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Sept 08 - Our LO's are nearly 2, and they're hiding to do a poo (is it time for potty training, not until it stops this raining)

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ninja · 01/08/2010 00:20

I started it!! (I'm going away to London with just DD1 tomorrow so I want to know where you all are when we get back.

3 toddler free days!!

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CappuccinoCarrie · 18/08/2010 21:46

Love love love our c-max, best car in the world. Ok so the picassa can fit three seats across the back, but I'm sure ours could if we found the right three seats! The boot is massive and coz its square across the back, if you take out the parcel shelf there's tons of room. If we do ever get pg again we'd like in dream world to get an S-max, but that £10k is called the extension now Blush

And are you dissing my bright orange interior design? Wink. Actually the walls will be dulux timeless and we thought a soft rug in the snug would be nice, and dd's fave colour is orange. Getting orange hand towels to spruce up the very-cheap-white-emulsion downstairs loo too.

At least we would be painting the extension if DH hadn't gone and broken his wrist at football tonight. I'm not really Angry at him, it looked awful and it was an accident, but at the decorating stage of the extension frankly its a hassle we could all do without! And he won't be able to cycle to work, or do his work very well (computer programmer) or cook, which is the one that really gets me. Only two short weeks til we have a dishwasher! And he won't be able to play guitar which will break his little heart :(

CappuccinoCarrie · 18/08/2010 21:47

meglet is right, the picassa is cheaper. The c-max has three proper seatbelts too, many an adult has squeezed between my kids in the back of our car!

Meglet · 18/08/2010 22:07

carrie I liked the rug.... then I looked at the price.

ninja · 18/08/2010 22:16

meglet my feelings exactly

Poor carrie's hubby

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Hopefully · 19/08/2010 09:21

I didn't even look at the price of the rug! Can see it looking cool in a fairly neutral room, esp if it's DD's fave colour Smile

We're going to various garages on the weekend to look at Picasso, C-Max, S-Max, Scenic etc etc, and at least we'll have some idea what we're doing then. Good to know you can both squeeze an adult between car seats though - that's what i wanted to hear!

CappuccinoCarrie · 19/08/2010 09:23

meglet I think I might go for this one instead!!

DH came home late last night, and I had to drop him back at hospital for 8am this morning. He's def having surgery as its a nasty break - one bone shattered and the top snapped of the other [squeamish emoticon]. Very glad his friend took him in last night instead of babysitting the kids for me to take him in! They tried manually realigning it from the outside but he needs metal plates in there. So surgery is sometime this afternoon and he'll be allowed home tomorrow. He even asked for pain killers last night which is prob first time ever. We've still got all the unused codine from his knee operation several years ago.

Gonna take the kids out for lunch, why not?!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 19/08/2010 12:43

Wow, that rug from Amazon was a bargain wasn't it?! Sorry to hear about your dh's wrist, I hope it heals well and soon so you have your dinner cooked for you again soon!

Hopefully - have a look at Freecycle for outdoor toys. Classified ad's in the local paper can be good too, also a lot of shops are selling summer stuff off at 1/2 price at the mo. Maybe ask for outdoor toys for his birthday presents?

Just to confuse you about the whole car thing, how about an estate car? We've got an Audi A6 and I love it. There's loads of room and it's a lovely car to drive and be a passenger in.

Apart from functionality, what do you look for in your car? Make? Holding re-sale value? Fuel economy? Running costs?

Hopefully · 19/08/2010 14:02

Good ideas re the toys ILTMIMI.

We contemplated an estate, but we have on-street parking, and it's always a pain parking my mother's skoda estate (could be an Octavia?) when she visits.

Main priorities for new car are:

  • Space (preferably in car, or roof rack for container thingy on roof)
  • fuel economy
  • cheap parts/new enough to not need £400 spending on it every year to stay on the road (as the current car does)

Don't really care about resale as we're planning on buying a half decent car and then running it into the ground (there's no particular reason we should be richer in 5 years than we are now, so unlikely to replace car until it dies).

Right, must get into to gear otherwise we're never going to make it to toddler group...

becaroo · 19/08/2010 18:00

Hi all.

I have a 5 dr corsa (metallic lilac) which I love and dh has a passat estate which is handy for hols/moving crap around.

Been to hospital for scan and have got to go back to docs in 2 weeks. Bit sore now. HATE internal scans.

Can I ask your inestimable advice???

I am so fed up with my house!!!!!

I want to move, dh doesnt. We still have about 30/40k equity left in this house even after all the improvements we have done.

