Dec 08 Ladies - Waiting for BabyLady & the usual grumpy tots with stinky bots

[DeidreBarlow]

Hope this is ok...

kiwi I'm so sorry. Hope you and dh can have some time together and support each other. Take care of yourselves.

Kiwi - so very sorry. Rest and a bit of comfort sound right and I am glad you will get some.

Not on much at the moment and not sure if I will get on tomorrow, but did want to say, LadyT, I'll be thinking of you, the ladybaby, the lovely O and your DP on Wednesday. I hope all goes well - I am sure ladybaby can't ask for better.

Kiwi I'm so sorry for you. And must have been even harder to have been on your own. Do look after yourself and get plenty of rest. . Agree with what everyone else has said about the Dr - worth going when you feel up to it.

Will try and catch up properly later in the week - big day at work tomorrow and theoretically a bit easier after that.

Night all.

Popping on to see how Kiwi is this morning? Glad you got to see the doctor but u guess it doesn't change anything. If I saw your Dutch twin right now I'd give her a big hug, which would probably not go down too well as they're not much for public displays of affection here. But I'd feel better.

Feeling rather sleepy today. The night before last I accidentally gave DS2 some access to my boobs whilst I wad asleep. So last night he really wound it up when I wouldn't give him any. I'm also wandering if he's thirsty in the night as he is used to getting more fluid. I think I need to get him drinking more during the day.

Mmmm...DH is making coffee not long now.

Urbane I'm glad work will be settling down for you soon, then we'll get to see you more.

Veggie think our cheeky boys are in cahoots.
Up last night for 2 hours with T screaming his head off, every time we thought he'd gone down he wok up again and screamed, no amount of comforting would do. Then we cracked and gave him a big bottle and he was happy and fell asleep immediately. Worked out he has over half a litre of milk between 7pm and 7am which could explain why he doesn't eat much in the day. Last night was meant to be cold turkey, but think will have to do it gradually. I'm thinking keeping the 7pm feed big but reducing the one in the night by an oz a time. We've all woken with colds and i totally blame the t-ster for wrecking our immune systems.

Kiwi I was so sorry to read your news. I can only echo what everyone else is saying but am thinking of you, you poor thing . Has the doc given you anything heavy duty for the pain?

LadyT, best of British. i hope things go really smoothly, how exciting that in 48 hours you'll have a spanking new DD! . Can't post much now as need to get going, but back later.

Oh, and hello PD, INvis and Urbane!

Hello,

Kiwi how are you feeling this morning? A little better I hope.Can only imagine, you poor thing.

Thanks for the belated B'day wishes. Don't like to advertise my birthday much and create too much hoo ha really.

Sorry to hear about your friend Beans. What a shock for all.

I have been [again] worried about ds's lack of speaking and therefore increased tantrums etc. I'm restricting his TV totally now except for itng with milk before bed. I accidentally left the TV on upstairs (I was watching when I woke up ) and we had been downstairs playing for a bit when he disappeared upstairs and I found him on the bed watching Cbeebies
I have also finally found some toddler groups very local so will go along to those.

Good luck Lady - I'm so excited for you - think you are getting your hair done and relaxing today I hope? I'm going to pop those newborn things of dd's in the post to you today.

Spot that sounds like a huge of a lot of milk! Maybe you need to go through a few nights of hell and restrict him to get back on track. Oh what the heck do I know. Hope to see you soon. Can't remember what we decided? I will FB you now.

dd has her first lot of (8 weeks) imms today - can't believe how fast it's gone.

So sorry kiwi hope you're doing okay. Also very sad about your friend's friend beans.
I'm fine really. Just being a bit pathetic which seems all the more inappropriate in the circumstances.
Forgot to say the other day that my fingers are crossed for you jj. And all the best for tomorrow lady.
Hope everyone else is well. Is bloody freezing in my office - I have a radiator on under my desk and my (male) roomie has the air con on. Talk about microclimates....

Just popping on while on my holibobs To wish LadyT good luck tom. Will try get back on tom to see the good news but can someone text me? 07891 243927. ta.

Kiwi so sorry. x

Have not read back any further will catch up properly when we get home on Friday.

Love to all.

Kiwi, still thinking about you xxx

Jam, that is sweet of you to check in whilst on hols - hope you are having a wonderful time. Saw the update on FB about the snake - yikes!

Oh Spot, sorry about the nights - sounds tough. That does sound like quite a lot of milk.

