Habbibu
I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your daughter.
My answer to why God often doesn't seem to respond to prayer was just skimming the surface. There is a lot more to it. I myself realized quickly that trying to explain fully my belief on the subject would have to result in a long long essay which I simply do not have time to come up with !
I am a slow one finger typist ( my husband keeps taking micky of this one )and also English is not my first language, and I often rewrite paragraphs as they don't seem to convey well what my thinking was.
I, too, lost a daughter, to stillbirth at 23 weeks, only half a year ago.
Personally, I cannot imagine going through this without faith . Knowing the pain, I just cannot. That's my experience.
As a Christian I could have chosen to be very angry with God. I didn't. I felt great anger/ frustation towards my medical care providers as she was lost because of their neglect/mistakes. God now helped me deal with these feelings that do have a very destructive nature.
In the midst of the worst pain I experienced real ( felt like ) presence of God when praying, a presence of love impossible to describe. I experienced on a couple of occassions being absolutely at the bottom pit and then, after calling on God , being surrounded by complete and utter peace in an instance, literally a second..
Now, just a few months later, I am a very happpy person,blessed in life in so many ways, occassionally sad about what happened but not in pain, not bitter, no depression in sight, I absolutely enjoy every day, my faith is stronger and I genuinely believe I am a better individual, mother, wife, sister etc.
And as much as I enjoy this life to the full, I actually look forward to the day of my death ( but not yet please, have got much to do here still ) as I know it will be fab!