July 2010: Our babies are growing, they're grabbing their toys and soon they'll be throwing!

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new thread ladies xx

mlic good luck for today, if your feeling a bit out of it there just imagine us all sitting on your shoulders for support!!
needle theyt say in a relationship if your can survive the 1st year of your babies life then your set for life, the dynamics have really changed here, do you bf? i know a few people who did who put on weight steadily until the stopped, it pulls your muscles in but think for most womwn its a bit of a myth that you lose weight.
i was suppost to go to a baby group today i just cant do it, i dont have hardly any friends but walking in there alone is so daunting i just cant do it!!
going to dh's cousins in a bit to drop a few things off, she split with fella months ago then 7 weeks ago she found she was pregnant, hes with someone else and shes having the baby next week so she has nothing at all!!!

i will try and go next week, i got dressed to go and got the pushchair out of the car i just couldnt go, ive spoke to the organiser, shes lovely i met her in a cafe with dh thats how i heard of the group, she assured me there are no smug snobby know alls to scare me i just cant do it so i think i will bake today instead!!

Morning all! You'll be fine today, MLIC. :) Consultants are normally lovely, as they're generally doing a job in an area they're passionate about and seeing people who really need them. Hopefully you'll get a good answer, whichever one that may be!

Needle, I think you're BFing..? I'm still BFing here and not shifting the pregnancy weight, despite being on a healthy diet where I'm certainly not eating the extra 500 calories or such I'm supposedly 'allowed'! So you're certainly not alone with being baffled at your weight.

It was getting me down a bit but researching has shown that a lot of women don't lose the weight until after 6 months or when they stop BFing, presumably when the pregnancy 'store fat!' hormones are gone. I'm also trying to convince myself that lugging a stone of baby around the house is building up my arms and changing fat to muscle.

My plan currently is to just keep going as I am at the moment, enjoy the Christmas feasting without being too extravagant, then attack my weight more aggressively with exercise/dieting in the new year when I've stopped BFing or reduced it considerably and the hormones have hopefully settled. :) Hopefully that will be more fruitful... If you'll excuse the healthy eating pun!

As for Prima, I responded to a media request here on MN back over the summer. They were just asking for a new parent's Christmas plans to write about, so I volunteered. :)

Four month growth spurt continues here... Though I am now extremely grateful that M is still making it through the night between 8pm and 7am, since the clocks went back. However the pay off for that is that she wants to spend all darn day feeding off me! She detached briefly as I took DH to work, but aside from that it's been feed feed feed so far today, and it looks set to continue.

My hat is off to those of you with other children, at least I can clear my calendar with relative ease and spend the week on the sofa MNing and watching rubbish daytime TV.

Aw memphis I really think you should try to get to a group, I dont want to seem all high and mighty but I went alone to ALL my groups (3 or 4 a week!) and Im really glad I did, you may seem a bit shy at first but if they are anything like mine everyone is SO friendly and you soon get chatting to people.
I thought it would be really hard for me as Im younger than the avg mum at these groups but I just chatted to whoever and if you think realistically, no one is going to blank you are they?

mlic oh no, I'd missed your post re the hv 'being too busy'. Arrghh!! Really wish I could teleport up there to be with you.

If this doesn't find anything up then I know a paediatrician and I'll speak to her and see what she suggests.

memphis think of it this way, if you go to one group and meet one new friend then you'll have a buddy to go to other classes and things with. I've actually met very few smug know it alls - and I've been to a lot of groups and classes! Most of us are in the same boat and just want to be friendly.

groups are great - everyone's been the one who doesn't know anyone, honest! they will be welcoming.

i have a poorly baby - he's got a cold and is miserable with it, poor lamb. he's all chesty and snuffly and congested, he's feeding the bare minimum, none of his usual comfort sucking - i hope my supply doesn't drop too much. he fell asleep on me at about 8pm last night, and had a bit more of a sleepy feed before i put him down in his cot at9.30pm. he then slept through till 6.20am! i was gushing milk by that point, and he only took one side. so then when he woke up again at 9.30 my other side was sooo uncomfortable!

i got him up but he was so unhappy i gave him some calpol and he went back to sleep in the sling for an hour and a half or so. poor baby!

