May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

ML - don't know what to say :( You poor thing. Thinking of you. Congratulations to your DS, glad at least one thing went your way today.

Pamelat - you sound so drained, hope you manage to get some rest soon.

WLTK - 15 weeks is typical for a growth spurt apparently. Sounds like teeth could be on their way, hope Oscar's OK.

Den26 - that must be really annoying. Your idea of getting him to talk to the HV might be a good one? I think it can be difficult for some people to realise that babies are just miserable/grumpy/upset sometimes and it doesn't generally mean anything bad (DH was a little bit like that).

WLTK -

i know, then, i know...

i meant den, not then, damm it!

ml, is there any way the budget could stretch to renting a cottage for a christmas holiday so making olivia's first christmas special in a different way, even if its the week before christmas as that is cheaper?

Hello, Been lurking the past few days but not had the time to post. Didnt finish the ironing till gone 11 last night!

Kateyjane- Hope you mums ok and DH is coping ok with the kiddies.

Pamlet- You need to do whats right for you and Alex. Dont feel bad :)

Carikube- Lucy often has along sleep of about 3 hours in the afternoons. Even better when it coincides with DD1's nap

Hollyoaks- Glad the top ups are going well :)
Yay on the tooth.

SK- glad Jacob is ok. They are funny little things arent they! Lucy had a few days of fussing about her feeds too. She would only take a few ozs and that would do her for hours and hours!

Molly- Hope today was a better day for you :(

Den- DD1 used to suffer with constipation. We started with cooled boiled water but then the MW suggested adding a few drops of pure orange juice. That did the trick :)

Heffa- Loving the Baby Corn

ML- :( to hear that your having a bad day.
How awful that you will need to move AGAIN! Hope you manage to sort something out soon :(
Happy Birthday though :)

Well done to DS on his grades :)

Pamlet- Lucy has about 5/6ozs every 3ish hours.

Spent the day at my friends yesterday. She is 32 weeks pregnant and was rushed into hospital with heavy bleeding and pains. Her placenta had ruptured. She is now being mointored with weekly scans and will now being having a section in 4 weeks time. Shes been told she will need blood transfusions etc and had various other risks so Shes abit upset by it all bless her :(

Quick question..Lucy has some cradle cap that ive been picking at (Naughty I know but very addictive!) Lots of her hair seems to be coming off with it. Should she be losing her hair? DD1 was born with a huge wig and never lost anything.
Poor Lucy is going to be bald!

it is normal for babies to lose hair, especially where it rubs on bedding etc. dont worry too much. i bought dentinox cradle cap shampoo, rinse and repeat daily, has got rid of virginia,'s cradle cap in about 2-3 weeks, and she had loads!

Hi All

We have a new member of the extended family - Liam Joe born by C-section on Friday. Judging by photos he is absolutely gorgeous, but so small compared to my two monsters! However, DSis went down to see her SIL the afternoon of after the c-sec and is now v worried at the reality of giving birth! Keep trying to reassure her that three day labours are [fortunately] rare!

Kateyjane - hope your Mum gets better soon, I am sure she will be much happier just knowing you are there is support her. Your DH will step up to the mark, no doubt about it.

SK - your birthday sounds like me wedding anniversary! We spent our 6th wedding anniversary in A & E waiting for a doctor to insert a suppositry (sp?) into DD after she hadn't done a poo for 9 days. And then dealing with resultant explosion. Am hoping 7th wedding anniversary will at least include a good meal!

ML - am so so sorry that you have to move again. I remember all the traumas you had in finding a new place from the AN threads, how unfair that you have to move again. Is it worth consulting the Citizens Advice Bureau about your rights? You might get some sort of priority as they have some notice and you have a little one under the age of 1 and an autistic DS? Not sure how the system really works, but surely having an 8 month old would county for something?

Pamelat - don't feel bad about the decision to stop. Just be careful you don't become so full that you risk mastitis - last thing you need! My only advice with DD is to persevere, and make sure her behaviour has consequences - losing treats really worked with DS.

Hollyoaks - glad the top ups are going well, does that mean that it is less likely to be anything seriously wrong?

