Fab Feb 2009: things that go bump and "mummy, mummy, MUMMY!!!" in the middle of the night

[dinkystinky]

New halloween inspired thread (in honour of this time of year) to talk about our little jekyll & hydes [hgrin]

Is anyone going to be taking their little ones trick or treating this year? We'll be at MIL's for Halloween and she's already told me she has both Danny and DS1 costumes -so it appears that decision has been made for us

oooggs I take my hat off to you managing four little people. I never achieve anything in my days looking after a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old. (D)H often comments on why the house looks a mess / washing not done / garden full of weeds, etc when I have 'been at home all day' .

I asked him to do one thing for DS's birthday (sort out some music to play) whilst I wrapped the gifts, decorated the venue, made the cake, sandwiches etc, sorted out games to be played, blew up the balloons, sorted out the party bags at the same time as looking after both DCs. Of course when we got over to the village hall he hadn't done anything about the music........arrrggghhhh

Still, party went well, only tears were from DS when he didn't win pass the parcel despite the fact he had a mountain of presents to open anyway!

I'm still worried about DS - we were called into the hospital on Friday for some more blood tests as there was still protein and blood in his urine from the test he did on Thurs. They have taken some more blood to test specifically for auto-immune problems and kidney function. I'll find out more tomorrow.

SM I've never heard of duplex kidneys - DS has been given a diagnosis of nephritic syndrome, which has a wide spectrum of prognosis depending on the cause.

Calico Pleased the party went well.
Goodluck for the results tomorrow, do come on and let us know what they say.
(duplex kidney is when you have an extra bit of kidney attached to yours. It means that I have extra valves etc so am more prone to infections etc)

All's fine here. Both boys are well. Jacob has started scabbing (C.P) now, so that's good.
The CM's ds has it now, but he's got it really bad, all over plus on the soles of his feet . She said he's been laying on the sofa all weekend really miserable and doesn't want to move.
She said she'll still have mine tomorrow (Jacob still not ready for school though), so means 3 under 5 all day!!!!!!!!!!!
i do need to go into work tomorrow to complete my team teach training, but said I could go sick for the rest of the week. We're gonna play it day to day.

Still taking driving lessons. My instructor isn't touching me as much as he was so feeling a bit more comfortable.

Where is everyone???

here miss

tomorrow is my last day of having 3 under 4

caught up last night on Edgars thread I cried, poor family

glad pox is coming to an end as I am sure you are too!!!

parties are hard work, we are having a 'treat' on Tuesday and birthday tea with a friend each on Thursday - all I could manage this time round!!

I just cant read Edgar's thread - I saw it in general health and then when it was moved to bereavement it made me cry so much when I saw that I just cant open it

Calico - glad the party went well.

SM - cant imagine you putting up with an inappropriate driving instructor at all! Hope the lessons are going well and good luck for your theory test. And the room move.

Both DS1 and Danny appear to be ill with some form of bug - Danny has white spots on his tongue. Cant scrape them off so not thrush - but also has swollen glands and off his food and crying for me ALL the time. DS1 was sick (in my hands) at brunch today (we were in a restaurant) - sigh - and his glands are up and he has a rash too. Now diving head first into a bottle of white wine...

Oh dinky Poor Ds1. Hope they both get better soon.

Yeah, the driving instructor went through a phase of stroking my leg as he was taking the steering wheel, then stroking his hand over mine when guiding me away from parked cars. Seems to have stopped now, so all good.

Enjoy the wine, sounds like you need it

Thanks SilveryMoon - re your driving instructor, glad its stopped: sounds quite uncomfortable.

dinky how are the boys today? Sounds horrible for them and you.

Doctor has diagnosed viruses - different ones of course - for both boys.

Didnt sleep much last night (just 2 hours I think) so suspect I'm coming down with something too..ho hum.

FFS. Looks like this latest swap at work has started off a whole load of issues, bitching, back stabbing, and arguing within the department.
Not getting involved though, just keeping my head down and cracking on, let everyone else sort it out.

Dinky, hope you're feeling ok x

Oh no SM - that's a nightmare! I think you're doing absolutely the right thing by keeping your head down and getting on with your work.

