Fab Feb 2009: things that go bump and "mummy, mummy, MUMMY!!!" in the middle of the night

[dinkystinky]

New halloween inspired thread (in honour of this time of year) to talk about our little jekyll & hydes [hgrin]

Is anyone going to be taking their little ones trick or treating this year? We'll be at MIL's for Halloween and she's already told me she has both Danny and DS1 costumes -so it appears that decision has been made for us

Thanks Ladies.
There have been many times that I have not known what I'd have done without you lot.

I just skimmed through the last couple of pages. Sorry to hear that you are feeling low SM. I have been thinking about AD myself (was given a prescription by the GP) but I am too scared to actually take them. Can you stop taking them as soon as you feel better. This is probably silly but ex MIL has been on AD for 30 years and I so do not want to end up like her.

How are you MarkStretch?

Oogs, I was on the April 07 thread too long time ago but find keeping up very difficult. I cannot believe that DC1 is already four!

After CP DC2 regressed and has had 4 accidents today only. I suspect that he had very sore spots in his little crotch which made weeing very uncomfortable. And then as he didn't want to go to the potty and or course had more accidents and after a while those ladies at his nursery starting putting him a nappy again for outdoor play and here we are.... I am gutted! And to add to the injury, now DC1, who is 4, weed on his pants today. I have spent half a day wiping the floors and the other trying to ignore DC2 who is shouting "mummy is stuupid, really stuupid" every time I say no to something.

We still have a nap although it makes bed time pure hell. But if he doesn't sleep during the day, he nods off at 5pm.

I need a drink :)

america - did you post under a different name when you posted on the April 07 thread?? I had our twins on that thread - still the same name

america My gp told me that it's best to be on them for at least 6 months, but because of what they are and do, you shouldn't just stop but should be weaned off of them.
Tbh, I came off of mine by myself a few months ago and nothing bad happened, just a while later it turned out that I cannot handle my emotions, I cannot cope with every day problems very well, I am paranoid, anxious, sad and well, depressed.
My dad has been on them for about 30 years and my mum should probably be on them, so I've never stood much of a chance.
After comparing what I am like with them and without them, I'd be quite happy to take them for the rest of my life.
Sorry to hear the potty training is going the other way. Luke is still doing well, but wants a nappy on now when he gets dressed. He still doesn't wee in it, he'll take it off, but does make it difficult when we are out. I think I'm going to get somne pull-ups and then slowly move him into padded pants and then normal pants.
He is fine at home, very few accidents but still likes to wear the nappy.

The boiler finally got fixed yesterday, is only a temporary measure until we get the funds for a whole new boiler which will be in a few weeks.
We have decided to definitely sell up and find somewhere to rent, so will get cracking with getting the ball rolling for that tomorrow.

Glad your boiler is working - for now at least SM. America - we all have times like that - gin generally helps I feel You know your DS2 and DS1 can be fully potty trained so just leave it and they'll get back to it in time. Though the yelling mumy is stupid would have me most annoyed - guess I should be thankful that Danny doesnt really talk much yet...

Re things that the dc's say that annoy and upset, Luke has started copying Jacob and now says "I don't love you anymore" when I tell him off.

hello all, just a flying visit in between trying to cram 5 1/2 years of my life into a few boxes and suitcases!

Sorry you are having a shite time SM, hope you feel better soon. Tell me to mind my own business but are you sure you want to get OFF the property ladder. I know it might be tempting in a way to rent and not have all that responsibility but I imagine if you sell up you'll have trouble if you wanted to buy again in the future? Don't do anything hasty x

It's ok mos We can't even afford to sell!!
You're probably right and we have decided to hold off for at least 3-5 years anyway.
I just really hate the housing association, but love our flat.
You know me though, hasty is my middle name!

SM just being wise and sensible as I'm old enough to be your mother

any news on meet ups (with and without little darlings!) I'm HOME in 12 days!

12 days? Wow! You must be feeling a crazy mix of emotions now.
I am quite keen to sell this place purely because we can't afford it.
Dp thinks that as long as we scrap by these next 2/3 years until Luke is in full time school and I can get a job, we'll be fine.
God knows what i'd do for work come then though.
I hate not having a plan.

I would like to work when Luke in school or even pre school but no idea what with 4 children.

Know what you mean oooggs and I only have 2!
I want to do something the kids will be proud of. I want a career, not just a job. I don't want to work in Next, or Tesco.
I obviously would as needs must, but would like to do something my children will be proud of and respect, I want to show them ambition and drive, not how to settle for whatever comes your way without effort, you know?
Shit, that sounds really snobby doesn't it?
I mean, there is nothing wrong with working in retail, shops, cleaning or anything else, but ykwim (hopefully)

If Next had child friendly hours I would love to work there for the discount

I turned down my teaching degree many many years ago so would like to eventually do that (I think) so maybe work in the school as a start, but doesn't even mum want to do that for child friendly hours!!!!

My civil service experience is so specialised I can't take it anywhere nevermind redundancy was the best for the family.

