@Chil1234
Firstly I was not looking for any sympathy - you are completely right about everyone making their own choices. Yes I could sell up and move to where my family live and probably be better off even with a much worse job.
However I was just pointing out that simply looking at gross income is not a great indicator of how well off someone is. I can directly compare myself with someone who chooses the same lifestyle as me (has a family house, job, 1 child etc) in a very different part of the country and I while it might seem that I should be significantly better off because of my salary, in fact due to not getting the benefits/tax credits they get, due to silly house prices etc, I end up with less money to spend on my "lifestyle" every month. I don't expect sympathy, but I also ask that people understand that not everyone has the same outgoings and it is NOT related to leading some kind of opulent lifestyle.
I never go out, rarely buy clothes other than for daughter, have to be VERY careful when food shopping, don't smoke, can't afford holidays etc, so I am at a loss at exactly which part of my lifestyle I have opted for that I can't afford.