September 2010 - we've met our little ones now!

[comixminx]

Or most of them at least - there are some late September ones still to come!

Hi all, I'm on the list but haven't really posted much. It's so helpful reading how other mums are coping. I must say I'm relieved not be the only sleep deprived one who is finding it hard. Lots of my friends with newborns appear to have perfectly behaved babies who sleep through the night (or so they say!?)Amelie is a little cutie but can be quite grisly and wakes every 1-3 hours through the night. Hats off to those with more than one!! x

I think we're all doing great with our babies, no matter what else we achieve in a day we are caring for one or more children in the best way we know how. All our babies are different, I had my nightmare one first so I think it's only fair this one isn't too bad .

Getting out is not all it's cracked up to be anyway, lovely to stay in with DC and rest, ignoring all the chores! I get up and out because I have to, without what I earn from Childminding I would not be able to pay the bills so it's a total necessity. I would love to sit in front of CBeebies cuddled up with my boys but can't. It leaves me totally knackered and as much as I look forward to having DH home I often snap at him and go to bed very soon after ds1. Not to mention the number of times I'm in tears, complaining how unfair it all is

Mellymooks your relationship with your DD is still there and as it was you just have an extra person who needs your attention and you ahve given her an amazing gift, a sibling. I don't know what I'd do without my brother! I don't have experience of the lack of bonding but have seen several threads on that subject with everyone saying they bonded with their babies over time.

And totally agree sleepsuits should never be in an ironing pile!!! Plus its not good for babies skin to bathe them too often

Happy birthday Dixie!

I'm definitely a clock-watcher (though not right now as DP's home already, and making me my tea :)). Can I second the bowing down to sassy? I've always been fiercely independant, but since having Louis I definitely lean on my DP much more, and really appreciate having him around.

melly I really feel for you. Just think how much better it will be when the colick disappears.

I want to say how much admire sassy too, you seem to have all the issues everyone else has, except all in one big package whereas most of us just have a couple.

I'm really lucky that the only issues I have is Orlaith doesn't sleep well and feeds about every 1-2 hours during the day. Luckily when we go out she tends to fall asleep in the pushchair and stay asleep most of the time we're out.

sassy I've had countless people actually reach into the pushchair and touch her. I was even at the checkout at sainsbury's last week when I turned round to put a bag in the trolley and found a dirty looking couple stroking her face and the man trying to kiss her!!!

Thanks cinnamon and maple I think it's just been such a surprise as I expected to feel smitten straight away like I did with DD and hadn't even considered that it would also be an end of it just being me and my girl and that that would be hard to let go of.

Thankfully she is wonderful with him and loves him to bits, and I feel like I'm getting there slowly.

I really hope the colic goes soon - it's such a horrid thing

Actually I admire anyone with more than one child, I don't know how you get anything done. I certainly can't imagine doing anything, let alone a school run, before 9am!
You may not get told it very often, but you're amazing!

maple I would highly recommend a sling, I loved it with my DD and used it all the time, and this time round with Flynn it is the only place he settles when the colic is bad, could not be without it!

I've got a hug-a-bub which is a cloth one and means there are no straps to dig in and it distributes the weight really evenly. Having a bit of a rubbish back I've found it ideal.
We also have a babybjorn which are very popular and my DP loves, but I just don't seem to be able to get on with it, I think my frame is just too small, the straps cut in my rib cage and it hurts my shoulders, so cloth one all the way for me!

Awh shucks....making me blush. Thanks but i'm no superwoman. I'm sure there are mums who get up 10 mins earlier than the kids to put make up on and have everything done and layed out the night before........but i'm not one of them. Life would be soooooo much better if i did (and i'm pretty sure dp would like it, cos i think he thinks i do bugger all with the mess he comes home to every week) but it's never going to happen. I'm far too laid back and selfish (i'd sooner talk to you all on here first) :o

saoirse Euwh. I'm poised to say please don't touch! Or get the f@*k off, depending on my mood.

Cinnamon Was it me that said about being born on the wrong centile??? If I didn't say it on here I've been saying it in rl!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DIXIE!!!

I think we're all doing a fab job. We all have happy healthy babies. So what if hair isn't brushed, housework isn't done & we're living off junk food. Itsfor such a short period of time that it'll be gone before we know it & we'll be discussing 1st days at school!

I have to go out everyday! I act like a crazy woman in the mornings to be out the house by 9-10 because I can't stand to be at home. If I'm out with other people there's someone else to help, someone else to make me lunch & cups of tea! And best of all I can't see the bombsite that is my house!!!!!

banana I'm liking your logic! I chickened out of a day trip into town today..... but now you've reminded me that it's the only way to eat well and have nice cuppas. All made by someone else. I've still not managed to get a bath. Made about 30 necklaces in the last 2 hours since DH got home. He was stuck in traffic for almost 2 hours so I practically threw Jack to him when he walked in. Typical...he burped immediately then was asleep within 40 mins. I like to think it's like a stiff jam jar lid and I did the hard bit first!
saoirse horror!
sassy you want me to come and stay for a couple of days? I'll bring loads of tins of chocolates!
p.s: anyone else ever rubbed nipple cream on instead of eye cream?