Carikube - my DH's father was 62 when DH arrived, and 64 when DBil arrived. No previous children. DMil was 28 - caused a few raised eyebrows in the 70s. DH remembers his childhood very happily, mainly because DFil had semi-retired (he was in the clergy so they never fully retire it seems) and so had loads of time and endless patience with him. The only downside is that DFil died when DH was 18, as DFil was 80 by that time, but DH had 18 very happy years with his Dad, and our DS is named after him. Anything can be made to work...!

Pigley - DS was bald until 9 months and then had very very white blonde hair, so on photos looked bald until he was about 1 year - now has beautiful thick, blond hair and the longest eyelashes you have ever seen framing gorgeous brown eyes - totally wasted on a boy am hoping DD's eyelashes follow suit, although I think she is my colouring - brown/red hair and green eyes. DS didn't have cradle cap but I heard from others that the Green Baby organic range was very good - it is available online if you just search for Green Baby.

Hope everyone else well!

Pigley - Darcey rubs her head when she's falling asleep, and now has a bald patch there Bless her, but it's totally bare! Know what you mean about picking though! Have you tried rubbing the baby balm on, then brushing it off after a couple of hours? I'm told it works well, but have yet to try it myself.

Also been lurking but no real chance to post and now my eyes are almost shut so I'll prob be quick again now.

Angel, hope the appointment went ok and that things with (D)H are at least live-able even if they're not great.

Den, totally agree with getting him to talk to HV. DH is a bit like that - jumps up to check every whinge, babble or thump on the side of the moses basket. Sadly they're becoming background sounds for me, but he's still not used to it so thinks she needs picking up and entertained for every squawk.

Oh and I forgot to say - we suddenly realised that this time last year we were going on the holiday that we conceived on! A whole year since this started!

Think it would be too weird to celebrate in RL, but am very happy to share cake and fizz on here if anyone would like it. I'm having carrot cake, but I'm fairly confident I have everyone's favourite flavour

Middle of the night sleepy greetings to all.

Nasty Mn just wiped my first attempt.

ml - shower of utter bas&&&ds. Under the circumstances can't they help out by giving you your deposit back early so you can use it for another house. Also what about a social services crisis loan? CAB will know if there's anything else you can access. BirthdY greetings and mega congrats to ds.

Congrats on new arrival tomlin. Newborns seem so small now. (I'm not broody at all emoticon)

My ds was taking 12oz at a time at 12 weeks pamelat In those days you made up bottles in advance (old emoticon) and I made up 6 bottles twice a day. He was really skinny too. Just needed a lot as legs and arms always moving and never slept (in fact a lot like Miss Molly!) Just keep following alex's lead and you won't go wrong.

I think getting Daddy to speak to HV or GP would be a good plan den26 I wonder if because of his allergies was a general health fussiness the way he grew up? Old habits can die hard. My mum is a major worrier about all matters medical and drives me mad with constant questions about her, df and all of us. Health anxiety is something you learn but it can be unlearned.

Hope the thrush is sorted hollyoaks Thats the one thing I don't want as I'm allergic to fluconazole. It brings me out in big hives.

Pigleychez - picking is irresistible. With me it's my own skin issues - hand and facial eczema (attractive). Olive oil is great for cradle cap - in fact that's what we used on Molls at the start as she was so dry. Works well but smells weird.

heffa - baby corn. So cute!

It is about a year since these babies were conceived - you're right dancing Molly happened on 30th as the live football was boring and the dcs were out playing! Good job it wasn't Man United v Chelsea or she wouldn't be here! I'll join you in virtual cake - lemon for me. (drooling at thought - damn diet)

Eyes drooping and Molly off boob so sorry for those I missed. Will post again later

Golly thought I was the only one soppy enough to remember last year! I had my own private celebration of lmp on 16th august. Virginia was conceived on
25th. I know as with dd3 and dd4 I got symptoms INSTANTLY. In this case it was diarhoea and could feel uterine tightenings and just KNEW. Totally unexpected
As we had only discussed stopping trying not to conceive on 15th. We really thought at our advanced years it would not happen!but wow, first time!!!!

thanks All

unfortunately we are not entitled to any kind of assistance as DH is not on a low wage..wwe dont even qualify for tax credits anymore since the election..I woke up this morning feeling very depressed.

