Jan 2009 - molars, movers and shakers

[stripeywoollenhat]

there you go

Oh you know what, she can either have the sealife party she wants so badly. You have to have 10 so she can choose 10 and so what if they aren't her bridesmaids in 20/30 years. Or one or two little friends to the sealife as you suggest Moose.
Most people here have free passes anyway, so go all the time. SO maybe a party would be nice.

Hmmmmm Hebdon Bridge. I feel the call of a 4 bed large cottage with yorkshire range, out buildings and an orchard......

I think 15 is brave, but then I'm a chicken and always prefer to take the safest option. Also find that there's less likely to be 'factions/cliques' within the group if its smaller as they tend to band together as a while group instead.

Stop with the Hebden Bridge talk you temptress you!

Is the Sealife party expensive though?

Moose - have put a picture on my profile to explain the snow thing the white stuff is cloud. I think you'll recognise the hill

Just looked at my profile, it says I am 29. Great news.

Sealife is £10 a head, minimum of 10. So pretty good really. Although you get very little, a look at the blooming fish is what it amounts too. They get food I suppose, anda little party bag.

Oh well.

Lets just think about this instead

Now the party worry isn't going to go away - so don't get bored of me yet . But I am feeling more confident about letting her be herself, and letting her not be miss popularity, and generally letting it all pan out wthout me trying to steer the ship too much. Thanks for that ladies! Wise words from you all as usual.

Crumbs Lenni. That's some snow. You live in an amazing spot.

now see what you've done!

and again

Am loving the concept of an attached cottage and a piggery, presumably the whichever inlaw is in favour gets first pickings at Christmas

oh now I can see me here

Look at that kitchen. And the bathroom. I can see me there just nicely. We'd wreck it in no time but it's so calm and lovely. Music room in the tower. Rofl.

Oh Lenni - now you've gorn and made me homesick. I miss those views so much, everywhere round here is flat, flat, flat and full of bloomin' houses.

Good on you Tree. She'll find her way. Sometimes I think its actually harder watching from the wings and wanting the best for them than it is actually being the one going through it. To them its just life happening day to day. To us, its like seeing it all in slow motion with a hint of premonition, a bias founded in our own life experience and a desperate need to make it all right for them.

Not sure how I feel about fate and predetermination etc, but I wish I had it in me to try not to predict, tweak and fiddle with my childrens' lives, as sometimes - very occasionally - I step back and wonder what would have happened if I had just left well alone. I do think I'm improving with age/number of children, but I still have a looong way to go.

That is a lovely kitchen, but its all a bit too posh for me - I'm more for the wilder hippy properties dotted around the Hebden countryside. Think goats rather than lawnmowers!

Oh that is so insightful Moose. I'm going to bed to think about that. And what my motives are and what they really need to be. I just cannot allow her to invite a few kids to a party in the hopes it will make them like her, but I can allow her the use of her judgement.

Sigh. Heavy stuff. I'm tired and still have pack lunch to make.

I'm buying a lottery ticket tomorrow. I need to get back to more central areas, in the middle of nowhere I need some hills, some views and some proper stone houses.

Night all. Thanks for the chats and party inspiration!

I know what you mean, I am desperate for sleep, but can't shift my butt off the sofa, as am too tired to move. Am going to drag myself off now though, as I have to be up at 6.50 am.

Night Tree (and Lenni and Dog if you're still here) x

Lenni I can't see your pictures I tried

Those houses look gorgeous. Can't give advice on parties or older children as mine are too young and I've only done one party so far, all with the advice of you lot and a good RL friend

So tired today Nothing planned at the moment.

morning [ grin]
wow miss j congrats what great news and a girl
one of each lovely

tea great news

regarding parties this year dd1 had 7 friends here at our house for her 5th bday
it went really well

hng up some butterfly garlands,ballons and bought tablecloth plates etc for food

we arranged pin the horn on the unicorn and did it as girls arrived
only had close friends who were all girls and 2 girls from school

did bingo and pass the parcel for one hour then food for the last hour

excellent work, dog - c has been stropping like a teenager all morning and i really needed a good chuckle . your window cleaner should count himself privileged.

glad dd's party went well, tink

missj, phew and for the jacksonette, i am so pleased for you.

tea, am glad your weeny nephew is doing better.

anyhow, my laptop blew up - pretty much literally, scared the crap out of me - so now have to locate somebody to extract the files before i throw the remains into the bin... and then have to think about replacements. bah. so just a very brief drop in to catch up, hope i'll be back later

moose how did things go with your sister?