Happy Birthday Dixie

Well Maria-Ann had her 8 week injections today, I felt really bad holding her whilst she had them. The worst thing is hearing her cry and not being able to do anything I felt totally useless :( and now she's off colour I feel even worse!

Don't really have a routine as she is still bad with colic which seems to be worse in the evening. Everyday is different and some times we are in bed for 10pm other nights it's getting on till 12 before she will settle.

A few nights ago she seemed to be very unsettled and would scream every other hour or so, couldn't do anything to settle her. She was trying all night to have a poo then I'd notice she finally manage one and it was like a big round ball changed her nappy and then she did another one which was more like diarrohoea, was cleaning her up then she did a really big push and the diarrohea went flying across my bed and landed in between my toes my O/H was in stitches and Maria-Ann looked very pleased with herself

Thanks for bday wishes all. We managed to get some shopping done, although I basically just went a bit crazy in the first shop as I wasn't sure how long he'd give me! Then came home to watch films whims Arlo slept on me. So lovely to cuddle him but he did sleep a lot yesterday and now I think I might be pAying the price as he is up for a feed only less than 2 hours into the night!

It is soooo hard getting out And about - and then after he fell asleep yesterday I started feeling guilty about having him in his carseat for so long! So pretty much raced home to get him out of it!

He's looking so much like a proper little person now - do you know what I meAn? I was staring at him yesterday thinking how amazing the difference in only 6 weeks.

I also have a sling, only use it for school runs as I already have double buggy but had planned to use it for doing things around the house. Luke used to be asleep instantly but likes to look around now for a while but it does pretty much instantly soothe him if he's tired/windy/in need of a cuddle. Mine is a cloth one too and I barely know I'm wearing it, made by Kari me.

Don't know if it was you bananastew was on a thread about a lady being told to top up by her hv when she didn't want to.

I know what you mean dixiebell!! My ds1 is soooo grown up now too and don't know where the times gone.

Gosh, this thread's moving quickly!

I'm sorry if those of us saying how we managed to get out and about with easier babies made anyone feel bad about not also getting out - as said above, even with an easy baby it's not that easy, and I too have total admiration for those with more than one child / baby to deal with, let alone those who have work to do! The way I cope with Aphra is by staying indoors most of the day, some substantial proportion of which (especially at the moment) is sent in bed. If I had twins I might do the same I guess, but if I had an older child I suspect this might not be an option - and if I was working, it definitely wouldn't be! So I know I'm very lucky in many ways.

I think the aim of the original discussion was to say how there's so much variety in babies and in parents, so while some may find it really difficult to do some things like going out in the evening, that won't be the case for everyone, and I suppose we will all find different things to be difficult! And basically I second what cinnamon and banana said about us all doing really well.

newmum, I tell you one thing - when you do get out you'll feel like the fresh air makes you feel good, even if the baby does scream a bit - and hopefully she won't too much!

watersprite, I'm sure it won't have been that funny for you at the time, but your poo story did make me laugh! We had a massive poo leak the other day that had DP having to change his shirt as well as all Aphra's clothes - I felt for you as well as laughing!

I have been up since 6 with the sole aim of getting out for a visit to the grandparents...almost 10 and currently sitting on sofa feeding...however at least we are both clean, dressed and (almost!) fed. To be fair Arlo has fed 3 times, so he's got the better end of the deal I reckon. Another half an hour and we'll be on our way, I'm sure...

Hah, yeah, Dixie! I am trying to get out to town for a drop in clinic from 12:30 to 2:15 - am currently sat here feeding and hopefully when she's done I'll be able to get showered, brush teeth, dress, stuff her into a sling and get to town not much past 1 pm or so... Mind you I've not been up since six, so respect to you!

Next week a group of us from the NCT class are going to the Big Scream (baby-friendly cinema showing of Harry Potter) which will be grist, except that it's at 11:30 am on the other side of town! I can manage to get to things if either a) they're in the afternoon, or b) they're flexible on time, so I'm not entirely sure how well thus is going to go! I have made a doc appointment at that sort of time before now but I'm not that keen on it...

Grist? Great, I mean! Bloody auto correct... Also, this instead of thus. Bah!