This time last year..I took my first pregnancy test..a FR..and a little faint pink line came up...and I tentatively posted on our ante natal thread that had all of about 3 members..how quickly a year has gone

Hello all.

Sorry, selfish me post again. DD3 didn't have chicken pox, was heat rash I think. Anyway, went to see the consultant yesterday who advised willow be put in a pavlic hip harness. Its horrid I can't cuddle her properly, she looks like a little frog with her legs out to the side. I couldn't even manage to get her into a postion to breastfeed her first thing this morning without bending her awkwardly. So, that's the end of BFding I think

Things with (d)h took a turn for the worst on monday and he totally packed all his stuff, books everything. It was only when we both totally broke down in tears after willows appointment yesterday that we realised that we do actually want to try and make things work. So lots of talking last night. Lots of compromises and most of all, we agreed we need to work more at being a couple, not just mummy and daddy, which is the horrid pit we have fallen into I think. We didn't realise how little time we have spent together, and drifted apart. Seeing him pack his stuff, made my heart sink actually. Tried to convince myself maybe it was for the best til I was physically sick at the thought of it. He was crying his eyes out. Horrible seeing a grown man cry really. I think that he is genuinely sorry, and in my heart I don't believe that he did sleep with her. He said she tried to kiss him and he backed off, that is what she told me in her message too. So it's going to take a lot of mending but hopefully (though not evernight) we will get there. The first step is that we have both realised that we want to be together.

anyway

ML what a bloody nightmare for you!....AGAIN...bless ya. If I can help just shout.

Tomlin congrats on the new family member!

Heffa hope you are feeling better.

SK hope you get some sleep soon! Thats why sleep deprivations is used as a form of torture!!

molly poor you. I think dd2 is getting jealous now. Novelty has worn off. She has just got so naughty lately!!

hi all

pigey- my nephew was born with a lot of black hair, fall out and now has light brown hair, same for niece... don't worry

den- molly is right, i grew up with healt issues and i am very... attentive to any simptoms, i am less paranoid with oscar now, but i think is because i spend 24/7 with him

ml, i really don't know what to say to make it better

Pigley - a couple of babies I know have been born with very thick dark hair which they've lost and then gone blond. Both of mine have had very little hair but they're both blondies. DD's didn't really grow until she was about 10 months old but now she's got quite a crop of blond curls. We found Waitrose bottom butter really good for cradle cap (well, good for everything really!)

Angel - so sorry for everything you're going through. The hip harness must be really hard to see, although it's good that it will help Willow. Glad things are working out with you and your DH, hope you're feeling OK.

ML - the year has gone by so fast! I got such a shock when I got this BFP, we were trying but had given up on August because we were both unwell so only DTD once. Can't remember the date though. Big hugs to you, really don't know what to say but I hope something works out for you.

Tomlin - congrats on the new family member.

Angel sorry re hip harness and relationship problems. Reading your post made me cry, which is a bit silly! I think stopping breastfeeding has made me drained/hormonal.

Den - my DH is the same. I get very defensive, although dont mind moaning myself. He says Alex too hungry and needs weaning etc etc etc. Although my HV agrees so that wouldnt help!! I am holding out until 17 weeks. Would rather be tired than risk problems.

Hi all, had a good day yesterday. Grace was weighed and after 4 days of formula top-ups she has gained 12oz and is now 9lb 6oz. Still on the 0.4th centile but better than off the chart. It's also a relief as the registrar is happy to leave her until her outpatient appointment next month as we can't get into the hospital today. The other good news is that all but one of the kids in my two GCSE classes got an A-C and the science department got 89% A-C's, not bad for a school who failed their Ofsted last year. Makes all of the hard work and working until 38 weeks worthwhile. :)

On a sad note dd1 has woken up vomiting this morning so can't into hospital for Grace's check-up or attend a family birthday meal at tea time. It always seems to happen when we have plans.

ML - sorry that your going to have to move house again, I have no practical advise but I'm thinking about you and your dh. Well done for your son's GCSE's, I know the parents often work and worry just as hard as the kids to get those results.

Den - no advise on the constipation, we have the opposite problem here :) I have issues with anxiety, particularly about Grace's health and find it difficult to see slight niggles for what they are, luckily dh is very level-headed and calms me down. I think we're a good match and it seems like you and your dh are too. :)

Pigley - dd1 didn't lose any hair except when I picked off her cradle cap :o Hope your friend is ok.

