggs.

enjoy your holiday dinky much sympathy on the unpacking on your return though, bet you're dying to get settled back in though

Dinky Have a great holiday

For those of you who haven't been on fb today, I had my theory test this morning and passed! Didn't think I would a few times through the test. Was in and out in just over half an hour.
I scored 47 out of 50 on the questions and 50 out of 75 for hazard perception , but a pass is a pass. Relieved. Would have been really embarassed if I'd failed, dp didn't think I'd swatted up enough for it [blows him a big raspberry]

Luke has now been dummy free since tuesday, and jacob has been dry through the night all week too.
Luke said Jacob properly this morning but is still calls him "gaca"

Sm... congratulations

It's lovely that jacob has a pet name for Luke.... dd called ds1 'Coogie' well after she could pronounce 'Caleb' and ds1 called her 'SaSa' for ages too.... I kind of miss it ds1 is still referred to as Cookie Monster occasionally by us all

Just popping in to say a massive thank you for all your lovely fb messages - it really means a lot.

Have had a horrid week - little Max was born a week ago by emergency c-section after I woke up in the middle of the night having a massive bleed. We called 999 and I was rushed to hospital in an ambulance - they reckon I lost about half a litre of blood then and another 1.2 litres during the operation.

I was in tears most of last week and was on the verge of turning into a proper mental.

Little Max is doing well but still in SCBU. They won't let him go until he establishes feeding. I think this would be done best at home, but the hospital nazis are in charge and I have given up trying to challenge them.

Had a huge screaming fit on Sat where I made a total arse of myself - I decided to go home as the hospital is only up the road and me festering in there was doing no one any good.

Back again tomorrow - if I'm a good girl and play the game he will hopefully be back by Wed/Thurs.

Onward and upward.

Lucy xxxx

MsLucy I did see something on your fb about the feeding. Pleased Max is doing well, the whole thing must have been so frightening.
Keep us updated xxx

mslucy... sometimes you have to fight like hell ion SCBU, not fair but true. A and I had similar with feeding, they were pumping so much fluid in though the IV line he wasn't interested and they kept going on about forcing formula. I had a showdown with 3 consultants and the chief RN and they finally agreed to slow down I fluids (whilst telling me I was endangering him ) and lo and behold, he as fully bf 6 hours later and off all the machinery... twunts!

I'm so sorry you guys have had such a rough start. SCBU isn't fun even after a normal delivery, I can't imagine how tired and stressed you must be right now.

Take it easy, just focus on yourself and Max for now and don't worry about chaos at home and honestly, once he's home it will all seem like a distant memory, just take it an hour at a time and have faith {{{hugs}}}

BTW.... tears and mental behaviour are par for the course in SCBU.

I snatched A up from his intensive care station and tried to walk out the door with him whilst having a screaming match with the RN on the first night

i apologised to the nurses the next day and they said it was perectly normal and weren't a bit bothered

I also weeped at everyone on the day they tried to discharge me without him. I weeped so much they went me a social worker who had me readmitted

mslucy

Been away so only just catching up with news - congratulations on the birth of little Max but so sorry you had such a tough time, sounds terrifying!
I did plenty of crying and 'mental' behaviour after DS was born and he wasn't even in SCBU - as SR says it is pretty normal! Hope you get him home really soon. xxx

Just to let you know that today went well and Max had a couple of really good feeds - possibly because he'd pulled the stupid tube out of his nose (way to go Maxie).
Back tomorrow and have to "room in" for the night (I should have done this about five days ago....)
Then hopefully we will finally be free of the SCBU and its attendant Nazis.
Reassuring that other people have also found SCBU rigid and annoying - ours is plastered with dozens of messages from people saying how amazing it is.

Great news mslucy... it's lovely when they yank those stupid tubes out isn't it

Good luck tonight with rooming in.