DD was awful yesterday. The latest in the food saga is that she has gone from having a studied disinterest in food to obsessing about one item and screaming blue murder until she has it. Yesterday, we had a busy day driving over to Milton Keynes to get her new car seat, which is rear facing again. She started screaming for grapes. Now, not to diss MK, but fresh food is hard to find as it is a place of roundabouts and industrial estates. If she'd wanted a TexMex and a MegaBowl, we'd have been in business. Anyway, we found some in petrol station and peace reigned for 20 mins until the dread cries of "sausage! SAUSAGE!" The only sausages in the world she likes are Quorn cocktail sausages. No others will do, and they are hard to find at the best of times. So she bawled, screamed and ranted for 40 mins. I need to put my mind to what we do about this. Is her sudden interest in food wonderful, or naughty? Do we pander to or ignore? As fast as we try to strip the emotion out of meals, she loads it back in. I will have to think harder about all this, maybe email the dietician...

Rubes, if your DS can find the Cbeebies channel on the remote by himself I am seriously impressed!! Yes, just on train to London. All plans shelved today other than hair appt and posh meal out with DP later tonight when he gets to London. He just waved me off with DD at the station and her little face crumpled, it was awful. She is off to the babysitter for a few days.

I would really like to post more but I feel very jumpy and need some iPod therapy. Your good wishes for tomorrrow mean so much to me - I am incredibly touched, thank you.

Cripes - that's testing, Lady. I'm not sure how you're meant to deal with it. Hmmm.

DD1 had her first settling in session at nursery today. She seemed to love it. They made bread, which we had for lunch. Yum! Am now babysitting for an NCT friend's little girl, who is v friendly. They had lunch together and now all are asleep. Lovely. Life is sweet! She's much quieter than DD1, but when she laughs, it's absolutely gorgeous!

Kiwi - are you feeling any better today? It is horrible horrible. I don't know if this helps, and think I've said it on here before, but when I had a mc pre DD1, the doctor told me that our bodies are made for 2 things: 1. Making babies and 2. Getting rid of babies that aren't right. I don't think he phrased it like that and apologies for my rather lumpy language, but I hope you know what I mean. It made me feel much better, as I am so sure it's true. Chin up, my lovely. And have a good sob, it definitely makes you feel better.

x

Lady - wow - not long to go!

Lady: we were barrelling (as much as you can in a Clio) down the motorway last weekend with DS2 bawling MORE SWEETIES at 10 sec intervals. He also gets fixated on food (CAKE!) (ROLL!) so it isn't just your DD.

That wasn't too helpful, was it? I reckon it's a control thing. DS2 has just worked out the question/response request/fulfilment stuff so we get a lot of demands and a lot of questions (what that? Who that? Where daddy? Cake! Juice! Roll!). It's like living with a springer spaniel.

Popping on to see how Kiwi is this morning? Glad you got to see the doctor but u guess it doesn't change anything. If I saw your Dutch twin right now I'd give her a big hug, which would probably not go down too well as they're not much for public displays of affection here. But I'd feel better.

Feeling rather sleepy today. The night before last I accidentally gave DS2 some access to my boobs whilst I wad asleep. So last night he really wound it up when I wouldn't give him any. I'm also wandering if he's thirsty in the night as he is used to getting more fluid. I think I need to get him drinking more during the day.

Mmmm...DH is making coffee not long now.

Urbane I'm glad work will be settling down for you soon, then we'll get to see you more.

I seem to have not sent this message I've been out all day, I wrote it this morning

Oh FFS I had already sent that, sorry, right will read posts now.

kiwi Glad to hear your resting today, I have been thinking about you lots. Take it easy,you and your DH x

ladyT woo, tomorrow morning eh? Am getting butterflies for you thinking about how I felt the night before I had DS. Much love for tomorrow, will be thinking of you x
Oh and no idea about how to deal with DD screaming for sausages...

veggie & spot I am having a really bad time with DS and his sleeping at the moment. No idea what has changed, he isn't hungry, Calpol doesn't doanything, have tried an extra blanket. I'm hoping its a phase that will pass as I am exhausted. He wakes between 4-5am and never goes back off and then spends the day in a grump as he is tired.

PD, Pingu, invis, urbane and anyone else I've missed, hello!

beans Glad DD1 got on well at nursery - its such a relief isn't it?

Kiwi I hope you are doing ok? or as well as to be expected. Didn't MoM just go through this? Beans is so right - it's happened for a good reason, and the healthy one will stick next time around I'm sure. I know there's not a lot anyone can say (especially if not been through it, but I've been thinking about you x

Just back from the 8 week imms and weigh in thingy. She's now a whopping 4.5kg She hasn't even reached my friends' baby's birth weight! But just under 25th centile and gaining fast at least. I was very proud of myself as I actually held dd (looking away) while she had the jabs and I didn't faint! I asked again about ds and his non-talking thing and she said they won't even evaluate him until he's 2 and as long as he's understanding, yada, yada. She said it's quite normal for a boy especially not to say anything for ages Great, I'm tired of being dragged to the fridge when he wants milk or something...