Pamelat - I've had the same feelings as you about mix-feeding, just have to keep reminding myself it's for both dd's benefit and that's what makes me a good mam. I've found the ff support thread and see your on it, hope it provides some support. :)

Tomlin - I'm assuming now that she's gaining weight and pooing more regularly it looks unlikely that the repair is narrowing. Will hopefully get the all clear next month and Grace remains well until then. :) Congratulations on your new family member.

Dancing - I've been thinking about this time last year too, been waiting for the June bus thread to pop up so I can say hi, I was on here this time last year and have dd to show for it. I'm sure we conceived on our wedding anniversary, 4th September, and I found out I was pg on the 18th September.

Molly - thanks for the concern, however after seeing gp and bf support worker we think it's her latch rather than thrush. Assumed after 13 weeks her latch would have been fine and have no visible signs of a bad latch except red nipples when she feeds.

Homebirth - 1st month here too :)

Angel - poor Willow, how awful for both of you :( On a positive note though, it sounds like you and your dh are making progress and at least your both working towards the same goal. Best of luck to you both :)

Hi all,

Sorry for quick me post but I cannot sit still long enough to write personals or a long message. Still very sore :(. On paracetamol and diclofenac for pain and two types of antib as already caught an infection but went straight to GP as soon as I noticed so hopefully nipped it in the bud. I toddled to baby clinic this morning at snail's pace to have Chloe weighed, she is 13lb 3oz at 13weeks so still on about 50th centile.

Feeling very peeved. A few of you know I was offered a new job which I was so excited about, but they are not being remotel flexible about start date (due to be Tuesday) and there is simply no way I'll be recovered enough to start then, so have had to withdraw. Thinkin of making a complaint but just got so much on my plate right now I've reached boiling point. Ordered an Iphone4 instead as a pick-me-up!

Right, need to move again! Love to all, sorry for no personals, don't mean to be selfish x

*remotely

glad you are ok first, pop in for a minute when you can

OMG there's a May 2011 group!!!

First1 - nice to hear from you, glad the op was successful but about your job. I would make a complaint if you have the energy.

Angel, however hard it is, I'm glad you and DH are making progress. At least you know you are working towards the same thing. And if in your heart of hearts you believe him that's a really good starting point. Keep talking. Hope Willow is feeling ok with the brace on. Poor mite.

Hollyoaks - I just saw the 2011 group! It's another thing that's gone. We're not the latest May group anymore... I feel like popping on there to say good luck but I won't because that might be a bit

First, I would totally make a complaint! and on your behalf. It's not like you're flaking off on the start date, you're recovering from surgery! Glad you're ok.

Thanks for the replys everyone. The olive oil worked well with DD1 so will give that a go tonight. Neither girls have had the classic bald patch on the back or lost any hair, just me picking the cradle cap

Lucy's swing has run out of batteries and we dont have any spares! And of course she has decided to fight her sleeps today.. grr

Tomlin- Congrats on the new arrival
My DSIL is due in a girl in 3 weeks time and im really excited for them. Cant wait to meet her :)

Dancing- Has the time gone so quickly! No real memorable conception event here im afraid, we had only just decided to try for number2 and fell the 1st month :)
DD1 was concieved in Paris. Our trip happened to co-incide with the rugby world cup. We watched the final on a huge big screen underneath the effiel tower. The atmosphere was brilliant :)

Angel- :( to hear about the harness, but it will help her.
Great start that you both have opened up to each other. Hope you can continue to work things out.

Hollyoaks- Great to hear about the weight gain :) and well done your students :)

First- Hope your recovering well.
at your job. Thats really bad of them. Definately worth complaining about..Surely they could show some compassion. But totally understand you have alot on your plate at the mo!

So depressingly grim and rainy here today :(

sorry but this is me post

oscar has being grumpy and half crying yesterday and today, today the lump on the side of his gum is more prominent and he started biting his lower lip, he hasn't got a temperature. i don't feel so good either, i don't have a temp, but...

any thought anyone, i know i don't make a lot of sense, should i call the doctor?