Hi all. Your party looked lovely Tea, and yours sounds good tink. We have tonnes of lovely bunting, lanterns, a fab tablecloth, the whole shebang [sp?] Just missing the close friends

Rofl at Dog. I wonder what he clocked first? Boobs, bits or...er...bump?

Was all geared up [mentally if not planningly] to take dd's to seafront after school. Dh finishes at 1 on a Fri, is home for 1.45, and school don't want him on his experience thing as it's bedlam back to school week, of course. Sadly got text to say he has the shivers and the throat now too. Pah.

Hi

Dog, thank you for a much needed laugh. Poor you, but have to agree with others who have said he was probably delighted. Bet you have made his day.

Beautiful photos, your family is so gorgeous. I has definitely overtaken E in the hair department. E is still a proper little baldy, although slightly thicker now and with a couple of cute little curls at the back.

Stripey, did it literally blow-up? I have been a bit nervous of my mobile phone since I read a couple of stories about people being killed by exploding phones.

Tree what a shame about your afternoon out. Can you go without him perhaps and give him chance to get a jump on the virus by nabbing a couple of hours' sleep? Alternatively, nip to the chemist and get some of those cold cure tablets to stave it off for a couple of hours while you have some quality family time and then let him collapse later?

Well, Dsis had her smear done first thing this morning. Apparently the results will be back in a fortnight. The nurse said she couldn't see anything sinister, which is good though, especially as dsis thought she'd found another lump. Just got to try and get her through the next two weeks now.

Day two back at school and so it begins.

Sorry to rant, but I need to get this off my chest and I can't post on the SN board, as I promised them I would apply for a statement for him this summer and we have since decided to hold off until we have more professional input. (We decided this as he has now been referred for occupational therapy as well as dietary intervention and of course his multi-disciplinary assessment. and it helps if you have professional reports to support your application.) I still don't think he will get a statement if/when we do apply. They are lovely people over on the SN board, but can be a bit militant particularly with regard to SN Education and statements etc and if I admit I haven't applied I will get shouted at - lots. Last time I said I wanted to wait and see before applying I was told in no uncertain terms that I am letting my son down and have a responsibility to do it as I am his only hope!

Anyway, you get the gist, please feel free to ignore me - I will feel much better after I get all this out. Back to today ..

Apparently ds1 got extremely upset when his pop-up picture wouldn't work properly and his teacher couldn't understand what exactly was upsetting him so much. He ended up sobbing long after the lesson, when he should have been getting changed for PE. In the end the teacher went and got his picture, figured out the problem and fixed it herself, but I get the feeling that this was the act of a desperate woman in the face of mounting stress from an overwraught (sp?) 8 year old boy.

Yesterday, due to the problems last year, they all had to sit boy-girl-boy-girl and ds seemed ok with this. Today he overheard the girl he was sat next to badmouthing and swearing about him to another girl in his class (there is some history of animosity between the two of them) and got upset, so moved seats without asking. Fortunately the teacher had the foresight to ask why he moved before getting cross and she did tell the girl off and has agred that he can stay in the seat he had moved to - which is near his best friend.

The teacher came out to speak to me after school, explained about both incidents and told me that she has a son who is borderline Aspgergers herself and is very sympathetic to ds1's difficulties. This is great news, but he will only be having her 1.5/2 days a week. I will meet his other teacher on Monday and am hoping she is equally as understanding.

He brought home a letter about swimming with the school today as well - something I have been dreading. Apparently as he can't swim a stroke, he will get to go once a week every week for two terms, which is good, but I'm not sure how he'll cope with the self-management aspect of getting changed, drying himself and not losing any of his clothes or belongings in the process. He also has a sensory thing around water on his face and has low muscle tone and poor core strength which means he struggles to hold himself up in the water. I am so cross with myself, because I really wanted to book him some one-to-one lessons with a woman I have heard great things about locally, who teaches in her home pool. Unfortunately the Mum that recommended her kept forgetting to bring the phonenumber for me and I am not pushy enough to keep reminding her in case she thinks I'm rude. I also know that the teacher that accompanies them to swimming is the male teacher that ds clashed with last year and I have a feeling he is of the 'ASD is a made up problem' type opinion.

I have to send his consent form in on Monday and am thinking I should do a covering letter explaining that he will need supervising more closely than your average 8 year old boy, but don't want them to think I am just being an over-anxious mummy. Then again maybe I am. He'll probably love it and be absolutely fine, but I'll be a wreck every Monday afternoon from now on! Can't help but wonder how many pairs of pants, towels and swimming trunks we will lose over the two terms though.

Anyway, rant over. Just needed to let it all out so that I can get on with my weekend.

As you were ladies.

Oooo mahooosive post! Definitely one to ignore.