All the Muslim ladies!

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Salaam Aalikum,

I know we sometimes have threads for Ramadan and other events, but I was wondering if we could have a general Muslim ladies one.

I have to give a big hijab flutter to Riven who is always so patient explaining Islam on here. I usually always end up resorting to name calling.

Hi, sorry to gate crash your thread, not Muslim myself, but have a quick question for anyone who will answer...
When/if you got the £250 from the government to put in a trust fund for your child, what did you do? DH says there is no point as can't have an account with interest, so I reckon in 18 years time it would be worth like a tenneras it won't keep up with inflation... did you just not bother? Just feel a bit bad basically throwing £250 in the bin...

bumble We put ours into a Shariah compliant fund. At the time it was the only available that was shariah compliant. Here's the link

Assalaamu alaikum, New to Mums Net.

I hope this thread has not gone dead it looks a bit quite

Maybe some one can do some daily reminders or something to keep it going please or introduce ourselves nothing to formal on the net.

Asalaama Alaikum, can't believe I've only just found this thread. I'm glad there is a thread for muslim mnetters on here.

Anyway just wanted to say hi, I converted to Islam a couple of years ago and have found it a little hard sometimes. Like poohbearsmom I don't know many muslim women in rl (well just one as a friend) and find Islamic boards a little daunting so it's nice to know that there is a place where I can say hi or maybe get a little advice (or at least pointed in the right direction).

Don't think I did the cause any justice on the burqa thread so I'll join the boycott .

Feelinglost that was a very sad post and my heart really goes out to you. Maybe you could speak to an Imam yourself. I am aware of some mosques that do do "counselling" as such but tbh you actually sound scared of him. I do hope this isn't the case. Do you know what caused the sudden change in his personality. It might be worth you investigating a bit further. Islamic education is important for children but as another poster said, if it is enforced to strictly it could back fire anyway and your children could come to hate it. I don't agree that how he is treating you (going from your post).

ohh masha Allah that sounds like an amazing mosque and islamic centre, where is that gona be?

i dont think i have post in this thread before? so assalamu alaykum to all the muslim mums :D umm layla welcome to mums net

my ex is muslim and ds is 4 now. he wants ds to start classes but i dont know what age is good to start as i personally think ds needs to learn to be able to read and write in english first before learning another language, any ideas on what age is best to start?

aah ok!! i was just worried that he wouldnt be able to concentrate for long enough as i would imagine its pretty full on!

Hi girls.

I have a question from you girls who might be able to advise.

I hope it doesn't seem silly

I live in Turkey and married to a Turkish man with 2 children. My husband doesn't care about be covering so i wear what i like. But when I visit my in-laws i always cover apart from my hair.. jeans and tops of my arms anyway and nothing low cut out of respect because my sister in laws choose to wear head scarfs and long skirts etc.
But tomorrow i am having a birthday party on the beach for my daughter with a bbq. Do you think they would be insulted if i wear cut of trousers instaed of long ones.. I feel so silly going to the beach in trousers. I asked my sister in law if i could wear long shorts and she said no. But i feel in the enviroment we are in where others will be wearing swimwear they should accept some sort of happy medium too.
My Turkish friends here say if i cover up on the beach this time that i will always have to cover on the beach.
What do you think?

Yes like capri trousers

Assalam Aleikum ( @ at all our different spellings if that is not diversity I do not know what is!)

Very nice idea this thread.

I am a newish Muslim too and it is really nice indeed to have contact with others.

""By mehdismummy Sat 15-May-10 08:05:59
my ex is muslim and ds is 4 now. he wants ds to start classes but I dont know what age is good to start as i personally think ds needs to learn to be able to read and write in english first before learning another language, any ideas on what age is best to start?""

In the Mosque here , they take children from arround 5yo. They really start with the basc of alphabet. I cannot say it really messed DS3's english reading too much (other Dcs where already well into reading and writting before they started at the Madrassa).

Feelinglost, your post really touched me. I would be very puzzled if DH was to really change his attitude to religion in such a rapid way. I think the advice of seing an Imam is a good one. Inch Allah things will ease up a bit for all of you.

MickyLee, I started covering my hair about 6 month ago (am in UK), In 2 weeks we are going to Tunisia and I will be covering my legs and arms for the first time at the beach (my choice but somehow worries me a lot still, mainly because we will be in a touristic place rather than a Muslim populated one and I feel I might get stared at a lot). I can imagine it being very hard indeed if not your own decision to do so. What do the women in you DH family usually wear? is it going to be the first time you all go to the beach together? I suspect your Turkish friends might have a point.

(Sorry to intrude, ladies, but I thought I might be of help to MickyLee)

There is no reason to dress in a way that makes you uncomfortable in order to conform with your DH's family. In Turkey, people do not normally judge each other on how well they cover. Even if you think your in laws are an exception to this rule, I agree with your friends, you should draw a line in the sand and stand your ground.

Answer any negative comments with "My husband is OK with this". If they are such a "traditional" family, the word of "head of the family" is what matters, so they cannot argue with it. In the future, don't ask SIL.

To give you a similar example, my grandmother was wearing a headscarf when she married my late grandfather in 1942. Some years later, when her father passed away, my grandfather took off her headscarf, saying "Enough with this". (Obviously a time when a woman's wishes mattered )

Ok well the big day is tomorrow so I will let you all know how it went.. My husband said he is happy for me the wear what i like with exception of a bikini.

gorionine- the married ladys cover including hair but un-married long trousers and semi long sleve tops.
I know what you mean by feeling worried about what non-muslims think.. i would feel they would think it is silly when it is so hot... plus can't get an all important tan ;)

if you dont wana wear trousers on the beach how about a floaty kinda long skirt cos that seems beachish to me? but i think 3/4 trousers probably fine, they know you are not muslim and its not as if its a bikini is it? i agree with cotedazur that its not really up to your sil anyway, maybe better not to ask her just do what you and dh are happy with

riven i would like something like that @ the end of my street too :p i dont know why so many mosques do have womens area either up or down stairs, it is a pain with buggies. although not that i go 2 mosque much anyway just pray @ home, but probly would go more if more mosques were like that

mehdismummy u could start him now and see if he enjoys it, and if hes okay with it keep him in and if not then start him again later. i dont think most of them have 2 much problem learning it at same time as learning to write english

I know Riven, it can get so frustrated trying to put an Islamic point of view across on certain issues. I can understand the "not getting it" or even not agreeing though because until the day I converted, I was pretty much against Islam.

Sounds great what you're doing down there, the sisters so often get neglected at mosques, especially the wash facilities, so I rarely attend the mosque. Plus sometimes I just feel a lil shy lol .

Mickylee I would second your friend who says don't ask the sil. If you do ask her advice you will have to take it or risk coming across as rude, and also I think she may expect you to dress like that always. You are not muslim so the same rule of dress is not applicable to you. Besides, if your dh doesn't mind it's really nobody else's business. You aren't wearing a bikini so I think you are being very mindful anyhow.

Gorianne I'm about to go to the caribbean and I'm really a little frightened. Out and about isn't a problem, i have a few maxi dresses and light linen shirts to get by on but if I cover up completely at the beach I'll look rather conspicuous and it will be the first time i go to the beach without getting in that beautifullly warm and inviting caribbean sea (please don't say burkini anyone ).