Feeling ok thanks - v tired and achy but have work to do so have to struggle into work...

Hello all, SM sorry about crap move.. DS sorry ds is so poorly...

Things not going very well here. On Sunday I had really bad tummy cramps, so bad I couldn't sleep. Monday morning I had thick brown Jelly (sorry TMI). It started out constantly then just when I went to the toilet.

Went to GP who said that it wasn't good but wasnt' necessarily the end. He was very good actually and talked me through everything that could happen. have a scan booked for Friday (this will give it time to either happen or not). Discharge has stopped but still got really bad cramps so dont know what to think. Have had no blood yet so I am kind of hopeful.. Got to rest lots so dp is doing most of the house work after he finishes work.. not ideal but what can you do...

please can you all keep your fingers crossed for me on friday. I wont be on before then as my head is all over the place and want to try and keep my feet on the ground but i will check in as soon as we are home to let you know how it goes...

Am keeping my fingers crossed for you bumps. Just try and take things easy and look after yourself.

good luck bumps - thinking of you xxx

Well manic here with 4 year old birthday presents - we have survived another yhear with twins

OMG, bumps I'll be thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed until then. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

oooggs lol, glad their birthday went well.

So, had my first official day in new room. All is fine in there anyway. The shit is slowly hitting the fan elsewhere, and the witches are sniggering over their cauldron again, but no doubt it will blow over, just keeping my distance.

I was talking to a member of staff today who told me the reason for the swap was that the lady I swapped with had been reported for picking on the volunteer in that room, so had to be moved. All happened not long before I piped up that I wasn't happy so that is apparently the reason.
I was also told, by (let's call her J) that my contract will be renewed. She said the headd teacher has been talking very highly of me. She has said she def wants me to be on the first round of people to go on NVQ (she told J this because they are trying to get J to agree to become an in-house NVQ assessor). She said that I impressed her in class and in my interview I was very attentive.

That's good isn't it

Fab news SM

Thanks oooggs Is a relief if it's true. Although the head teacher did tell me she was very suprised that I didn't have qualifications, that she thought I'd had them all and that I am very good with the children.
We shall see what happens. But like I said, there is a storm brewing and it seems I am, yet again, the one who's name will be dirt for the move.
Little do they know, that come september, they will all be moving and there are mega changes coming (I nosed through some paperwork I found on my teachers desk )

result - you have to nose about my loverly (said in my best west country accent ) to keep ahead of the game!!

Bumps.... fingers and toes crosses for friday. I hope you and bubs are ok.... take care of yourselves

Calico... I hope everythings ok with your ds too.

Bumps - hope all is ok - everything crossed here for you for Friday.

SM - that's good news about your contract. Hope you can settle in to the new class ok and ignore the witches.

oooggs - good to hear that you survived the twins birthday!

Ok here. Spoke to the hosp regarding DS on Monday. They are not concerned with the blood test results that came back but they are still waiting on one test. His kidney function still hasn't returned to normal but is getting a bit better - they want him back next Monday for a review and if his kidney function is still not normal they may have to do more investigation. So it is good news until we hear any more - I am still worried about him as he is pale, quiet and after a year and a half of being reliably dry he has started wetting the bed and wetting himself during the day. Nursery have noticed that he is quite subdued and gets upset easily but he says he feels ok. We'll have to wait and see......

Morning all.
Things are getting bad at work. The woman I swapped classes with (A) is telling everyone that she was forced to move because I went to the deputy head and demanded to be moved class Like I, unqualified me, temporary contract me, could walk up to the deputy head and tell her where to place her staff.
Another woman (R) has been saying about how I love to get my own way, no matter how it affects anyone else, but maybe R needs to remember that it was her who reported A for bullying a member of staff in her class, so there had to be consequences for that.....................................plus with the whole department shifting around (although no one knows about that yet)
Yesterday my class teacher bumped into the dep head and told her about all the bitching that's going on and the DH said she'll take it to the leadership meeting and things will be discussed with staff in department briefing this morning, (which I am missing)

SM it does sound as if the staff are acting like children.....what a shame to have to put up with such silly squabbling. I would have thought that working in a childcare environment the staff would be supportive of each other. As others have said - keep your head down and do your best and it'll probably all settle down sooner or later.