Oh and Lady it did read like that didn't it!! I'd be well impressed also if ds could change the channel to find CBeebies! Actually what I meant to say was, I woke up and was watching a bit of one of those morning shows then I flicked it over to CBeebies in an attempt to get ds to settle while I changed his nappy (didn't work however and he still did a bit of a kiwi-dd man down act with kicking and back arching and screaming) then we all went down and I left the TV on (cause I'm slack like that at times) but ds apparently made a note to self that it was on, and when he got bored of me down stairs he trundled back up to watch it.
Right Lady, I've been thinking about you all day and I'm SO excited! I'm possibly more excited than you Have a lovely lovely posh mean tonight with cheerfulness and don't worry about tomorrow at all - just be excited! Can't wait to hear.
As far as the dd food thing - hmmm that's a tough one. It sounds really attention-y to me - infact when I was with you both those 2 days, the way she was about food def seemed as though it was for attention. It's a tough one, as on one hand you want her to eat, but on the other you don't want her playing these games. Very annoying. I'd def send an email to the dietitian. Not sure how I'd handle that tbh. I'd be tempted to just have the stuff she likes on hand so she's not throwing the tantrum for it, but probably best to see what the dietitian says.

Well I thought ds was over his issue's with anyone singing around him but the TV was on (momentarily) and there was singing and he went mental! Got hold of a bunch of nappies and threw them everywhere and then the wipes then when the song was over I made him pick them all up - and he did !! Just hope there's no singing at the toddler group

DB - crossed with you - I had that a few weeks back with ds, and the HV told me to just ignore it and leave him for at least 30 mins after checking he's alright (nappy / temp give him some water etc) if it's anytime before 7 and sure enough, about 3 days of that, and he's not up until right on 7 again Now I've probably jinxed that.....

rubes Yeah Ithink we are going to have to let him cry it out a bit and know that we mean buisness! Oh and interestingabout the non-speaking thing too. DS is pretty much the same as your DS. I get his cup thrown at me if he's thirsty, and he whinges and pulls me into the kitchen when hungry. he also says 'urgghh' usually when he has done a dirty nappy! But other than that the only word we have which is properly understandable is 'Daisy'. Hesits in his pram shouting it when we goto get her from school

Oh yes, DB. These are ds's words.... Dadda, Baby, No, Mum (rarely - heard that once or maybe imagined it) but seriously, he only ever says 'no' the rest I've heard maybe a handful of times total - if that. Understands it all though. This morning I was in the shower and dd was on our bed and ds was in the bathroom throwing random things into the bath, and I heard dd start crying so I said 'dd is crying, go and see if she is she ok' and he ran off and then came back and said "mmmm mmm mmm mmm mmm, mmm mmm", while pointing to the bedroom, then ran off again and I found him on the bed leaning over her and kissing her!

Ahh thats sweet rubes. DS says 'Nooo' a lot, occasionally 'dadee' and more than once 'sponge-bob'

hi all.
Quick check in while Lu is at dancing at DH is on his way back from work and picking P up from nursery...
Lady I am so excited for you! I will be thinking of you tomorrow and can't wait to hear the news
We're going to see the farmhouse on Saturday (unless we go up north to see SIL as she's being induced tomorrow ). Eek!
deidre and rubs I swing between worrying about P's lack of words and being totally relaxed about it! Her only 'words' are mama, dada and bubble, but she makes grunts for other things, which dh and I can understand. She can follow instructions really well but just can't talk to us. I think we maybe don't help her learn, because we know what she wants a lot of the time so there's no need for her to learn the real words!
Well I bit the bullet today and asked for help with Lu again. The parent support lady was so helpful last time so I thought there's no shame in asking her again as I'm struggling. She text me straight away and said she'll come round tomorrow, so hopefully that'll be a positive thing again.
Right must dash for now but might be back later as dh is out tonight - but there is an enormous pile of un-ironed clothes demanding my attention too!

Not long now! I hope Lady is being thoroughly pampered.

Hiya,

Still no time for a proper catch up but just wanted to say hope everything goes well tomorrow LadyT - we'll all be thinking of you. How exciting to meet your lovely new daughter at last! And how exciting to us to finally get The Big Reveal! My money's on Cleopatra .

And Kiwi thinking of you too.

Everyone else - hello! Maybe I'll manage to get on tomorrow but for now I have a napless DD to handle so we'll see how that pans out.

I've got my betting slips somewhere...

Just popped on to say good luck to LadyT, hope it all goes well and this time tomorrow there will be four of you, how exciting :)

Kiwi I hope you are doing OK.

I'm glad to read of others LO not saying much. DS1 was really chatty by this age and quite communicative where DS2 just isnt. This is partly because he cant get a word in but I was starting to get a bit worried and was thinking of getting a hearing test. Maybe not necessary.

Oh and just wanted to agree with the others, Trace your boss sounds terribly unproffessional.

Veg does your DH jump out of bed in the morning ? I am the only one with a DH that has to be prised out of bed ? Me and the boys have to wait for him in the car alost every morning, as his morning pampering routine takes ages.... I was impressed your DH was making coffee in the morning, thats all !