I am all for downsizing or even selling, renting somewhere and banking the equity but dh isnt.

I keep looking round my quite nice house and feeling fed up and trapped. Dh thinks I am mad. On the continent people rent all their lives and its not seen as strange...why do we think its so strange here? Do many of you rent? How easy is it? I like the idea of a landlord having to sort stuff out when it goes wrong!!!

Not sure dh and I have the same priorities Sad

Am I mad?........

becaroo · 19/08/2010 18:01

Had a C Max on our hols a couple of years ago...thats what my next car will be!

CappuccinoCarrie · 19/08/2010 19:06

hopefully if it helps, we were debating between a renault megane scenic and a c-max and our lovely mechanic said he'd rather fix the c-max, coz Fords rarely need fixing! So far he's been right apart from an ongoing niggle with the boot catch!

Looks like DH will be in hospital overnight despite having had surgery this morning. He can't feel three of his fingers properly, nurse is checking whether he had nerve block in the op or if it could be damaged. His hand is very swollen so they're keeping it elevated in a special hoist. I only just held it together when i put the kids to bed and told them how much daddy loves them.

Some fab friends are coming over tonight to help decorate the extension, I've bought lots of chocolate and dr peppers...what's the worst that could happen?!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 19/08/2010 19:07

Um with the car thing there are two schools of thought.

Buy a slightly older car but that is a higher end make (Audi, BMW, Saab, VW, Merc etc). The parts are more expensive, BUT they don't need replacing as often as they are of a better quality. Don't use a dealer to fix/service the car, they cost a fortune and most other reliable garages will do a better and cheaper job.

Buy a newer car but of a more average (sorry but I can't think of a better word) make (Ford, Vauxhall, Renault, Citroen etc). The intial outay will be cheaper but you need to sell it before it starts costing you money on a regular basis as the build quality is lower (talking from bitter experience).

A comparison was made recently on a Merc and a Ford, and comparing the costs from being bought, fixed and it finally going to the scrap heap in the sky, over its lifetime the Merc cost the least.

Bloody hell, I'm James May in disguise Grin

I chose James because Clarkson is a twat and Hammond has BAD hair.

CappuccinoCarrie · 19/08/2010 19:10

bec haven't you just done an extension? What exactly is it that's so frustrating? I know the feeling, just wondering if you can get to the bottom of it if there might be easier and less drastic solutions?

Playing the long game, owning a house means you'll have some sort of pension if you haven't got a private one to top state pension.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 19/08/2010 19:16

Poor dh Carrie, that sounds horrible. I hope he feels better soon.

Bec - I hope you've got your feet up tonight and sipping wine and scoffing chocolate. I've not had an internal scan but I can imagine how horrible they are.

What is it about the house that makes you feel trapped? Is it the house itself that is causing the problem? Its location? I remember you wanted to move to be nearer a relative not that long ago.

Hopefully · 19/08/2010 19:21

The downside of renting is that after the first 6 months you're never more than 30 days from being chucked out, should your landlord hit financial difficulties/take advantage of a rising market/take against you for complaining too much. Doesn't really matter what they sign up to, they can still give you 30 (or sometimes 60) days notice and you're out.

Realistically I don't see house prices falling dramatically (I reckon that if they fall it will be in real terms - i.e. not keeping up with increases in wages - rather than visible terms) any time soon, so if you're already in the market, it might not make sense to leave it.

Mind you, I love being able to just phone the landlord when something goes wrong. Yes, we're paying someone else's mortgage, but we don't have to pay buildings insurance/boiler insurance/plumbing call out fees in the middle of the night/etc etc etc etc. Even if we could afford a mortgage, we couldn't afford a contingency fund to cover all of those expenses.

Carrie my dad loves fords, and he's been a motoring journalist for 50 years, so in an ideal world I'd listen to him! Just depends on whether we can afford the kind of car we want.

Had to abandon toddler groups today with hysterical screaming, weeping T - children were having their faces painted, and he is terrified of all masks/face paint/helmets. No idea why Hmm. He was properly clinging onto me, buried in my neck (most unlike him, except where facepaint/masks etc are concerned).

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 19/08/2010 19:42

I got so carried away being dull and pompous about cars that I forgot to mention that I got a bfp this morning.

Am still in Shock

Grin
becaroo · 19/08/2010 20:39

ILTMIMI Wow!! congrats!!! BIG news! Am very happy for you x

I would love an audi but will never be able to afford one Sad am watching yet another repeat of top Gear as I type!! James May isdriving up a volcano. As you do.

carrie I think I am just fed up of constantly doing stuff to the house and never having any money to do fun stuff, you know? the extension was done 4 years ago and we have just had a load of plastering and painting done. Looks fab Grin

hopefully I would be nervous getting off the property ladder too...dh would never go for it and I, like you, cant see house prices dropping any time soon if ever.