Spirael, you have a sofa?! Lucky! I have a folding chair in the kitchen. I shouldn't complain, I still have a great vantage point for Desperate Housewives and The Gilmore Girls.

You know what I love about this website? For about the first time in my life, I feel totally normal. Not necessarily thin or popular, but normal!
WRT weight loss, I seam to eat cereal, yoguhurt and one meal per day, which should put me well under an RDA, calorie wise, but I'm definitely putting weight on. Couple that with the falling out pregnancy hair and the spotty post-pregnancy skin and I feel very strange.

I've checked out NCT a few times, but the are where we live is one of the poorest in London, so there isn't a lot of takeup on the NCT. When I went to the weigh in last week, I was genuinely a little scared of some of the mums there, but I guess I do need to try harder. I did start going to one group, but turned out to be populated only by spanish ladies, some of whom didnt even speak english. They were very nice, but my spanish isn't that good. So, I have made a decision, which probably wont mean that much to non-london based Mumsnetters, but to those of you who know what I'm talking about... I'm going to tell the NCT a fib, and try and cross the river to the Pimlico Group [Pause for horrified gasps]. Yes ladies, I'm sneaking back to North London. Its actually really stupid. Pimlico is a five minute walk away, but my postcode puts me in a group that's a 20min drive away.

DH has got a real thing about HVs, because the first one i saw, before we moved, was so awful. She didn't even look at Gwen, all she was interested in was my ethnic origin and whether my husband beats me, so I haven't contacted the new one yet, although i think i have to if i want the baby to have her BCG.

Anyway, I should probably do something productive!Memphis, I'm going to bake today too- cheese biscuits to take to a backgammon competition tomorrow. Oh, the glamour.

needle i would sneak to the otherside!! my local NCT group is in such a rough area 10 miles away i dont dare drive there let aloneget out of my car once there!! on the subject of hair dhdismanltled the bath pipes and pulled out the most huge hairball that was bloking the pipes up it was a tight ball as big as a tennis ball!! sadly it took all day to put back together and flooded out bathroom and had to spend a small fortune on new pipes! im baking banana bread and apple and sultana loaf!! mm mmm

needle I'm with you on the weight front. I've got a stone and a half to lose and it's just not shifting. Bearing in mind I've cut out dairy so biscuits/chocolate/cakes are currantly (snort) at a minimum and desserts are out, I can't work out where the weight's coming from! I'd lost all the weight with DD apart from one stubborn pound by the time she was 11 months old so I'm not too worried, just frustrated at not fitting into my clothes...

stac I'm trying to avoid giving him meds if I can, I almost caved yesterday but I wasn't convinced it was reflux...who knows?!

mlic I hope everything goes well for you today and you get some answers. I agree with spirael most consultants are quite friendly.

memphis I hope you do get out to a group or two, it can be intimidating but if you meet someone you get on with then you're sorted!

But, in the same vein, I just went to the only bf support group I could find here and didn't really get on with it. It was in a small room with nothing in it at all so fine for Sam but DD was bored stiff and couldn't even run anything off. No one chatted to me either so we knocked it on the head and went to the sheep and poultry auction instead. That's 5 groups I've been to since we moved and only one is any good for us. I guess it's harder when you have to factor a toddler in too. I also miss my Dorset friends like crazy so maybe I'm being too picky. Just in the bf group I used to go to, if anyone new came in we'd all chat to her whereas all the toddler groups I've been to here I just get ignored - must have that kind of face. I'm getting very tired of not having any friends though...

And on the eating front, Sam's had 2 crappy nights in a row being up every 2 hours so maybe he's on some kind of a growth spurt. Nevermind eh, he'll be 1 before I know it!

Lyndon is still sleeping loads but whens hes awake hes very wriggly and whiney, think its from his jabs ther other day so im just on the laptop, been looking on mn, why are so many of the women on here snobs, ooh waitrose all the way, asda is full of chavs and tescos is full of scum??!!WTF i love asda! christ all mighty dont these women have lives?

