All the Muslim ladies!

[GothAnneGeddes]

Salaam Aalikum,

I know we sometimes have threads for Ramadan and other events, but I was wondering if we could have a general Muslim ladies one.

I have to give a big hijab flutter to Riven who is always so patient explaining Islam on here. I usually always end up resorting to name calling.

Not necessarely a religious leader as such. The advice was to see an Islamic Marriage concillor, could be an Imam, or could be just another Muslim trained as a concillor but with insider knowledge of religious implication.

I know it seems from the outside that if you ask an Imam he will necessarely take side with the husband and that is not the truth. A good Imam will give the correct religious information which would be that her DH is not allowed indeed to forbid her to see her own family for one thing and will remind him as well that all the duties of respect and understanding a woman owes to her husband a husband owes to his wife as well.

I am in two minds about how the response would be had she not been a Muslim. I usually stay clear of "relationship" threads. I haven't got much knowledge of most situations TBH as have never myself been in there so to speak, but I do not think I would just say "leave the twat" in many cases (did once say to one that she should definitely consider the leaving option as her life was threatened, but that was a very very disturbing and extreme case, not similar in anyway to the one on this thread).
I would probably not say to a non religious person to go and see a priest though because I know it probably would not make sense as there is a real gap between religion and everyday life. This is not the case in a Muslim family though as Islam is not only a different way to let's say worshiping God, it is a way of life and yes the best advice I could give to a Mulim woman or the non-Muslim wife or a Muslim man would be to seek advice from a more competent person and that would be someone with a total undertanding of marital issue from an Islamic POV. (sorry for very long sentences, I write as I speak)

Ramadan Mubarak sisters :) may Allah accept our fasts and insha Allah we benefit from this month

Ameen

Ramadan Mubarak to you too!

EID MUBARACK!

hope everyone had a good eid :D ours was nice alhamdulillah

Salaams All,
Just found this thread. Would love to meet some muslim mothers in the Croydon area. I'm a SAHM who used to work before DS was born, and finding it very lonely being at home!
Coffee anyone??

Assalam Aleikum, I am not in the Croydon area but bumping for you. Inch Allah you will find some close to you soon

sa let's get this going again muslim ladies!

im a convert, any out there? sorry addicted, would be lovely to be closer to you but im quite far away from croydon. are there any circles/study groups you could find out about? maybe from your local mosque. i go to one every week and find it very helpful, and it's also very social, and all the kids can play while you try to listen!

Eid Mubarak !(a bit late sorry)
What a shame Riven, The mosque we go to is fantastic there are lots of talks in the weekends and family activities. There is another one we do go to sometimes were the sisters floor is appalling though. Shame about the stairs, thinking about it it is a recurent problem in most mosque I have visited (exept the first one I was refering to as the women area is on the ground floor as well). Inch Allah they will do something about it at some point. I think it mainly comes down to how much money the Mosque namages to raise as I do not think they get any help outside the worshiper's generosity.

Ive just found this thread so Eid Mubarek everyone. I am a Muslim (reverted 2007) and its nice to see so many Muslim MNers. I usually post on the SN board but am still relatively new after mainly lurking the past two years!

Eid Mubarak sisters :) ((bit late so please accept a big creamy chocolatey Eid cake by ways of apology ))

eid mubarak every1 hope u all had a good eid :)

Riven I have no idea about this particular vermicelli dish but whenever I have to do fried pastries they do look a bit hard & dry until they are absolutely drenched in honey or syrup if it helps.

Fantastic Eid here Al Hamdu'llah! No family arround so we met with friends after the mosque. Nice and relaxed

O Riven hope everything is ok? My boys were a bit under the weather so just went to the mosque and had day at home with cakes for Eid :) we brought them to soft play yesterday as a treat and still more cakes of course :) then today I had to admit to being unwell and bring down the celebrations, went to doc who said even though it was Eid I shouldn't have been hiding not being well so lying on a tremendously uncomfortable hospital trolley with a lovely drip atm :(

Prob too late now and you may no longer car Riven, but you melt butter in pan and then fry the vermecelli till it is all coated with melted butter and a few bits are golden

Then add milk bit by bit till absorbed

It will thicken as it cools so leave a little runnier than you want final product

I add sugar (and sometimes a touch of cream ) right at the end

Salaam,

I'm bumping this, because I've been away for a bit. I understand one of our main participants has had a rough time. Is she still around or is there a another way to pass on well wishes/do something practical?

Salams Ladies,

Inshallah I hope everyone is well. I, too, have been thinking about Riven. Inshallah Allah (swt) makes this time easy for her and her family. I haven't seen her on any other thread recently.

Salaam,

I do not know if Rien is still on here I have not seen her name for weeks but have been thinking of her a lot.

Going home to Switzerland next week, first time wearing a scarf (there), in a little village on top of a mountain I do not know what to expect. When my parents visited us in the UK last year they took my new look really well, not sure my sister who cried all the tears in her body when I got married to DH will be so supportive though. I'll let you know how it went but I am a bit aprehensive at the minute.

Walikum Salaam,

Gorionine - Insha Allah it will be ok. When they see that you are happy and that you are still 'you', it helps.

Salam ladies, im new to mumsnet and was just browsing some of the topics and i came across this one. i make dua that you are all well