Maybe we should move to a slightly cheaper house and pay less per month? That would make me feel better. There are some really decent properties around locally if I am willing to do without off road parking (which I am)

Need to have a chat to dh about long term goals etc....great fun! Grin

Thanks for the sympathy ILTMIMI but I really just need to "man up" and get on with the ironing. Congrats again

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 19/08/2010 21:21

Wow - so much going on!!

ILTMIMI congrats!!! Send some baby vibes over to me and Carrie (& whoever else is SWI).

Carrie hoping your DH gets better soon. You have truly wonderful friends for them to come over to help.
DP is in Aberdeen tonight and he spoke to C on the phone, then later on she insisted on reading 'My dad' by Anthony Brown (I think?) - it melted my heart. When the cat came in through the flap, she shouted 'hello daddy!'.

Hopefully DP and I are ford tarts Grin. we both drive Mondeos and have done for years. best car around, in our opinion anyway - though they can be ££ on tyres. I'm lucky, company picks up my bills but DP's tyres cost £500+ for a full set (he drives the 2.2 diesel titanium though - flash sod).
I trust the mondeo for safety though and it has the same engine as a Jag - same overall company (though Jag drivers will NOT accept that fact Grin). Sees me right so far doing 20,000+ motorway miles a yr and loads of space and extra features as std.

Becaroo I think you need to work out why you want to move, in case you don't really, IYSWIM, but are just looking for something fresh to focus on.
I agree with hopefully that once on the property ladder, I would be cautious in jumping off, especially in the current climate.

Right, off to reserve C's birthday presents - the ride on JCB Ninja linked to and a £10 train set. She's also into peppa pig big time, so we might treat her to a cuddy one.

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Debs75 · 19/08/2010 22:33

Thanks for all the congratulations.
Meglet if only it was an easy time. I spent nearly 36 hours on labour ward, 24 strapped to the bed. I have a stubborn womb that did not want to let go of baby.
Membrane to birth was recorded at 21 hours. Actual labour was only 3 hours and I pushed her out in 3 pushes so the 'birth' part was easy and stress-free.
6lb 6oz is tiny, especially when the baby in the next bed is 9lb 4oz but I think I am getting used to her.
Still no name as I don't want the hassle we had with choosing Robyn's name so I am being stubborn and not suggesting anything.
Robyn is a bit jealous of the breastfeeding but she is coming around and will often stand next to her and stroke her head.

Am trying to rest but on Tuesday Robyn decided to fall off the table and crack her head so we spent the day in A&E. She is helping my milk come in by demanding booby for bed so at least baby is getting milk without tiring her out too much.

Am trying to post some pics, hopefully will ge them done before I fall into bed exhausted.

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CappuccinoCarrie · 19/08/2010 23:11

Awww debs how lovely, what beautiful children you have!

ILTMIMI you snuck that one in under the radar, good work and congratulations!

AF due tomorrow...have mega zit of doom so not hoping for a good result. A friend has given me a spare hpt so for the first time ever I have one in the house, not sure what my levels of self control are! I normally only buy them when i'm several days late.

DH is still in hospital, they're giving ABs via a drip and his arm is up in a hoist. He's in pain and pretty miserable which is most unlike him. Six of us have given our extension a second coat of paint and had a brilliant evening of banter and silliness, so I'm feeling a squillion times better. We can now see how the colours are going to look and I'm really pleased with what I chose, phew!

becaroo · 20/08/2010 07:52

carrie hope your dh is better soon. poor thing.

debs Sounds like me! I was in labour for 3 days with toby then once the broke my waters I went from 4 cms to delivered in 3 hours!!! Hope R is ok x

Off to Windsor for the weekend!

ninja · 20/08/2010 11:55

iltmimi I can't believe you sound so matter of fact, congratulations.

carrie that sounds really tough on your poor DH (and you being left at home TOO). yOU DO HAVE GRTEAT FRIENDS THO'!

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becaroo · 20/08/2010 11:59

mrsA Tesco had some cuddly big peppa pig toys - £10. My dsis got one for my nephew. It is really cuddly and if you press its tummy it talks!! They also did a George one.

Ds1 needs reading glasses - he looks so cute in them! Bright blue with stars on the side [Grin

Have a good weekend ladies x