Those messages annoyed me too... I firmly belive they were from the parnets who wandered in for half an hour every few days and had hardly any contact with their babies. There was one couple who came in once during our 5 days in SCBU... and didn't recognise their own baby when they did FGS, I could even tell him apart from the other babies and we'd only been there a day, the baby was a month old!

He's out - woo hoo!
He was allowed to go because he'd put on 40 grams - I spent most of last night WILLING him not to poo

He's celebrated his homecoming by producing a nappy full of yellow milky poo, proof if it was needed that feeding is well and truly established and that he is eating like a trouper.

I know he would have been fine here days ago but the hospital have their rules and at the end of the day there are more of them than there are of you.

This has to be the best Easter ever!

Congrats MsLucy... enjoy your little man and put the horrors of the hospital behind you.

Happy Easter

Quickly logging on from lanzarote (discovered a wifi connection - woohoo) to say happy easter all and congrats MsLucy on having lovely little Max home! Sorry you guys had such a scary and rocky start - but bet its all onwards and upwards from here on in. Hope his big brothers and dad are treating you and Max like royalty

Have been having lovely holiday - weather is generally fab if rather windy and the boys (and DH) are now looking nearly as brown as me! Will log on again when back at work next Wed (as no internet connection till then)

Home!!!

Lucy - fab news on Max being at home

SM - well done on theory test

dinky - can't wait to see photos

weathr in North Wales was fantastic, did loads but glad to be home

A just pointed at dp on the phone to his mother and said 'Nana' [bugrin]

Brill news mslucy! Hope you all had a lovely Easter together.

SR - well done to A!

Dinky - hope you had a great holiday - weather here was rubbish so good job you found some sun

All ok here - DCs have been on four Easter Egg hunts so there is a chocolate mountain in the kitchen. Lilian isn't too keen on chocolate and just holds it in her hand until is a gooey mess...might need to help her with it.

Hello all! Back from holiday and back in my house (along with a whole load of dust, a few builders and only half our stuff as the rest is stuck in storage) but still, hurrah!

Calico - good luck with that chocolate mountain. Danny used to do the holding it while it melts thing but now is tending towards the scoffing the chocolate. Though both my boys have that weird gene where they can eat just a little bit of chocolate and save the rest for later. Must be a male gene

SR - hurrah and high five on A saying "nana". His talking is going to come on in leaps and bounds. Danny's new words are Story and Okay - v cute. DS1 turned 5 on Monday (still in shock about that) and got a new scooter so Danny inherited DS1's old one (which he's been playing with when DS1 is at school for the past couple of months anyway) and he's delighted with his "cooter". They're just at such an adorable age now. And he seems to have settled back into having his own room, though always asks for DS1 on waking (at 5.45 ). DS1 is loving having a room of his own to play lego in without Danny destroying it though...

hello all, sorry been AWOL for a while
mslucy congratulations on Max's arrival, how scary for you having to be rushed in like that. So glad all ok and you managed to 'escape' home with him.

SM congrats on passing first part of driving test.
dinky wow, your house is finished already, seems to have gone quickly although I'm sure it hasn't for you!

SR how is A doing? H's speech is suddenly really improving and he is talking all the time although I'm a little worried that there are some letters he struggles with. He can't say 'H' which is a bit of a bugger!

Well, back to KSA tomorrow. Its been a fab 2 weeks in the UK but has gone very quickly. We somehow managed to decorate 3 bedrooms and move 3 children around the rooms so H has finally got a bedroom! Wanted to get everything all sorted ready for when we are HOME in the summer! Back here 1st July and apart from maybe a few weeks (or possibly 6 to 8 weeks in the Autumn depending on what happens) we are back for good. DD really keen on going to her new school and we keep walking past it and showing her it. Its literally 5 mins walk so will be lovely to be back here permanently and settled in. We went to the park a few nights ago (just opposite the school) and she met a little girl that she'd met at the nursery she went to last summer which we hope she'll go to again this summer a few days a week. We sent her there in the hope she would make friends with other children who would go to her school. DD and the other little girl remembered each other from last summer and I met her mum who was lovely too and she is still at the nursery so will get DD booked in the same days as her and even better news, she has also got a place at DD's new school and lives literally 2 minutes around the corner from us

I can't wait now to get back in July and get everything settled. H will go to the little nursery with DD in the summer which is opposite her new school and will carry on going there until September next year when he will hopefully go to the nursery attached to DD's new school. I've enrolled him in a 'music bus thingy' (not really sure what it is but sounds good) and will sort out swimming lessons.