SM - my DH's mum worked in a shop. She did really well, was at M&S when she got married and offered a manager training role - which she turned down as it was in the days when trainee managers were sent around the country. She then got pregnant and stayed home until DH and his sister were in secondary school - she was terrified about going back to work, but got back into shop work. DH and his sister were so proud of her for going back to work and giving her all to her work - she finally retired last year from her workplace and they were gutted to see her go. As long as you give your all to whatever you do, and your kids see you working hard at what you do, they will be proud of you and respect you. DH's dad was a roofer - both DH and I (and DSIL) had massive respect for him as he was a perfectionist, never overcharged anyone and had a firm code of ethics (of his own slightly dodgy variety admittedly) he stuck too - and he made it clear that family and friends should always come first and second in your list of priorities. As for ambition and drive, DH has it by the bushel - first of his family to go to university, first to get a professional blue collar job - as does SIL who got a first at university and postgrad degree from Harvard - and they got it from their parents and the hard worth ethic code they instilled in them. Being in an office or at the front of a classroom doesnt make you a good role model - being the best you can be at whatever you do will though. Hope that helps.

MOS - 12 days! Wow.

Blimey that went on abit Sorry

You're right dinky, they will be proud no matter what I do, and I do have a huge amount of respect for everyone who manages to work in whatever field, if they can.
To have a trade is good too.
Your IL's sound like good people.
I will take whatever is on offer at the time, and will push myself to do thed best I can, without a doubt.
When I was 18 I started working as a part-time bar-maid and by the time I was 21 I had trained to assistant manager level and had a license to sell alcohol and by 23 I was managing my own venue, so I know that when I put my mind to something I can and will work to be the best I can be.
I do have drive.
Will have to just see what's around when the boys are both in school.

That's more like it SM - bet you'll be running the world by the time you're done

on the subject of work, what am I going to do?
Gave up a good career to move to the land of sand and have done several courses whilst here (mediation and 3 counselling courses) set up my own business teaching baby and toddler signing, have been secretary of residents committee and organised LOADS of charity events, coffee mornings, nearly new sales as well as my book/card sales business.
Will look bloody brilliant on my cv. NOT!

More pressing however is my new name. I cannot be mumoverseas if I am not overseas

And when is the bloody meet up! Give me a light at the end of the tunnel, I am moving 3,000 from all my friends, I will be lonely

mos
I have no idea what is happening with the meet-up. I can do pretty much any time during half-term.
Why wouldn't that stuff look good on your CV?

Hi all - back from 'holiday' in France. Exhausted..... weather was rubbish but DC's loved being at the coast so spent many a cold and drizzly day on the beach in jumpers and coats looking for broken shells, pebbles and bits of smelly seaweed treasure. Plus lots of driving around trying to find some sort of indoor activity suitable for the under 5s..... and trying to explain in v poor french that I need something for constipation for a 2 year old and something for diarrhea for a 4 year old (cue lots of strange mimes that greatly amused the pharmacist). Ah well, it was a relief to get back. Haven't caught up with thread yet - hope all is well with everyone.

MOS - what was your nickname/petname for DS1? Could you use that? My name is my affectionate name for DS1 when he was a baby...

I think all the stuff you've done - running your own business as well as all the volunteer work - will look great on your CV. The fact you've kept up with CPD will also help if you decide to go back to the law too - though sounds like you may want to do something else.

Summer meet up - I can do weekends last 2 weeks of August (as away first two weeks) or evenings without kids. So why dont we try to organise 2 meet ups - one daytime one that people who can make it (with their kids) can do (maybe Coram's fields?) and one evening one without kids (and with alcohol)?

When I was littleboyblue, that came from the nursery rhyme.
SilveryMoon is from a story I read to Luke every night for the first 6 months of his life. Under The Silvery Moon.
Ds1's petname was bambi.

I'm up for corums field. Prob won't make an evening one as we'll have to really watch what we're spending again

ok, so my new name will be shitbag -only joking!
god, how embarrassing, can't remember what I used to call DC1 and 2! (sunstroke, I'm sure it will come to me!) DD2 used to be called 'angelbaby' and H was/is 'babylamb'. Wonder if people on legal threads will take me seriously with those names though

I just emailed my old firm of solicitors on the offchance that they hear of anything, my old boss is the staff partner that deals with recruitment and I left on good terms and have kept in touch. Not reallly sure I want to go back to law though, its pretty much all or nothing and I want to enjoy DD's first few months/years at school.

Coram fields and evening piss/meet up sound fab. That place we met before near Victoria was good. Lovely mohitos SM you will HAVE to come, I will sponsor you

Sponser me!! lol
I don't think people really pay too much attention to names do they? I don't.

ooh, I do. I mean, I always thought when I 'met' you that you were mum to a little boy and had PND!

Funnily enough, I've had depression a lot over the last few years (triggered when mum died 2 years ago) and since DH and I made the decision to leave the sandpit I've thrown my pills away! (although if its bloody raining still in the UK next week might need some more!)