I shop at Morrisons... Can I stay? I don't tend to like Asda much, but I think that's because my local one is the huuuuuuge two storey monster in Pudsey that it takes forever to walk around!

For groups, I don't tend to go out to any... I was going to one on Wednesday mornings, but I was getting bored stiff sat in the corner by myself, stuck feeding the bottomless pit M the whole time while everyone else was chasing after toddlers. And if anyone did come to speak to me, I could barely hear them over the (understandable) din!

I don't really miss it though... I'm anti-social quite a private person anyway. My DH faithfully calls every lunchtime to give me a point of contact with the outside world, he tends to watch M during the evenings and I go out for a few hours with friends every Sunday afternoon. Suits me fine. :)

Your current diet sounds similar to mine, Needle. Yoghurt for breakfast, small amount of pasta for lunch, pot of fruit in the afternoon, then a healthy dinner in the evening. My only indulgence is a single yummy chocolate from a Thorntons box in the evening. :) Yum!

mlic i have a massive tesco 5 mins walk from me but tend to stay away apart from essentials as the shop would take ages as dh seems to bump into all his mates! i made mistake when i 1st moved here to get my pregnancy test from there i was so worried i bought 6 so they were hard to hide under a mag when i bumped into dh's best friend!! i just dont get food snobs!! my dh doesnt care where i get food as long as its hp brown sauce i call him a hp snob!!
whens your appointment?

I like Waitrose but shop in Asda/Sainsbury's. I prefer Sainsbury's mainly cos the children's clothes are lovely :)

Sam's nearly rolling bless him, he currently rolls onto one side and whines!

mlic how did you get on?

spirael I wish I could be happy in my own company, I need to get out most days. Mind you, cos of moving around so much I don't have any friends here so no one to go out with of a weekend.

Our nearest are Waitrose followed by Sainsburys so I go to those mostly. I quite enjoy shopping in waitrose and use sainsbury's cafe as it's so much cheaper than all the other coffee shops for my multiple bf stops! We also have a big tesco I sometimes drive to if we need to stock up on heavy/big stuff like cat food and loo roll.

Just popper on to see if there was any word from mlic but no! hope it went well
memphis i totally agree wrt to the snobbery. I dont even know what waitrose is cos we dont have one in ireland!
Ellie got her second jabs today. Made dp bring her cos i cried the last time! didnt make much difference cos i still cried when she came home cos i felt so bad! she's im good form though if a little sleepy.
My friend asked me today to do the london marathon with her in april.im not athletic in the slightest! started jogging the other night but only because i need to lose 2 and a half stone! I want to do it because it would be a massive achievment but need to decide for definate whether i can dedicate myself to training for it. The logical part of my brain is telling me dont bothet cos im so lazy when it comes to any form of excersise but id like to say i've done it....!

Well, at least there's nothing wrong with him - that's a huge encouragement. And of course if it's his suck that's the issue he should sort himself out once he starts solids (which isn't that far away). Frustrating that you can't do anything to help him but it must be nice to know that he's not 'broken'. Do you feel ok about it? I mean you're not too irritated about not being able to fix it or despondent about carrying on the way you have been?

mlic good news that theres nothing wrong. Have you tried dr browns or something of that nature. R gets carobel thickner. Would you consider using baby rice in a bottle as he is 17wks?
Hope your chinese was good

I must be a chav then as i like asda/tesco our local supermarket is the co-op which is crap we dont have a waitrose here at all. I do like sainsburys which we use if near it. I dont see the difference tbh. Have to say we only buy heinz or hp but only because i was brought up on them lol x

mlic glad you feel better about it all, hope she comes back with something you can try.

I dont know if you all saw on facebook but Dylan rolled over today for the first time! SO proud

Hows tsc doing? Havent heard from her in a while.

Also suddenly thought yesterday, does anyone know what happened to anifers? She kind of just vanished off the thread..