Just need to decide what I want to do. I'm not sure about returning to law and am wondering about maybe trying to go into counselling, mediation or maybe signing classes. Have my 3rd counselling course to finish in the next few weeks then I'll start thinking about my options!

Hope everyone had a lovely easter and is enjoying the lovely weather which I promise not to take back to Saudi tomorrow.

Hope to see some of you in the summer. Any further thoughts on meet ups?

Hi all.

MsLucy - How's Max getting on?

SR - great about A talking, clever boy! Bless him

Dinky - glad you had a fab holiday and are back in your house.

All's good here. Feeling good about being back at home and although I'm missing the kids at the school, I don't regret my decision to stop work at all.
Luke's telling me more and more when he's dirtied his nappy but gonna try to hold out til september to potty-train, that way Jacob will be at school all day and I can focus on Luke more. Am looking forward to that!

Luke's eczema has returned so he's not very happy, poor boy.

No news really, I'm looking forward to watching the big wedding, but I'm pretty sad. Have been watching all the lead up programs and dp feels he's all Will'd and Katekd out! Lol

MoS - at least the end of your KSA stint is in sight! Hopefully being back home will help things settle down, one way or another, with your DH too. Glad you're feeling so positive about being home SM - you definitely made the right decision given the way you're feeling now - and its great Luke is so close to potty training. Danny is still probably years off it.

Got rest of our stuff out from storage today and have had a hectic day of unpacking boxes - about half way through though. The boys have been brilliant - spent most of the day reading books from out of storage or playing with long lost toys. It was so sweet! Now I have internet up and running in the house I promise will take some pics and upload them - once have finally got rid of all the packing boxes that is. Soooo happy to be back in my house despite various snagging works and living with a tonne of dust and builders. The boys have really settled in really well here too.

Did you have fun watching the wedding yesterday SM? Thought it was all very tastefully done. We went to a local neighbourhood party in the afternoon and it was a really lovely gathering - really nice to have something inspire that level of community spirit around the country!

dinky - glad you are settling back in and that you haven't forgotten about posting pics

A wants to give up his nappies but he's afraid of the toilet and the potty so both attempts at PT so far ended halfway through the day as they were utter disasters.

On the plus side he's getting really into his swimming, dd started lessons a while back in a town a bit further away as the pool in town closed down and the new pool has a great learner area so I bring the boys in after her lesson.... one half is shallow enough for even dinky A to stand with the water only coming to his chest and the other half is just a bit to deep for him to stand but perfect for him to learn to swim. He loves it

mos... great that the end is so close now. So lovely that your dd has a little friend for school already, that will help so much.

SM.... poor Luke, hope the eczema clears.

Hey there all of you.
Max is doing great - had put on six ounces when the mw weighed him on Friday (and he'd just done a poo!)
Very much in awe of anyone planning potty training - going to hold off doing it with Stanley until late summer/autumn, largely because I think I rushed it with DS1 and don't want to go down that rather smelly road again
re: mellow. Not a word I'd use to describe Stanley - words I'd use include "whirlwind", "tsunami", "manic" and "hilarious" (Stanley's own favourite word du jour).
He never, ever stops talking which confuses a lot of people as he is rather small and looks younger than he actually is. I took him to the doctor about his height who looked at me and basically laughed ( I am 5'3).
Meet up sounds fun - maybe in the summer holidays...