Girls Helloooo! I haven't posted for ages, every time i sit at the computer something seems to crop up! I actually managed to type something out the other day, but then Jessica started crying and I had to stop. Didn't log out, and not sure if it ever got posted! Oh well. I have enjoyed reading everyones posts. waterspite your poo story made me laugh, although I remember it happening with my DS2 and i didn't find it at all funny at the time!
Jessica is 7 weeks tomorrow, and I can't believe it! she is now 11.5 lb's and a very happy baby, when she doesn't have chronic wind. I settle her every night in her own room at about 7pm, in her cot. 98% of the time she doesn't wake again until her 10"ish feed. She then tends to wake at around 4am for another feed. Mornings are mad with her crying for milk, me screaming at DS1 and DS2 to get dressed (thank god they are old enough to get dressed on their own!) and the dog whining for her food!

I feel a bit bad for Jess as i haven't joined any NCT groups this time round, so we don't actually mix with any other babies her age.

Girls, you are all great mums and your kids/babies are lucky to have you!

beaditali Anyone bringing chocolate never mind TINS is more than welcome. :o In fact for tins of chocolate, I would look after your baby!!!!! ha.

I've had a v v v v v easy day today. Mum has took the day off work to look after the babies while i revise. Of course she makes it look easy and gets lots done! I'd like to think it's cos she's not sleep deprived like me, but i know her well. If something needs doing in my mums world it's already done!

Hey ho, back to the books.

Hi all, managed a trip into town today and feel so much better for it. Grace has been a delight today and has spent the day trying to sit up (with much help) and she has also discovered her feet but is getting very frustrated that she can't figure out how to touch them!

The poo story also made me laugh, we haven't had any poo explosions as such but wee poo and sick have all come at once a couple of times which is not much fun.

Have started doing nappy off time everynight with the help of those disposable changing matt pad things as had to change the bedding twice in 2 days cause of wee/sick etc. I must admit i kind of begrudge having to pay nearly a fiver for 12 pads but i haven't got enough bedding or enough energy to change it every day so will persevere with the expensive pads.

We had 8 hours of uninterupted sleep last night from 10pm till 6am and feel AMAZING for it!!

Hope everyone is well today

melly i have a hug-a-bub too!!
we might be going back to the forest of dean soon to see some freinds probably in december,if youre anywhere close to the forest, fancy a cup of tea melly?

I was wondering about this nappy off time. Is it necessary? I haven't done it but my PIL's do it whenever they have her but only when me and DP aren't there. TBQH I'm not sure I feel too happy about them doing this as I feel it's our decision whether this happens and I definitely find it strange that they only do it when we're not around.

I've had a lovely 24 hours. Last night Orlaith fell asleep at about 10 and slept through till 3. DP now has thursdays off work so we made the most of it and stayed up late ! Then Orlaith woke up at 5.20 and then 8.15 so possibly our best sleep ever.
I left her with DP and went to yoga for the first time in 3 months, it felt really good.
Then spent the rest of the day doing not a lot but watching tv, ignoring housework and reading magazines. What more could a mummy want?!

okay,well that took bloody AGES to catch up with!

im finding it hard that ive lost that 'you're my one and only bond' with dd too melly,and she's really playing up at the moment,she seems so angry at me,she loves her brother,but she hates not being the center of our world,sometimes i look at her and i just think what have i done...it took nearly a year to bond with her,wheras with arlo it was that immediate rush of love,he's an easy baby,she had reflux and screamed ALL the time. i gues i feel guilty loving him so easily and having just really truley bonded with dd,i ruined it by having Arlo...sorry,rambiling nonsense now.

i find the only way to get out is to 'prepare' the night before by packing the daybag,and ignoring ALL the household chores!!

ive been offered my job back 1 day a week more if i want it (i left 2 yrs ago) but i have to go back very soon...is it incredably selfish to start work now do you think?

beadit i have nimble hands,and a soldering iron...when do i start

sorry monster post!

Yes comixminx the original discussion was about someone who posted here to get us all to tell some poor pregnant woman she'd never get out once she'd had her baby!

Glad you had a good day sassy34264, don't forget your mum is only looking after your babies for a few hours not all the time! Is your dd1 coping a bit better with less time with her mum now?

I never did it with DS1 saoirse86 except after a bath. I also did baby massage when he was 6 months old and they like you to do that with the babies naked. Maybe your pil think you don't approve but think it's important so are doing it when you are not around? One of the little girls I childmind had time without her nappy every day and her mum had a puddle to clear up every day, even when she was walking!

Why not try a towel on the bathroom floor newmum001?

Luke has been asleep since 5.30, not sure what kind of night we are going to have . DH is watching extreme fishing with Robson Green but as compensation I am getting a foot rub

9w+3

Sorry crossed posts clumsymumluckybaby! You are not selfish at all, especially for only 1 day a week! I have been very lucky that DS1 is very independant and doesn't seems bothered by the amount of time I spend with Luke but I really believe a sibling is an amazing gift and it will all settle down for you and her.