SM - I agree with Calico: the staff are acting like children. and the reason they are like this is because they are badly managed and there is no transparency about the moves so they are unsettled and upset and rather like children they are lashing out - unfortunately they are lashing out at you as a convenient scapegoat. Keep your head down, do your job and dont get involved - if someone says something to your face just set them straight but otherwise ignore, ignore, ignore.

Thanks guys. It's crazy, especially being a special school so there is alot of focus on behaviours and how to handle them. Shame more focus isn't put on how to deal with behaviours from the staff!
No one will say anything to my face, they are making little digs and talking behind my back.
Yesterday A came into the room to say hello to the kids, then when she was leaving she said "Bye K, see ya J, bye S" Completely failed to acknowledge that I was even in the room. Pathetic. The other staff looked at me and I just laughed. Is a joke.
Am at home today because the cm has been called to a family emergency. Bit pissed off coz everyone will think I'm off coz they got to me. Oh well.

oh SM it sounds so much like childish playground behaviour &

bumps - hope you are ok

hope everyone else is alright and diddling along as well

hello all, sorry not been here for a while, RL been a bit busy.

MrsY so sorry about your loss. I too have been there and know how awful it is, talking does help though I found x

bumps fingers crossed for you, hope all ok

Calico hope all ok with DS, sounds very worrying

SM christ, sounds like YOU are back at school again. I couldn't work somewhere like that so well done you. Rise above it

everyone else waves and general best wishes.

Has been manic here. Don't know if you remember but I had a 'run in' with the 'big cheeses' wife here in December. She was being a snotty cow and I told her what I thought of her. Got a written warning (on DH's file as I don't have one as a 'dependant') and since then, have behaved myself, kept out of her way etc etc. The few occasions I have seen her have not spoken and avoided eye contact etc. Well, a few weeks ago DH got hauled in and told she had made another complaint. Seems that she took offence to me attending the nursery on 'her day'. H and her DD go different days (her choice) and one of my close friends here was hugely pregnant and last pregnancy had pre-eclampsia and other probs. Her DS is H's age and both got to same nursery. As I have double P & Ts I offered to take her DS and pick him up to save her the walk. As she was struggling and 39weeks she put her son in full time so I still offered to take him and pick up as DD at school full time which is next door to nursery so have to go that way anyway.

Anyway, seems she got the arse that I was there on 'her' day, made a complaint, I was ordered to do a statement, summonsed in for formal meeting where I was basically cross-examined and I told them I thought it was a load of bollocks! Bloody ridiculous and am pissed off with being treated like a naughty schoolgirl
I was 'ordered' not to go to the nursery on HER days and as a result my friend had to walk to and from nursery the day before her baby was born. Am fuming as someone from DH's company phoned the nursery and said I wasn't allowed there on 'madams days' and nursery manager told staff this in a meeting. Bearing in mind we are on a huge compound where everyone knows everyone else, I am appalled by this. God only knows what the staff must have thought about me and the reason for me being banned. Am on the verge of putting in a complaint for abuse of authority/process.

DH and I have been pissed off with the control over our lives for a long time now and this really is the last straw. The evil witch is clearly trying to get me sent home and is doing everything she can to discredit me and I've had enough.

Ideally we wanted one more year here to cover DD1 through her GCSEs but what price do you put on happiness/sanity!
We have been mulling things over for a while now and whilst I am (mostly) happy here and have finally in the last 9 months or so found the best friend I have had in a very long time, I can't live like this.

We found out this morning that DD2 has been offered a place at our local infant school (about 5 mins walk) so it seems that this is a sign that it is time to go. We are back for 2 weeks at Easter and will start taking back as much stuff as possible and trying to make our UK home more 'homey' for DD2 and H. Back here end of April til end of June and then looks like I'm back for good then. Mixed feelings at the moment. Will be gutted to leave all my friends here, well my best friend but feel I need to take control of my life again.

Sorry for war and peace
take care everyone x