July 2010: Our babies are growing, they're grabbing their toys and soon they'll be throwing!

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new thread ladies xx

thanks both tsc everything is ok with us now, just freaked out as he doesnt know what to do and i feel like im not person he met. he tried to make things better by saying what used to make me feel good about myself, i said dressing nice and having my hair done, now like everyone else have body issues and over weekend found a small bald patch! because if hair loss been advised not to style it ot die it, and the other thing is i said lying on sofa with my dog as he knew when i felt like shit and didnt judge me just lay with me, and now hes gone too! so that sent me into a huge panic attack...hey ho tomorrow is another day

memphis vent on here as much as you need to! As mlic said, we're all shocked and annoyed about the lack of help you've received. Like tsc said (sorry, no original thoughts from me tonight!) Hormones will be flying all over the place for all of us at the mo, it just affects us all in different ways (stupid example but I've had spots on my thighs after both pregancies - nice, huh?) - the very last thing you should feel is guilty. There's no rhyme nor reason as to who gets pnd, it's just shitty luck and says nothing about you as a person. One of my loveliest, cleverest and most sunny friends had her first year with her baby blighted by pnd, she eventually got help and took antidepressants for a while and has been her usual gorgeous self again since.

Don't give up til you get some help. Good luck for tomorrow.

as everyone else has already said memphis a few of us have been there and are proof these things can get better with the right help. When you speak to the doc make sure you tell him about how you feel at your worse. Sometimes we are guilty of trying to make things seem better, get it all out. We're here for you x

Oh no tsc.....i wonder what he'd be like if you weren't there? Even go for a walk down the street so you're not too far away? but you've probably already done that. Im not that good for advise sorry!!
Memphis i really feel for you. It'd be one thing ig you weren't asking for help but you are. And i know what you mean about being worried because your not the same person that dp met. But alot has changed. You've had a baby and that changed everything. Im nagative ways as well as the good. Negative being the way the hormones are ao bloody unptedictable and you dont know what way your feeling or why your feeling like that. Every one of us has had a blow out with dp's. Every one of us has flipped! but what is most important now is getting 'you' back again now and the doctors really need to step up and bloody listen now. Is there anyone who can go to the docs with you to drill the point home??

memphis you can come on here and rant as much as you like, that's what we're here for! I really hope you can get someone to take notice of how you're feeling, you know we're all behind you and we'll all be thinking of you today!

tsc I wish we could swap, I've got milk in the fridge to give S but just never get around to it. He'll take a bottle as 'easily' as he takes a boob (which means on/off with lots of fussing but it does go down) Weird how F just needs a good boob to suck

mlic hope today is quieter for you!

Had another night of 4 hours sleep, actually 4.5 so shouldn't complain really Went to bed at 10pm, dh home from work at 10.30 and wanted to chat, S up at 23.30, fell asleep at boob and wouldn't wake so inevitably re-woke 20 mins after being put down and fed til 1 then decided 5am was a good time to start the day the worst thing is that DD didn't wake all night and is still asleep. About 5 nights in 7 I get 4 hours' sleep and the other two night I might get a maximum of 6 in 2/3 chunks...driving me round the bend!

Oh mlic that is bloody awful. When he cries is it mostly due to pain from all the wind do you think?

chulita your night sounds pretty bad too but I think mlic just pips you at the post.

Hope you both make it thru the day ok. My prescription is lots of buggy time and keep focused on your goal (wine o clock this evening).

Good luck today memphis

tsc what's next in your 'getting frankie off the breast' arsenal?

F in nursery today and I'm taking A to her first class - baby sensory. I feel strangely nervou about going despite being an old hand at it! I think its because I got used to knowing everyone at F's classes so it feels odd to walk into a room of strangers with a different baby! Ah well, if it goes anything like F's sensory classes then she'll betotally underwhelmed but it'll be nice to see some other babies and compare notes with their mothers.

Bit late but memphis just wanted to say its def alright to feel like you cant cope sometimes no matter how 'easy' your baby is, Dylan isnt the worst (and no means the best either) but there are times I feel like I want to walk away for a while (like last night when he woke up everytime I put him down about 5 times) and it def feels worse at night I think, we are here for you if you need to talk :)

mlic how awful for you, I just cant imagine how tired you're feeling, Im so tired I feel physically sick this morning :( fingers crossed that solids will settle him a bit for you.

It took a LONG time to get Dylan to stay asleep last night but I finally did it and managed to watch most of The Little House in peace, for him to then wake at midnight he came in bed with me and woke up several times, dont know when exactly as Ive stopped looking at the clock its too depressing.

Got baby massage today at 1pm, its going to rain all day so thats prob all Ill be doing, fun fun..

tsc go out and have fun! if he really does need feeding then dp wont have much choice but to try harder to get a bottle in him.
mlic poor you i hope he settles for you today so you can at least chill on sofa for a bit. right then rang docs, tried all morning finally got through, couldnt get me in, i had a bit of a meltdown and said fine im going to pay to be seen at bupa and if they diagnose me with pnd and do something about it i will be taking action against them for neglegence, not actually sure i could do that i was just so upset i blurted it out but it worked and im going in tomorrow before the hv app! im seeing the head partner of the practice so if he cant help no one will!

oh and dp what did you think of little house? i thought it was fantastic it got to 9.40 and i just thought if that was my mil i would kill her, then she kind of did!! i was thinking oh god please dont let her really be mad

memphis yeah I really enjoyed it, shame all the good series are so short! I would def want to kill her if she was my MIL, I said to DP 'Im glad your mum is normal'

Tesco baby club have just sent me a pack of huggies baby wipes to test, and not just a sample sized pack with a few wipes but a normal one with 64 wipes!
Ive got to use them for 4 days then complete a survey online about them. I get 50 clubcard points for doing this too.
Its well worth signing up to it if anyone hasnt.

Also Ive put a pic of my engagement ring on my profile if anyone is interested!

memphis bloody good on you, girl! It shouldn't have taken you saying that but at last they seem to be taking it seriously. Hope it goes well tomorrow.

tsc go, go, go! It's not like you're starving him. As mlic said, it might even do the trick.

mlic How's the day going? Have been thinking of you. Only 5 or so hours to go now!

just seen your aibu thread tsc, you're either totally reasonable or you've scared all the vipers shitless after previous aibu run-ins

oh and what's for dh's dinner tonight mlic? Plain boiled cauliflower?

Think you need to do a Wife Swap on his arse so he realises how lucky he is!

Hang on in there with it all, though, it HAS to get easier with W sleeping and eating better soon.

dd's not sleeping either today, she was giving up while we wandered B&Q at about 10 this morning, I wasn't going to sack it then so did what we needed to and now she's overtired and won't sleep. S on the other hand got his first round of jabs (at last) and was as good as gold, now asleep. Dh is on nights this week so at least he's around to help resettle L if needed.

I've signed up to Tesco too but not got anything...preferential treatment eh?!

Hope you find some energy from somewhere mlic your night definitely trumps mine!

Good on you memphis and make sure you tell them how you feel when you're at your lowest so they get some idea. I'm so for you that you've had to push this hard, I hope you find someone who listens!